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Hey I am Nicole and I love giving advice. I am great at giving advice about your love life and pretty much anything else. If you ever need a helping hand or feel like you just need to talk to someone I will always be willing to help out.
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15/m i'm in high school and i want to know what girls like in a guy. like what kind of traits, and also, how do i start a conversation with a girl i like. please help! :)
Personally I love a guy with a sense of humor. Although Ive dated shy guys I like guys who have the courage to come up to me. Although it sound cliche it's true, be yourself. I hate when guys well anyone tries to be someone else. Good luck:)
A little background: When I was born I had a heart murmur (which is an extra beat). It went away aboiut a week later but the doctors said it should be fine but there is a chance of error.
I did some research on it but nothing gives me the answers I was looking for.
So is it possible it could return later on in my life? Also could this cause problems for me later on? (PS: Im 15 and female)
I had the same thing when I was 7. Dont worry about it I had some tests done and they told my parents it was innocent. It either stays there or goes away and dosnt come back. If your doctors didn't do further testing or anything else it means it's innocent.
We want to do a party for a 15 year old but she really doesn't care about things so we don't know what topic type party we should give her.
Don't! Like the other person said let her do it. I'm a teenager and once my friends parents tried to throw her a party and it crashed and burned. She was embarrased and mad at her parents. Let her do it her way as long as you approve:)
My mom told me that if you let someone play with your boobs, that the tingling feelig keeps them from growing. Is this true?
14/f
No lol just a myth.
i've been with this guy for almost a year now,i love him a lot but i feel like i'm not the right person for him,he wants a lot & at times i feel like i'm incompetent.
we fight about small things,things that don't really matter,things like him not being able to reach me because my phone is off,reason-network problems,& he knows that...
we fought yesterday morning & the day before,i have a boil at the mouth of my virgina & i told him about it,he said to me my blood is dirty.i then asked him if my blood is dirty how can the SANBS let me donate blood if my blood was dirty, then he said to me i have an sti...
ican't take it any more..what should i do?
Every relationship has it's ups and downs. If you really love him try to work things out. Never give up on something that once made you smile. If you give up now you might regret it in the future. If you feel like you can't take it anymore and their is no way to fix your relationship then break up with him. Just be prepared for the consequences. I hope I helped you.
I am a 16 year old female. I am going to be a senior in high school. When I was back in jr high, I had a favorite teacher and it was quite evident that I was his favorite student. We were so close, he was like a second dad to me, how I saw it anyway. Other students were jealous that they didn't get the treatment from him that I did, so badly that the only thing they could come up with is that we were "together". Honestly, from an outsider looking it, it would look as if we were dating. But he would have no intention of dating a 7/8/9 th grader which was what I was in jr high. I am now in sr high and we still stay in contact.
-He comes to my school to watch over some teachers and we'll steal quick glances at each other
-He'll tell me he likes when I visit him during the school year on my walks home
-I'm the only student that during my years of having him and now not having him that is able to call him by his first name
-He asks me for my opinions on his teaching lessons (about what would interest the kids because I had him and he knows that I would be honest if his lessons were boring)
-He asks me about my personal life and he talks to me about his which is something he never does with other students
-One time when I visited him it was during a practice with the kids so I sat there at his desk and saw how the kids were doing and then I went back again with my friend the following week and he didn't let us sit in but he let me sit in alone the week before
-The first time I visited him was after Christmas break with a friend of mine and she asked if he liked his late Christmas present and he said "I love my fantastic Christmas present" and she said after we left that he hadn't looked that happy in a long time.
-The following week, I went alone so he would let me sit in and listen and after every kid had left, he exited his office and was walking out the door to drive home when he saw me standing at the door, he acknowledged that I was still there and asked if I had a ride, if I didn't, he could drive me home. He never offers kids rides home, ever.
He's the only teacher that I still make an effort to see because he was a very important person in my life.
--what do you think about us? more than just student teacher?
I really need to know if you think we are "wrong" because I am going on an 11 day school field trip out of the country and he is the head of the arts, which is what I am going for, so I will be with him everyday. So, are you like everyone else and think we're together or something?
I don't think your together. You clearly have feelings for him but I don't know if your interest is more then friends. If it is all I can tell you is to continue being friends and stay in contact but do not try anything. You are underage and it could ruin his life. If you feel like you can't handle what you feel anymore talk to him about it. If he dosnt feel the same way you can always stay friends. If you don't see him as more then a friend but a second dad then forget what everyone else thinks. Ignore their opinions it's your life. In him you have a life long friend don't ruin it because of others. Once again if you do like him do not try anything he will get in trouble and you'll end up hurting yourself too. I hope I helped at least a little sorry if I took a long time to respond. If you ever need advice again I'll always be here.
I'm 15 right now and I'm really into the Emo look...I love screamo bands and i like to wear black a lot I also like to put a lot of dark makeup on my face not to much but enough. But my parents and my friends hate it..Should I change? I really enjoy it and I'm happy with how it looks, but my parents want me to change. and none of my friends are into that kinda stuff. What should I do? or How could I help my parent change there mind?
Dont change who you are for anyone. Do what you love. Youll find friends with the same interests as you. Also your parents won't always agree with what you do but nothing can be done about that. As long as you're not harming yourself or other it's all good:)
Im really getting tired of girls acting like they know guys, "oh, he doesnt care because hes a man,and men care less about stupid little stuff, men move on faster" yada yada yada, they are human beings that have feelings, and just because they dont have the same exact body organ that we have doesnt mean anything,atleast thats what i think,lol.. anyways, me and my ex broke up like 1 month and a half ago, all his fault,all the way.. and hes kind of in that confused "phase" where he doesnt know what he wants , and i should give him some time,but i refused, we were together for a long time.. he bought a necklace, half for him and half for me, it says something very special between the both of us,and we both always used to wear it, we said it kept us Connected,i see him around, and he still wears it, all the time, and he doesnt even bother to tuck it in his shirt, he keeps it out all the time.. what do you think this means? if he didnt wanna be with me, why does he still wear it..
My friend was/is going through the same thing as you. Her boyfriend was "confused". They are clearly made for each other and they both love each other but they both screwed up. They broke up but never lost contact. They gave each other time and space to figure out what they wanted. Right now she's dating someone else and he still loves her vise versa. Give him some time but don't wait forever. My friend is still waiting for him but is so close to giving up. If he can't appreciate you Now he never will. Good luck:) my motto is never give up on something that once made you smile:) but sometimes people change and moving on is the best thing. I hope I helped and didn't just Confuse you more lol.
My guy friend of 4 years just now tells me( female ) he wants more than friendship now or he can't be friends . We have never had sex and I do not want to take it to that level with him. This really hurts my feelings cuz I don't want to lose him As a friend what should I do ?
He is trying to manipulate you. Don't give in! If he's the kind of guy who would stop talking to you because you Don't want to have sex with him then he was never a true friend. Also if he really loved you he would understand you dot love him and let you go.
Okay well he broke up with me and then later that night he said he acted stupid and asked if I would take him back. He also said he loves me and has loved me since two years years ago when we started talking. I'm so confused on what to do. So should we stay broken up or should I give him another chance?
It depends on the reason you broke up. If you were right then make him apologize wait a little and then see if you want him back in your life. Good luck:)
Is the 7th time a charm?
April, 26, 2011
I tried to commit suicide today for the 6th time today. I cant do anything right.If I had apistol it would be over by now, but i am a felon and I do not know where too purchase one illegally. I've tried pills, exsangunation, more pills,(note: 375 tylenol will not kill u even w/oa stomach pump I got this idea in my head that if I took tylenol long enough, slowbleeding ( I got 25 tylenol I took a day for 8 years, finally developed an ulcer and almost beld to deathSO Close that one. And then today, electrocution, I poured a bath. Got some electrical instruments, a lamp , and a telephone because the stupid space heater wouldn't work. And it did nothing. Good for nothing. Oh yeah, and self immolation...thatdidnt quite work because my mom ran in the house and I didn't want her to get hurt. I really dont undersstand what I'm trying to say, I think it's just that someone has to know a sure way to die. This Hell can't be anymore worse than the real Hell. At least in my mind. I've been on meds, docs, I can't get a job. Haven't had one for over almost a year. At least i can sit and rot in hell. I'm no use here. Everything was taken from me, I have no hope or streength to continue with this so called charade. I haven't been in a relationship for 10 years. I don't know what loe is anymore. I can't even love myself. And all I'm going to here is NO NO dont do it it will get better blah blah bllha. For me, it's only gotten worse. It is the endpoint. ood Day, and God Bless, one more day of hell.
You don't want to hear people telling you not to kill yourself, but I am sorry to say that is what I am going to tell you. You only get to live one time. Why would you take that away from yourself? If you don't want to do it for yourself do it for your family. The will miss you like crazy. If you say you've hit rock bottom then things can only get better. Think of all the things you haven't done yet. What you will miss out on. If everyone killed themselves when their lives weren't going well we wouldn't have a human population. I hope with all my heart you fight for your life. You can do this I believe in you:)
So, this is a long one.
I had a guy track me down on Facebook and send me a long message about how I tortured and bullied him in school.
But most of what he said I don't remember, and a lot it couldn’t have happened. I had a rather severe anxiety disorder throughout my early teens, a few years are just emotional blurs to me, but some of things he claimed I did - like speak up in class to embarrass him, or make up a nasty song about him - it’s really near impossible for me to have done. I didn’t speak in class. I started to cry or throw up when I had to make presentations. I wouldn’t speak aloud to people who weren’t my friends. I stayed inside at recess and shelved books in the library... What I DO remember is coming home violently crying because of what this boy had a habit of taking things from me and flushing them down the toilet - to the point that my mother called the school, and had my desk moved away from his.
In high school we never had a single class together and were in different academic streams. But in grade 11, he tried to make himself useful to the drama club, the rest of the stage crew holding a meeting on how to politely kick him for his incompetence and arrogance. I defended him. Sure, he’s was a bit of an ass, but he was obviously trying to be useful; we should try and create tasks for him. But the senior stage manager decided to ask him to leave. I wasn't there, and we never spoke of it.
I haven’t responded to him. I didn’t know what to say. Maybe he is confusing me with someone else as well. It doesn’t seem worth it to argue with him and tell him he has a whole bunch of it dead wrong. Maybe I should message him and say like "I’m sorry you had a tough..." What do you think?
I would talk to him about it. I had a similar experience I remember this girl that always use to bother me and I would complain to my mom about her. Then 1st grade is a blur to me. All I remember is the girl avoided from 2 grade on. She actually seemed scared of me but I don't remember doing anything to her. Maybe you did something your mind blocked out or maybe the guy is really confused. Either way I would talk with him to sort things out. Who knows you guys could actually become friends:)
Hello! My name is Fiona I am 12 years old and have a problem!
When I am waiting for the school bus all the other girls around my aqe are mean to for no reason. I've already asked 2 of 5 of them why they do it. They're answere was: person 1: You're annoying, you are weird. person 2: You look ugly and you're gross sometimes.( Sh e didn't get to finish all she wanted to say.) i'll a agree that I'm a very energetic but I'm generly very friendly. Please help me!
Fiona
Some people have nothing better to do in their life than bother other people. Also more than likely they have low self esteem and making fun of you gives them the feeling that they are better than you. I'm sorry to tell you but some people in life are just like that. You can either 1 ignore them 2 try working out your differneces or 3 take action there is no need to start a fight or anything but sometimes you have to defend your self. Insulting them back works great or even better just be nice to them. They insult you and you smile and walk away.Never show them that your hurt or mad because that's what they want to see. Good luck :) I hope I helped you
okay so im quite close with this girl, she's always got her defences up but she really opens up to me and vice versa, well i told here theres this guy i really hate (he threatened to beat me up/kill me etc) however the main reason i hate him is because he hurt my other best friend. recently the girl im close with has been hanging around him more (its not that she sets out to spend time with him, its just that whenever she's out he is too), I've sort of hinted that it makes me uncomfortable, but I have not blatantly said it. anyway she takes pictures with him and puts them up as her fb profile picture. I'm not sure weather im being childish and petty in that the fact she spends time with someone that dislikes me that much (and vice versa) i think that she may be doing it to annoy me but im not sure..
I think you should talk to her about it. You say you guys are close so I'm sure she will understand. She's probably not doing it on purpose trust me. Oh and also when you talk to her don't just tell her oh don't hang out with h because I know that I hate when people do that. I feel like they are trying to control me. Good luck :)
So, I was talking to my crush and I told him I was mad that we don't walk to class together anymore. So, one day I came out of the girl's room as he was coming out of the boy's room. He kicked my backpack, asked who I was waiting for, I told him that I was waiting for my friend. He walked out the door, my friend came out, we walked out the door and he turned around, looked in front of him, turned around to look at me and my friend again and said "hurry, I'm waiting for you!" I picked up my pace, caught up with him and we walked to our next period together. Does that mean that he likes me?
Depends on his personality. I know some guys friends of mine that would do that. Like if they see me sad they will come over and see what's wrong and sometimes I walk with some guy friends to class. It dosnt mean they like me we are just friends. So if that's how he usually is then sorry to tell you but no. If he dosnt do this often then yes :) good luck!
I am 16 f, my best friend is 16, f, my other friend who is best friends with the boy, is 17 and f, and the boy is 17 and m. All of them are seniors, except me.
My friend and I were talking about this boy and low and behold an hour or so later, we saw him driving by right where we were standing. My friend is best friends with him so she chased him down the block and I followed. We met up with him at a corner when he was out of his car and we talked for a few minutes. She invited him back to my house later and he came over. When he came over we chilled for a few minutes, then went outside. It was strange, though, I was getting signals he was kind of into me, every time he made a joke, he glanced at me, when I talked, he looked straight into my eyes, I caught him looking at me a few times, he told my friend to text him (which I did and we talked for 45 minutes or so.) Yet, when he left my friend asked him which one, me or the other girl that was there (my best friend) and he said he found my best friend to be very cute. He also thought I was cute but I'm not his type, but he then fixed himself and said he actually thinks it's because I'm not as old as him. Then my friend asked if he would ever date me and he said sure, maybe. We made plans to hang out again with my other guy friends, this would be our third time hanging out.
We told him next time, my best friend might not be there and he was cool with it. But when he was talking to my friend, he had asked if my best friend (the one he likes) if she had gone home and talked about her for a few minutes. I'm so confused..
What's his deal? Why was he giving me more of the signals then he was my best friend, when he was more attracted to her?
Don't deicide so soon on how you thinks he likes more or not. Hang out with him again an ask him in person. Most guys prefer it that way than your friend asking for you,you seem more mature. Also this dosnt have to do with you question but from what you titled your question it can seem like you're jelous of your best friend. Try no to be, be happy for her. It may seem to you that she gets all the guys but that who you see things. It's not what really happens. Your jealousy towards her will harm you friendship and will only bring bad things. So try to be happy for your friend when she gets a guy and support her that what true friends do. Hope I didn't offend you or anything an I also hope things work out.
i don't know why he won't let me tell. he let me tell my best friend but now he wants to break up with me cause he afraid it will get out that were dating!!!
This means he didn't truly like you. He is one ashamed of you or two dosnt want other girls to find out about you to keep his options open. Sorry to tell you but this guy is not worth it. Someone who can't even acknowledge the fact that you are his girlfriend is never going to treat you right. If you go along with this it's just like saying to him that he can do whatever he wants with you. Dot let that happen. I hope i helped you out. Good luck :)
I know in this day that lots of people are HIV+ or have AIDS. I know they can lead decently healthy lives. Just, personally, I have never known an HIV positive person or someone suffering from AIDS, and, of course, I do not want something like this. It's just scary.
Yesterday I was at work and this new guy said something about getting AIDS tested the day before. He was talking to another guy from work that he's made friends with.
I am really feeling weird about this. I know HIV/AIDS has to be spread through blood or some sort of bodily fluids like that. I know I'm not going to just catch it from the air or just looking at him. I'm a bit uncomfortable though and I'm nervous. I won't ever know if the test says he's positive or not probably. I mean that's not something you go around screaming at work.
Should I look for another job? I'm serious about this making me uncomfortable. There isn't anything that can make me relaxed around this guy and I don't want my work to suffer because I'm too focused on him possibly having an STD. He does seem like a good guy apart from this possible problem so it's nothing "against" him. I've only been at the job for maybe 6 months so it isn't like I've been working there for years and years.
What would you do?
What should I do?
If I were you I wouldn't quit. It just wouldn't be right. First of all, he is just getting test tons of people get tested. Second of all, what if he did hav HIV? It dosnt make him less of a human being and most certainly dosnt automatically make him a freak. I know you saw that you don't have anything against him and you simply feel uncomfortable. Well then keep the job in everyones life there are fears and obstacles we must over come this is one of yours. Be thankful you have a job I bet some jobless people would love to have your job. If you quit this job then the next job you get you will quit too all because you are going to let some tiny problems or circumstances get to you. Oh and if this helps get into your co-workers shoes for a second. I'm sure you wouldn't exactly love the idea of someone quiting there job because of you. Especially if it's only because you are getting an HIV/AIDS test. I hope I helped you out and you make what you think is the right descision
who will the biggest winner in the 2010 football world cup in South african?
Brazil :)
My boyfriend sometimes twists my wrists and pulls arms, hair, etc. But he says that he is only "playing". About two months, while playing, he dislocated my shoulder. All my friends say I'm to blame. If I wasn't rude to him, he wouldn't have to put me in my place. But all I said was that I wouldn't get him a soda!
I really love him and he's not mean or does anything to hurt me emotionally me. But I'm afraid that someday he might do something that will end up with me in real pain.
ok this is defenitaly a problem. That is not
Normal. NOBODY has the right to hurt you. I don't know what your friends are thinking but they are wrong.please leaverhis realtionship for your own good. What might start out as something small can turn into something huge. Nobody is worth your pain. Leave now before it is to late.