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How can I stop getting jealous of other people's looks and accomplishments?
and direct this energy to positively help me improve my life, by actually trying to reach my goals, instead of just giving up before I try? I just feel defeated lately, because I've made so many mistakes, and I'm about to graduate high school and I've just made the whole experience terrible for myself, and it hurts to just think about it. i want to black it out and focus on making a lot better future, going to college and everything, but I still get caught up in the past, and seeing other successful people just makes me jealous and self hating, and removes what little motivation I have left. ugh what can I do?
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Wow, I have felt exactly what you're feeling so many times. I think the only way to move past it is to accept the happiness and success of others. Let it inspire you. I know it's hard and feelings of jealousy may overcome you when someone has something that you desire for yourself, but wanting happiness for others will bring happiness towards you.
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I myself have/ and still am suffering from something similar to what you yourself are experiencing. The best way that I myself found to combat this was to not black it out- which, quite frankly sounds pretty ridiculous doesn't it? But I look back nonetheless, I use what happened to find that drive to do better or find out how a situation could have been handled, or how did this lead to that. In a strange way it helped me to find reason and settle some of my own doubts. Another way that helped was to not let other's accomplishments gather on top of me, I was the kid who didn't tell people about any of my accomplishments; which allowed for other pupils to treat me like an underdog since I am at an "elitist" school. Try to be more vocal about your own accomplishments, because you will have them, something that you do every day someone else may never do! Be proud of that and embrace it.
It's good that you're still interested in going to college, in fact it's great! You still have the desire to further your own education, hold onto that, not as many people do have that desire. But, make sure you're doing it for the right subjects, look at what YOU really want to do (Not your mates or parents, YOU) in the future, and then apply that knowledge by picking the right subjects to do at college.
Also try getting a regular sleep schedule, helps an awful lot more than it sounds it would.
As for the jealousy sit down and think whether or not you would really want that? Most people have to work extremely hard for that, or succumb to the disease of affluence. Try going out with some mates somewhere and DO SOMETHING CRAZY release your stress and inner feelings. Try taking music or a hobby, even helping charity does wonders for a troubled soul. Have a good day :D Hope I could help in anyway
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