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is it absolutely necessary to give my boyfriend head before we can have sex? i just hate the whole idea of it and really would rather skip it.. we've done everything else, but does anyone have any experience with just skipping that? or do i just have to suck it up? (i feel like once i do it, then im required to do it again)
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if you hate the idea of it, you don't have to do it.
you don't have to have sex, either.
if your boyfriend demands sex or whatever, then it could be that he's only in a relationship with you to have sex.
I'm sorry, but that's the way A LOT of guys are.
love is sacrificing what you want for someone else. love is not sex.
I think you should just skip the whole thing.
abstinence rocks
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Why doesnt my friend hug me back? or/and why doesnt she hug me? i remember in high school we all gave each other hello and goodbye hugs, we dont do it any more. i only do it when someone leaves far away on a trip and when they gave me a gift. but my friend victoria hugs me when we gave each other giftsof a thank you hug but Jane doesnt. i hug her for giving me a gift but she doesnt do it back, and when i give her a gift for her brithday she didnt hug me thank you like she use to in high school. does she hate me? or what?
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Maybe she diesn't like hugs, or the closure makes her uncomfortable.
Next time you hug and she doesn't hug you, say, "Do you not like it when I hug you? Because I can stop if you want. I didn't realize you didn't like it."
and then see what she says
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im 14, neerly 15 nad a girl and was jst wanting to ask if i am a slut. coz a few gurls in my school keep callin my that, and a few boys. well a few months ago i had my first experiance with sex. i was at a boys house with two of his mates and we started messing around, and i gave my first blowjobs to them. and cuple of weeks later i had sex with one of them and now were going out as a cuple, but still hanging out with his mates. some of d gurls in ma school hav had sex too but they r callin me a slut, n ma bf ses it sumtyms when im going down on him. i dont get it coz ppl dont call those girls sluts. am i really a slut? (link)
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well, I don't know very much about what makes you a slut, but I do know that it is a very disrespectful thing to be called.
I don't think they'll stop calling you a slut, but don't let it get to you... they're just saying whatever they can to try to hurt you.
May I add my opinion?
I feel so bad that you're only 14 and have already had sex with more than one guy.
I'm 15, a virgin, and proud!
Sex is supposed to be something between a man and his wife.
I am waiting for marriage, and I hope to try and tell others why they might want to wait also.
I just don't think you should go around having a lot of sex. There's risks.
That's all.
I'm not judging you or criticizing you, okay?
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whenever my boyfriend touches me like on my boobs or something my facfeels really hot why is this? jw (link)
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Could be embarrassment.
And you should be embarrassed.... you shouldn't let your boyfriend touch you
that is sick and wrong
it's also a sign that he may not love you...
guys are immature and they usually only want sex.
edit:
alright, apparently that was harsh.
wow, my first rating of "1"
okay:
yeah it is pretty much what the other people said, blushing, embarrassment, etc.
however I don't agree that it is a good sign of arousal.
I do not believe in premarital sex and touching (etc) can lead to it...
so, I don't think you should allow your boyfriend to touch you.
this is my personal opinion, but you asked for advice didn't you
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i was wondering what time of the month you can most likly get pregnant and when its least likly, like is it more likley right b4 your period or right after, or what, thanks (link)
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how about this for an answer:
Don't have sex.
Unless you're married, but then you wouldn't be worrying about getting pregnant, would you?
Abstinence is a great thing.
Being a virgin is better than not being one- and you can get pregnant even if you use a condom.... and they don't protect against STD's.
Besides, what would you do if you got pregnant?
Would you abort the baby?
I hope not, because that is harsh.
Unborn babies are actually alive, and abortion is murder.
The ways the abort babies are cruel too-
one thing the doc does to abort the baby, he sticks sharp instruments into your vagina and into the womb, cutting the baby into pieces.
Just imagine that.
Abortion is a common choice for unwanted pregnancy, but is it worth it?
Getting pregnant is definitely a risk of having sex.
Why not just wait for marriage?
That's what God meant for sex to be- something between a man and his wife.
Despite what society says, not everyone is doing it.
Abstinence.
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in 5th grade i was friends with a group of people.
lets call them clique #1...
we were a pretty tight group..
but then one of the people got mad at me in 6th grade,
and it was a real big fight.
so i became great friends with a new group..
lets say their clique #2...
ive been great friends with clique #2..
ecpecially my two best friends in that clique.
"kristina" and "elsie"
now, clique #1 and me have been hanging out again.
they have been so sweet to me and i love being with them along with clique #2.
the thing is.. clique#1 thinks im replacing them with clique #1.
about 4 girls from there called me and told me they miss me.
kristina is so mad at me that she took me out of her top8 on her myspace and put the guy i like first.
also.. she hasnt been talking to me and she's telling all her friends how sad she is.
i'm so hurt by this.
ive been crying for a while.
i cant pick between groups and theres no way i can hang out with both of them together because certain people from a vlique dont like certain people from another.
i seriously have no idea what to do.
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If they're really your friends, they should not make you pick in between them.
Sit them down (separately) and tell them that you love them and want to be friends, but you want to be firend with the other one too. Tell them how much ya'lls friendship means and that THEY don't have to be friends, but if they make you choose then you're not gonna be friends with either one of them
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Here's the story. From 4th grade all the way up to 8th I had a crush on the same guy. Simon, I'm not even gonna lie about his name. We had this kind of hate-love relationship. Basically, we pretended to hate eachother, he would "bully" me (i would enjoy it) he'd make fun of me, and I'd make fun of myself, and it was all good cause it gave us a reason to talk to eachother which we enjoyed. In 9th grade, for no real reason, we stopped talking. It got awkward, we'd just avoid eachother, and pretend we'd never met.
I couldn't get over it. Get over HIM, to be exact.
But it was okay, cause in a year we'd both be going to highschool and never had to see eachother again, I'd HAVE to get over him.
To my surprise, first day of school.. first thing I see is him. GREAT. great great great. This sucked, and it has for two years (yes, I'm almost a senior now, and I'm still talking about the same guy I did in 4th grade!) For the whole first year, it killed me to see him. I'd skip lunch and ceratin classes to avoid him, just cause I thought it was awkward, plus I didn't want to run into him sense I usually dont look that great at school. I would kinda "facebook stalk" him, if you know what I mean. But then this year, I decided to get over him, completely. So I blocked him, deleted him, FORCED myself to stop thinking about him. And it worked, it got less awkward, and thank the lord all mighty I got over him!
Yesterday, I saw him holding hands with one of the girls from my old school. I used to be popular in my old school, she used to be a loner. The tables have turned. And now she has the guy I want(ed) too!
It's hard to explain what happened when I saw him, but I kind of stopped breathing, and started crying, and fainted. I had to make up this silly excuse to everyone that I was having an allergic reaction.
I mean I knew they liked eachother, it had accured to me, and I knew they were probably gonna start dating, but still it was so hard for me to see that. I really had no right to react that way, we both hate eachother now, and we never even got close to dating (he didnt like me like that) so it was stupid that it affected me. Especially, since I have a new crush that likes me back and it's going good.
Now I just can't wait to graduate, get away from this guy.
But are there any tips on making it easier until then (there's more than a year left!)? Something I should say to him maybe?
[dont want to confess my feelings, since they're in the past - i AM over him. Don't want to tell him i regret losing him as a friend - but any other suggestions would be great, cause I feel so weak around him. Both physically AND mentally]
Thank you if you actually read all that!
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you're not over him. if you were over him, you wouldn't feel this way around him.
honestly, I think he's just a guy and you shouldn't schedule your life around him.
Find a friend or a hobby to take up your time... have you had fun at all while you were thinking about him?
High school is almost over for you, then you'll be an adult. Have fun now.
Find something that makes you forget about Simon, because you can't choke up every time you see him- it's sucking your life away.
From my point of view, it sounds like you're not over the fact that you've lost a friend, so if you want to talk to him you should, but, really- find something to do with your time.
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k so about a month ago or maybe less than a month my boyfriend was fingering me and still has been. but afterwards i had really bad cramps and my stomach felt really tight and i'd bleed a little. and i know that the cramps werent my period because that wasnt until the 19th and it was still a ways away. but when the 18th came i thought i started my period cause there was blood so i put a tampon in. (he hadnt fingered me that night i dont think) but anyways that was the only blood there ever was.. and the tampon wasnt even full. and usually i last for like 4 or 5 days with a decent amount of blood. i heard that physical activity and advil will help slow blood down and that week was cheer clinics for me and i took a buttload of advil because i didnt want cramps during clincis or tryouts.. so could that of had some effect on it? ive been really onerey lately and i still have cramps and stuff... whats going on? (link)
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I don't know what's going on with your body and our period, but your boyfriend needs to stop fingering you.
That is just wrong.
Guys often say they love you only because they want to have sex with you.
Love is when someone will sacrifice what they want for you.
Please tell your boyfriend to back off before you end up getting hurt.
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help! i need christian songs with a good beat.
thanks. (link)
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Superchic[k] is definitely your best bet!
I love them!
They are my favorite band!
They have fast tunes, and very good beats. Their style ranges, too.
If you like bass or funk, try Hyper Static Union
I also like Relient K, but if anyone wanted to ask me what my fave band was, I'd say "Superchick!! And Hyper Static Union"
(Christian) ROCK ON!
ps
I found some of my fave songs by listening to www.christianrock.net
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I ordered some underwear online at Victoria's Secret, but then I wanted to check the order status but I forgot my username and password (I'll remember the password, just not the username)
So is there anyways that I can remember my usename? Is it the same as my email? (link)
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try all the usernames you use or have ever used.
did you write it down on a piece of paper?
also, go to the forget password link to see if they will also email you your username if you forgot it.
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okay i think i need to see a counselor but i have no way to tell my mom..she has suggested it a couple of times but i never said yeah and so i think i seriously need to see one and i think i have depresssion. anyways i have thought a lot about suicide and i cant take any more problems in my life it's just all going down hill and school just sucks and my friends are kind of annoying me and i think they just bring more problems from me...well some...not a couple though. also i have this temptation just to start up drugs thinking it'll make me feel better...but something has always stopped me from the rugs and killing myself. also i really like being alone a lot and not hanging out with people. i only like hanging out with one of my friends other than that i cant even share my problems with my friends. another thing thats wrong with me is that i always tend to blame everything on myself and i cant help that...then if i blame one thing on me i just bust out crying cause i think about every other thing that i have done wrong in my life. so i guess i think i have no use in life bcause i cant do anything right in life and everybody seems to yell at me....and i hate it when people tell me i dont talk much in school...i dont feel like talking and then i get all upset...and i guess im just asking you all if it sounds like i suffering from anything and ways to tell my mom about a counselor. btw i have cut myself a couple of times but i dont like that so i just use a rubberband on my arm to take away the pain. and if it helps i am 15/female. thank you a bunch for any help on this (link)
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First thing- suicide is NOT answer
Second- neither is drugs
Suicide is a permanent "solution" to a temporary problem and drugs will just make you feel even more crappy after the high is over. if your friends realyl are bringing you down, then don't hang with them.
seeing a counselor is definitely something you should look into. next time your mom asks, say yes. actually, don't even wait for her to ask.
also, go to a doctor and see if he recommends any antidepression medicine.
whatever you do, don't hill yourself.
you're only 15!!
you're life is just beginning, take it from a 14 year old.
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Well, I broke up with my boyfriend a few days ago, but yeah. We were going out for about 2 months, and this guy who is Junior, told me that he has a "crush" on me, and everybody now thinks that I broke up with my ex for this guy. The truth is, I didn't, and he told me this at a party, and everybody was playing spin the bottle, and then I landed on him, so he kissed me, and I was like: WTF. But, my ex found out about this and called me a whore yesterday, while I was out for Halloween. And now, the guy who is a junior said that he'd "go after" this kid, and I'm kinda... Happy about it.
I know it sounds bad, but this junior is said to ask me out, I figure he's kinda violent, but he's really nice to me. And what should I do about the "whore" thing? (link)
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no one has the right to call you a whore.
question- why DID you break up with your boyfriend? maybe it's because deep down you do like junior.
i say don't go out with him (or anybody) for awhile so that way you won't seem like a whore.
and set it straight with your ex. tell him that you don't liek junior and you really don't appreciate him calling you a whore thank you very much!
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okay im 19 and pregnant. the thing is i dont know who the father is bc i sort of go drunk one night & slept with my friend's sisters boyfriend. but the week before i slept with my friend's best friend which he knows about that one but not about his sisters boyfriend! i dont know what to do! any advice please!? (link)
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On one hand I feel really sorry for you and wish I knew of a really good place who does DNA testing.
On the other hand, I feel like yelling and screaming because you are
1) way too young to drink (it's not even legal)
2) too young to be preganant
3) supposed to wait for marriage to have sex.
But I will not yell. Since you are in fact in this predicament, my first piece of advice is:
DO NOT GET AN ABORTION.
That is all I am going to say on that topic.
Definitely tell people you're pregnant
like your parents, friends, and the guys you slept with. Yes I know that will be hard since you don't know who the father is, but there will be two people rooting for you through all of it.
Me and God.
and don't forget that ultimately, God is in control and that He is the one and true Father.
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does any1 know where i can get the full version of aaron carter jump jump? bcoz ive looked everywhere but i can only find the one that is 1min 34seconds long and stops before the rap part. (link)
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Try getting his CD.
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I'm a 15 y.o. freshman girl and boys don't really talk to me. I'm sort of shy and quiet in class, so I may come off as snobby or unapproachable. I'm only shy and quiet because I'm afraid they don't like me. I don't think I'm ugly or anything, so I dunno. Should I talk to them? What are some good conversation starters? How can I be more outgoing? (link)
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For starters, a really great confidence tip that can help you not be so shy is get pumped up before school everyday. Put a catchy tune on as you get dressed or take a shower or ride in the car and sing along with it.
Queit in class is a good thing, but if you know the answe to a question go ahead and speak up. And if someone makes a joke and everyone else is laughing but you, laugh. It's the little things that you do to join in with everybody else (legal things of course) that makes more guys notice you.
But then again, it's all different for everybody. Some guys like the gals who are quiet and unapproachable. Makes them want to approach you. Some guys like a girl who does all the work so they don't have to.
(I personally think those guys are just lazy pigs and that guys are supposed to pursue the girl, but, it's all different for everyone.)
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ok so...
me and my boyfreind hang out a lot and well its always awkward like after hes done fingering me or something like that...like i dont know what to say or what to do or everything like that. soo does any one have any pointers? (link)
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OK.
I'm guessing you don't feel very comfortable when he fingers you. Especially if it's in private places.
If you don't want him to do it, very gently ask him if he would please stop because it's making you incomfortable and you don't want to go that fast yet. If he's really a good guy, he'll say OK and back off. If not, then I fear he is only looking out for one thing.
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i am 13/f, and i think my boyfriend has a crush on my bestfriend. he is always hanging out with her. he actually spends more time with her than me. when i talk to her she says that she'll try to stop but she never does. the worst thing is that she has a boyfriend already. ive talked to him and he isnt comfortable with it either! what should i do? (link)
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I agree with AlwaysOnlove!!!!!
If he's cheating (and ur bff) then they wouldn't tell you!!!!!
See, this is what happens when people date too young..... *shakes head sadly*
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my modeling manager wants me to be in the magazine MAXIM. i am 14, do you think this is weird?
he says its good for exposure since i am just starting. (link)
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OMG. no this is NOT a good idea!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Modeling photographer/managers/agents shouldn't tell young people to pose for a very Adult magazine!!!!
That is wayyyyyyyy to inmodest for someone your age........ and I'm not so sure your manager is the real thing.
Where'd you get 'em at? Online??
Ever heard of spamming people?
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ok, this is really confusing but here we go. Since October I have sort of had this thing for this one guy. But I didn't really tell any body and now i found out that one of my other friends likes him too and i promised her i wouldn't mess it up, thats not who I am. I asked him if he liked her and he doesn't, i actually heard that he likes me. But then a few days ago this other guy text me saying he liked me. He is not a bad guy but i don't like him in that way. But i think i might have led him to think that i was interested in him. There is no way that anybody could not get hurt and I really don't want to hurt anybody. What should I do?? Luv Megz2009 (link)
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If you don't like the guy that texted you, then let him know that he is very nice to like you and you think he's a great guy but you don't want to go out but you would love to have him as a friend and that maybe your feelings might change.
As for the guy you and your friend like, yes, you liked him first but your friendship is way more important than a boy.
Let your friend know that you love her and you never want anything to come between you two, but tell her that you like the boy and tell her you won't ask him out but ask her to understand if he asks you out.
Is that confusing?
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ok i live in new orleans. my dad came to help fix my house. well he started to have stomach pains. we found out he has livier cancer cause he is an acholic. well he will die anyday now. well now my grades are sinking and my mom hardly lets me on the computer we go to consuling but they still cant fingure me out. i can hardly fingure myself out. my dad now always screams at me cause he is in a bad mood and it imbaresss me what should i do? i cry every nitee (link)
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Okay, you want the reason why your grades are sinking?
Because you are worried about your dad. You love you dad and would hate to see him die. Yes, counseling is good but you're not going to do better if you don't want.
Think of it like this, you want to get good grades to make your dad proud of you because you want him to be happy during his last days on earth.
So, put your mind to it and get some homework done!
You also said your dad was an alcoholic.... you might want to try AA meetings if he is still drinking.
As for liver cancer, I don't know.
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