Theres this boy... he lives like 10,000 miles away from me. So i only see him during winter break. Actually, i just met him last year. But im going to see him again this year.
Hes the cutest boy ive ever met! And hes really nice. Im kinda good friends with his sister. We hang out during break and text somtimes but thats pretty much it.
One night during break we spent the whole time cuddling kinda. And ive never done that with any1 before and it was so sweet!
Hes in high school, and i start next year. We would never see eachother exept on break and maybe during the summertime.
Anyway, my question is... is the difference too much to flirt with him again this year? I was in 7th last year, and he was in 10th but i didnt notice what a hugee difference that was until now. And since im so much younger, any chance he likes me?
Im not talking about dating or anything. But just flirting.
Am i gonna look like a little kid flirting with him?
idk what goes on in an 11th grade boys mind! Please help
Well, I would say that since your so young... the age difference is DEF. a factor here. I wouldn't go into it expecting much... but... maybe with an open mind? If you think about flirting or... the prospect of flirting, then... it might be harder on you if you get there... and... it dosen't work out and he isnt into it again this year. However, no expectations.... no pain involved. Just relax, go there with an open mind... and have fun. Lol. Best of luck!
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Although intercourse did initially hurt when my boyfriend and I first became active, it is far less painful now and actually feels good. So I'm alright with the intercourse but when he tries to finger me, it's painful. I'm just perplexed as to why two fingers hurts more than intercourse. His package is wider than two fingers so I don't understand. He thought he needed to clip his fingernails but they are quite trimmed and neat when he does it. Plus, it isn't that kind of pain. Any thoughts?
Well, it sounds to me like your probably just not relax when he fingers you and not really... into it. However, by the time it gets to actual sex, you are and therefore, it dosen't hurt.
Only thing you can really do is try to relax a bit more and... see how it feels then.
Thats really all you can do... maybe your just not into fingering? Lol. Best of luck!
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Me and my boyfriend have been together for about two months... and we love eachother a lot!
Im 15 and im a virgin. And he's not! He had sex with his last girlfriend (he says he regrets it because they werent ready). He hints at it sometimes, and i know he definitly wants to. He also said he wouldnt rush me into anything.
We make out a lot, and he feels my boobs and what not a lot. Its usually just fun...
But sometimes we get really passionate and i get really aroused and i want to have sex with him...
BUT im not on birth control yet, and ive never been to the gynocologist. And i dont want to because of its awkwardness and im really self concious about my body...
I have a few questions, answer me what you can...
sorry that theyre sorta rude...but i need to know.
1. My vagina has a lot of skinny flaps in it. And they sorta stick out and they look wrinkly and wierd. They remind me sortof of brains! It really grosses me out... Is this completely normal!?
2. My buttcrack has som hair on it...and i cant get at a good angle to shave it or anything. is this really gross or important at all?
3. Im scared to have sex with him because i know it will be akward and i have no idea what im doing. I dont think hes had sex too many times but i know he has. I want to make him happy but i dont know anything about sex! give me some tips!
thanks in advance. the more info the better
First off, yes... all of the things that you have described are completely normal in reguars to your body.
And I think the best advice that I can give you is this....
If you have this many questions about sex.... should you really be considering it just yet? I just... I am not sure if your truly ready for it if you still have all these questions.
Your boyfriend sounds like he a decent guy... he should respect you if you don't want to have sex. So, I wouldn't worry about it until your read. Thats just me... Good luck, hun!
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I'm 16 I was dating this boy for a year and a half. I met this other boy and grew a crush on him. It was nothing big though just a new boy I started to hangout with. but we started spending a lot of time together and before I knew it out of the blue I brokeup with my boyfriend. In my mind and what I told everyone was that my boyfriend never did things for me and was selfish but truthfully I was selfish most of the time and I was a jealous freak although I did do alot for him and he seemed unappreciative. I kept that in my mind while I grew close to my new crush we started dating not too long after the breakup. We had sex too soon and I felt terrible for it. So I went to my ex and confessed it to him and appologized I was crying my heart out to him. I didnt know what to do so I went back to my ex for awhile because he forgave me. I ended upbreaking up with him again and started dating my other crush right away basically. I dont know if my feelings were influenced but I forced myself to forget about my ex while falling in love with this new boy. We have been dating on and off for awhile because my feelings have been like a rollercoaster. I really really adore him but its been 4 months since I broke up with my ex and today he said hes over me and hes no longer apart of my life. It did effect me. What should I do? My boyfriend is amazig and treats me better than anyone but my ex sits in the back of my head.
First off, your 16... so... this is perfectly normal. Haha. Trust me. I have been there. And, its not fun. I dated a guy for like 8 years on and off because I kept having small crushes for other guys and wanting to give them a chance. Here is the best advice that I can give you.
If you truly loved your ex boyfriend and were meant to be with him, then... you wouldn't be doing this to him and it wouldnt be so easy for you to break up with him. Obviously, he wasn't the one. However, you still going to have feelings for him. Trust me. I still have feelings for my ex of almost 8 years off and on, and... I have moved on COMPLETELY. The fact is, once someone is THAT big a part of your life, its hard to let that go. Just know that it is normal for him to be in the back of your mind. Its gonna happen. And, I think, you should just try to remind yourself why you left him and that your happy with this other guy.
And as far of your current boyfriend, its also normal to feel like your on an "emotional rollercoaster" seeing as you still feel for your ex, but you might want to be careful. Remember to stay committed and don't fall into the trap of running back to your ex. Guys have feeling too, and trust me, it sucks when you lose a grat guy because of your own actions.
Point is, this is normal. But, I think your right where you should be.... with the new guy.
Just be happy... and live it up!
If your ex is worth anything (And mine wasn't) then he will realize that you just did what you thought was right and he will want to be a part of your life (AS A FRIEND) again. Just give him time.
Best of luck!
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im 16 and a junior in high school. i have this friend and she keeps sayin shes bi-sexual...but i think its just to get attention. she did the same thing last year then we everyone asked her if it was true she said no. now shes sayin shes bi again and i asked her if she cud she herself havin sex with another gurl and she didnt know wut to say. obviosuly if your bi then you can see your self with the opposite sex doin things that more then friends do. idk wut to do about all this. it just pisses me off becuz i think shes doin it for attention.
Sounds to me like your right and she is just doign it for the attention. However, I would also be willing to bet there is a little truth in what she is saying. Your friend may just be bi-curious... and realizing that it is getting her attention at the same time. I have been there with a friend of mine, haha. Trust me. Best of luck!
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Well I am sexually active but I usually never let guys look down there cause I hate the skin around my vagina. It is irritated and purple, and almost bruised. I feel soo emarrassd and afraid that if a guy sees it he is going to be totally turned off by it.....
so I am not sure what to do. I do not have an STD i have gone to the gyno. It is only there because i am overweight and my thighs rub together causing the bruising and irritation.
My current b/f in dying to give me oral, but i won't let him cause of how it looks. What should i do!?!!?
Honestly, hunni, I would just talk to my boyfriend about it, if I were you. There is no reason to not let him go down there, if you truly want it. Trust me, you'll like it! Haha. Best of luck and hope it all works out.
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I was going out with this guy for 6months and he was my first serious boyfriend, tho he wasnt just a boyfriend he was my bestfriend, i then found out that he had cheated on me like a month ago, so i broke up with him, we were still meeting up, and we were acting jsut the same as usual and he keep saying how he loved me and i was his soulmate and he wuld do anything to get me back, i was jsut about ready to give it another go when i find out he has another girlfriend. It has emotionally killed me. I cant stop thikning about it, The injustice of it all makes me sick and i stil love him and cant move on.
can someone please tell me how to get over him?
I just answered a question very similar to this. Please read my answer. It should help, hun.
I know it hurts. Its a hard cycle to break.
Best of luck! Let me know if you need anything else.
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okay so my ex [the same guy who hurt me 2 times before/took my virginity/and so on] and I have been talking as friends he broke up with his ex [the one hes been going back in forth between me and her with] i was so happy!! you have no idea how much i love this guy but im afraid to love him cause idw to get hurt again [he said he would never hurt me again and that before he just wasnt sure but now he knows] i think he loves me i'm almost positive =] seriously but im still not sure i just dont want him to leave me for her again. i just want him to be the 'one' i told him i WILL NOT go out with him untill he knows what he wants but we're still talking [and kissing after skool] but we do everything on the down low cause i know everyone will be so dissapointed...im just still not sure if im doing the right thing by giving him another chance...i just dont wanna give up on something that might be meant to be
Hunni, this sounds exactly like me and... from experience... let me tell you. He needs time to figure himself out first. He isnt sure what he wants, and he is hurting you in the process.
I think it took me literally about 9 tries with a guy before I ended it, and... I still find it hard at times.
What you have to know is that if he truly loves you and it is "meant to be" then it will be safe for you to let him go, because... in the end, later on in life, it will come back to you.
I know this all sounds so "cliche", but its true.
My ex is now a Marine, and he still hasnt grown up enough to find out what/who he wants. Its pathetic. And, when guys get in this cycle its a crazy mess that you dont want to get involved it, and grankly, isnt worth fighting for until they come to their seneses.
So... take some time to yourself. Be happy with who you are... and let him go for a while.
The history is going to repeat itself as long as you continue to let him back in. You have to literally "break" the cycle.
I know it will hurt. Best of luck! Let me know if you need anything.
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the first time you have sex..you bleed.. is that from your walls being stretched out or what. im just kind of confused about it. thanks i'll rate any advice i get (:
The bleeding comes from the breaking of a thin layer of skin called the Hymen. If the Hymen breaks another way, however... like during your childhood, then... you wont have to worry about it. The most common example of this that I can think of would be a biek accident.
Anyway, its normal... and yes, I wont lie, it hurts. A lot.
Jsut relax... and be safe! Best of luck!
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i've liked this guy since i was in seventh grade & i'm a sophomore in highschool now; he's a bit older than me and my parents would kill me if they knew i was hanging out with him.
but i'd been friends with him since i was in 4th grade, and we've been keeping in touch since then.
so we hung out in secret twice, after the 2nd time he asked if i wanted to hook up with him... of course i said yes.
so afew weeks ago, he picked me up from a friend's house and i FINALLY hooked up with him, after all these years of liking him so so so much. he's all i would talk about, think about, and he was just my world. when he dropped me off we even kissed goodbye, too. afterward he said he really enjoyed it and was really glad it wasnt awkward. that just made me insanely happy right?
well after that, he stopped talking to me. we'd make small talk here and there, but nothing's been the same... he doesnt call me sweetheart or anything anymore:(
i even asked him if something was wrong and he totally denied it too. he said stuff like "i've been busy with school and work and everything" and that kind of thing. and after a bunch of one worded responses, he'd ignore me completely, and days would go by with no word from him
(sorry this is so long)
i've been a little stalkerish and he's been going about his normal life, which includes ignoring me now. what should i do? he's literally breaking my heart, i can't get over him i just see him as the perfect guy for me. . . and i'm not interested in anyone else at all. PLEASE help me i'm so sick of feeling depressed all the time.
I have to say that I completely agree with the person before me, and to top it off... I too have had this experience. I dates a guy for almost 8 years off and on... and finally... 8 years later... we had sex. And now... he goes WEEKS without even talking to me, and now its going on almost 3 weeks.
He is a marine, and he is TRULY busy... but make no mistake... if he wanted to make time for me, he could. Even if it is just a little.
Same goes for this guy. Im sorry to say.
Your best bet is to try to move on, hun. Im not saying its going to easy, cause.... its NOT. Trust me, I have been there. But, it gets easier with him and its their loss really.
No worries... everything will turn out ok, hun. I promise. Your still young. Live your life, and move on.
Message me if you need anything else. Best of luck!
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im 20 a guy and well ive got a really small penis
ive never been with a girl about 3 years ago i had a girlfriend and when she saw my penis she laughed at me it was really embarrassing so ive never had a girlfriend since then till about 2 months ago ive started dating this girl and i really like her but im worried if we take things further that when she sees my penis she might laugh too might be a bit lame but its really worrying does it matter much to most girls?
is there anyway to amke it bigger?
Well, personally... I don't think it matters as much to girls as your are thinking it does. If she really likes you, she won't care. Promise.
Also, um... the only way to get it bigger, and this is only TEMP., would be a penis pump.
You might want to talk to a doctor about this, if you really think its a problem.
Hope I helped. *Smiles*.
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From Why so Dreamy?
I do look her in her eyes when she or I talk but then I look away. I do talk to her, but then I do get all chills all over my body when she looks at me or when I look at her when I talk to her.
In class I try my best to listen to the teacher but then the whole time I thinking about her and she is in the SAME class sitting next to me! And it’s hard to focus when she is there. is she wasn’t I would focus better but now that she is in the same class I get so nervous and get all red.
What should I do????
Sorry it took me so long to get to this question, hun. This sounds like TRUE infatuation. And, if you know this girl really well, maybe even love.
I would give it a shot. Ask her out or... at least talk to her and share your feelings. You never know, she may feel the same. I think its worth a true. Ya know, whats the worse that can happen? Right? CONGRATZ ON FINING SOMEONE SPECIAL ENOUGH TO CARE THAT DEEPLY ABOUT. It's a wonderful feeling, I know. Best of luck!
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im 17 and my penis is not that big a when i go to have sex i have trouble getting an erection its really embarrassing and if i mdo it doesnt last long what can i do?
Well, this sounds a little bit like "Erectile Disfunction". The only thing you can really do about that is see a doctor. I know that sounds embarassing and all, but they can give you something to help with it.
Also... just try to relax a little bit more when going to have sex, that usually helps to. Try not to be nervous and just... like I said, Relax.
I hope this helped. Thats really all that I know to tell you about this one. Good luck, hun!
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this is probably a real dumb ? but does sprint have SIM cards?
i would like to switch my sprint card to the iPhone... thats not at all possible is it?
Yes, sprint has "SIM Cards" although, they arent called that with Sprint... they are called a "Smart Chip" I think. But, yes, you can do that. Just go to your Sprint store to buy the phone, or... however you want to go about it. *Smiles*. I think you will love the phone.
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ok so there is this guy I like and we are friends and I am friends with his older brother too. His older brother got a cell phone and we were texting. He said he liked me and he asked me if I liked him. I said I kind of do but I like your brother more. Then I realized that was so mean. So he got all mad and I texted him back and said I was so sorry and I hope we could just be friends he didn't text me back yet what should I do? Help
I don't think that was mean at all. It was honest. He should respect you for telling him the truth... even if it wasn't what he wanted to hear. You honestly did the right thing. Don't beat yourself up over it. He will accept it in time. Good for you for doing the right thing. Be proud hun! *Smiles*.
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From: What do you think?
Lara seems to be a little dreamy lately. Last night she was over at my dinner party I made for my friend Tiffany’s birthday. Lara talks to me for a while and I ask her to help me cut the chicken and then after she was done she sat at the bar of the kitchen. I started to cook the chicken and my mother helps me with the sauce. In the corner of my eye I see Lara staring ahead of the kitchen I felt like she was watching me, I turn around and she was focusing on some thing in the kitchen and she had that day dream face expression. At the dinner table Tiffany ask Lara if she is all right because she seems so quite than usual and she said in a dreamy tone “yeah I am just tired” but it seems like she was in a dreamy mood to me.
What do you think? And why was she like that?
Is it because of our conversation we had or what?
Well, hun, some people daydream about the people that they like. For instance, when I first met my ex boyfriend (before he and I ever dated), I used to think about him all the time and "daydream" about being with him. SHE MIGHT BE DOING THIS. And, if so, thats a good sign. Lol. *Smiles*. I think this is an imporivement from her just simply not talking to you.
That would prolly be my best guess as to what is going on with her. I certianly hoped you talked to her and I am glad things are looking up. Hang in there. She may be coming around! *Smiles*.
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From I dont know...part 2
I don’t know if this is all in my head but Lara seems different to me. She seems quite and shy around me. Usually she is very talkative. Last week we went to the movies and she hardly talked to me and she seems so distance away from me than usual. We joke around a little before the movie started but I am having a feeling she is shy and uncomfortable to be around me. When I talk to her she did talk to me back, then last night she called me on the phone and I was talking the whole time but she didn’t reasoned to me. I talk about the book she lean me to read and I wanted to talk about it but she didn’t respond. I didn’t know what was wrong she was the one who called me because she wanted to know more info about the birthday party we are having for a friend of ours (I told her about the info before the talk of the book). But it might be in my head I don’t know, what are the signs of shy body language?
Wow, thats pretty difficult, hun. I am not sure what to say here. I guess she might be acting uncomfortable around you because of your feelings for her. Or... maybe she has feelings for you. Who knows? That difficult. Wish I could help more. I guess... just try to talk to her about it. I dunno what else to do. Sorry hun! I will pray for you. I hope this situation gets better. I know how you feel.
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what do i do when the one i love is thinkin about leaving me cause she thinks im changin and shes not happy with me anymore i really love her and dont want to lose her. pls help me out
Well, first off. What did you do to make her want to leave you? Thats pretty important. Girls are pretty sensitive to certain things and get upset kind of easy. Also, you said that she thinks you are changin, and I know that for me, thats a BIG problem. You have to be yourself, no matter who you are around. Think about it. Are you treating her differently around others? If so, I would say that she has a right to think that you are "changin".
To answer your question, there really is nothing that you can do, but try to make up for whatever it is that you did and hope for the best. Girls get upset easily. Just talk to her and try to straighten it out. There isn't much else you can do. And if you lose her, all you can really do is accept it. Ya know? Best of luck!
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okayy i really need advice asap. okay so theres this girl who now goes to my school this year & shes a sweetheart and were friends. Were not like super close but i love her to death. So theres this guy at my school that is just gorgeous & i really like him. We hung out and all that & i really connected with him. Well when i came home i found out that the girl that i'm friends with went out with him for about a year off and on. She was upset with me and cried so muchh. Like she told me she doesn't want to be friends with me anymore cause it hurts her too much and she thinks i don't care about her. i talked to her and all that but she decided not to be friends. When one of my friends get mad at me, like everyone does and i'm so scared of that. I know your gonna say well then their not real friends but idk, just bare with me lol. anyways - Well the guy i like says he really likes me & don't even like his ex girlfriend anymore but shes still head over heels for him. I offered to stop talking to him and shes like NOO i don't wanna make your life shitty, please just get to know him & leave me out of it. I really don't know what to do. When i hung out with him the other dayy, i didn't wanna leave. Hes so cute & sweet and ahh i just like him alott. So what do i do? The girl i was friends with said shed get overr it eventually but i don't want the whole world hateing me because of this. For one its not their business and two, i can't stop who i likee even when i didn't know they datedd. i'm so shooken up over this situation. My best friend is also friends with this girl and i'm so afraid she`ll turn on me after she said she really wouldn't. I'm so scared. And i feel so bad that i did this to the girl but i don't know what to do. should i stop talking to him? should i just let her get used to it, or get over it ? Just give me advice on what you would do if you were in my place. thnk you so much.
Ok, first off of, yes... I am going to tell you that if someone would do that and just stop being your friend over you liking her EX boyfriend, even after you offered not to see him anymore, SHE ISN'T YOUR FRIEND. She says you don't care about her, yet... how much can she really care about you if she dosen't want you happy? You obviously care about her enough to consider her feelings. This really is HER problem at this point, not yours.
There is a reason for saying she isnt really a friend in the first place, its TRUE.
Honestly, if I were you, I would stay with the guy and stop worrying about what she thinks. You gave her a chance to tell you not to do it, and she didn't. So... go for it. Its up to her to deal with it. You deserve to happy and who is she to tell you otherwise? Ya know?
I think you have been MORE THAN considerate in this situation, and I don't think you need to worry. You will find better friends if this one don't come around. Just hang in there. And, in the meantime, make yourself happy. Hang on to this guy! You will be glad you did!
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This is the reason why i didnt ask her out...
what if me and lara go out, and then it doesnt go well and we break up and then our friendship is in danger!!!!
should i not be afriad and step up?
well, hun, I kinda anticipated that. And, I mean, it is something to worry about since you two have such a strong friendship. Hoowever, maybe you should give it a try and just make sure to tell eachother that if you break up, you will still be friends. I think that is important. And, if your friendship is as close as you say it is, then breaking up shouldn't affect it, either way. I honestly think you should give it a try hun. You never know, it could be worth it. *Smiles*.
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