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I have natural hair (around 4a) abd I play field hockey goalie. There's a lot of sweat in field hockey and I don't want to have to redo my hair after every practice (which is EVERYDAY). I thought about crochet braids but not the curly kind and I also thought about senagalese twist but I don't know if it will hold and not get all frizzy and stuff. Any suggestions? Thanks! (link)
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I suggest:
1. Tight ballerina bun.
2. French braid.
3. Twist ponytail. (Which is where you part all your hair in half, and twist both sides separately into a ponytail)
4. Dutch braid.
Or 5. Tight cheerleader ponytail.
There are tons of others! you should check out Abby Smith's hairstyle tutorials on YouTube. She even has work out hair style ideas!
Hope this helps~
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Questions in the title! I recently had my second lobe piercings and want to get my cartilage pierced because I think it looks pretty but not too tacky.
I know people say it depends on your pain threshold-but could someone walk me through what it was like please? Particularly keen to hear from people who've had it done themselves. Do I get it done at Claire's with a gun? Surely if it was that bad for you they wouldn't offer it in the first place? Thanks! (I'm in the UK so Walmart does't exist or anything!) (link)
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I got my two lobe piercigs and cartilage done too! Alright so, I'm not gonna lie. It Hurt. I almost cried, but strangers were starring at me so.. I have a pretty high tolerance for pain, and the cartilage hurt the most out of all of the ones I got. It's because it is a really sensitive area, and the skin is thinner and it's like almost a very thin bone up there. It's easier to get infected up there also, which is why they highly suggest gold or white gold, which is what I did because my sister got it done years ago and had to take it out bc of infection. It sounds pretty scary, but so far it's been worth it. I wouldn't suggest anywhere but Claire's because I have gotten all of my piercings there and haven't regretted it.
Hope his helps~
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Hey, there. I'm a 15 year old freshman in high school and I'm looking for a bit of advice. These days, college is pushed into us so early. They had me picking potential colleges and calculating the cost of rooming and food and tuition along with how to do my finances and pay off student loans when I was in 8th grade (13). They had us pick potential jobs and also gave us the average annual incomes for those jobs. As you can imagine, that all stressed me out a lot seeing as I was still in middle school. College was, and still is, a foreign concept to me. Anyway, my stress about it has gotten worse since last week I was talking to my aunt about potential careers. I told her that Id really like to go to art school and be an illustrator or learn to do the animations for cartoons but that I'm also sort of interested in pharmaceuticals so I might just settle for being a pharmacist for more money. She said definitely go with pharmacist. I'm worried about hating myself for not going to art school just so I can have more money because I know that I'll be better off in a pharmacy. And yes, yes I've heard that I can do my art "on the side" or in "my free time" but God I want to go to art school but no one will support me because they think it's not a good job and then I'll be a broke 25 year old with an art degree. (link)
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Well you gotta think of it like this. Do you want to go to art school and do what you want and be happy and take the risk, or be a pharmacist with the support and safety but unhappiness and not what you want. It's your life, and since you've been pushed so much before, then you should at least be able to pick this. You shouldn't let other people control you or anything like that. It's honesty up to you. Whether you have support or not, if you're doing what you love then it's worth it. Like Winston Churchill said, "if you're going through hell, keep going."
Hope this helps~
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I dont see the other side of the world anymore. I only see the negative or bad side. I can see all the lies people told me its like seeing through them but you only see the negative. And the environment around me I feel like it was all a lie.
I dont know the truth anymore. I feel like that this world deserves to end with its society and all the lies.
What am i gonna do? (link)
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Honestly I feel the same way about the world and society needing to end, but whether that is the right way to feel or not, is up for debate. I feel that everyone should have a realistic view of the world, but not necessarily negative. It sounds like it have depression, though. It's normal to feel this way after something negative has happened to you, it'll probably get better. Give it some time. If not, then I suggest you get your depression looked into. There are prescription meds, bu also natural alternatives. Also therapy and stuff like that. Everything in the world isn't a lie. The flowers aren't a lie and animals never lie. The trees aren't a lie and there are SOME honest people out there. But it's most human nature to be dishonest. The world Does suck. Just some things are nice in it. But those things are worth waiting, fighting, and looking for.
Hope this helps~
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12 year old female.
Anyway, so at camp I told my 'friend' since pre-k how me and another 'friend' got into s fight. I was going to invite her and a few other friends to my party, but I ended up cancelling. So she threw a hissy fit and talked shit about me. I said i wanted to fight her. Anyway, so this camp friend went and told her that. Now this hissy fit friend wants to have her dad go talk to my dad (good luck with that, you'll be in New York while my family is in New Jersey for 2 weeks) so now I lost two friends. Anyway, I already had some elaborate scheme set up about ostrichizing her, and some people already agreed to it. I'm afraid that I'm going to end up friendless, though. Thoughts? (link)
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Having no friends is better than having bad friends. So don't live your life afraid of anything to do with someone else. Plus, if they're real friends then you shouldn't even have to question whether they will leave you or not. Just make sure you're not doing anything extreme out of rage and anger.
Hope this helps~
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So, I recently made a new friend and it was said that I drink a lot. So with that my new friend made a bet with me but we're both at a loss for what the winner/loser does/gets because we have not known each other very long. The bet is last person standing, with the intent of fulfilling the bet at a later time when we are sober. Ideas!!!??? We're both Young recently 21 so I can understand how stupid this may sound to some. (link)
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LOSER:
1. Loser has to ask out the person they like.
2. Loser has to prank call their mom saying they got a girl pregnant. (I'm assuming y'all are guys, if not, then say you got pregnant)
3. Loser has to buy the other person lunch of their choice. (But not like A TON of money or anything)
4. Loser has to be your semi-slave for a week. (Nothing too much or weird and not like making you pay for everything or anything)
WINNER:
1. Gets that free lunch.
2. Gets the person as a semi-slave.
3. Gets bought a drink out at a bar/club.
4. Gets one I owe you from the other person where if you ver need a favor they gotta help you out, no questions asked.
Hope this helps~
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Last year my friend convinced me to tryout for the field hockey team and everyone made the team. This year we are in high school an they had to make cut but she didn't get in. I'm goalie so I pretty much knew I was gonna get in because there were only 3 goalies and the other two are on varsity. But she plays field and she got cut and I feel bad because I only did this because she wanted me to and I don't even like to play I just want to stay in shape. But I don't know if I should quit because she didn't make it or stay in. Plus my dad thinks it would be good if I stayed playing. So should I stay or should I quit? And if I stay how do I make my friend feel better that she didn't make it? (link)
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Well what is important is whether you want to keep playing and if you truly enjoy it. Because otherwise, there are other things you can do to stay in shape. You shouldn't base something in your life that is your decision on someone else if you truly enjoy it. If you really want to keep playing, then you should and your friend should understand. Just be sympathetic with your friend, and if your friend is really upset about it, just be there for her.
Hope this helps~
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ok i started my peiod when i was 2 now 13 im 5ft7 and size 6 feet but they havebt grown for ages my mom is 5ft4 and my dad is 6ft i want to stop grwoing when will i stop growing
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First, im assuming you meant 12. Second, your shoe size, at least for girls, are a big sign to how your growth will go. Considering your feet are only a size 6, you should stop your height at now or you might get like 1 or 2 inches taller. So unless your feet grow, you should technically stop growing pretty soon.
Hope this helps~
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I have decided to elope with my long term boyfriend within the next year or two. I do not have a good relationship with my family (I was physically abused most of my childhood), I do not have money for a huge wedding and I also am more on the shy side, so eloping seemed like a good option. However, I knew from the get go that my dad would be upset if I eloped. So, in an effort to help my dad adjust to the idea, I told him in advance that we are planning on eloping. I also explained that I don't enjoy being around the family anyway because of what went on in the past, that weddings seem too expensive to me and that I would prefer something quiet. This was a huge mistake. I wish I had just kept it quiet like you are supposed to when you elope. My dad did not adjust to the idea over time. Instead, he has been fighting with me for a full year over my plans to elope. He tells me that I am the reason the family doesn't get along and that I will make things even worse by eloping. In particular, constantly hearing that my dad thinks I am a drama queen for still being upset over being abused in the past is hard. I regret telling him that my family issues played any part in my decision to elope because now he won't let it go. I cat turn back the clock on what I said to him, although I wish I could...But what can I say to diffuse this situation the next time my dad brings this up? What do I say when tells me not to elope and that I have to invite my family to the wedding because he believes that I should be "over" my abuse already? It's hurtful and I don't want to be having these conversations (link)
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First off, that is just plain messed up that he thinks you should be "over" something like that. Not He nor anyone else can say that, because that is something on you entirely. I can see why that would be hurtful. You can't listen to what he or your family is saying, eloping or getting married is yours and your partner's decision ONLY, and no one else's. honestly I don't think there is anything you can say to defuse it unless you say you are no longer eloping. I suggest you say straight up that this is your decision and they better get with the program because y'all are eloping whether they like it or not. It seems that you can't make him understand how you feel about the abuse, so all you can really say is that he may think you should be over it but it scarred you and it was cruel and you don't just simply get over something like that. I personally believe that when it comes to love, your family can't have a say in it because it is between you and your lover. So you may want their blessing or something like that, but what is important is that you two are together. It's your life, and you should do whatever you want.
Hope this helps~
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I have an elder sister who thinks that all of us in the sense my mother, my father and me hate her. She always thinks that my mother always shows partiality towards me and doesn't care for her at all when she does. All of a sudden
My sister acts kind of weird like a sadist and starts cursing my mom harassing all of us. She thinks that I am the reason behind all of her problems. she makes me want to feel like I ruined her life by being born. We can just find out how annoyed she is of me being in her life through her actions. I just want to die and forget that I was ever born in this family. Please someone help me out. And by the way I me and my sister are studious and dont want our studies to get disturbed. If anyone helps me in solving this issue I owe them big time!! I am a female and am 15 years old and my sister is 17 (link)
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Your sister is just going through a hard time/phase right now. She probably needs her space, but also I suggest sitting her down when it seems she is in a relatively good mood, and really ask her why she's doing this and feels this way. She could just be being stupid and is having a hard time and is using you to take it out on. I used to sort of feel this way about my brother and kind of my sister, but over time it faded away as they and I got older and more mature. You sister may need psychological or medical help with whatever it is going on with her. You should probably also talk to your parent(s) about this, see what they think about it and what they or you could do to fix it or help. I really think that something happened to her to make her be this way, so I definitely think that you should straight up confront her to please tell you what's been going on.
Hope this helps~
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I need to die to get out of my current situation. I need to do it fast and it has to be efficient. I tried to hang myself but after hanging there a moment I couldn't go through with it. I do not own a gun and I don't have pills just laying around so I need something household and efficient.
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Person PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE I BEG YOU DO NOT DO THIS. No one on here is going to help you kill yourself. I know you've probably heard his tons of times before, but it is a HUGE mistake. I don't know what situation you're in, but let one of us or someone else help you. Please talk to someone about what's going on instead, there are alternatives, and always options. THIS IS NOT THE WAY TO GO. Everything will be okay, I promise you, eventually it will. Do not do something permanent. PLEASE LISTEN. I don't know what's going on, but you are wanted and are needed on this planet because EVERYONE has a purpose, even if you don't know it.
Please. Don't.
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Hi, i am in a long distance relationship and some days i really like the way things are going, my partner has alot of girl mates who he gets along with and hes still friends with his first ex-girlfriend and at times i feel like i havent given him much sexual attention and i obviously cannot do this physically so im scared that he might go and do something with someone else (his first ex) ive confronted him about this but have not mentioned that im worried because hes getting close with his ex ive just told him im scared to lose him and that he might do something stupid, all he replied was "well i havent done anything yet"
and a friend of mine asked him hows things going between me and him he didnt answer he said that his ex wants to have sex with him now that she isnt in a relationship anymore. also a few months back she even confronted him about her feelings towards him and how she still has feelings for him and now shes getting closer to him and he likes it
so what should i do? should i end it ? should i just trust him ? should i confront him about this girl ? because he hasnt said that he still speaks to her i have found that out from my friend
what should i do?
i dont know what he does in his spare time whether he lies to me when he says hes going work or going out with family etc i dont know :'( i feel like ending it with him but i love him so much to the extent where when he asked me "if i do something dumb would you take me back" and i said yes because i truly love him and i understand the situation we are in (link)
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No no no no NO. You need to END IT immediately. "I haven't done anything yet" YET? That right there is your red flag. Also him asking you if you'll take him back is his reassurance to do something because now he knows that you'll just take him back if he does that. NOT OKAY. I know it's hard, but you cannot stay with him. He clearly is still into his ex and if he hasn't cheated already, he could do it any minute OR EVEM RIGT NOW. Dont let him hurt you like that. Be the person to walk away, because it hurts less, but it still will hurt. You have to end it, though.
Hope this helps~
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Is this more than touchy-feely? I was stood with a coworker looking at the sandwich counter. She was stood with her body on mine- her boobs were pressed against me. So was so against me she had to know how close she was basically. Her face was so close to mine while she asked what I was having and we were stood like that for a while. If I turned my head I could have kissed her- that's how close she was. She does this every time we queue or look at something. However this time when we looked for somewhere to sit she says 'where can we sit to look at fit guys' (she's knows I'm a lesbian). We sit but she never mentions guys or breaks her attention from me. Just want to add she never looks for male attention when she is pressed up against me (you know the flirting for the guys thing).
As we walk back, she says that if she sees a fit guy she can't give eye contact as she is scared to give something away.
So I get confused as she gets super touchy with me, like I mention above, also she will touch my hand or grab my arm with both hands when she talks to me. She also gives me so much eye contact. She has started asking me to lunch more often recently too- this is usually just the 2 of us. We do have a really big age gap which she brings up so often and says stuff like "I'm old enough to be your mum" or "I can't believe there are this many years between us" which i find odd that she would keep saying this.
I liked her as a friend for sometime- it was when she told me one time that she didn't know if she liked men or women. She only ever said this once to me and it wasn't brought up again. Although a couple of weeks ago she pointed out a women to me and said that she was hot and she Said she knew that was ok to say to me (im guessing she meant hot in a sexually attractive way as she added the bit about it being ok to say to me). I don't know why but thinking she was straight put me off liking her and since then (months ago) I've built up feelings for her to the point I don't know if she flirts or if I'm hoping she is.
I don't see this behaviour with other people.
So I'm wondering if this is what is meant by a touchy feely person or is there more to it?? I can't decide if she is just affectionate with me or if it's more. Sometimes I wonder if she is horrified about liking another woman and says the guy stuff to play it cool or if she is just straight and she likes me as a friend and I have been misinterpretating. (link)
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No I definitely think she is into you. When she said things about those guys, she was just trying to get you jealous or something along those lines. When she talks about the age gaps, she is probably really upset about it, like she wishes it weren't so big. But yeah I think she likes you, so go for it.
Hope this helps~
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Hi! My name is Brianna. I recently got out of a relationship of 4 years...so I'm a little lost with this "does he like me" stuff". I'll try not to make this too long. BUT HELP!
Alright, I'm in this internship. One of the other students and I basically began texting and you know, it seemed like it would be flirting. We would go to group lunches and stuff and text basically all of the time. But we decided to make this whole thing a secret because i'm the student coordinator for this internship (he's 22 and I'm 21). He invited me to his house after a few weeks and I said no because i hadn't really known him and I said I would prefer meeting alone for lunch or something. It's rather hard to meet because he works in a different city, commutes to a different city for his internship, and comes to my city for classes on Friday. Eventually, I decided to come over to his place because it's just hard to get together besides friday and I don't have my pwn place either...
I'm not looking for a realtionship either and we've expressed that to each other. But I'm not gonna lie, he's very well together, just graduated, attractive so I wouldn't mind if things worked and maybe i am getting some feelings...but I'll live if it doesn't happen. SO we had sex...a few times. it's fun making this a secret. But I wannt say he's catching feelings too? We had a work trip last week and basically hung out the whole time. even though he asked to keep this a secret, he moved 4 times on the bus to sit next to me, flirts with me like normal and he made a lame excuse to hang with me after the trip once everyone left. He said "where can I get an oil change?". It's like we hang out at his house and sit there like we're 12 and nervous. He comes up with the lamest exucses to text me and they form into conversations (usually questions about work
thats irrelevant). After taking him to a gas station since he wasn't from the area after the trip, we hung out there for like 10 minutes like idiots. Then sat in our cars and stared at eachother smiling at eachother like we didn't want eachother to leave for the next 5 minutes. like WHAT IS GOING ON! So I asked when would we hang out again WITHOUT a group of people and he said he was busy and had to drive home to kentucky. I'm like fine. But we act kind of secret in groups, but more and more hes a little more flirty, but then has moments where i feel like he's just not interested. He hasn't invited me back to his place, and i feel like i'm bugging him and don't want to. So how should i do this? Just let it go? or give him space. There's like 2weeks left of our internship anyway... one more thing...I've hung around him plenty now. He's not a slow texter from what I notice. At first, he would text back pretty quick. Now it's an hour or two or even several. Or sometimes it'll be fast, but mostly slow. Thoughts? (link)
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Well it definitely seems like he likes you, or at least did. So I think what you should do is back off for a bit, and make him the one to wait and be kept in the dark for a bit. Start not texting him as much, seem nonchalance and what not. Give him and yourself a little space, and see if anything changes. If he just lets things go, or stays all backed-off like he has been, when he may not be interested anymore. But if he starts acting nicer or shows more interest, then yay.
Hope this helps~
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Ok, he went home from the countryside and all he did was tell me about his cousin. He was soo into her that he started crying every night and calling me telling me he misses her. I asked him if he loved her romantically, he said no, that he only loved her as a sister. But when I asked him, why do you love her, he replies "she's just really different." What's that mean? I really need help. Also, how do I make him stop missing her? (link)
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Definitely seems like he's into her. Not sure that there is a way to make him stop missing her, except taking his mind off of her. Like distracting him. Hang out, do things he likes, surprise him with happy things or something. Send him funny pics or texts during the day sometimes to make him feel better. The best you can do is be there for him right now.
Hope this helps~
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so im a 13 year old girl and i act a little horny when i see sexual stuff. is it normal for 13 year olds to watch porn and i want sex with a guy but protected sex. can i do anything sexual by myself to give a sex feeling to myself i know for guys they can maturbate help! (link)
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I would say it's fairly normal. Either way, it happens a lot. At that age you're going through puberty and your hormones are raging, so things happen. Yes, girls can masterbate too, just obviously in a different way. If you look up on google or yahoo how a girl can masterbate or "pleasure" herself, you'll be sure to find results.
Hope this helps~
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We're 14, dating for over 2 years, madly in love, fairly open about our love to. At least for someone in this situation.
I find it sad that us being related makes people sick that we love eachother, I guess I just came here to seek some approval
We cuddle, kiss, go out to dates, everything a regular couple does.
The part no one except my best friend and our other sister really knows about is that yes we have had sex before. A quite a few times. I'd imagine that'll be a turn off point for most people reading this.
We cuddle, kiss, go out to dates, everything a regular couple does.
The part no one except my best friend and our other sister really knows about is that yes we have had sex before. A quite a few times. I'd imagine that'll be a turn off point for most people reading this. (link)
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Y'all need JESUS
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Hi . Ive been dating my boyfriend for 5 months now and lately we haven't been getting along .. recently hes punched me in my mouth and made me bleed alot before hes beat me and pulled my hair each time he crys and says hes sorry and wont do it again i want to believe him .. i mean he is a good guy when we're. Doing fine.. should i leave him or stay because of the promises he's made me ? (link)
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100% leave him. Never take any form of abuse, especially physical. He will NOT change, trust me when I say this. He only says that for you to stay. You cannot stay in a relationship like that, it isn't right and you deserve better. Leave him.
Hope this helps~
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Hello!im 11 and i wanna dye my hair blue don't worry my parents are okay with it!:D im also aware that ill have to bleach it which causes breakage but im worried about my school suspending me if i come into class with blue hair i really want to dye it i wont regret it at all so im wondering what should i do? (link)
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Well, I'm pretty sure a lot of schools won't suspend you for that, but I don't know what type you go to. Honestly, its your hair and you should do whatever you want, but if you're really worried about it, then maybe either dye just a little bit of your hair blue, (because I went to a private school last year and dyed the tips red and they didn't care) or just do like a fake dye and see what happens? That way you won't have to go through the huge process for nothing. If all else fails, how about you or your parent Just ask the school about it?
Hope this helps~
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Hi. My friend is in a position. Ok so this girl she knows recently got a broken ankle and that really sucks for her. And another friend of mine is jealous that she has a cast. She's never had a broken bone before. And this friend also does gymnastics. She's trying to get herself a broken bone do she can get herself a cast. I want to give her advice but I got nothin. I went through a stage like this myself, but never broke anything. And my friend is not insane. I assure you. She doesn't want hate or reasons why she shouldn't (I already went through them with her). She just wants to know how to break a bone. (Foot, leg, wrist, or arm). Thx. Again SHE AND I ARENT CRAZY. Just a way to break it without making it look like its on purpose. (link)
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I really dont think anyone on here is going to tell you or your "friend" how to hurt yourselves. I get what you're saying, but breaking a bone in your body isn't pulling a tooth out for money from the Tooth Fairy. It is a hell of a lot more painful, and to do it just so you can get a cast? That's not right.
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