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Social Anxieties and Avoidance Personality Disorder
13/f
I'm pretty sure that I have both of these two things stated in the title. I'm friendly with people I know, but totally ignore any other people I don't. Sometimes people think I'm very arrogant because I don't talk to anyone. I act so confident when I don't talk, because I'm trying to hide my extreme social shyness. This has really prevented me from doing things I want to do, and I avoid most social situations with a guy I like. I wish I could talk or even smile around my crush! You could say I'm painfully shy, I feel like I'm under attack and it's the most uncomfortable thing.
I've heard of a few self help books to help cure this, such as 'Painfully Shy' and 'Dying of Embarrassment'. If anyone has gone through this, what books do you recommend I read to help me?
P.S. I'm not looking for any advice right now such as 'be happier, think positive, and smile', because such things haven't working in the past.
Thanks so much!
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i suffer from social anxiety especially at work. i have been taking 20 mg of paxil a day for about a year and it does help lots.
a good therapist should be helpful as well.
10 simple solutions to shyness by anthony m. martin, ph.d is definetly worth reading.
Please don't expect it to see changes right away. instead try applying tools learned from a therapist who you feel comfortable w/ and books.
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I have the same issue, try seeing a therapist who will be willing to give you medicine and/or alternative therapies. There are anti-anxiety medicines that may help you, also, cognitive behavioral therapy deals with these problems. Don't give up.
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Im like you also, I often come home and when people talk to me I just grunt back cos I dont want too talk, even when Im in a good mood.
I dont think im shy, I just think Im arrogant.
Do you have any friends you could talk too? I know you have friends but I mean..
Sometimes I take a friend home with me.
Makes me much happier , and also you will feel more confident as you have a friend with you.
That way you could show your not arrogant.
Im sure your family knows your not arrogant.
Try too relate too friends you know who are not shy, Watch how they approach people.
Sometimes just a smile is enough to make them realise your not arrogant just shy.
<3 LittleMooCow
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i think that you should talk to someone that you really talk to such as your parents or siblings.then take it to a whole new level by joining a group(study gorup,volunteer,etc)i really hope that my advice help you.contact me at bekoe1994@yahoo.com
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