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My nephew, who is 12-almost 13, decided to buy me a gift for my birthday. It was a great gesture and I really appreciate his efforts but I really am not sure what to do since I really hate the gift.
So, I am very into gardening (flowers) and my nephew bought me a metal statue of some flowers. The problem is that the artwork is very large and, well, absolutely hideous. The coloring doesn't really match with my home interior so it really stands out if I do choose to let guests view it.
I know he meant well but I really do not want to display this in my home. It's very unattractive. Should I tell him that I did not really enjoy the gift (maybe even allow him to have his money refunded?) or display the gift in my home despite my feelings towards the appearance of it? (link)
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Display it in a part of your house guests wouldn't generally go into. I wouldn't tell him you don't like I think that may crush him a lot. Alternatively just don't use it and if asks you about say you are keeping it for a special occasion...
Goodluck.
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so me and my friends are playing tag and me and lindsay (friend) do rock paper scissor to see whoes it. i lose and i say that we were supposed to do 2 out of 3. she says only 1 round. so im ticked off. then helen (other friend) had a chance to tag lindsay but tagged me instead. (purpose) so now im mad. then i tag melissa(other friend: mel) and she tags helen. then helen tags me again while she had the chance to tag mel. Now i'm really mad and i storm off without a word. it was all on a friday and now its the weekend and ive never had a fight that long. this time im determined not to say sorry first like i used to. what should i do? im so confused and sad. when i consideer just not being friends anymore, i remember all the good times we had and i cry. also i don't know who im mad at really, linds or helen. oh, please help me. (link)
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Ok.I think you need to not worry so much about this, Its not something that would generally ruin friendships. I understand why you are mad, I think you need to talk to your friends about it and explain why you are mad and why you left. And tell them that them "ganging" up on you is not on. I'm not saying that you should apologize. I just think you should to talk to them about it calmly and explain how you are feeling to them.
Also I think that this is something minor and easily sorted so I don't see why you guys still cant be friends. But to me it seems that you and Helen may have an issue you need to sort out cause it seems like she was the one trying to anger you. I think Lindsay just really didn't want to be it.
Just in case though, if you guys do stop being friends, I just want you to know that you will make new friends. And sometimes the new friends are way better than the old friends. And its ok to remember the good times with your friends but don't let those keep you in a friendship you aren't happy in because you will have many more good times with new people, being in a friendship you aren't happy in is worst than not being friends with those people and having to move on.
But just talk to them and explain it and try not to let it bother you so much.
I hope it all works out! If you need anymore help let me know.
Goodluck!
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how much does a belly button piercing hurt? i really want one but i'm scared it will hurt too much. (link)
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Its not so bad. It feels like a bee sting. And its over before you know it. Honestly it really isn't bad. I mean it will be uncomfortable and sting, but you will survive. I do have my belly button pierced and when I had it done, there was no numbing involved, just a needle. So trust me when I say it is not so bad because my pain tolerance level is not the best.
Goodluck!
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So I'm 15, and pregnant. My mom says I can't keep the baby. She wants me to get an abortion, and at the most an adoption. But I couldn't bring myself to do either. She doesn't want me to keep it! What can I do?
I know it will be hard, and I don't have a job, but before it is born I will be old enough to get a job, and so will my very supporting boyfriend. It's tough, but I have supporting friends, a supporting family, and a supporting boyfriend. But she doesn't want me to have it :( what can I do? What can I tell her? (link)
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You know whats difficult about answering a question like this? Its hard not to give your own personal opinion in the answer. So I am going to try and keep this answer as neutral as possible because ultimately this is your decision.
As I am sure you are aware of now, your mother can not force you to have an abortion. Adoption is also up to you. You do not have to give this baby away if you do not want to. But...
What I want to suggest is talking to someone,(a professional) before you make this decision. You are 15 believe it or not, you do not know everything at that age and you may not really know what is best for you. This situation is extremely hard no matter what you decide.
Talking to someone will help, really even if its the school councilor. I suggest talking to your mom about seeing someone professional to discuss this situation with. They can help you make the right informed decision and they can help you with your mom.
People are going to offer you many opinions in this scenario. What you need to do is listen to the opinions which give you facts and knowledge about what you are about to go through. Also take into consideration that what may have happened to someone else will not necessarily happen to you. You are your own person.
Also your boyfriend I suggest he speak to someone too. He may not know everything about what he should know.
You need to sit down and make an informed decision about this. Remember this is not something small, you have to consider how this will affect you, your boyfriend, your family and the baby. This is something you discuss with someone who knows what needs to be known and considered for a situation such as this.
Good luck.I wish you the best.
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19/f
I am 19 and my parents dont really allow me to do much. I feel like a child. My friends all make fun of me for being under such close watch and not being allowed to go places and do things like most 19 or 18 year old do, because i always have to ask my parents and hope that they will permit me to do something... I have no freedom. I've fairly recently gotten in trouble for trying to go out, because I said so, and I was like... its time to stop being controlled by my parents and get out and have some fun.
I had to deceive my parents so that i could do what i wanted to do. I couldn even leave the house without my mom looking out the door to see who was picking me up and to see if they were there yet...etc.... I didnt know my mom was going to follow me to the door, so that foiled my plan. I was going to walk up the road, but my mom was like "no, tell your friend to come pull up infront of the door". And then she saw that it was a male friend and not the female friend i told her it was. I got in a lot of trouble and got yelled at and lectured.. Now my parents say they dont trust me and i cant go anywhere or do anyyything. My friends say "you're 19, you can do what you want....etc."..
I want to know if it would be f***ed up or not if I were to just slip out the house and move one day and not tell my parents anything until I get there. I want to live with a certain guy, but, i mean, when i am ready to move in with him and when i'm sure thats what i want to do. And I will call my parents from my new residence, or better yet text them and be like "umm.... yeah.... i moved..."
They dont even want me meeting with this guy. They dont want me to meet with no guy or do anything. And I am so tired of my parents! I need to get away from them! I'm not going to even bother with introducing them to the guy, because they wont want me with him cuz he's 22 and i told my mom a little bit about him and she's like "you dont need to be with him. you dont need to be with anybody. You need to focus on school and focus on gettin yourself together first (work on myself in terms of anxiety problems etc.)" They just want to keep me as their boyfriend-less child for as long as they possibly can.
And I dont want to bother with telling them i plan on moving out. So do you think it would be messed up if i just moved out, and in with this guy, and just told them about it after the fact? Just so they know what happened to me.. and that way they cant do anything about it (link)
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Here's the thing, you know how your parents are likely to react because well you are their child and have lived with them, so you know how they would react to you just leaving and then calling. So with that said if you think you can handle their reaction then go for it. But before you do anything,
have you considered how you are going to support yourself if you move out? and if moving out and with this guy will be the best for you?
I think away around this may be to talk to your parents, about how you are feeling, tell them they have to give you more freedom because its this lack of freedom that makes you want to do things against their will.
Oh and a drivers license! Those bring great freedom!
Goodluck! I really hope it all works out.
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I get made fun of all the time at school most ppl say ignore them they're jelous well thats wut my relatives say! the school kids make fun of me because im from virginia and i had 2 move 2 ohio so they make fun of the way i talk i'm popular and i dont want to be because i think it makes stuff worse but they just dont leave you alone i need to no what to do i cry alot and stuff its really hard to deal with all this and i hate it all my relatives live in virginia i have no1 to talk to i need to find a way to get my parents to let me move back to virginia and live with my grandma and aunt! WHAT DO I DO PLZZZZZZ TELL ME I NEED SERIOUS HELP!!!!!!!!! (link)
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Ok. Here's what I think you need to do, most parents do not like it when their child is unhappy and generally want to help them in any way. Sit down with your parents and talk to them, tell them you are very unhappy here and want to go back to virginia. Tell them you hate going to school and miss virginia. Just talk to them chances are they will let you or they will help you come up with something that will make you more happy. Be sure not to yell at them or anything, talk to them calmly and really tell them how you feel.
For the mean time, at school you can try doing these things. Ignore the people who go out of their way to tease you, literally flat out ignore them, if they don't get a reaction/ response from you chances are they will leave you alone. Second find a few people (like 2 or 3 even 1 person) that you can hang around with who do not tease you. Make a good friend. It will help because then you'll just be around them and the people who tease you will probably leave you alone. Third you could confront them about teasing you, however sometimes this could make the situation worst.
Then really I think you need to find someone to talk too, someone you trust because when you vent frustrations to people it generally makes a person feel better.
But talk to your parents! And just remember it will eventually get better! Don't beat yourself up about it, don't let the other people get to you.
If you need anymore advice, any at all just let me know. If you ever just want to chat let me know and I will give you my email address.
Hope this all sorts out!
Goodluck!
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I'm met him in detention......
when i walked in the room it was like time moved a little slower, just like the movies.he was so beautiful and i couldn't help but stare. he was wearing black, his favorite color, like he always does.
I felt an immediate connection with him. Every time our eyes met in the dead silence it was like a shock of electricity.
he's a freshman I'm a freshman, but of corse, we have no classes together because thats how REALITY works. so when we got to leave i let it go knowing nothing would ever happen.
All i could do was think about him and wonder. You'd think for people in the same class in the same school we'd see each other. A couple of weeks later... i saw him. he was with my friend lisa and she introduced us. He said, " Hey! remember me? from detention?" of corse i did he asked for m number and later that friday evening he texted me we talked until about 11:00 at night.... then he called me. We talked for 7 hours till 6 in the morning. i didn't get any sleep at all but i never felt more rested. i've never loved any body, until that saturday morning i knew i loved him. we talked about everything but usually when im on the Phone with guy all he talks about is sex and i hate that thats why there short conversations.
He was different and thats what i love about him.
we just texted everyday from then on he asked me to go to the movie of my choice and would pay for it as long a went with him he was happy he said. i was pretty sure he liked me back at that point. the day of the movie he wasn't texting back, i got mad at him ignored him a couple of days, i still didn't see him at school so it was pretty easy. but i gave in he told me that his phone was done and he just coudn't i belived him i didn't we didn't have any other way to contact each other besides cells i didn't think to ask! well then shortly after our little reunion my dad took my phone away so we stopped talking un willingly, and i STILL didn't see him in school so what could i do? about 3 weeks after we stopped talking i see him and he's holding hands with a girl. I couldn't believe it then thats how i would see him with his girlfriend.
WELL, i did see him in school sometimes and he would walk me to class even though his class is on the other side of the school but then i just couldn't talk to him after the movie/cell phone thing it was kinda awkward so i didn't know what to say when he came up to me and i'd be like hi, yea, no, bye.
i accepted he had a girlfriend, i liked him to much to try and take away his happiness. they are still going out to this day.
so here's the messed up part... i told this girl VICKY who does talk to him, not his girlfriend, that i like him before she started liking him and in class she brags about how cute he is and today she brought him in the room and i started crying because thats something i tend to do when i get angry instead of fighting i cry! well its been three months since my dad took my phone away in that time me and him stopped taking in that tim i think he kinda has feelings for think vicky girl and in that time ive never stopped thinking about him and trying to think of ways to talk to him in again.
what can i do to make him like me again to stop this nonsense with that girl vicky and how would i go about trying to talk to him again????
i have his house number now he lost his phone i mean he litterally lost it so i have his house number should i call him or talk to him in person and WHAT SHOULD I SAY??? sorry or how ya been?? what?
i really need your help! actual experiences and actual words would hepl me alot!!!
thanks
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I think you just need to start talking to him again like how you did before all this happened. Flirt a little, maybe. Just see if you guys could possibly go back to how it was when you were going to go to the movies.
If you see him at school, just go up to him and talk to him, act normal and it won't be awkward.
Here's the thing you need to talk to him, just because if nothing happens with you two (and I hope that's not the case) then talking to him will help you get over him. But I mean start off talking to him about school, friends etc... normal stuff and if you see an opportunity ask him what happened with you too.
Phoning him is your choice, i'd just talk to him at school. But its your choice. Either way start talking.
Goodluck!
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OK! I am 20/f I have a bf who is the love of my life and he is the only person I have a real relationship with, the only person I can call. But I understand that he has his own life nad sometimes I feel like I am taking too much of his space and i don't want to drive him away. I need something to do so I don't feel like i always have to call him or be with him. I am outgoing I just don't have any friends! People I work with are nice but there are all atleast 5 years older than me and we cant go out, we don't have anything in common. I tried yoga but I am not very good at it and am still trying to get better! I need something more time cosuming that will be imoprtant to me not something I am forcing myself to do. I jsut need some ideas for hobbied so please help. I don't have much money so I cant go out and like buy a bunch of stuff for my new hobby I just need something to do!!! Any ideas???? (link)
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I'd suggest joining groups where you could meet people and possibly make friends. Things like a book club, or a dance club. You just have to look around to see whats out there and how much it would cost. Places like university's tend to offer dance clubs for reasonable prices, some may even be free.
I just think the best solution to this problem is to start making some friends. That way you have other people you can have fun with, spend time with and talk to. And you won't feel like you are always with your boyfriend.
Goodluck!
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I have a weird ear problem. In my right ear every 5 mins or so, I hear this whoosh, wind noise (but there is no wind!) and it kind of throbs/vibrates. I thought it was water in my ear but it doesn't seem that way and I tried ear drops. Has anyone experienced this or might know what it is? It doesn't hurt, but it's extremely annoying and has been happening all day. (link)
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Honestly, I have no idea what it could be. But you really should get that checked out with a doctor. Ear problems can worsen very quickly.
Hope it all sorts out!
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Okay, well for Valentines day my boyfriend bought me this really pretty necklace. It wasn't an expensive expensive type, however it was from a jewellers store, not an accessories store so it's worth a bit of money.
Anyway, he's not one to throw around his money. He comes from a very poor working-class family, and he doesn't make a lot of money himself, so for him this was probably a big thing.
I'm gonna guess the necklace was between 30-50 dollars, and that's what I'm really hoping with what I'm about to ask...
He slept over at my house last night. When we went to bed I took the necklace off and put it on my bedside table. In the morning, I went for my phone to check the time and I flipped everything off it. Including the necklace.
I just came home from work and realised that my necklace was part of the stuff that flipped. I found the chain, but the pink pendant/charm thingy (the thing that makes the necklace a necklace) is gone.
There's abosolutely no way to find it. My room is HELLA messy, plus I'm fair sure it dropped into a box full of absolute crap, and even if I took everything out I wouldn't be able to find it, it's so tiny and would fall out once I move around stuff.
So now I'm really nervous about telling him. As I said, that's a big deal to him, and I'm scared he'll react about the sentimental value as well.
I could always not tell him...but I always wore it, and he'd eventually ask why I don't wear it anymore... (link)
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Try looking for it. Seriously, when boys give gifts like that it means a lot to them regardless of if they have the money for it or not. Before you consider telling him anything, go through your room, clean it, or make it more of a mess looking for it. But just try.
Otherwise, I'd suggest telling him that you accidentally knocked it off and you can't find the pendant but you have looked for it. Tell him your really upset because you loved that necklace. ( even if it wasn't your favourite necklace make it seem like it was).
Goodluck!
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im going away for a cheerleading competition next weekend
im leaving my boyfriend home that weekend
hes been telling me he loves me so much but when hes not with me he thinks about doing stupid things
im really scared hes going to. ill be gone from thursday night till tuseday.
what should i do. please help me. (link)
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Stupid things such as? Stupid things like that will get him a arrested, that could possibly cause bodily damage to his body or someone else? Stupid things like getting with another girl?
Anyway, here's the thing you should be able to trust your bf and not be so worried about leaving him alone for a few days. He says he loves you, so that should be enough for him not to do stupid things and for you to be able to trust him and not be so worried.
If its stupid things like getting with another girl, then I think you should actually talk to him about that. Because really if he loves you so much then he shouldn't be having any thoughts of cheating. Sorry if that sounded harsh.
If its stupid things that could cause harm to anything or anyone in anyway, then again I think you should talk to him, tell him how it worries you. Try and help him sort through his issues.
But bottom line it comes down to trust. Can you trust him enough to leave him alone? If you can't you need to talk to him about that and you need to try and work on that.
Goodluck!
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hey i am 17/f and im having some problems with these girls. well one of them, her name A was in my class last year. and her other friend b sits with her at lunch well one day i smiled at B b/c i thought me and her were still cool. but then she and her friends including A started talking about me. i got really angry and upset. well i ended up going on facebook yesterday and i messaged her and i said "hey you and your friends need to stop talking about me" and then she messaged me calling me a dumb bitch saying that im not the center of attention and im the last thing that she and her friends would talk about me and said i was ugly, and we went back and forth saying things to each other. and she said that im too scared to say stuff to her face. and today i didn't b/c i didn't want to instigate a fight. and she never came up to me. so im wondering did i do the right thing by telling her nicely online for and her friends not talk about me? and also should i show the school the conversation she had with me? b/c im really mad at her and i really don't know what to do.. help! (link)
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I'd suggest just ignoring this. Really, just ignore these people and concentrate on your friends. Don't start anything up because this fight could become really bad. Its a waste of your time. Some girls are just not nice and some girls can't make up their own minds so when their one friend is cross at someone, they have to be cross at that person too.
That's highschool for you. Don't waste your time with retaliating. If they cause anything, stand up for yourself but be careful of what you say. Don't give them anything to fuel the fire. If they don't start anything just go your separate ways.
Goodluck!
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I like this boy and i liked him for a long time so far. And he knows i like him and stuff but thats not the problem. The problem is that now all these other girls are starting to like him and flirting with him, im not saying that they cant becasue we arent going out or anything. BUt you see i was the only girl that liked him that time and i had a good chance of talking to him but i couldnt because i was to afraid, NOw al these other chicks are getting at him and Im afraid that they might get to him before i do and i want to do something about it but im to shyy to. What can i do?? (link)
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Your going to have to put being shy aside and start talking and interacting with this boy. The thing is if the guy sees another girl is interested in him and this said girl talks and flirts with him, his more likely to go for that girl.
I know its hard. But break the situation down. Don't be scared of this guy, just remember he is like any other person. Just be natural with him. Talk to him. Start off conversations about simple topics. If there is chemistry the conversation will just flow.
You have to put being shy aside. As hard as it is! Just start off slow, simple conversation! You can do it!
I hope I helped!
Goodluck!
:)
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He used to like me alot and I kinda did too until he got annoying to me ((asking questions like if he can come to my house which i told him he cant n he keeps bothering me about it)) but when I told him I liked him, few days later he had a girlfriend. I cant believe I lost him just like that because I didnt give him a chance, please help me get him back to me. (link)
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This may sound a bit harsh, but do you really want to be with someone, who when you tell him you like him has a girlfriend a few days later? A guy like that can be problematic. Also you found him annoying and then once he got a girlfriend all of a sudden you want him... kinda makes me believe that the only reason you want him is because he has someone else now.
If you really want him back, then honestly just talk to him. Be honest,tell him you like him and want to give you guys a shot. You'd be surprised at what honesty can do. But just remember there is the risk to this. He may not return the feelings.
Anyway, you are not a loser... and I think you should just move on and find someone else who you really like and who doesn't annoy you.
Goodluck!
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14/f
okay so my teeth are kinda straight like only a few teeth are overlapping. but i sucked my thumb till i was 12 or 13. and so they kinda stick out but not that much. and i have a lisp and an overbite.
is there anyway i can get retainers instead of braces?!?!? (link)
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The only way to know that for sure is to consult an orthodontist. You may want to do this and get the braces or retainer now, as many prefer having them when they are younger as opposed to being 18 for example. Also fixing your teeth will get rid of the overbite and make the lisp much better!
Goodluck!
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so the first really long term relationship i ever had ended a few months ago. Lasted a year and i finally broke up with the guy, it wasn't a conventional break up though, i said ' i think i need to end this' and he just said 'ok' and nothing else i said 'ok ' back and hung up. last time i talked to him. Then a very very good friend of mine who's been reciting bold declarations of love for me for the past three years finally asked me out and i, of course, said yes. At the beginning it was great, only now whenever he kisses me in a certain way or touches me in a certain way it reminds me of my ex. I might have left over feelings for him but i would never want to be in a relationship with him again, i mean look at how he took me breaking up with him, as if it were nothing. I talked to my friend about it and he said i needed closure some how but i don't know how to get it. I can't talk to my ex because all he'll do is say shit like 'i've always loved you' and try and make me go crazy deciding whether or not i did the right thing by breaking up with him, which i so did. He's not a good guy nd he has a huge ass ego, he cant stand a girl just walking away, he wouldn't help me get closure he'd try to wheel me back in. what do i do? (link)
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Accept that your past relationship is over. Any reminders of your ex get rid of. Make sure you don't compare the current guy you are with to your ex.
But really just try and remove your ex from you life. Accept the relationship you had, accept that there were good times and bad times and just try and leave them in the past where they belong.
The fact that you want closure is closure itself you are ready to put this all behind you, so now just accept that and do it. Easier said than done, i know, but you just have to try!
Concentrate on your new relationship.
Good luck!
:)
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im so stressed out, first off. last year i went through extreme depression, and i got grounded, so i was captive in my house. if anyone has been depressed, when youcant do anything its hell. This year, i am better.. but, my mom all the sudden has been up my ass. She doesnt let me go out, do anything, where ever i go she wants to talk to parents, drop me off, i cant drive.. im 17. All my friends go out, her best friends kids go out, im very mature for my age... and my boyfriend goes to parties, and hes 18 and i dont wanna hold him back i mean hes allowed to, but my mom is nuts, it makes me depressed, wanna fuckin do shit to myself when im upset sitting home everyone is out. I dont get it either, my brother went out at 17 had parties at my house... im very mature for my age, have college friends, i have 2 jobs, i have 90 grades. i do everything for myself pay for everything.. what should i do? (link)
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Talk to your mom. Calmly. I stress that! Make sure you don't do it in a confronting fashion. Just sit down with her and tell her how you are feeling and tell her you would like to know why she is being like this. Try and come to some compromise.
Just talk to her.
Good luck!
:)
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ok so everytime a perfectly legitimate guy likes me and i think normally i would probably like him to, after we start talking a lot and he opens up and starts saying we should go out and how much he likes me i start feeling so uncomfortable about him to the point where i dont even want to talk to him anymore cause i feel so uncomfortable... am i too picky?? why do i keep feeling like this everytime im about to go out with a guy i should like?? im 16 btw (link)
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Ok. I had a friend who was exactly the same! The thing is one night she meet this guy who she really liked and really clicked with and she ended up going out with this guy for awhile! I'm bringing this up, because in your question you say, "I would probably like" and "I should like" you need to like the guy, not probably like, not maybe, you should like the guy. (My friend she used to pull away from the guys who she thought she should have something with but the guy she wanted to have something with she didn't pull away.)
Once you like him and once you want to go out with him, it becomes easier to actually date. And not pull back like you seem to do. The thing is, is here the guy wants to go out with you and thats great but you don't seem to want to go out with him- I say that because you say the whole "probably like and should like" maybe you are just more comfortable with being friends with the guy.
It may just not be the right guy for you. So that's why you pull away.
Alternatively, maybe its just the wrong time. Maybe you just aren't ready to date right now and that's why you pull away. There is nothing wrong with that!
I think you may want to consider telling the guy you just want to be friends with him for now. I think that when you meet a guy that you really like and that you really want to date, you won't pull away, you'll probably be nervous but if its a guy you really like you will go for it! Nerves and all! Just take some time to think about it.
Don't stress! When you are ready you'll be ready! When you like the guy you'll go for it you may need a push but you'll go for it!
I hope this helps! Sorry it was so long!
Good luck!
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everytime me and my boyfriend go on a date we are really shy at the biggining and we like never talk and its really awkward. what should i do to start a conversation (i'm actually pretty shy around him) (link)
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Start off with small talk like how his day was, and what you have planned for the week and what happened during your day etc. Things like that. Small talk can most of the time help lead into proper conversation.
But you need to become more comfortable around your boy friend. His your boyfriend you should feel comfortable around him. So try work on that.
Goodluck!
:)
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i am very shy around my dad and stepmother. i'm not really sure why. we see each other a lot, i mean at least five or six times a week. my dad teaches me to drive, takes me to movies and dinner, etc. my stepmom takes me shopping and to the salon. we do things as a group, too. we're really close.
but for some reason, i'm never completely myself around them. depending on my mood, i might talk freely or keep to myself. i don't understand why i do this. i notice it happens more frequently when i'm with both my dad and my stepmom, or just my stepmom. so i'm kind of guessing it has more to do with her.
i also have anxiety when i realize that i'm being too shy. i'll give them one word answers and then think, "oh god, why am i doing this?" and then i feel like crying and i ask them to drop me off it home. it hurts my feelings because they never call me afterwards to ask if i'm okay, and as a result, the next time i see them, the shyness is even worse.
my stepmom has been around since i was four, and i don't even speak to my birth mother. the weird thing is that it's just them. i am usually not this shy around anyone else. i'm also seventeen years old and i think i'm too old to be feeling this way. please help me; i hate feeling this way. thank you in advance. (link)
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When i'm around my dad, I get so shy! Like sometimes I say about two sentences and i'm quiet for the rest of the time.
I find its because I don't know what to say, and i'm paranoid about saying the wrong thing. Its like the expression walking on egg shells.
The best thing here is just don't stress about it. As teenagers we're in like a completely different world to our parents. All we can do is just relax and be yourself even if you are scared. Also they are probably trying to do whats best for you,taking the cues from you. So the whole not calling to make sure you are ok, is probably because they think you want space.
Also maybe try spend some time with your step mom and get a bit more comfortable with her.It might make things better. Its easier to be comfortable with a step mom when you are younger than when you are older. So don't worry about the age thing!
Goodluck!
:)
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