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I'm 16 female. After a few years of wanting a boyfriend, I've decided that I'm staying single in highschool. My question is, is how bad is it to have sex with a person you are not in a relationship with? If your emotionally ready, and understand the consequences, and take pre-caustions, is it still bad? What are your opinions? Thanks!
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Why would you ever want to have sex with someone your not in love with? Having sex is a personal thing that is saved for that special person.I'm not saying you have to be married to do it but at least wait awhile.Your only 16 and having sex comes risk.I say that if you think your ready then your not.You will know when you meet him.Right now your just horny(your womanly hormones are kicking in).We all go through it both sexes and we have all survived it without any problems.For guys,thank goodness someone invented baby oil,for girls,use your imagination.
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dont do it unprotected,be sure your ready, and when you lose your virginity make sure you loseit to someone who means alot to you. And not to many guys like not 5 guys a week thats just being a slut and the world has to many of them allready ! ha ha
lots of love ,lizzie
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that's how people get bad reputations.
just sayin..
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No its not a bad thing but you have to realize that just being friends and having sex will probly only ever be friends who have sex together. You may be emotional ready to have sex but sex can cause you to have feelings for that person.
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In my opinion, yes, it's still a bad idea.
I'm afraid being in a 'relationship' is part of being emotionally ready.
Sex, especially when you lack experience with the emotions that it brings to the surface, makes you deeply vulnerable to your partner. That is why trust and respect are so important.
That is why a 'relationship' is important. Yes, you can trust and respect people you aren't in a relationship with, however, someone you ONLY trust and respect and don't deeply care for you are liable to hurt, or be hurt, when they can't support you through the emotional entanglements of sex with the kind of attention and affection you crave.
Imagine one of your precautions fails, and there is a pregnancy or STI. If you can't see your partner supporting you and leaning on each other through that kind of trial, then you two aren't ready for the emotional roller-coaster of sex.
I've had no-strings-attached sex. I've had one night stands. It's all 'fun' in the moment, but in the long run I've learned it's not very productive and it's quite harmful to my emotional state no matter how rational and respectful we try to be about it.
Look, sex is fun and risky, that's it. Our society blows it up into this HUGE deal that it really isn't. Don't be in a rush. If you are comfortable, confident and have an open mind your first time will be pretty good no matter when you have it. So just wait for someone you can actually share it with, rather then a quick partner who is just solving your 'virginity problem' for you.
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