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This is the worst position.
I'm 16 I was dating this boy for a year and a half. I met this other boy and grew a crush on him. It was nothing big though just a new boy I started to hangout with. but we started spending a lot of time together and before I knew it out of the blue I brokeup with my boyfriend. In my mind and what I told everyone was that my boyfriend never did things for me and was selfish but truthfully I was selfish most of the time and I was a jealous freak although I did do alot for him and he seemed unappreciative. I kept that in my mind while I grew close to my new crush we started dating not too long after the breakup. We had sex too soon and I felt terrible for it. So I went to my ex and confessed it to him and appologized I was crying my heart out to him. I didnt know what to do so I went back to my ex for awhile because he forgave me. I ended upbreaking up with him again and started dating my other crush right away basically. I dont know if my feelings were influenced but I forced myself to forget about my ex while falling in love with this new boy. We have been dating on and off for awhile because my feelings have been like a rollercoaster. I really really adore him but its been 4 months since I broke up with my ex and today he said hes over me and hes no longer apart of my life. It did effect me. What should I do? My boyfriend is amazig and treats me better than anyone but my ex sits in the back of my head.
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First off, your 16... so... this is perfectly normal. Haha. Trust me. I have been there. And, its not fun. I dated a guy for like 8 years on and off because I kept having small crushes for other guys and wanting to give them a chance. Here is the best advice that I can give you.
If you truly loved your ex boyfriend and were meant to be with him, then... you wouldn't be doing this to him and it wouldnt be so easy for you to break up with him. Obviously, he wasn't the one. However, you still going to have feelings for him. Trust me. I still have feelings for my ex of almost 8 years off and on, and... I have moved on COMPLETELY. The fact is, once someone is THAT big a part of your life, its hard to let that go. Just know that it is normal for him to be in the back of your mind. Its gonna happen. And, I think, you should just try to remind yourself why you left him and that your happy with this other guy.
And as far of your current boyfriend, its also normal to feel like your on an "emotional rollercoaster" seeing as you still feel for your ex, but you might want to be careful. Remember to stay committed and don't fall into the trap of running back to your ex. Guys have feeling too, and trust me, it sucks when you lose a grat guy because of your own actions.
Point is, this is normal. But, I think your right where you should be.... with the new guy.
Just be happy... and live it up!
If your ex is worth anything (And mine wasn't) then he will realize that you just did what you thought was right and he will want to be a part of your life (AS A FRIEND) again. Just give him time.
Best of luck!
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You should realize that the boyfriend you have now respects you, adores you, wants to give you the greatest life ever. But if you keep on going back to the ghosts in the past. They will only haunt you.
Enjoy your knight in shining armor and trust him in life.
Dont deny your feelings and just smile.
All you have to do in life is smile
and dont do drugs
-Batman.
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