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Is this wrong of me to want my boyfriend ALL to myself???
I'm 19 and my boyfriend's 21. We've been dating for 4 months. We live about an hour away from eachother and he works a lot so I only see him once or twice a week. The problem I have is I see him when he either has off from work or has time before/after work to hang out. But lately, I've been getting annoyed with him because he wants to hang out with his friend and drink or play video games or whatever they do. Last week, when I was with him, he tried to make me go over there with him. I dont drink, so it would be boring for me! We ended up getting into a fight and he wonders why I don't want to "hang out with people when I'm with him". He barely hangs out with any of my friends because we're usually ALWAYS out by where he lives. So, when we hang with his friends (which I don't mind, sometimes...), it's boring for me because my friends are so far away and I have no one to talk to except my boyfriend, who's always tied up with his friends when that happens. Whenever he comes to me, I always make sure it's just me and him. So, I guess my question is, is it so wrong, since I only see him once or twice a week, that when I do see him, I only want to hang out with him and him ONLY? He has so many chances to hang out with them. Is it wrong of me?
Thankyou..
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No its not wrong for you , who would ever blame you , its fine , and you know... your boyfriend should understand.. I mean its not wrong for you to have some alone time.. its quiet normal..it happens he should understand that he only sees you once or twice...it makes sense , you guys are in a relationship and I think he needs some straightening out sometimes... all I have to say is like that other person said go on a group date or talk to him and sit him down and tell him you want this and tell him what you just told us
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No, it's not wrong. My suggestion to you is that if you want to spend time with your boyfriend and he wants to also hang with his friends, then go on a group date. Get a bunch of friends together and go have fun.
Who knows? Maybe after a couple of these, then maybe your boyfriend will want to spend time with you and only you. :)
Hope I helped! Good luck!
-Kaylie
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Its not wrong. Its just a basic difference between men and women. He thinks taking you to hang with his friends IS spending time together. You just want alone time. You'll have to compromise, even though you won't like it. If you see him twice a week, make a deal that one night is for what you want to do, and one is for what he wants to do.. or every other week or whatever. The point is to get a balance. He should recognize that you enjoy being with him so much that you treasure your alone time, but you also need to recognize that being with friends and doing things he likes to do is important to him also. At his age its very typical for a guy to be into all the things you say he is. If you keep being resentful of his choices you will only drive him away. If you show him you are willing to compromise and be a good sport about it, he will appreciate you even more. When you go to hang out with his friends, try engaging them more. They don't have to become your best friends, but if you just relax and start concentrating on the things you can actually tolerate about them, you may just come to find that you enjoy being around them from time to time. Try asking some of them to teach you about the video games. Get involved. You don't have to drink too to have fun. I'll tell you this, if his friends don't like you, it won't be long before he doesn't either. He spends way more time with them than you. He'll have to hear all their complaints about you and how uptight you are over and over again. So lighten up. Figure out how to enjoy your boyfriend AND his friends, and make it a point to let him hang out with your friends every once in a while. It will lead to a well rounded relationship and he will appreciate that you want to be a part of his life as a whole, not just when you can be alone. Good luck.
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its not wrong but your boy friend friends are to be your friends too so you shouldent feel bored having them around except they are the bad type. u should be lucky your boy friend dosent like to hang out with your friends it like you dont really no what some girls are capeable of doing as 4 me i hate my boy friend being around any other girl apart from me.
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