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Age: 17
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Well, the other day I was talking to my boyfriend and he asked me "how far I wanted to go". To be honost, I really don't know. I had planned to stay abstinent until marriage, but I know that as I get older, I might lose my current, or future, boyfriend if I don't want to do very much sexually. I mean, I don't know. I'm only 14 so I think i'm to young to be "sexually active", but it seems as if everyone's doing something like that.... I just don't know what to do...are guys going to pressure me to do this stuff when I get into highschool? I guess i'm just afraid of being the last person considered "prude". Thanks, any advice welcome. (link)
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From the information you gave it sounds like he just asked the question, which i wouldn't jump to conclusions and feel like he's pressuring you. it's good to talk about things.
and its also good to be honest. unlike most young girls on this site, i really respect you for the way you think and feel. my true advice though is to not do anything. even if you just told yourself you'd go to 2nd. It's definitelyyyy common knowledge that girls who start doing sexual things earlier will almost ALWAYS end up having sex earlier. at 14 you should be a virgin and in my opinion, you shouldn't be sexually active at all. I don't care about the decisions other people around you are making, and neither should you.
It sounds like you're a smart girl and you seem like the type that might regret your decision later if you chose to be active. I believe that the people that get pressured for sex in high school, put themselves in those situations. I've steered clear of people and places where that might happen and you can too. It's not as hard as one might think to see through to a guys true intentions.
Good luck with everything and i hope you make smart choices!
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so my bf is very experienced and in a way that makes me feel better, but in a way it doesn't. he's ready to have sex with me and i love him alot and i do want him to be my first but i just don't know if i'm ready. the only things i've really done is kiss.. i did make out by the guy forced himself of me so it doesn't really count. i wanna go all the way with him cuz i completely trust him and i want my first time to be with someone experienced so they don't expect much from me. should i wait or just do it? i'm so confused. please help!!! =]
much appreciation, Chelsea (link)
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i don't have time to answer the whole question so i'm just going to say my intial thoughts. but i think you have it backwards.. although you may trust your boyfriend very much, it seems that since he is experienced he would be a lot more likely TO expect more from you. i really can't see it being the other way around..
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is 7th or 8th grade too young to have sex?
also, is it possible to have like dry sex with your clothes on? (link)
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yes. WAY too young. even if it's dry sex.
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Well every guy i date wants to have sex with me
but im really scared and want to wait till i find the right guy or im married and they dump me should i just give it up to them? (link)
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okay part of your question was good. the last half was dumb. don't give it up to them.
obviously.
=]
okay hope i helped lol
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The topic that I just read by the girls saying that the male body part is ugly,while the female body is so pretty.We are what we are.Why did the good lord put it on the outside,probaly so we can do the job that you are unable to do yourself.You can stick all kinds of objects up there but that won't give you what you want most.When you get ready to marry,who do you come to,us.When you want to have kids,who do you come to,us.Who is going to support your butt the rest of your life,who is going to pay for the home your going to live in,in other words,let me think,oh I guess it us.If you think the male organ isn't worth playing with,have fun with your tooth brush honey.You may be ashamed of showing yours but at least we are out in the open and proud of it.I do realize that at a very young age if you saw one for the first time your scared but remember that many girls still don't know what there's look like still.I like this site but some of the questions are from girls way to young to be thinking about sex with boy friends.At pre-teens you should be out there having fun in groups.Where are your parents?Do they know that there 13/14 year old are thinking of,let alone doing? Grow up first.There are enough Britney Spears out there,give yourself time to know what the world has to offer you and what you have to offer it. (link)
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you were doing good until you said guys have to support girls and pay for the house. thats absolute bullshit to put it simply.
i agree with the preteens asking questions about sex on here. well..not if they're just questions to gain knowledge but if they're advice on how to go out and be active, it's disgusting.
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ok then im 13 years old and im christan
i listen to bad music
i talk back to my parnts when i feel like it
i so bad stuff (link)
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rephrase your question. if i knew what you were asking, i would try to answer it.
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f/16 CANADA
my vagina, is abnormally LARGE.
its like, the size of my head.
is that proper?
this is serious and I would like to know. (link)
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your vagina can't seriously be as big as your head.
i understand they come in different sizes but a HEAD! i really hope you were exaggerating and i just didn't understand.
if not, go see a doc.
sorry about the bluntness.
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what are some fab screenames for my name-Haley :]
lets see...im Christian, i love butterflys, im a happy person kinda preppy, love art and poetry, flowers and all nature basically, i dont have a lot of things that define me tho-my friends, family, church and boyfriend. i dont really have any hobbies besides writing, reading, that stuff. and i dont do any sports...im an outgoing person tho and i can be very social, i love shopping and having fun! thanks soooo much! i will rate :] (link)
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halohaley!
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How old should you be to start going down on boys?
When I was 12, I had a friend with benefits. We did everything, besides have clothes off sex. But, after we did that. I regretted it big time, and i havent done anything like that for 2 years. But now, i love my boyfriend and he wants to, you know do some stuff.
so, did you think I should?
14/f (link)
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gross. that. is. disgusting.
you were TWELVE! that's pretty much the definition of easy.
and an observstion: you rate low. the only way to get a 5 from you is to give you the answer you want to hear, isn't it? well this an advice site sweetie, where thousands of people will give their opinions to people who ask for it. you asked what age is acceptable to do stuff! PEOPLE GAVE YOU THEIR OPINIONS! dont write questions if you're only looking for a fluffed up nice answer.
you don't know what love is sweetie. you're 14. *gag*
oh and thanks in advance for the 1 =]
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Well I was in a relationship with this boy....i'll just say his name is bob. Anywayyss I thought everything was going great in our relationship but out of nowhere we're alone in my room and we get into this BIG argument that ends with him hitting me and raping me! Could it be that I did somethin wrong? (link)
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*sigh*
how can girls honestly still be thinking these things are their fault. haven't you heard enough tv shows or speeches about this type of thing?! SERIOUSLY come on! ITS NOT YOUR FAULT!
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Why is it that some fellow advicenators tell young girls and boys it is okay to have sex or do other sexual acts "if they feel that they are ready" when they know that it is wrong. I believe they are just looking to get good ratings, do you agree? I'd much rather tell them the truth, that they are TOO YOUNG and have NO IDEA of potential consequences BESIDES pregnancy and get a lower rating than tell them it's okay. Am I the only one?
I suppose this can be seen as purely subjective, but is there anyone out there at or about my age (20) who thinks it's ok for 12 year olds to go around having oral sex and/or intercourse?
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AGREE AGREE AGREE AGREE AGREE!
thank you for writing this! it's my biggest pet peeve when people downplay the importance of sex and always say it's a very personal and independent choice. although it is, kids need to be tought that there IS somewhat of an age limit on when it's morally and physically okay to start being sexually active.
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I'm 18. I'm not sexually active but I would like to be and I think it would make relationships a hell of a lot easier. The only problem is that i'm really afraid of the result....meaning....the pain and initial hymen-popping and whatnot. I've done everything sexual other than sex but I have NOT been fingered nor have I fingered myself or used a tampon. I'm uncomfortable with anything being inside. I'm worried that this will make sex completely unattainable.
Is there any way I can "train" my vagina to be a bit looser? Anything! (link)
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okay my initial thoughts..
HOW could sex make a relationship easier?! it brings a whole lot more dangers, risks, emotional problems, etc.
and it doesn't seem like you're ready to be active at ALL..it's almost like you're trying to just convince yourself that you are. if you've never used a tampon, i don't think you should be having sex.
hahaha
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how old do you people think is an ok age to lose yor virginity? (link)
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wait till marraige. i think that's the best idea..if people don't wait though, i look down on them if they do it in high school
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14/f
so me and this guy, we have no interest in a relationship
we've liked each other on and off for 3 years
i really love him
he loves me
i've given him a blow job
hes eaten me out
fingered
handjob
we've made out with just bottoms on
we've talked about sex
i love the feeling of being fingered while we're topless
am i ready for sex? (link)
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oh please dont..there are so many consequences and you would probably be happier with yourself later in life if you waited. i don't think you should convince yourself that you're in love with him either..at your age, you're probably mistaking it for infatuation. love and in love is different.
response to your comment after rating**
you said "when we dont liek eachother im really depressed"
umm.. if you were in love with him you wouldn't not "like" each other. wtf.
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what does a guy do when he goes to 2nd with you? does he like squeeze them? or like rub them or what? cause my bf wants to go there but i have no idea what it even is besides that he would have his hands up my shirt. and hes already gone there before so i would appreciate being informed! thanks!! :] (link)
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i thought it would be weird at first too but it's really not. just make out while he squeezes them. there's not really a whole lot to be informed about. since it's your first time, just kiss him so you can keep your eyes close to make it less awkward for you
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How much masturbating i too uch? A usual day for me is wake up with a boner and either do a quick one in bed or in the shower. Then I usually do it once in school during lunch, and then again when i get home and then usually once or sometimes twice more before i go to sleep. I try to do less but then i'm hard all the time and can't concentrate on anything. Is something wrong with me? (link)
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okay to warn you, i'm in a blunt mood.
it's way too much and if I went to your school and found out you did that, ESPECIALLY during lunch, i would absolutely never ever date you and alkdjfl;jadf.. just be so disgusted.
i'm sure you're not a bad kid but the person under me was right. it makes you seem like a pervert.
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Okay so me and my boyfriend were haveing sex the other night. It went on for a while. and it started to hurt. like it felt like rug burn down there. And i CANT go to the doctors for it. But i think its like a rash. on the inner lips. how do i fix this? because it hurts alot when i pee. (link)
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it coullld just be irritation from all the friction but it sounds like an std. i don't know how fast-acting they are so i could be totally wrong. if you don't know already, you may want to find out if he's slept with anyone else and if he's been tested.
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a girl who have 15 partner, differnt guy to have sex with, is that considering as a whore? (link)
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BIG whore. a;lksdj;lf ew.
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is it weird that I dont' think sex is a big deal like I want to just give it away to get rid of me being a virgin is that normal (link)
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i think thats weird.
in my opinion, sex should be viewed as a big deal
sorry, i just wanted to be blunt. i'm not in the mood for lengthly answers lol
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I'm 16 female. After a few years of wanting a boyfriend, I've decided that I'm staying single in highschool. My question is, is how bad is it to have sex with a person you are not in a relationship with? If your emotionally ready, and understand the consequences, and take pre-caustions, is it still bad? What are your opinions? Thanks! (link)
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that's how people get bad reputations.
just sayin..
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