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How do I deal with a gift I simply don't like?
My nephew, who is 12-almost 13, decided to buy me a gift for my birthday. It was a great gesture and I really appreciate his efforts but I really am not sure what to do since I really hate the gift.
So, I am very into gardening (flowers) and my nephew bought me a metal statue of some flowers. The problem is that the artwork is very large and, well, absolutely hideous. The coloring doesn't really match with my home interior so it really stands out if I do choose to let guests view it.
I know he meant well but I really do not want to display this in my home. It's very unattractive. Should I tell him that I did not really enjoy the gift (maybe even allow him to have his money refunded?) or display the gift in my home despite my feelings towards the appearance of it?
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Please do not tell a 12 year old boy that you didn't like his thoughtful gift! That's just basic manners.
How often does he come over? Could you simply just display it whenever he's at your house, and keep it in your garage at other times? Or could it even go outside, in your garden, possibly accidently-on-purpose obscured by some large plants?
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Don't tell him you don't like it.
He's young, so you could upset him. Also he maybe really chuffed that he bought something that had something to do with "gardening" (as its "flowers" - something you enjoy, showing he did put some effort into it.
Either put the gift in a place your guests wont see it as much, or store it away - and put it out when he comes around.
Eventually, things wear and tear - one day it will "break" ;) if you know what I mean.
But for now, just put in a place people wont see as much,and remind him how thankful you are for his kind gesture.
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Definitely don't tell him that you don't like it. Since he's not even thirteen yet, that could be a big blow to his self-esteem. It doesn't seem like it would be a huge deal, but it might be a long time before he would ever try to give someone a gift again. He might feel as though he's not good enough, even though he tried. Of course, these aren't your intentions. That's why you're asking the question in the first place.
As the other two said, display it somewhere where your guests typically won't go. Even try displaying it in the backyard. You could put it next to some bushes and out of the way where no one could really see it unless they literally tried looking for it.
Hope this helps,
Darby(:
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Dont tell him you dont like it. Hes only 13 and its the thought that counts. Display is a hidden area of your house or keep it put away and only bring it out when he comes to your house. But definately dont tell him you dont like it that would be very rude to a 13 year old and hurt him feelings.
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Display it in a part of your house guests wouldn't generally go into. I wouldn't tell him you don't like I think that may crush him a lot. Alternatively just don't use it and if asks you about say you are keeping it for a special occasion...
Goodluck.
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