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I stumbled across this site by accident. I seriously doubt many of you have the qualifications to give real people proper advice. After reading some of your responses to people's inquiries i was quite astonished as to how teenagers find they are able to give quality advice and information to real people in need with such little life experience. If you ask me you are not in a place to give your "personal opinion" when people truly believe you are giving them the right answer simply because you claim "people think i give really good advice". (eg. i am still at a loss as to how a 17 year old girl thinks she can give advice to someone regarding conceiving a child) I know you try to come across as a "godsend" to poeple who are in some sort of personal crisis and need a fast easy answer but the truth is, in the cases where it really counts, there rarely is one; at least not from you. (link)
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I only have a couple of things too say..
1) Grow Up
2) When you need advice, go seek *professionals*
And well tbh...what difference are professioanls too us?
We have been through it, we are here too help.
Why join this site if you have such a problem?
You sound so pathetic...All us '17 year olds' probably know a hella lot more thn you will EVER know.
Grow Up.
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Okay so I have a bestfriend, and we're dating these two guys ( who happen to be best friends) works out perfectly huh ? So anyway.. we've been talking about christmas and we all decided to meet at my house the weekend before to exchange gifts. We when we started talking the guys said NO GIFTS ( meaning we cant get them gifts..but they'll get us gifts). This bugs me, Its just I have no idea what to get them + they apprently dont want us to. However I cant take a gift without giving one in exchange. Well we all started arguing me & my bestfriend against our boyfriends.. and now we've called the whole thing off. I really need help, and if we do get them gifts what the heck do we get? WE've been dating for about 5 months and Im f/14 (link)
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Why not throw a party...one that wont annoy Mum and Dad
Thats a present but without the physical wrapping and boxes..
Have balloons and sweets and candles. xmas music and lots off cool stuff ^^
Or arrange a day out too pay for it.
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My boyfriends' ex girlfriend is back in town & she wants to hangout with him. I know I shouldn't be worried because I know he loves me. But the fact that his ex girlfriend of almost 2 years wants to hangout with him has me a bit worried. What if when he sees her, feelings come back? Or they start hanging out more often & feelings start up again? I have never felt this way about someone & I don't want to loose what we have. He asked me if I was okay with it & I said yes because I don't want to control who he hangs out with. But now that I have thought about it, I don't want him hanging out with her. What should I do and/or say to him? I'm just scared & need a little advice on this subject. (link)
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Perhaps arrange too go out for most of the nights when she is down.
If he works then he im guessing will have mainly night time off..
Go down the pub, arrange a meal, visit friends, family.
Hes obvisouley in love with you if he asked you if its ok, so tell him you want too spend time with him.
Remind him off the passion you share..
Perhaps create a night time bit of fun in the bedroom..Candles...Kinky stuff...etc etc...They always like too be reminded of the things they love most ^^
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Well, to start off all i ever feel is sad. There is so much negative stuff in my life it isnt even funny. Well, me n my boyfriend broke up wich he was my first love and we were together for 9 months, and he already likes a new girl. that girl hates me. two ppl want to fight me when i get back to school tomorrow. My mom doesnt make enough money to suport my household. We got evicted and are movieng. I find myself with only like 2 friends.All i do is miss my ex boyfriend. im always so curious and go on my ex's myspace or look at his aim profile and its all about that new girl so i always end up crying. im impaitent i feel fat. and i feel like i have no reason for wakeing up in the morning.And i feel like a worthless peice of crap. how do i fix this? how can i be happy.All i want is to be happy again. Any advice will be helpful.
p.s. please dont say get on medicine because medicine doesnt bring happyness (link)
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Your dead right, Medicine wont help a thing.
Its your mind making you unhappy.
I am the same...Everyday just seems like another pointless day doesnt it.
You want too avoid everyone? And moan at everyone for no reason...I do the same.
Tbh I dont have great advice...All I can say is..Perhaps meet a cousins friends?
And as for your Mother supporting the household, Why dont you work some hours so your out of the house, that way your Mother could work them hours also and earn extra money.
My Mother also finds it very hard coping. But we manage.
On the be happy part, try too look forward too something happening..Christmas..
Or arrange something really fun thats costless or at least almost..
Ask too stay round you favourite friends or cousins for the weekend..
The packing and stuff is always fun ^^
If not...A hampster or a Gerbil, thats what occuies my time, aswell as my dog.
Hope I helped
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13/f
I'm pretty sure that I have both of these two things stated in the title. I'm friendly with people I know, but totally ignore any other people I don't. Sometimes people think I'm very arrogant because I don't talk to anyone. I act so confident when I don't talk, because I'm trying to hide my extreme social shyness. This has really prevented me from doing things I want to do, and I avoid most social situations with a guy I like. I wish I could talk or even smile around my crush! You could say I'm painfully shy, I feel like I'm under attack and it's the most uncomfortable thing.
I've heard of a few self help books to help cure this, such as 'Painfully Shy' and 'Dying of Embarrassment'. If anyone has gone through this, what books do you recommend I read to help me?
P.S. I'm not looking for any advice right now such as 'be happier, think positive, and smile', because such things haven't working in the past.
Thanks so much!
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Im like you also, I often come home and when people talk to me I just grunt back cos I dont want too talk, even when Im in a good mood.
I dont think im shy, I just think Im arrogant.
Do you have any friends you could talk too? I know you have friends but I mean..
Sometimes I take a friend home with me.
Makes me much happier , and also you will feel more confident as you have a friend with you.
That way you could show your not arrogant.
Im sure your family knows your not arrogant.
Try too relate too friends you know who are not shy, Watch how they approach people.
Sometimes just a smile is enough to make them realise your not arrogant just shy.
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Well I always hear 'Your so lucky your so skinny!' but then five minutes later I hear that someone is saying Im too skinny behind back or someone will ask me if Im anorexic to my face.
I dont have an eating disorder but somedays, like today, I dont eat anything all day cause Im not hungry and its 9 at night right now.
When I do eat I can basically eat whatever I want cause I dont gain anything.
Heres usually what I eat on a normal day like during the week for school.
Breakfast- usually nothing. sometimes a piece of toast.
Lunch- usually nothing unless I buy lunch, Ill eat about half of what they give me.
Dinner- my parents make dinner usually so I eat a meal for dinner or they get mad.
13/f 5'5"-6"ish. around 100 pounds.
THANKS for reading this and thanks for the help.
PS: when I dont eat for the day my hands shake really bad, is it because no food? (link)
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I eat less than that but im wouldnt say im thin.
I dont eat breakfast, I dont eat lunch and I only eat a tiny amount of dinner.
I sometimes find my hands are cold but they dont shake.
It can get quite serious, I have noticed being thinner.
Do you feel comfortable with yourself?
If you do then why should it matter?
If you dont feel comfortable with it...Try a diet that gives all the food and vital stuff you need.
You dont want too put on wait for others.
You dont understand how many people are dying too look like you ^^
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My boyfriend dumped me about 3 months ago. It was a great relationship that almost lasted a year. He was the only guy I've ever loved and we had so much together. The problem is, I can't let go. I still wake up depressed, cry sometimes, and talk about him constantly. Him & I barely talk but are on good terms. I don't understand why I can't move on? It's like I have this undying hope he'll come running back to me! Time is not helping and I just want to be happy again. (18/F) (link)
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I had the same problem.
I didnt want too move on that bad I kept unblocking him on MSN, and constantly forgiving him.
But the truth is, while hes in your life your looking upon unreal hope of you being together.
I dont really know whats best for you but I do know that the more hes in your life the worse you are going to feel.
I dont this you will take this advice but Ill give it anyway ^^
Just tell him its best you stay apart.
I wish I had done that once and for all, its only hurt me more since.
If he means that much you wont want too mess it up for each other will you .
Crying is good.
It help alot the more you cry the more you let out any emtion thats dwelling up inside. Perhaps call some friends over and start talking about hot guys =D
Anyway good luck
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ive been fingered, ive masterbated, and ive worn tampons. so my hymen is most likely broken right? (link)
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Uhm I dont know why so many people say yes.
Its not likely to have broken it takes penetration and thats hard to reach, and when you do break it you will know .
It will hurt for a split second, probably bleed.
You will definatly know if its broken because you get a rush of pain
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what it take to be a model, Tips and what to do (link)
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Its not that easy.
I done modelling for a short length of time.
Its about loving it.
Not being the pretty face but really feeling the energy vibe it gives you.
You cant think well im blonde tall and thin and big boobs...all I need to do is stand there.
Its not like that.
It takes your soul.
But if you love it that much then its not a problem.
You must keep yourself in good shape.
Eat properly, dont starve yourself.
Style and protect your hair as much as possible.
Keep yourself how you would want others too see you.Look in books and pick up tips ;)
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i always want to lose wieght and tell myself to go on a diet and to not eat as much but like a day after i forget about it and continue to pig out... what can i do? (link)
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I also do this.
I have found better ways of dieting now.
Focus on something else.
Plan to go out? ..Take up a sport as then not only are you having fun, your exercising and being focused will help you lose weight playing and lose weight from not needing too eat.
Take up a hobby you will enjoy..Not swimming as after you feel dead hungry and will just eat more.
Perhps Tennis, Badminton Horse Riding ?
Or simpler stuff..Just focus on something perhaps go out and be busy...the busier you are the less you will focus on when your next meal break is ^^ Love
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Not sure if what I am experiencing is mental or spiritual.
OK, I am not depressed. I have been treated for that in the past. So I know what depression is like, this is not it. I have a decent job, a great family and no real problems. I am an easygoing person who loves everyone.
Here's my story:
My family and I were waiting at a stoplight when suddenly out of no where I got this powerful urge to cry. I tried to fight it, I had nothing to cry about. As we sat there at the light waiting, an ambulance appeared in the distance. It was in front of us, heading our direction fast. The closer the ambulance got the stronger the uge to cry became. By the time the ambulance had reached us, I could not fight it anymore. I was quietly crying when my boyfriend noticed and became concerned. He asked me what was wrong and all I could say was "I don't know." It wasn't just the urge to cry. I had an overwelming feeling of deep sadness as the ambulance passed. I didn't feel like myself. I felt lost and extremely confused.
I think I may have even blacked out for a few seconds. Everything went blurry and my body felt limp.
Our light turned green after the ambulance passed.
As the distance between us and the ambulance grew the feeling faded. Before 10 minutes had passed I no longer had the urge to cry. I was able to sit up in my chair and see clearly. The emotional heavyness that hit me so fast, was gone just as fast. Afterwords I felt drained, exhausted and emotionally raped.
This does not happen every time an ambulance gets near me. Just sometimes. Never had one quite so strong before. When I am next to someone at the store or workplace, no where in particular. I feel as if I know how they are feeling. The stronger the emotion the more sure I am of the feeling. Sometimes, I think I can tell what an animal is feeling. Not what they are thinking, but how they are feeling emotionally.
Could this be real?
I cannot run everytime an ambulance passes me. Although the thought has crossed my mind. I hate the feeling of being emotionally raped.
Is this a question for the mental health section?
Thanks for letting me ramble. I am open to any advice you have.
Thanks,
Tammy-AKA hnstymtrs
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Uhm not sure why im attempting too answer, Im only 16 Lol.
I get like that sometimes but not quite as deep as that I dont think.
I have the urge to cry for no reason.
I always end up crying , I cant fight it.
Sometimes I feel like you do in the street, usually its old people that sets me off.
Kinda hard as theres so many of them.
Sometimes its because I have gotten so stressed and havent realised then suddenly it comes out like that.
I always think I know how my animals are feeling.
Its because im too emotionally twsited ..
Everything about me is emotions. Not very much action
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However I dont know how to fight it.
Just thought you would like to know I feel kinda like you.
Perhaps try focusing on something else when the ambulance is near? Have you ever lost a family member whom was very close or a friend? May that be why the ambulance makes you outburst?
Anyhow mail me if this was of any use whatsoever..
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we are pretty good friends and we hooked up once but after that night it seemed like things got a little different. We always flirt with eachother and everything but all of a sudden he starts telling me that he likes these other girls but they wouldnt give him the time of day and all that. Recently he told my best guy friend that he likes me but is too shy to make the first move. I've been wanting to ask him out but im too afraid he'll say no and then things will be awkward because i see him every weekend. I dont know what to do because i really like him but im too scared of rejection. what should i do? (link)
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You just said he was planning to ask you out, so I doubt there will be rejection.
You could try asking him out with you ?
Movies..Shopping, stuff where he gets time too flirt and give out signals.
movies are always good cos u can get close..
Good luck
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Okay so there is this guy at school, Jon. Well last year Jon asked me out and I said no. This year, we got to be really good friends and I sort of liked him. So I was all flirting with him but he seemed to not notice so after a few months I started to like one of Jon's friends. Now, after I lead Jon on, he likes me and is going to ask me out really soon. So the question is, should I say yes, even though I dont have strong feelings for him, or should I say no? If I say no I know it will break his heart and I will feel really bad because I was flirting with him. By the way we are in ninth grade if that helps at all. Please help soon!!!! Thx (link)
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I suggest you dont say yes too going out with him , because if you dont have the feelings you will break up and cause him more pain.
Just tell him, not at the moment because you prefer him as your close friend and you dont wanna lose him as that for now.
Give the other guy a go and if hes no good re-consider your feelings..if they change good...if they dont keep him close as a friend..Friends are always worth more.
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What are some really good face washes that DO NOT make your face peel? Every single one I've tried has made my face dry, and peel. PLEASE HELP! I'm desprite. THANK YOU! (link)
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Perhaps do not use wash,
Use Moisturiser.
I have just started using Vaseline intensive care products, so cheap yet they work great.
1) Vaseline Intensive Care - Essential Moistureand these >>
Vaseline Intensive Care Total Moisture
- Vaseline Intensive Care Advanced Healing
- Vaseline Intensive Care Aloe Cool & Fresh
- Vaseline Intensive Care Nightly Renewal
- Vaseline Intensive Care Firming & Radiance
- Vaseline Intensive Care Renew & Protect
- Vaseline Intensive Care Healthy Body Complexion
All affordable and work great...So I hear..Im only using 3 of those ^^
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There is this older boy that I am kind of interested in. Heres the problem
1. Hes older
2. We arent like friends or anything. Example since hes older we have different groups of friends
3. Im too shy to introduce myself .
Any ideas?!? (link)
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Uhm since you havent given much info ..Im guessing someone at school/college?
I dont know how much older so Ill imagine a situation..
If hes at college/school then just ask him if he knows where Miss/Mr whatsername is..Not much of a start but if he takes a shine too you it could be good.
If hes outside of school then take a bunch of friends and hang around him . I dont really know what to suggest as I have no information to go by:P Email me or add msn ... baybee_pickle@hotmail.co.uk
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16 female
oooOooh how confusing my love life is.. =(
bottom line- ive never had a boyfriend.
this is the only REAL stuff that has happened with me and guys..kinda sad i know...
1. one of my brothers friends thought i was hott. he was a senior and i was a freshman we ended up making out and that was it..
2. met this guy through my cousin this summer, ive hungout with him with other people before but we hungout for a day , just us, and he ended up kissing me at the movies- he always thought i was very very attractive he said, he went back to his EX gf of almost a year and a half and is obsessed over her...soo weird to see him now!
3. known this really sweet adorable atheltic guy thats a pretty good guy friend. we flirted like crazy over the summer but never kissed. we got very physical though. he ended up getting a girlfriend and i still like him...
everytime i see this guy my heart races. he still doesnt know i like him but should by the way that we would flirt. we would pratically be on top of each other :] i just wish things could be the way they use to and it kills me soo much to see him with his gorgeous girlfriend and talk about her to me...i mean i listen because im his good friend im trying soo hard to be happy for him! i cant tell him i like him-too awkward for our friendship. i can tell he thinks im at least cute. but i think he just thinks of me as a good friend....
i am soo fed up! i mean everyone tells me how gorgeous i am and how nice and sweet and everyone is soo shocked i mean SHOCKED when they hear ive never had a boyfriend. im not even that shy. i dont know whats wrong with me. i dont go out and look for guys im so bad with approaching them. but every guy ive had interactions with has left me or got a girlfriend. im still a virgin and the farthest ive gone is making out. i dont know what im doing wrong?
any suggestions? i just dont see whats wrong with me this makes me soo sad sometimes. i even think im okay looking. i mean i get stares from guys and ive heard tons of guys think im hott but nothing ever comes from it or they're all like one or two years younger.. (link)
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I have the same problem
Havent had a boyfriend for a year ..
But again Im blonde, Tall and Slim ..And wouldnt say im ugly...
You need to slow down and not think about it so much , dont rush.
As soon as you see someone you like you will become flustered and sit and imagine yourself with him ..
If you see someone you like..talk to them ..and find out more..
You dont want to hope on a relationship if he lives far..or doesnt go out much...and stuff like that. So before being a gf try thinking of all the possible problems ^^
Also it could be because you know your pretty so you think you dont need to try..
But in that guys head hes thinking, shes got a boyfriend why should I try, I will only get rejected..
Good luck ^^ Any more help email me .. Email is ony advice page..
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Does anyone know any websites where you can find online quizes for things that your studying in school? I'm in ninth grade and am studying polymers. Thanks! (link)
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Heres some..
1) This doesnt have the answer though sorry lol
http://matse1.mse.uiuc.edu/polymers/quiz.html
2) This has EVERY single question and topic under polymers ^^
http://pslc.ws/quizzes/assess/index.html
Hope it helps ^^
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okay. i'm 15/ 5'4 and 163lbs. yeah. i'm overweight. and i hate it. i try to diet..but i always find myself wanting more food..and i give into it way to easy. i hate myself for being fat..and i would do ANYTHING to be skinny.. does anyone have advice on how to gain self-control? or diet pills that will kill cravings?
i'm desperate to loose weight. (link)
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There is a much easier way that I find works a treat...
But dont take it too far cos I ended up 2 and a half stone underweight :O
..Uhm
Your thinking about it too much ..which is stressing you out...and stress leads too food lol
So place your mind onto other things..
Is there an after school club you can go to?
Or a game you can play..?
Keep your mind occupied...And you dont eat food so much.
For example..
Today its 23:09pnm..In total I have eaten A pizza..Cos I have been on the computer and tidying my room ^^
For more tips try emailing me
You will see my email on my advice page ^^ >3 Love LittleMooCow
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15/f So i'm going out with one of my friends. This is my first time with a girl and I feel nervous to like kiss her. I like her a lot though, why am i so nervous? Is it because this is the first time i'm gonna be with a girl?? And she wants me to make the first move...I just don't wanna mess up our first kiss I want it to be GREAT. (link)
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Lol ok I got your reply...
With a female I have no idea.
But my mums gay so I spose I see how they do it =S
Just kiss her as a friend too start with (on the cheek or whatever)
If your comfortable with moving on then it will come naturally ^^
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What is going too far past the limits when it comes to pda. Because im new at this hole PDA in high school thing. I mean i have already had sex with my boyfriend but as far as being at school he only kisses me on the head and stuff like that because i dont want to show to much PDA. What do you consiter too far? (link)
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Well ..Personally Anything past kissing is too far lol.
You dont want to be stood in the hall way with his hands all over your boobs and stuff :P
Kissing o nthe head and that if great..Snogging you can get away with awell ... But just stop at that and leave the rest for later. ;)
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