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Okay so there is this guy at school, Jon. Well last year Jon asked me out and I said no. This year, we got to be really good friends and I sort of liked him. So I was all flirting with him but he seemed to not notice so after a few months I started to like one of Jon's friends. Now, after I lead Jon on, he likes me and is going to ask me out really soon. So the question is, should I say yes, even though I dont have strong feelings for him, or should I say no? If I say no I know it will break his heart and I will feel really bad because I was flirting with him. By the way we are in ninth grade if that helps at all. Please help soon!!!! Thx
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Well if you do like this guy still, then say yes and give it a shot. But if you're really liking someone else and you don't like him, then do him and yourself and a favor and say no.
Yes, it's going to hurt. But would you rather pity date him and basically lie to him all the time about your feelings? If he ever were to find out, it'd only hurt more in the end. He's going to have to deal with rejection some time or another, but just don't do it harshly. Just explain to him that you're sorry, and he's great and everything, but you sort of have your eyes set on somebody right now.
Also, be kind to yourself. If this kid isn't going to make you happy by being with him, and you're liking someone else, go for the guy you like. That's going to make YOU happy. I think it's really sweet you're considering the other guy's feelings and everything, but don't forget to consider your own.
Just let him down easily.
I hope I helped.
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If you like him, say yes...if not, say no. I could be wrong, but the impression I am getting is that you like him, but not all that much - if thats the case, I'd respectively tell him no.
From what you've said here, I wouldn't just tell him no...give him an explanation. You say yourself that you have led him on; he's probably pretty confused what you are doing. First you turn him down, then you flirt, then you like one of his friends.
If you don't have strong feelings for him, its better to be honest with him and tell him where he stands. Imagine if you do go out with him to spare his feelings now, only to have him find out later that you only 'kind of' like him...he'll be crushed even more, and feel like you've used him. If you feel bad about flirting with him, giving him the wrong impression and creating this situation, apologize to him for leading him on (and try not to flirt with guys you only kinda like).
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I suggest you dont say yes too going out with him , because if you dont have the feelings you will break up and cause him more pain.
Just tell him, not at the moment because you prefer him as your close friend and you dont wanna lose him as that for now.
Give the other guy a go and if hes no good re-consider your feelings..if they change good...if they dont keep him close as a friend..Friends are always worth more.
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