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Why does my mom always criticize me for occasionally eating junk food
it's like she doesn't understand why I sometimes get sugar or salt cravings. she only buys healthy food and sometimes I just really crave some junk food, like a burger, or chocolate bar, especially just before my period. but every time I get something like that I have to hide it or she always make some crude comment, like "of course you're eager to eat but not to clean your room" or whatever. who prefers cleaning their room to eating a chocolate bar? it's so annoying and she's been doing it my whole life. i dont think her philosophy of only buying healthy things even works cause all it does is make me get cravings, and i can't drive so all the food we have is at home. i eat a lot of fruits to try and satisfy the sugar craving but sometimes i just snap (when I can't go to walmart to buy my own snack) and open the juice she has saved for visitors and start drinking (it was just sitting there in the fridge for days, right there, tempting me) or binging on the one "junky" snack we have in the house. i know it's important to keep healthy, and i'm at risk for getting type 2 diabetes cause of genetics, but why should this mean I have to give up "bad" foods for good, when all that does is make me binge out when I get the chance. and my mom's even more overweight than me and eats chocolate too occasionally, so idk why she acts like she doesn't get why i'd want unhealthy foods. she just yelled at me for "stealing" the juice I drank, when I opened it and drank a cup, and she always considers it "stealing" when I drink/eat something "special" and that just pisses me off. why does it have to be off limits like that? we're an upper middle class family, it's not like we can't afford juice. i've been going through a lot of stress for the past 2 years and am trying to somehow get over things, but i just can't talk to my mom, cause she just loves to criticize me. she just makes cutting remarks to get back at me and stuff and i dont tell her things anymore cause of it. ugh how do i fix this? should I just buy my own secret supply of chocolate to eat from time to time, so i don't binge on whats in the house sometimes? i'm slightly overweight (but i'm muscular, so it's not as obvious) but I definitely want to lose weight, I just want to do it while keeping my cravings in check. maybe if i had a little chocolate more often i wouldn't feel like pigging out because i hadn't had them in a while. i mean i know kids who always have junk food in their house but aren't fat cause they're just used to it being in the house, and used to it not being off limits.
I think I've been driven towards eating more unhealthy food lately because of how depressed I've been lately, too, and junk food is like a quick high
but i'm just saying in general, my mom literally always says something when i get candy/chocolate/whatever. she thinks she's helping by making these catty comments but it just makes me feel worse cause I already have other problems going on, and the food is what helps make me feel better
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Yikes...it seems that your mom has an issue with food, so when she's criticizing you, that's when her self-esteem is really low. I know this because I criticize what others eat when my life feels out of control.
I think it's worth a try to buy a stash of food, so that you know it's not "forbidden" and can keep yourself from binging. It may work or it may not, but I say you should definitely try and see what works for you.
As for your mom, I think you should have a talk with her and ask her why she criticizes the food you eat. Ask her she does it because she genuinely cares about your health or if it's because of her own issues with food.
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