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18/f.
I would like to be able to shave all my pubic hair, as I just feel more comortable with my body that way and prefer the look/feel of it.
However, whenever I try it leaves stubble, a shaving rash and becomes incredibly itchy and a little painful. I know that others shave their pubic hair and don't have these problems, so there must be a way round it.
As much as waxing sounds like it would leave a better effect, it's just too painful, and I don't have the money to pay to get it done (I can't make myself do it, because I do one strip and then chicken out due to the pain.)
So what can I do to get a good result with shaving, and avoid shaving rash? I would really appreciate any tips. (link)
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I have the same problem , but mine is more on the sides.. what I consider doing is if you don't want waxing and you don't want any razor cuts burns and stubble which really sucks I hear you.. well then you should consider using NAIR or VEET it comes in a cream you leave on for a bit and wash off and apparently it washes off all the hairs.. my friend said it works! it might work!? also, with shaving you might want to use really warm water first to get the hairs relaxed and after do the shaving and work your time in
Good luck!
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How do I get a guy to like me. The thing is he recently broke up with his girlfriend and is on vacation in another state. I want to wait to flirt and talk to him when he comes back since he's busy but I have no idea when he's coming back. I texted him ad he texted back but stopped texting(I'm guessing he was busy). We had this "thing" I guess last year but it never went as far as a relationship. Do you think if he liked me once he'll like me again? We've both dated since we last had our "thing" haha. Last time we saw each other in person he was very touchy and flirty but was with someone else. It's kinda hard to tell how someone feels through text. Should I wait until school starts or until he comes back or not wait since someone else might steal my chance(again) (link)
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Well.. like the other person said dont force it. It happens and stuff and like... I think if he liked you I dont see why he wouldnt.. but he just is dealing with things right now and he goes on vacation.. he needs some space.. I think you should wait.. dont worry about someone else ''snatching'' him because whatever is yours will be yours , so dont worry if it happens it does , if it doesn't it doesnt for the best of it , trust me give him some space , let him come to you and dont try to push it , its good that he was flirty , but not good that he was very touchy and flirty but was with someone else.. what does that say about the guy? that guy could do the same thing to you because you have witnessed it him doing that to someone else , just be careful with who you pick , dont worry though , just wait till he comes back :)
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I refused to do an exam at school since I was sick but now the principal wants an answer.Please help. (link)
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wow.. well then he or she should be able to understand that the principal wants an answer... they should understand that well you were sick and you couldn't go.. since you were actually sick go do the test
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I'm 19 and my boyfriend's 21. We've been dating for 4 months. We live about an hour away from eachother and he works a lot so I only see him once or twice a week. The problem I have is I see him when he either has off from work or has time before/after work to hang out. But lately, I've been getting annoyed with him because he wants to hang out with his friend and drink or play video games or whatever they do. Last week, when I was with him, he tried to make me go over there with him. I dont drink, so it would be boring for me! We ended up getting into a fight and he wonders why I don't want to "hang out with people when I'm with him". He barely hangs out with any of my friends because we're usually ALWAYS out by where he lives. So, when we hang with his friends (which I don't mind, sometimes...), it's boring for me because my friends are so far away and I have no one to talk to except my boyfriend, who's always tied up with his friends when that happens. Whenever he comes to me, I always make sure it's just me and him. So, I guess my question is, is it so wrong, since I only see him once or twice a week, that when I do see him, I only want to hang out with him and him ONLY? He has so many chances to hang out with them. Is it wrong of me?
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No its not wrong for you , who would ever blame you , its fine , and you know... your boyfriend should understand.. I mean its not wrong for you to have some alone time.. its quiet normal..it happens he should understand that he only sees you once or twice...it makes sense , you guys are in a relationship and I think he needs some straightening out sometimes... all I have to say is like that other person said go on a group date or talk to him and sit him down and tell him you want this and tell him what you just told us
good luck
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I'm a female.
I'm currently 230lbs, size 18/20, measurements around 50-41-51, I'm 5ft8in.
Yes, I realize whatever the number it's a God's awful plenty, and that as I lose weight I may decide I look better bigger or smaller than a 10/12, but that's just a rough idea of the girls I admire and their shapes. They tend to fall into the size 12 category, like...
size 10
http://sheltergirl.blogspot.com/2008/02/what-size-10-looks-like.html
size 12
http://www.acurvydiva.com/wp-content/uploads/2007/09/jen-hunter-make-me-supermodel.jpg
http://img.dailymail.co.uk/i/pix/2007/07_01/12MS_500x752.jpg
Yes, I also realize I won't look like them. Like I said, I'm just trying to get a nice rough idea of how long the journey ahead of me is. :) (link)
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Thats really good :) well I got to say sorry im not good with those things, all I know though is that the best is going to a trainer or online bmi's can help you figured that out , im not good with numbers. BUT! What can help you get that look is like I told others , you can buy it as a game or you can go to your local gym and go for zumba! it is so much fun , its dancing and cardio , you'd love it , if you put effort in you can loose up to 1,000 calories one class! you should check out the testimonies , its a good work out trust me! Go like that everyday and you will have a great time :)
Good luck
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Hi, I am 33.My ovulations dates are July 21 22 and 23. I had sex intercourse with my husband on July 21 at 8am and 10pm. On July 22 I had sex with condom with my ex around 8pm. I didnt saw that it broke, but to be sure I took an afterpil onJuly 25 at 6pm.(exactly 68 hours after the unprotected sex). Can this protect me of getting pregnant of my ex and still get pregnant of my husband? (link)
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maybe... if you took it you should be fine, but you really need to make a decision, does your husband know? your ex probabaly knows? how can your ex allow that? what would your husband say if he seen you write this? I think you need to decide because you cant keep both , please dont hurt anyone. Case is simple, stay with your husband your binded with him and have a baby.. dont see your ex or have any contact with him.. in time tell your husband what happened..he has the right to know.. hes your husband and your binded no secrets should be kept from eachother.. HENCE the marriage.
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my dad wont let me date does he not trust me or what
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it depends on how old you are , but you know what , he does trust you ,just like others said he is scared to get you hurt, he doesn't want you to be hurt or get hurt by any guy, dont worry its nothing bad ,its totally normal when you have your kids you will understand what it means, dont worry about it it happens and he will he has to trust you and he does, he just doesnt want a girl like you to get hurt by those guys that decieve you easily
just be careful,if you really want to date show him the guy let him ask him questions and be more secure with it
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My bff told me I was the slut of the one class n I believe her. I wear short shorts that almost show my butt. I wear no sleeved shirts I wear low shirts. belly shirts I also wear short short dresses and I am 11 and a half. I made out with guys and i slept with a guy at his house. Is it true be truthful. Also how could I tell my other bffe(best friends for eternity)? (link)
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Your not a slut.. like other said a slut is who sleeps 24/7 with guys, maybe they are jealous? maybe because you slept with a guy at his house and they have not yet because they are only 11.. so are you.. well you know what dress the way you want to , but like others said be careful if you dress to the point you have too much skin showing because people might pick on you and say you are a ''slut'' but you are not , you should dress with showingskin but with a limit dont worry your not a slut though , if they call you that just smile and walk away dont let it get to you.
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I'm 15f and I like this guy and I'm not sure if he likes me though I invited him over along with this other girl (the girl knows she's my bff) but anyways I allways have bad luck with guys obviously never had a bf and never had a kiss... And yeah I know I'm young but I feel alone most of the time I feel like even my closest friends don't cut it. I just don't know he's also like one of my friends but I'm allways going to want more I have so much regret with some of the guys I've liked and the choices I made. I feel like I get nervous when one guy gets really close I push them away a little to that friend boundry but in my mind it drives me crazy. How can I not mess up this crush?? He's my friend to (link)
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Well treat him as your friend and it can get better. Trust me things will get better,once they get better you have nothing to worry about , its fine you just need to take it one step at a time, if you like this guy dont push him to the point where your too friendly to him , you need to show him from your love point of view, smile , hold his hand, dont get nerous once you find the right guy you wont be nervous anymore.. in your mind it may drive you crazy but later on it shouldnt it should be normal for you to be a friendly zone, its fine and please dont have any regret its the past and I know its hard but you will get through it so dont worry ,things will get better.
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Okay I don't know if you will actually answer this but here goes. SO I have been dating this guy for about 2 months and in the beginning I was so incredibly happy because this was my first bf but I mean come on I'm a 14 year old girl! But after awhile I began not wanting to be in the relationship anymore but then I do I just dont understand. I call it this "monster" inside me who can't be satisfied. He makes me happy but at times he can be so immature especially when he hang out with his friends.I thought of breaking up with him but I know i couldn't do that to myself nor him.But he can be REALLY sweet and does stuff that make me like him more... I don't know do you have any advice?
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like someone else said, communication is number one, dont worry about it , like the other person said relationships are not perfect and you got a whole life ahead of you , dont worry about it and its normal and they are not suppose to be perfect it takes effort on both sides to me it seems like on your end you dont want it to happen that well and it must really suck and im sorry to hear about that but it happens and you need to be aware of it that you have a whole life ahead of you and you will meet so many new people even more awesome people dont worry about him just let it go where its suppose to go no sweat
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Her name is Leah. Well somtimes she text me but not often. She doesnt like being in drama so when me and some girl are done yelling at eachother she walks off and tells me to go away.. Friend Or not A friend? (link)
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NOT A FRIEND! she wouldn't be a friend ... she isn't one , if she is telling you to go away? and like others say to stick up for you instead.. yeah she is not a friend and thats just not the way you should be treated
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i need sum advice i have a boyfriend of 7months and just recently in these past two months he has expressed huge ammonts of anger towards me. i dont know what is causing him to be this way and he tells me he dosnt know why he does it either.
examples of these things – he starts in a joke that i am cheating and from there he gets worse into it and starts making statements that i am screwing around at me job or if i go somewhere without him that i have been with another guy. he constatly tells me i am being “bitchy” and has that i have a atitutted and starts going off on me about how i am acting when i could just be sitting and not saying a word. during those moments i try so hard not to say anything to him. usually i end up in tears and i am made to answer him otherwise he keeps screaming at me.
ever time i ask him why he says those things to me he tells me he dosent know.
i dont know what to do other then to keep my mouth shut towards him. he tells me to leave him and tells me to find sumone else. i dont know why he says that to me as well. if i agree with him he gets upset and asks me if i am leaving him and why.
no matter how many times i have asked him to stop he goes on about either how its all his fault like usually or he tells me that i have changed and its all me. im confused and lost on this matter.. we have very few good days any more.. he has apoligized to me after i have broken down and cried cause i cant handle what hes saying to me. its like a light switch one minute were just fine the the next hes going off at me then hes just fine again and wants me to get close then he gets mad at me that i am still upset about what had just happened. like he expects me to just brush it off. he has told me he would stop but goes right back to doing it again. he tells me he loves me but also tells me that i need to start showing him that i love him. i honestly feel that he is the one that needs to show me he loves me cause i dont feel like he does.
(i am also 27 and a mother of 3 kids)
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wow.. please go.
Dont put up with this stuff... He should get some mental help to be honest , please take the kids and leave.. are your kids around when they see this happen? please take them away if they are , also if he is making you cry , you really think this guy is worth the time? Please it will get worse... it will turn into anger abusive physical very soon.. get out of there as soon as possible , trust me you will feel more relieved tell him your taking the kids away for a few day s, please don't let anyone suffer from this , or call help for him , becuase he needs to see it , he seems a bit immature for his age since your 27 , I mean he should be able to talk it out and be responsible , but he obviously isn't so please get out of there , don't be treated the way you shouldn't be , your the one who should be in good hands.
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Female-15-Australian
It all started with a trip to the movies with my best friends and some guys. I have a boyfriend but this guy "Jake" started coming onto me. I went with it because I was caught in the moment but WE DID NOT KISS as I pulled back just before because I love my boyfriend. A few weeks later we had all gotten over it and my boyfriend knew and we talked about it and we are still together now. But when I was on the bus with my friend "Jackson" I was told that one of my best friends at the movies "Rosie" went up to my boyfriend saying how can you still trust her? "Jackson" told me this. I trust "Jackson" like everyone else I know (I trust people easily.) so I believed him. I was also on my way to a friends house "Kayla." That night at the sleepover I told her what "Jackson" told me and I was really angry because I thought "Rosie" wouldn't ever do that and I started calling her some bad things that I regretted as soon as I said them. I said to "Kayla" to not say anything because I didn't mean it, I was angry and I wanted to talk to "Rosie" about it. The next night I did talk to "Rosie" and my boyfriend about it and I found out "Jackson" was LYING! I then went straight to "Kayla" saying "Please don't say anything I already said I didn't mean it and I still don't, Jackson was lying, I regret what I said." "Kayla" then said "I won't say anything." So the next day I go to school and all my best friends know even "Rosie"! I got really angry at "Kayla" and asked why she told them and she said it was because she was looking out for "Rosie" Well what about me? I was then kicked out the group and another best friend "Libby" had a go at me infront of all of my friends, some randoms and some year 8's/9's. It was so humiliating. I was kicked out of the group and "Kayla" and "Libby" told me that they hate me. "Rosie" told me she understands why I said those things but she wont forget it. I now hang out with my other good friends but I am still upset with what happened. I don't know what to do or say to them because none of them are bothering to talk to me anymore. It's been about 6 weeks but I can't stop remembering all the great times I had with them and how much I miss them. I don't want to go back to the group because I know that nothing will be the same again, I just want them to know that I'm still sorry and upset about how much I hurt "Rosie." (I heard she cried when she found out). I feel so bad still "Rosie" doesn't deserve anything I said she is so beautiful and the most caring person I know.I have tried moving on but it's so hard. Please help me!
I used "fake names" because I don't want to share their real names. (link)
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Well.. at least you didn't do anything with that guy , and plus you know you shouldn't believe what other people say about your bestfriend... so what if she said that? she said that , but its his decision if he believes and trusts you then anyone, and you know what... its only names.. it happens people get mad at people and they tend to call them names and hurt people , but people get over it , if they kicked you out of the group and didn't talk to you about it or work the problem out just kicked you out? really? what happened to that whole friendship you had ? I mean you tell one or two mean words about your friend and your kicked out of the ''group''? in my eyes, that is not what you call friends, friends real ones would talk it out and forgive eachother if they do that and kick you out.. I think its time to find new friends , sorry to say
Good luck :D
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Hello!..
So there is this chimney looking structure..in an empty field..that I go past to visit my boyfriend. I live in Cambridge, Ohio..and this is out..past where I live..
Well, I was watching this thing about adolf hitler and the concentration camps..and when they gased the jew's..in the chambers.. the fumes would come up out of the top of the chimney looking structures.. the same chimney looking structure..looks EXACTLY..like the one I seen.
I've always wondered what it is.. and now it makes me feel sick o.o..but I'm not sure if it really is.. or not..but why would it be there..alone..with nothing there with it?
It's mysterious.
If you can't help it's okay..but still..XD Thanks! (link)
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No , it was probabaly just inspired by the way or how they use to make chimneys , no no death camps were associated in America , it was mostly just Europe so your fine :). I do agree though , it is really sick and itmakes me nauseaus thinking of what they would do!
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Ok so, my other question is about what i should do. im pretty sure i love him, hes everything i want in a guy and more, he's about a foot long in penis size, really cute, etc. but im not sure im in love. i think i am, i cant stop thinking about him no matter what. he totally pushed this other guy from my mind and hes all i talk about. i need answers please. ive only been in love once an it was puppy love (link)
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Sorry hun , but your not in love , your either in lust or your just so attatched to him your infactuated , but not in love , like the first person said , if you were in love his penis size would not matter , if you were in love you wouldnt be asking people if you evern were, you'd know it from yourself from your heart , also just because you think about someone and cant stop talkng about it doesnt mean you are in love with someone , you may be attatched and in ''love'' presently , but not actually in love , it seems you really like him though...
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well i like this guy and he just asked me out and hes moving in 5 days and ya soo i told him i would think about it but i dont know what to say please help :S (link)
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well.. you know its going to be a long distance relationship right? well.. your very aware of it so you should know whats going toh appen you wont see him VERY often ,but you can text call phone cam and stufff.. or you can go and visit him or you do that.. if you really do like him you shouldnt be asking this question , but you know if you do like him say yes, he asked you out he knows he likes you and so do you , its your choice
goodluck
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I feel like I've been chasing this guy that I've liked off and on for years. He says he likes me, but he likes someone else, or he says he'll take me on a date and that he's not interested in having a relationship right now because he's preparing to go on a mission, but then I find out that he IS in a relationship. Not to mention that he's LIED to me all these years. When I found out about his relationship, I wanted to call him and yell at him and ask him so many questions to why he lied to me again.
I have been thinking about this a lot, and I've come to a decision that I have got to stop chasing him, and just let him come to me if he has a problem. Am I doing the right thing? Thanks! (link)
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Wow.. yeah girl you shouldn't be waiting around for a guy.. the guy is suppose to be waiting for you , never ever fall into this trap again , I knowit may be hard , but you need to pull yourself together. Is it worth even thinking about what to do with a guy who just made you wait and lead you on for those years and of course lie? thats not a very good choice in picking someone out , you need to go out and find someone new , please dont waste your time , the man is suppose to be the one waiting and chasing you 100000% its never the girl waiting for the guy.. if the guy wants you trust me he will , if he does then you know his feelings are real , another thing.. you said he just talks..never believe a guys words.. if he expresses those words but then backs itup with ACTION... ACTIONS doing things he says like in this case take you on a date and not going to well.. he doesnt support it with action , all I can tell you is tell him goodbye and never talk to him again :) by that time trust me wow you will already be liking someone else
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I've been having a lot of problems with my boyfriend and i recently started self harming again, i always hit my head when he aggravates me or ignores me and i cut myself when i feel he doesnt care, no one knows about it only him. i am 19 yrs old and i did this from age 11-15 then i stopped when i started dating him cause he made my life better than before (we've been together since then). Well lately every time we argue i always try and go to sleep because i seem to forget, but when i cant to go to sleep i start hitting my head uncontrollably and start cutting. Yesterday he made me mad and i started hitting my head really bad more than ever before and really hard so i was afraid cause i started going crazy and having thoughts of killing and weird thoughts and i tried falling asleep but couldnt because i had taken a nap that day so i took Acetaminophen PM with sleep aid (cause my head was hurting from when i hit it). and i fell asleep from 9-7 a.m. i woke up cause he called me and i felt really sleepy my head felt really heavy and tingly and i couldnt talk right and my head felt numb and it hurt a lot. I fell back asleep and woke up at 9 a.m. and felt soo sleepy i tried getting up and almost fell over and i was so dizzy and my head feels so heavy i thought maybe it was because i hadnt eaten since yesterday i only ate an apple (i dont starve myself i usually eat a lot i just had a lot on my mind and i slept most of the day since i was arguing with my boyfriend). I managead to serve myself cereal but could barely eat cause i kept falling asleep and i could barely put the spoon to my mouth and i cant smile or open my mouth a lot and my head feels like its gonna fall over. I have been depressed since as long as i can remember from age 11-15 i cut myself and i attempted to commit suicide all the time and my mom would spank me with a belt so i wouldnt do it anymore and get really mad and say i was such a brat cause other people had it worse yet i would cut myself and wanna die, and sometimes her hitting me would stop me from cutting cause i was scared she was gonna find out and hit me and yell at me and i hate seeing her mad or upset. but that stopped and i had been telling her i have been feeling more depressed than usual cause i always feel depressed and that i've been hitting my head when aggravated and she just said its cause im such a brat and i over react at stuff. but today i felt weird so i told her this morning and she got really mad and yelled that she hated me and that she was gonna hit me and i swore i wouldnt do it anymore but anyway im scared cause i feel like just going to sleep even though i slept almost all day yesterday and my head feels wierd like i can write this because i know the keyboard by memory after years of taking the computer class in school but i cant read like if i tried to read something i cant but yet again i can write this.But could this be because of the pills i took or is this serious and yes I know im depressed but my family can barely afford to pay the bills and get enough food we have no type of insurance and dont qualify for any we cant afford even going to the doctor so most of the time we dont go and we already owe so much to the hospital so now we dont ever go even if we are in excruciating pain cause we cant afford it.my parents cant afford missing a day a work to go so they go to work with the pain and i dont have family here cause i came from mexico and im now legal but i dont have anyone and since im so depressed and negative i dont have any friends i only have my boyfriend who works nights and works twelve hour shifts and hasnt had a day off in YEARS. he works from 10-10 gets home at 11 wakes up at 6 showers eats sees me sometimes plays games or just lays and relaxes til he leaves at 9, he hates going out because he is always tired and the light bothers him and his legs and joings always hurt he hates his job but cant find a better one. What should i do? Like should i go to sleep? or Should i wait til my boyfriend wakes up and tell him to take me to the Dr (he does have money since he works a lot) but right now his family took it all(like always) and he only has like a 500 dollars, he told me, or should i just not worry about it cause it could be like my depression or the pill i took? or is there anything i can do myself i tried listening to music or trying to wake up and i cant i feel so sleepy even as i write this my eyes close ? (link)
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Wow.. well one thing I can say about your head.. has this pain every happen before? the same tingly and heavy and sleepy? it cant be from pills because if it was you would get this more often ,but I think you had to have hit it hard or something to be able to be like this.. all I can say is please be careful with what you do... and you really need to go see a doctor or call online doctors for free to see what they say , you should go to the doctor though!
Good luck
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This is probably going to be long, and I'm probably going to sound clingy and pathetic, please bear with me.
A little less than 2 months ago, I met the man of my dreams. It sounds bizarre that I'm so sure of myself because it's only been 2 months, but I'm completely confident that I'm in this for the long run. He feels the same way. I spend literally every possible minute with this man. Here are a few problems.
He's going back to college for his sophomore year at SUNY Albany, which is a little over 2 hours away from my house. I'm going to our local community college.
Problem 2: He's a Marine. He's most likely getting deployed for 7 months in December. The thought of going more than a day without him upsets me. Thinking about 7 months without him makes me literally nauseous.
I've become so attached so quickly, which is so unlike me. I've been in love before, but I've never been so in love with anyone in my life. How can I cope with the thought of him not being in my life as often as I'd like him to be? I'm terrified of how much it's inevitably going to hurt. (link)
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Well do what your heart tells you , like the person said if its meant to be it will be dont force anything upon it , look.. hes two hours away and if you guys feel the same way , whats the problem? you guys can visit eachother still and cam and text and call eachother not a bad idea.. it can still work out :)
plus the whole marine thing.. I mean if he does feel the way he says he does.. theres no doubt about it that he will come to you , yes it is a long time , but it will be worth it , its his job.. the future is like that for him , so you are aware of how it will be if you really want this to work out!
Well.. hes always in your life.. just not there physically.. dont worry it will help you build yourself up and you can depend on yourself. yes he wont bve around often but you can still talk to him and text him and everything... I know it will hurt for sure not going to lie, but in the end you wont be hurting
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So i'll be turning 18 in a few months. Four actually. I've gone up and down with my weight like crazy. It's always made me self conscious, I don't feel I'm attractive at all. My old psychologist said it might ave something to do with past abuse and bullying, verbal and such. I'm sure that's it. Anyways, the past year was terrible my family broke apart. Long story short. I haven't spoken to my mom in about a year. I live with my father and my older sister and her boyfriend. We've moved to a new town far from my old one, and basically lost all my friends. Eh, the few I had. I don't care about making new ones right now. I just want to be able to leave my home. Go for peaceful walks, and not feel like everyone's eyes are on me. I feel like I'm repulsive and everyone knows about my Eating disorders. I've been trying to gain more weight, I'm well under weight. I haven't cut in over 2 years, but have been having VERY strong urges. Instead I just pick my face. Which I've been trying to stop as well. It just makes me feel terrible after, I try to eat, but I fear of getting fat and uglier. I went out for a 20 minute walk today, a miracle. But the whole time my heart was racing like a a million times per second. And I couldn't stop sweating or jittering. I felt so awkward and out of place, as people drove by. I tried my best not to make eye contact, and focused on my music. But I started to get anxious and my chest began to tighten, so I went back home. I ran home. It made me feel so pathetic and like such a freak. :(
I didn't even realize how anti social I became in the last year, I feel like a loser. It's very upsetting. When I'm home I get anxious 'cause my sister works from 6 am to 7 pm when she comes home she's tired and doesn't want to talk or do anything. Her boyfriend doesn't like me I think. It's not just an assumption, I can feel the tension as it layers the air with awkwardness. So I try to stay in my room. But that also frustraits me. I look after our pets and plants most of the time, I cook alot. But for them, I barely eat anything I make. I try to, it's very healthy too, But if I eat too much (or what I think maybe too much) I start gagging, I'm trying to fight it but it's very hard. It doesn't help the fact that my other older sister that is big and losing weight, keeps blabbing about how much she works out and how the fat is just melting off. I tell her, yeah I been there and done that, I'm still thin you know. But she teases me, playfully I suppose. Like I don't know, you're guts sticking out a bit. Which right after I fast for two days on water alone, and then feel terribly faint the rest of the week. I try to talk to my sisters and my dad but they don't understand. They say just eat and you'll be fine. I wish it was that easy. I hate myself so much. I've been meditating a lot, I'm very spiritual and practicing cleansing and healing with spirituality and herbs. It's helped me a lot, I believe in it. It keeps me a live.
Anyway, I would appreciate any advice, on getting rid of this...what bothers me is when I leave my home, I feel fat and ugly and like everyone's eyes are on me. Which I know isn't the case but, it's an overwhelming sensation. I've been more critical lately towards my weight, since the reason our family fell apart, is do to my mother having the by pass surgery, she went from 279 to 135. She looks 60 now and I hate it, it scares me and makes me feel upset. After her weight loss, she cheated on my dad, in public. She made it known. Everyone in our town knew. It's made so. I'm not sure. I wish I could sleep and wake up on a boat in the sea, so far away from everyone and everything.
I'm sorry if this is long. I don't know where else to turn, or to vent.
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Wow.. I need to tell you your amazing to be able to ask for help. You obviously know something is wrong by the looks of it and you WANT to fix it.. you don't want to suffer anymore. First of all , keep the mediating in place and keep doing what you love.. like you said that spiritual stuff and herbs keeps you alive , so keep doing it :). Okay.. about your weight.. look like the other person said you are NOT your mom.. you are your OWN person , you are in charge of yourself , if your religious , God has given you this body and it is your choice on how you want to use it and how you want it to look , only you can do that. Look , first of all I know you cant eat well right?so.. start eating little like a little bit and as the weeks go on.. try eating more.. so dont try and eat a whole buffet , but keep it moderate keep adding a tiny bit each time as your body will get use to it. Trust me , dont listen to what your sister says or what your dad says.. like I told others.. go to a gym , put on your music and go to the gym to the girls section , you should feel better there, go to the gym and go try Zumba. Trust me , if you like music like you say , Zumba is a good place to start.. if you go to those classes for a long time.. and put A LOT of effort in , you can loose up to 1,000 calories IN ONE HOUR CLASS! its insane.. good music, makes you not feel having a low self-esteem and it might help you , you should really look into it , it might help you just like your spirtual and herbs as you like doing it. Also, your mom did a very bad thing with that happening... all you can is LEARN from it... yes your mom did it , but now you know and see how someone feels because your in those shoes and it will make you stronger. Dont worry about your sisters boyfriend it shouldnt matter if he likes you or not.. dont assume things , just keep distances and your fine :) I mean your not the one going out with him! Plus, when you leave home you need to start focussing on YOURSELF! not on what others think , so what if they look at you? they are not you , you are you... you should just care , dont worry about when you walk and what cars think... if they have stupid things to say liuke when you got bullied you can tell them yeah thats me but you know what im not going to let that get to me because im a strong independet person who is not just anti social but has been through a lot and look im still standing on two feet , you should be very proud of yourself. who cares if your anti social , your taking the time to ask a question and people answer you you can always get new friends better ones or visit the ones at home that you miss
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