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Am i being petty/childish?
okay so im quite close with this girl, she's always got her defences up but she really opens up to me and vice versa, well i told here theres this guy i really hate (he threatened to beat me up/kill me etc) however the main reason i hate him is because he hurt my other best friend. recently the girl im close with has been hanging around him more (its not that she sets out to spend time with him, its just that whenever she's out he is too), I've sort of hinted that it makes me uncomfortable, but I have not blatantly said it. anyway she takes pictures with him and puts them up as her fb profile picture. I'm not sure weather im being childish and petty in that the fact she spends time with someone that dislikes me that much (and vice versa) i think that she may be doing it to annoy me but im not sure..
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No, I don't think she's trying to annoy you. I've had this same situation. I used to date a guy who was friends with the guy that date-raped my roommate in high school. I didn't want to expose my roommate's secret, but I would always try to tell him about that guy and that he was a creepy loser. My boyfriend just thought my roommate was a jealous ex or something. One day I said "Hey, it bothers me that you sometimes hang out with this guy and I know for a fact that he is a creep and even worse". My BF said "you know what, maybe you're right, but its not right to take your word for it only. I can't judge him based on events I don't have personal knowledge of...I'll make my OWN judgements". Well, since I didn't want to reveal my roommate's very sensitive information, I couldn't really argue with him, but eventually the dude showed his true colors and my bf saw him for what he really was. I think your friend might feel the same way sort of. Maybe she really trusts your opinion, but doesn't want to "judge" someone that she doesn't really know yet. Feel free to mention it to her that it bothers you a bit, but then back off and let her come to her own conclusions. And don't worry... if this guy really is as bad as you say he is then he won't be able to hide it for long. A leopard can't hide his spots! He'll eventually do something to piss your friend off and she'll know for herself exactly what you meant. Until then, don't nag her about it, or you may well come off looking petty/childish, even though we know that's not what its really about.
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You might talk to her about it. Ifs shes your bestfriend shell understand but she might not want to quit being friends with him but to talk to you and talk to him and maybe get the two of you talking together.
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I think you should talk to her about it. You say you guys are close so I'm sure she will understand. She's probably not doing it on purpose trust me. Oh and also when you talk to her don't just tell her oh don't hang out with h because I know that I hate when people do that. I feel like they are trying to control me. Good luck :)
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