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i don't know if i'm ready.
so my bf is very experienced and in a way that makes me feel better, but in a way it doesn't. he's ready to have sex with me and i love him alot and i do want him to be my first but i just don't know if i'm ready. the only things i've really done is kiss.. i did make out by the guy forced himself of me so it doesn't really count. i wanna go all the way with him cuz i completely trust him and i want my first time to be with someone experienced so they don't expect much from me. should i wait or just do it? i'm so confused. please help!!! =]
much appreciation, Chelsea <3
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well it seems like u have doubt i did it with my ex girlfriend she was my girlfriend at the time and i was in the same situation u are in she was very experienced and i was not so i say dont do it
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I'm going to tell you the same things i tell everyone. If there's any doubt in your mind. Or any reason you shouldnt do it then your probably not ready.
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Hey, my name is Faith42 and I think I can help you
you don't have to do anything you don't want to do
when you feel it's right go for it if you are not sure
wait! If you have sex before your ready it might
mess up your relationship with that person. It
may ruin your relationships in the future.
I hope I helped,
Faith42:)
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i don't have time to answer the whole question so i'm just going to say my intial thoughts. but i think you have it backwards.. although you may trust your boyfriend very much, it seems that since he is experienced he would be a lot more likely TO expect more from you. i really can't see it being the other way around..
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I agree with Melody.. if you love him then what's the rush? I mean, if you wait until your married to have sex with him, trust me, it'll mean something more special knowing that you've saved yourself completely for that one special person. And if all you've done is kissed, going from kissing to having sex is a very big step. And that is very risky, especially if your confused on whether or not your ready to have sex. Also, if you wait with this guy to have sex, then your relationship is going to be much stronger, trust me. Hope I helped and hope you make the decision that your comftorable with. ~ Skyla ~
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babygirl if all you've done is kiss then i dont think you are physicaly or emotionally ready to have sex, but even if you really think you are i would just wait. thats something you can never take back no matter what, nd i kno tht this is a bad cliche but if he really loved you he would wait until you are completely ready. Theres a big difference between wanting to do something really bad and being ready to do something, dont get the two confused, and also you said that you wanted your first time to be with someone experienced so they don't expect much from you, but the thing is that if he is really as experienced as you think he is then wouldnt it be the opposite?
mmk well dont stress over it babygirl, just dont put trying to make him happy over what you know in your heart will make you happy. i know you might not listen to this but please do, nd im sure ur thinking im an old fart lmao but im not haha i promise nd im telling you what i would tell myslef haha. im a virgin and im going to stay that way until i know i am completely ready. ive seen way too many of my friends make the mistake of having sex wayyyyy before they were ready. ahh i trying to think of something original to say so that you dont think that im full of shit. but this is all i got lmaoo
anyway goodluck babygirl
i hope you do whats best for you(:
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Here's the deal; If you love him, there is no since in rushing the decision. You can take all the time in the world you need until you decide, for sure, that you are ready. Whether it be a week, a month, or even a few years, if he loves you he'll still be there waiting for you when it's time.
Unless you know 100% in your heart that this is the guy you love, want to spend the rest of your life with, and the guy you are willing to give up everything for, then you aren't ready. And if you are second guessing yourself, and aren't completely sure, then you aren't ready.
You should wait.
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If you really love this guy and feel like you are ready then I think you should do it, but don't do it unless you feel you are emotionally prepared. You also need to talk to the boy and make sure that you take the proper precautions to prevent pregnancy. It should be special and with someone you care about so have fun.
Hope I Helped.
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Anytime you even THINK about questioning whether you should have sex or not- the answer is no. Why? Because when you have even the slightest of doubts it means you aren't fully ready. You're questioning yourself and I can definitely tell you're not really ready.
Wait until there is absolutely NO doubt in your mind.
Then again- do what you must- but always make sure that what you do is REALLY what you want; making this decision and going through with it means no turning back: once you do it- you can't redo it =/.
--Jack
(16/m)
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