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Q: Hey, do I know you?
you added me as a favorite columnist,
& you're from michigan.
Just wondering :)
No i dont think so i just was looking around. And i seen the advice you give and so i wanted to remember who you were when i need some.=]

Q: well i used to have a lot of boyfriends but that was all last year. (im in 7th grade by the way.) so anyway... ther're no hot and nice guys at my school so the only way i can meet someone is out of school. but i dunno how to meet someone because there aren't really any guys in my neighborhood, and maybe i could meet one at the mall though. but if i meet someone in the mall, what do i say to him??
You seem way to worried about boys. Having a boyfriend isnt about just doing it for the fun of it. Its when two people have strong feelings about one another. So just wait for that right guy to come. You dont HAVE to have a boyfriend... your in 7th grade. Hope i helped.

Q: Okay im 14/f(i just turned 14 MAy 6)And ive been talking to this guy (He just turned 16 like last weekend) Well i think our relationship is moving to the point of b/f g/f .... but like i need to find out a way to tell my mom about the ages without her flipping because my mom is very strict and i mean strict.. i mean ive never really had a boyfriend befor so i have no clue what to say and i cant not tell her because one of my sisters will tell her and i will be in deep crap... so how do i tell her about this guy without her flipping out... like exsactly what do i say???
Wow i am going through like the same thing right now. I cant find a way to talk to my mom either. And my sister already told her and she freaked out but i want to talk to her about it and make everything o.k.If you get any good advice maybe you could let me know? thanks.

Q: hy thre.....

i m also 13 n i m troubled a lot....i have 2 boys havin crush on me and i hav crush on sum1 else.......salman and tashfig loves m but i love salman......and dipto mor than salman.......bt now tashfig is lamisa's bf and i hav to choose any 1 frm these two.......so i atfirst told yes to salman and thn when i proposed dipto he said that he lovs me and i dumped salman.....but yesterday i had my classparty and i fall in for salman.......but ma frnds says that i cannot hav him anymore...........but i want him....because i heard that dipto was not likin me atfirst when i proposed him....cause my roll number is 28....and he i s a good student.......but i m not.......mayb h likes sum1 lse in his class...,maybe it is arefin bcaus sh i the 1st girl in their classs.....n i m the worst girl in my class.......all i need to know is how will i get salman back.....??????and the main prob is that he is angry wid m....mayb......ma bstfrnd says that i hav look but i m not a good student....thats y i lost all my courage to go n talk wid him..........but sum how i want him and this tim what will i give him is....mak out wid him,hav sex...mayb if he wants.......and giv him the freeedom
plz help m as 1 of ur frnd......
That was somewhat confusing to me but ill try my best. Your friend cant tell you who you can have and who you cant. I think you should talk to Salman and tell him how you feel about him. Guys shouldnt judge you on if your a good student or not. They should like you for who you are. You shouldnt do stuff with him if you dont want to or dont feel your ready. Personally i think 13 is a young age to loose your virginity. But makeout, thats fine. But its up to you what you would do with him.. just dont loose a good rep. Im not sure if that helps you but i hope it did!

Q: Ive gotten to like this girl. Shes beautiful and has a nice personality. I want to say something nice to her and let her know how I feel about her. Im not keen on love letters, asking through friends and things like that, and I can't seem to find the right time because shes always with her friends everytime I want to talk to her. Ive heard that compliments work a treat. I need a list of compliments that are from a girls point of veiw that girls like said to them. Could you give me some girls advice or steps on asking her out or using special body language. 5's deffinately will be given out for really great advice/steps. Girls only.
Well heres some things i like and i know girls like. ( coming from a girl)


Compliments are very nice. And we like it when you give them to us. Even if you are in front of her friends. They may tease you or what not but its prolly just because they are jealous a guy isnt that sweet to them.

Checking her out will also make her feel like you are attracted to her. Which it will make her feel good. Her friends will most likely also notice and they will say things to her such as " did you see the way he kept lookin at you.. i think he might like you"


If you would like her to know that you like her you could always tell one of your friends if you still cant find the right way to tell her yourself because guarenteed her friend will tell her.. just make sure that friend does not like you. If you choose that option you should go to tell one of her friends with a boyfriend i think it will work better that way.. for reasons.



Make eye contact with her. That will make her feel like shes the only one you care about at the moment.. that will make her feel great.


Hugs.. im not sure about that girl... but most girls i know love hugs.


Talk to her... dont ignore her even if you are shy.. if you dont tallk to her it will not make her think you like her.

Also you should be the one to make the moves.. most girls like it better that way.


Good luck with this girl! ♥

Q: okay this may be kinda confusing, but bear with me, thanks! okay i was wondering when your tanning, is it the amount of sun that hits you that gets you darker or is it how strong the sun is? because yesterday when i was tanning, i thought that how strong the sun hits you would make you darker cause i could like feel like on me.. if you know what i mean? so anyone know? and thanks, ill rate 5's if you helped!
Well of course there has to be sun out for you to get tan. But i think that it is the amount of time.. like at the tanning salon the bulbs are always the same and they put you in for a longer period of time as you go. Hope that helps. =]

Q: My family is all going to go to Wisconsin next Thursday-Sunday. I do not want to go and neither does my mom. We would both go if my dad let us stay in a hotel, but he said that it is too much money. My grandfather (My grandfather is who we are going there to see.) keep his house at 95 degrees and I'm not joking. There aren't even enough beds in his house! He can't hear a word that I say and I'm have strep right now so, I'm not going to talk any louder than I normally do. I really do not want to go up to Wisconsin (Mom said that she's staying here) so, how do I convince my dad to not make me go?

I rate 5's for anyone who tries
Thiss is a hard one. Maybe your dad will let you stay since your mom is staying.Maybe you could ask your dad if you could invite them to wherever you live instead. Or just straight up tell him you do not want to go and explain your reasons .. hopefully he will understand. ♥

Q: okay i've been going bikini shopping & i have to try it on every time, soo i leave my underwear on, no problem. is this not safe to do?? i mean you have to try a bikini on before you buy it, but what if someone before you tried it on?? can you get sick from that?? germs?? idk what else.

thanks!!
If you have your underware on then nothing is going to harm you. I would suggest before actually wearing it at home without your underwear to wash it just to make sure. Many stores make it a rule to wear your underware while trying on bathing suit bottims.Most people follow the rules so i think you will be safe.Hope i helped! ♥

Q: ok well im 130 pounds 13/f and i want to loose 20 pounds so im going to walk an hour everday but i want to no when im going to see results and how long will it take to loose 20 pounds :]

thankz i rate high

Alot of my friends are 13 and weigh around the same weight. Its not bad at all .. to me you dont need to loose weight but its whatever you want that wil make you feel better about yourself. Im not completely sure of how long it will take because ive never personally done it but im guessing it will take a while.If you wanted to loose it faster i would suggest doing some other exercizes as well. Hope i helped you out at least a little. ♥

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KayArrSee
-My names Kaytlyn
-Im thirteen years old
-Im going into eight grade
-I have Brown Hair
-I have brown eyes
-My Facorite Color is pink
-I never take off my ring
-My finger nails are hardly ever painted
-My toenails are always painted
-Winter is pretty much my fav. season
-I hate sweating,but my hands are always sweaty
-I hate not being trusted
-I wear a shoe size 8 and a half
-I couldnt live without a mirror
-I always straighten my hair when i wear it down
-I hate blow-drying my hair
-I dont like brushing my teeth, i do it anyways
-I play volleyball
-Im in track
-My socks always match
-Im said to be pretty random
-I like vanilla more than chocolate
-I dont like wearing black
-I love listening to music
-My favorite kind of music is rap
-I wish all wishes came true
-I hate when people try to be someone there not
-Im very gullable
-Im really self conscious
-Earings make my ears itch
-I love writing
-I have good handwriting
-I have two dogs
-I have one cat
-I like meeting new people
-Many people think im shy
-Im Loud
-I hate my laugh
-My feet are always cold
-Im not a morning person
-The latest ive ever slept in was 2:30pm
-I could stay up all night, everynight
-I hate the sound of alarmclocks
-I love blowing bubbles with gum
-I cant sit still
-I get distracted easily
-I speak my mind
-I always have to have the last word
-It takes me a long time to get ready
-I like hearing other peoples dreams
-My favorite pop is root beer
-I loose things very easy
-I forget easily
-My fav Number is 26
-I hate getting my picture taken
-But i love taking pictures
-I hate screamo music,it gives me a headache
-I dont usually eat breakfast
-Blue Moon is my fav kind of ice cream
-Theres no way i could be a vegetarian
-Im scared to grow up
-I like the smell of gasoline
-Neil is my hero
-BP sluches are my favorite
-I laugh alot
-If you loose my trust it takes a lot to get back
-I get confused easily
-I dont like putting on lotion
-I like going on walks
-I hate running for no reason
-When i laugh hard, i cry
-I can cry easily
-I feel bad easily
-I love to just have fun
-I love cinnamon apple sauce
-Taco Bell is my favorite fast food
-I like listening to people tlak
-Im nosey
-I write with my right hand
-I cut ppl of when they talk , but i hate it
-French Vanilla Cappicinno, the only kind i like
-I dont like being talked about, yet i do it
-I sleep with alot of blankets
-I hate being lied to
-I have a fear of dying
-Blood grosses me out
-I hate mosquitos
-I think smoking is Disgusting
-Im an outgoing person
-Me and my friends are crazy when were together
-i sing in the shower
-I hate hotdogs
-Im inpatient
-Im a pretty happy perosn most of the time
-I dont know what many large words mean
-I dont really get along with my parents
-I LOVE Thunderstorms

If you need some advice i will try you my best to help you =]

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