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i think my boyfriend has anger problems
i need sum advice i have a boyfriend of 7months and just recently in these past two months he has expressed huge ammonts of anger towards me. i dont know what is causing him to be this way and he tells me he dosnt know why he does it either.
examples of these things – he starts in a joke that i am cheating and from there he gets worse into it and starts making statements that i am screwing around at me job or if i go somewhere without him that i have been with another guy. he constatly tells me i am being “bitchy” and has that i have a atitutted and starts going off on me about how i am acting when i could just be sitting and not saying a word. during those moments i try so hard not to say anything to him. usually i end up in tears and i am made to answer him otherwise he keeps screaming at me.
ever time i ask him why he says those things to me he tells me he dosent know.
i dont know what to do other then to keep my mouth shut towards him. he tells me to leave him and tells me to find sumone else. i dont know why he says that to me as well. if i agree with him he gets upset and asks me if i am leaving him and why.
no matter how many times i have asked him to stop he goes on about either how its all his fault like usually or he tells me that i have changed and its all me. im confused and lost on this matter.. we have very few good days any more.. he has apoligized to me after i have broken down and cried cause i cant handle what hes saying to me. its like a light switch one minute were just fine the the next hes going off at me then hes just fine again and wants me to get close then he gets mad at me that i am still upset about what had just happened. like he expects me to just brush it off. he has told me he would stop but goes right back to doing it again. he tells me he loves me but also tells me that i need to start showing him that i love him. i honestly feel that he is the one that needs to show me he loves me cause i dont feel like he does.
(i am also 27 and a mother of 3 kids)
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wow.. please go.
Dont put up with this stuff... He should get some mental help to be honest , please take the kids and leave.. are your kids around when they see this happen? please take them away if they are , also if he is making you cry , you really think this guy is worth the time? Please it will get worse... it will turn into anger abusive physical very soon.. get out of there as soon as possible , trust me you will feel more relieved tell him your taking the kids away for a few day s, please don't let anyone suffer from this , or call help for him , becuase he needs to see it , he seems a bit immature for his age since your 27 , I mean he should be able to talk it out and be responsible , but he obviously isn't so please get out of there , don't be treated the way you shouldn't be , your the one who should be in good hands.
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This is not a good situation for you or your children. If you are living with this man one of you has to move out. The link provided by the other adviser is one source of assistance for you. Another would be the House of Ruth, which is a regional organization that provides shelter and assistance to battered women as well as legal assistance to those who needed.
You are a battered women, mentally. When, not if this will escalate to physical abuse is the only question of time. He is not the type of man you want to expose your children too. For now he is only abusing you or at least that is all you are telling us. He will eventually start abusing your children.
If he is living with you kick him out. Go to the court house and get a restraining order against him. If you are living with him then you need to move out. You may love him and in his own way he may love you. The problem is that he has issues that love and you alone cannot overcome. It is time to protect yourself and your children before this becomes physically abusive.
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RUN!!!
I'm dead serious. This is the type of behavior that occurs before a relationship becomes physically abusive. Just because he hasn't hit you yet doesn't mean that he won't sooner or later. And the longer you stay the more difficult it will become for you to leave.
I don't know whether or not you live on your own, with family, or with him. Whatever the case, PLEASE visit this website: [Link](Mouse over link to see full location). It is the website for the National Domestic Violence Hotline. There are phone numbers you can call if you do not have regular internet access. These people can advise you whatever your situation and provide resources and shelter for you if you do not have anywhere else to go.
Please, please, please, for your safety and the safety of your children call them as soon as you possibly can.
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I think its time for a speration. Honestly if he is treating you this way how is he treating them babies. If he is changing that quickly he can easily get so angry and he hits you or one of the kids. Reasons why he could be this way is he is talking to another woman that causes it. or is wanting outbut doesnt want to do it stress deprssion drugs lack of sexual inter course thers alot of things.
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