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mean girl
hey i am 17/f and im having some problems with these girls. well one of them, her name A was in my class last year. and her other friend b sits with her at lunch well one day i smiled at B b/c i thought me and her were still cool. but then she and her friends including A started talking about me. i got really angry and upset. well i ended up going on facebook yesterday and i messaged her and i said "hey you and your friends need to stop talking about me" and then she messaged me calling me a dumb bitch saying that im not the center of attention and im the last thing that she and her friends would talk about me and said i was ugly, and we went back and forth saying things to each other. and she said that im too scared to say stuff to her face. and today i didn't b/c i didn't want to instigate a fight. and she never came up to me. so im wondering did i do the right thing by telling her nicely online for and her friends not talk about me? and also should i show the school the conversation she had with me? b/c im really mad at her and i really don't know what to do.. help!
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First off, do not tell the school. Honestly that would be the worst thing you could do. Everyone would probably make fun of you and say that you cant handle the situation on your own.
Second you probably should have confronted them to their face when you noticed they were talking about you. Yeah its hard but its the easiest and best way to resolve things.
Most likely if they are talking s*** about you they are either 1) insecure. 2) jealous. or 3) just mean.
Next time you see them act like it doesn't bother you, because it shouldn't. Also if they stare at you and you catch them doing it give a b****y smily and wave. It will catch them off guard and they will both feel very dumb.
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Hi. I will tell you some life experience and then advice you of my own opinion
Well, whenever a girl would talk to me, i used to ignore it and sometimes do something just like you, but i would end up lost, some people would say "yeah whatever" and stuff related to that but the truth is, it's never whatever. Some people would tell you it's stupid that she is getting to you but the truth is you're not mad and pissed because of her, you're mad and pissed mentally because you lost
My advice is get back to her, not show the conversation that is stupid, you shouldn't do that
You might consider this violence but think about it and read it twice
When you see her at school, be confident and step up to her
Say something like "You and your friends should stop talking about me and if you don't then i'll kick your ass" or if you mentally not confident enough to do that then you should say something like "If you have a problem with me, then here i am show me what are you going to do about it"
Look you don't have to be mean to be strong neither have to be weak to be nice
No she called you a "dumb bitch", don't give someone a chance to play with your feelings or hurt them. It's a saying we have here in my country "Eat her breakfast before she eats your lunch"
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I'd suggest just ignoring this. Really, just ignore these people and concentrate on your friends. Don't start anything up because this fight could become really bad. Its a waste of your time. Some girls are just not nice and some girls can't make up their own minds so when their one friend is cross at someone, they have to be cross at that person too.
That's highschool for you. Don't waste your time with retaliating. If they cause anything, stand up for yourself but be careful of what you say. Don't give them anything to fuel the fire. If they don't start anything just go your separate ways.
Goodluck!
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if you said bad stuff too, then you'll get in just as much trouble.
and that was b*tchy to say "hey you need to stop talking about me"
you could have been like "hey, sometimes i feel like you guys might be talking about me behind my back. am i right?"
be really nice, that way she wont lash out at you
just forget her, they prolly weren't talkin about u anyway
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