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Okay I don't know if you will actually answer this but here goes. SO I have been dating this guy for about 2 months and in the beginning I was so incredibly happy because this was my first bf but I mean come on I'm a 14 year old girl! But after awhile I began not wanting to be in the relationship anymore but then I do I just dont understand. I call it this "monster" inside me who can't be satisfied. He makes me happy but at times he can be so immature especially when he hang out with his friends.I thought of breaking up with him but I know i couldn't do that to myself nor him.But he can be REALLY sweet and does stuff that make me like him more... I don't know do you have any advice?
-L
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like someone else said, communication is number one, dont worry about it , like the other person said relationships are not perfect and you got a whole life ahead of you , dont worry about it and its normal and they are not suppose to be perfect it takes effort on both sides to me it seems like on your end you dont want it to happen that well and it must really suck and im sorry to hear about that but it happens and you need to be aware of it that you have a whole life ahead of you and you will meet so many new people even more awesome people dont worry about him just let it go where its suppose to go no sweat
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a relationship is never perfect and its not supposed to feel good all the time. and dude, you're 14! you have the rest of your life to worry and also enjoy relationships - you should be concentrating on school!
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Comunication in a relationship is the number one important thing. If you two cant communicate then what is the point. Talk to him and tell him how you feel. face to face
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You're only fourteen, it's okay to feel this way. It's your first relationship, so this is you learning and testing things out. Just because you two like each other doesn't automatically mean things will work out great.
You are at an age where you don't know what you want, and you don't have mature feelings. So you have times where you really like being in the relationship and times where you don't. That happens with all couples.
You may also be the person who doesn't like to settle down and wants to meet lots of guys, not just stick with one. Once again, you're young and this is fine.
Basically, ask yourself if the relationship is functional, if it makes you and him happy for the most part, and if you really care about him. If you are just in it because you want a boyfriend or you don't want to hurt him, then it isn't good for either of you. That is just leading him on, and will hurt him worse in the end.
Do what you have to do for yourself.
Good luck,
-Abby
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Dear L,
There is no need to rush to make this decision. I would suggest waiting a while, maybe spending less time with your boyfriend and more time doing things you love by yourself or with your family and friends. If, after a while, these doubts don't go away, it might be time to have a talk with him, but if you don't see the relationship going anywhere, then it might be time to break up. I know there's a lot of uncertainty here, and waiting when you have all these feelings inside is going to be hard, but I think it will be your best option.
Good luck!
Diary
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