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Hey, Im 13/f and I weigh about 110 lbs. I want to loose weight, what is the easiest way how to do this? I dont look fat but most of my friends are my size and they weigh 85 or 90 pounds. So what is the easiest way?

You should not be losing weight. I can understand that you want to weigh as little as your friends, but you are at a very healthy weight while they are probably underweight.

Hello everyone. I have tried EVERYTHING to lose weight or so it feels like and I am finally willing to admit I can't do it on my own. Do you know where I could find weight loss support groups in my area? I don't even know where to look! What would it be called? "Fat people anonymous?" lol! I know that sounds funny but I have no idea how to find local ones. Can anyone help?

Hello :) There is a group called Overeater's Anonymous. Go onto the website and look for a local meet-up.

http://www.oa.org/

It's a 12 step program that is much like Alcoholic's Anonymous.

Hi I'm 20
Year old female
And I'm thin but I over
Eat like crazy and it's really takin a toll on my body. I just can't help it. Now that it's my period I'm eating double which is so bad . I can't stop I really can't.

How do I stop? And get on a normal diet?

If you're thin, what makes you think you're overeating?

Anywho, my advice would be to give into your cravings. Even if it means having an ice cream sandwich for lunch. Only eat the foods you really want to because if you avoid cravings, they will become too strong.

Well, I've been pretty obese for a long time, and I'm just sick of it..... I try losing weight, but I always end up gaining it back! I want to lose weight, but how can I gain will power?

Coming from someone who has struggled day in and day out with disordered eating habits for the past 3 years, something I'm practicing now is "intuitive eating" which is also referred to as "mindful eating". Eating healthy foods does not work for me. It makes me binge knowing that certain foods are off-limits. Allow yourself to eat ANYTHING you want, just work on portion-control. I know that it's a hard thing to do, but if you focus and let yourself be fully present while you are indulging in a delicious, but normal-sized portion of a food that you absolutely love, it will prevent you from binging/overeating later on in the day. I just got reading a book about this on Amazon and it only cost $2 to download.

http://www.amazon.com/New-Title-Overfed-Head-ebook/dp/B0019HQW3C/ref=sr_1_2?ie=UTF8&qid=1336099828&sr=8-2

Good luck!! =D

I really really need to loose at least 10 lbs.

yesterday i had vegetable juice (i use a juicer and juice raw beats and carrots etc.) coffee with skim milk, salad with some tuna, and dinner was half a steak, i also had some grilled chicken and broccoli

today i had vegetable juice, a large coffee with skim milk, lunch was half a cup hoop cheese (sometimes called pot cheese- similar to cottage cheese but different) with some fruit, then mid day snack was 2 40 calorie vegetarian sauces with some avocado, then dinner was tuna salad and i had some of my mother steak. not a lot but a couple of bites.

i also walk as much as i can.

if i continue like this will i loose weight?

should i eat more or less or what? please help. i really really need to loose weight as soon as possible.

You did not overeat. You actually ate way too little. You might lose weight eating the way you're eating, but you will also lose your sanity. You need to eat more or you will binge. Try eating around 1500 calories.

My mom is getting her paycheck soon but she didn't get her last one on time so she is out of money right now and my dad, the one with all the money, isn't gonna be home for a long while. My mom has plenty of food because she keeps it in her room and takes FOREVER to eat it. It takes her about a year to eat a bag of mnms! All we have is a slice of cake but my mom will get mad if I eat it. We also have noodles but I really don't want noodles right now and don't have time to make them. Is there a way to curve my hunger? I haven't eaten lunch yet and I'm pretty hungry. What should I do? Thanks.

Sweety, I'm sorry that you are going through this. It's not okay for your mom to keep a stash of food that is just for her. It is her responsibility to make sure you have food to eat. I don't know the details of your current situation, but it sounds like you need to call Child Protective Services.

Hi,
This is a weird question.
I was thinking about my cognitive ability.
I didn't grow up in a learning-friendly home as a child.
I've never really tried in school and sometimes on tests that didn't count towards my grades, I would answer more carelessly or just bubble in the grid.
I've always been exceptional in mathematics and creativity. I read over my gifted program tests from elementary school and found from the first test(taken in 2nd grade), I had gotten a 99 on creativity but I failed the other areas. I had taken the test again in 4th grade and found I scored 97/100 and 92/100 on the cognitive and comprehension areas-required was 96/100 and 90/100. On the creativity portion, I scored like a fifty something. And, I've always failed motivation.
I had always taken honors classes and I've never tried to take an AP course. I've always gotten an A B average. Usually, I just tried to get by in my classes and I actually tried when I had grades to bring up.
I think growing up, I've always been mentally-absent or only partially there. I used to have major depression. I think I picked up daydreaming as a coping mechanism. I still struggle with living in a daydream and living in reality.
I can lay for hours on just daydreaming for entertainment.
I've always wanted to be a film writer and I have a couple ideas for my stories.
One idea I believe is my ultimate goal in life. I've started on the story but I haven't gotten far in my writing. I'm always looking for ideas when I go places and some I haven't written down yet.
It's been two years since I've been out of high school and I haven't done a lot in that time. I still have terrible motivation. The thing is, I don't believe in myself. I learned last night from a writer to always try. He said he failed hundreds of times but also said if he didn't fail, he wouldn't have success. I don't know.
I think I have amazing potential but maybe that's just in my head. I have in the past, many times wowed my class with my projects at school. I've been told by intelligent people who have read my writing, that I'm very intelligent. I think I have ways of thinking that others haven't came across and maybe that's just what I think.
I'm not sure I have what it takes to write this 'genius' idea of mine. I usually surprised myself whenever I finished a project but never could see the success before I started. I really don't know where to go from here with this goal I want to achieve.
The area I'm worried most about is character development, my lack of vocabulary, and my writing skills(haven't always had positive feedback on my writing scores in school-I don't think B-scored writing would make a good writer).
From a second opinion, do you think I have chance in making this film and having a success?

Yes, but only if YOU believe in yourself. Things only become possible when you feel that they are. I think you should read a book about present moment awareness called "The Power of Now". Since reading it, I don't doubt my capabilities as much as before. I'm also more at peace with life in general. Look it up on Amazon. You can get a copy for really cheap.

and direct this energy to positively help me improve my life, by actually trying to reach my goals, instead of just giving up before I try? I just feel defeated lately, because I've made so many mistakes, and I'm about to graduate high school and I've just made the whole experience terrible for myself, and it hurts to just think about it. i want to black it out and focus on making a lot better future, going to college and everything, but I still get caught up in the past, and seeing other successful people just makes me jealous and self hating, and removes what little motivation I have left. ugh what can I do?

Wow, I have felt exactly what you're feeling so many times. I think the only way to move past it is to accept the happiness and success of others. Let it inspire you. I know it's hard and feelings of jealousy may overcome you when someone has something that you desire for yourself, but wanting happiness for others will bring happiness towards you.

it's like she doesn't understand why I sometimes get sugar or salt cravings. she only buys healthy food and sometimes I just really crave some junk food, like a burger, or chocolate bar, especially just before my period. but every time I get something like that I have to hide it or she always make some crude comment, like "of course you're eager to eat but not to clean your room" or whatever. who prefers cleaning their room to eating a chocolate bar? it's so annoying and she's been doing it my whole life. i dont think her philosophy of only buying healthy things even works cause all it does is make me get cravings, and i can't drive so all the food we have is at home. i eat a lot of fruits to try and satisfy the sugar craving but sometimes i just snap (when I can't go to walmart to buy my own snack) and open the juice she has saved for visitors and start drinking (it was just sitting there in the fridge for days, right there, tempting me) or binging on the one "junky" snack we have in the house. i know it's important to keep healthy, and i'm at risk for getting type 2 diabetes cause of genetics, but why should this mean I have to give up "bad" foods for good, when all that does is make me binge out when I get the chance. and my mom's even more overweight than me and eats chocolate too occasionally, so idk why she acts like she doesn't get why i'd want unhealthy foods. she just yelled at me for "stealing" the juice I drank, when I opened it and drank a cup, and she always considers it "stealing" when I drink/eat something "special" and that just pisses me off. why does it have to be off limits like that? we're an upper middle class family, it's not like we can't afford juice. i've been going through a lot of stress for the past 2 years and am trying to somehow get over things, but i just can't talk to my mom, cause she just loves to criticize me. she just makes cutting remarks to get back at me and stuff and i dont tell her things anymore cause of it. ugh how do i fix this? should I just buy my own secret supply of chocolate to eat from time to time, so i don't binge on whats in the house sometimes? i'm slightly overweight (but i'm muscular, so it's not as obvious) but I definitely want to lose weight, I just want to do it while keeping my cravings in check. maybe if i had a little chocolate more often i wouldn't feel like pigging out because i hadn't had them in a while. i mean i know kids who always have junk food in their house but aren't fat cause they're just used to it being in the house, and used to it not being off limits.

I think I've been driven towards eating more unhealthy food lately because of how depressed I've been lately, too, and junk food is like a quick high

but i'm just saying in general, my mom literally always says something when i get candy/chocolate/whatever. she thinks she's helping by making these catty comments but it just makes me feel worse cause I already have other problems going on, and the food is what helps make me feel better

Yikes...it seems that your mom has an issue with food, so when she's criticizing you, that's when her self-esteem is really low. I know this because I criticize what others eat when my life feels out of control.

I think it's worth a try to buy a stash of food, so that you know it's not "forbidden" and can keep yourself from binging. It may work or it may not, but I say you should definitely try and see what works for you.

As for your mom, I think you should have a talk with her and ask her why she criticizes the food you eat. Ask her she does it because she genuinely cares about your health or if it's because of her own issues with food.

I am looking for a song to sing in the talent show. I am a low alto and my friends tell me that i sound better singing songs like viva la vida, firework, set fire to the rain. answr plz

I like the song Breathe Me by Sia. That would be really beautiful and haunting.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=SFGvmrJ5rjM

What's the song on Zoey 101 when Nicole is throwing popcorn at the balloons on the episode "Backpack"? If you haven't seen this episode please go on YouTube and watch it! I need to know the song! It's like 7 or 8 minutes into the show. Please leave the song name and the artist's name. Thanks!

I'm pretty sure it's called "Nothing Soothes Me"
by Kyler England.

Hi instead of self harming myself I've been writing poetry :) would you mind reading some if my work and giving me feedback? I have a lot but here are my three favorite ones :)
This one is called " useless lies "

Today is the day
That I'll give up on trying
Today is the end
Of all the useless lying
Not wasting my tears
If they won't stop the bleeding
Today is the day that my heart will stop beating
My palms are sweaty my vision is blurred
I let out a scream that no one even heard
I blink back the tears I choke back a cry
Today is the end if all the useless lies

"Call me crazy"
some people call me crazy
Some think I'm just sic
I think I'm just lazy
I need something short and quick
Something simple to take away my pain
Something easy to help me live through the day
As my world gets destroyed I'm destroying
myself
Fill the ache in my heart
That can't be filled by anything else
I'm done with crying
My blood is my tears
It's time to let go
Time to face my fears
Some think I'm crazy
Some think I'm sick
I think I'm just lazy
I need something short and quick

" forgotten "

Left alone
Forgotten
Nobody else cares
Left alone forgotten
No one else is there
I can't escape to scared to try
I still feel alone inside
My world crashing
All around me
Raining sorrow
Someone see me
See me for who I am inside
No one cares
No one even tries
Done believing
All your lies

You are seriously very talented! Your poems gave me chills.

In "Useless Lies" I love the line, "I let out a scream that no one even heard"

In "Call me Crazy" I like the line, "my blood is my tears"

And in the last poem, I like how you said "raining sorrow". Your poetry is beautiful and interesting. I also like how you repeat some lines...like in the first poem, you said "today is...", but at the end, you attached a conclusion to that phrase.

16/f
So recently I had my first panic attack during a blood test-anyone who's had one will know how scary they are.
I was wondering, because I have to have other blood tests soon if anyone has any good tips on overcoming panic attacks.
Any advice welcome-prefferably someone who has had a diagnosed panic attack before :)

I'm not sure that I've ever had a panic attack before, but when it comes to getting blood drawn, that was my biggest phobia.

I would literally cry just thinking about it...but when I finally worked up the courage to get my blood drawn a few months ago, it wasn't bad at all! Being pricked by the needle did not hurt. I mean, I felt it, but it was not painful. Getting blood drawn is never going to be something that I'll like doing, but I'm no longer afraid of getting it done.

Remind yourself that the people drawing your blood are professionals. They draw blood all day long and have a lot of experience doing what they're doing. They will make the procedure quick and painless for you.

I start a full time babysitting job in two weeks and I need to know how to be a fun babysitter. I'm going to be watching an 8 year old boy, A 6 year old girl and a baby boy who is 6 months. I'm not sure what to do to keep them occupied. Please help!

Bring crafts or toys along. They will be so excited everytime they see you if they know you are bringing a little something :) Or plan an activity, like a dance off or making (not cooking) food.

My grandma,and my mom seems to think I have and eating disorder,but I know I don't.
I go days without eating,and feel fine.
But my mom and dad makes me eat something,cause they think I have an eating disorder.
When I do eat,I have puke it right back up.
I don't think I have an eating disorder,but they do.
Do I?

Yes, you definitely have an eating disorder. It is not normal to go days without eating or to throw up your food. Ask your parents if you can see a therapist or a doctor that specializes in eating disorders.

Okay. So I'm drinking green tea, drinking lots of water, eating 1200 calories per day, doing interval training, and sometimes I eat food with sugar, like a piece of candy but not a lot. Will that affect my diet? Will I be able to lose weight? If I eat a piece of candy will it ruin my diet? [:

Even if you ate 1200 calories of just sugary food a day, you would still lose weight. It doesn't make a difference what kind of foods make up the 1200 calories. It could be healthy food or unhealthy food. As long as you're eating 1200 calories, you will lose weight.

You are stuck in a room with no doors, no windows, a lava lamp, and a star fish. What do you do?

How would you have gotten in to begin with?-lol I think that's the answer!

People think i'm liing aobut being a virgin cuz i use extra-large tampons, but its not my fault i have a huge vigina and a wide flow. wht do i do?

Stop watching Mean Girls.

so i shaved my arms and i think it looks good but i dont know if it was a good idea

I love shaving my arms! Seriously, my mom keeps telling me not to because it will grow back darker, but it doesn't matter to me because I shave it before it has a chance to grow back. If you like the way it looks and are willing to keep up with it, then there's nothing wrong with it.

Ok so I was selected to play imagine by john lennon on piano for my chorus concert. Im super happy and honored to play this beautiful song. I'm super excited and have been getting alot of support from my family and friends. Though one of them has been super unsupportive of mi playing and said I'm gonna suck. I don't know what to do. I love music and I play piano guitar drums violin and recorder as well. Its my passion and I'm sad that some people are being unsupportive that I can't do it. I don't know what to do.

Keep at it! :) I'm sure that you'll do an awesome job. I wish I knew how to play piano...

You say how you are getting a lot of support, so why let one person's mean comments bring you down? Anybody who says hateful things such as, "You're gunna suck" is just jealous. Focus on the positivity such as the people that are rooting for you.

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