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am i really a slut?
im 14, neerly 15 nad a girl and was jst wanting to ask if i am a slut. coz a few gurls in my school keep callin my that, and a few boys. well a few months ago i had my first experiance with sex. i was at a boys house with two of his mates and we started messing around, and i gave my first blowjobs to them. and cuple of weeks later i had sex with one of them and now were going out as a cuple, but still hanging out with his mates. some of d gurls in ma school hav had sex too but they r callin me a slut, n ma bf ses it sumtyms when im going down on him. i dont get it coz ppl dont call those girls sluts. am i really a slut?
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I don't think you are. Not a slut anyways. A slut's like a person who has sex with MANY people, cheating and cheating over and over again with different people. You gave the blowjobs BEFORE you were in a relationships...so, technically, that doesn't make you a slut. Just don't listen to them. And don't spread rumors about your sexual life either! If you have protected sex, perhaps you're not a slut. Just don't make anything too public. Good luck.
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Whoa! Quite a mix of "advice" you are getting here. I have to say that I disagree that as one person claimed, "Well, technically, the term "Slut" applies to anyone who has sex before marriage, so I guess you would fit under that category." This is simply her opinion, but when anyone makes such a judgement about anyone else's actions or "morality" it is merely opinion. The real question is who do you think you are? Our behavior sends a message about who we are, but we can also change our behavior to match our internal feelings about who we want to be in the future. Everyone makes mistakes in life, and it sounds like you may be regretting the free rounds of oral sex with guys who don't respect you. The best way to get this behind you is to make it clear that you won't let this one time thing become habit. Now, about the "boyfriend." Tell him that he needs to stop calling you a slut and start treating you with respect and kindness. If he is just using you for sexual favors, you need to end the "relationship." As far as I am concerned, you were taken advantage of and you are the only one who can stop it.
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Well, a "slut" is usually referred to a girl who's "easy." And I'm not saying you are one, but you gave 3 boys blowjobs in one night? And had sex with one of them couple weeks after? THEN you became a couple?
I'm not gunna lie whatsoever, you're freaking 14 years old, and already did that shit with boys who you weren't even with. I understand having a "good time" but goddamn. >_> I'm not one of those girls whose into the whole "You're a sinner if you have sex before marriage" but it's just really the fact that you had sex with boys you evidently didn't feel you "loved" or anything?
Maybe that's why the girls are calling you a "slut," just because it seemed like the guys you were with were just kind of random and there. o_O' And your boyfriend sounds like a suckass one too. A boyfriend doesn't refer to his own girlfriend as a "slut" I say get a new one but whatever floats yo boat.
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no your not you just made an wrong decision they problem call you a slut because you did both or a few you know maybe your not a slut but you did make a wrong decision just try to make better decisions the next time and tell all the other gurls to stop hating and mind there busniess
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im guessing that theyre calling you a slut because you gave bjs to 3 different guys all in a row. you werent going out with any of them at the time or anything. if you had just done it to one guy they probably wouldnt be calling you that.
now that youre actually going out with one of the guys.. that makes it more socially acceptable to have sex with him.
so dont worry about what anyone says and just be comfortable with who you are.
and next time--- dont do anything you dont want everyone to find out about.
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Okay well i would undertsna why they call you a slut. i mean haveing sex is one thing but you did it to people like friends random people kind of. Meaning your [no effence] easy to have sex with. so kind of because it's like you'de give it to anyone. but having sex is usually with a person you "love" but giveing it to random people is kind of the meaning of slut. even if you know them slut means you have sex with guy for money. but the money part sn't true but you have sex with alot of guys. well says in yuur uhh Question. Plus the other girls they not slut cuz they probably did it with 1 person hey truley loved or did it with like a really relly really close friend. But if you admit you fooled around with a few boys and you had sex with one or two of them and you'de kind of give it anyone yea.. people would call you a slut. Sorry if i'm like insulting you i'm just really telling the truth.
sincerly,
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but dunt let it bother you. who cares if your labelled go on with your life and they'll go on with theirs.
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Don't be too quick to label yourself. Sometimes, these things can be self-fulfilling.
You did make a mistake. Fourteen is too young to be having sex, including oral. In addition, if I'm reading your letter right, you gave oral sex to three boys at pretty much the same time. This is pretty much the definition of "slutty" behavior: a girl who is indiscriminate about her sex partners. My guess is that one or more of them talked about it and the story got out.
So, I would have to say that you made your bed and now you're sleeping in it. You indulged in "slutty" behavior, and so that is how people are defining you. It is not how you must define yourself, however. You made one mistake; you don't have to let that mistake determine who you are.
One thing I would recommend is to find a new boyfriend. He seems to be the sort of guy who gets off on having a "slut" for a girlfriend; the reason why he's calling you this while you're going down on him is because the idea of it gets him excited. And because of that, he's probably encouraging your reputation as a "slut", and may even try to get you to do things that will enhance that. To put it mildly, this guy is not good for you.
Unfortunately, some of the damage is done, and you might not be able to shake this label for as long as you're in high school. If you want to be able to re-identify yourself later on, though, you'll want to start changing your behaviors now.
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Well, technically, the term "Slut" applies to anyone who has sex before marriage, so I guess you would fit under that category.
But it's still an awful and disrespectful thing to say to someone, especially if you aren't one. I'm 14, a virgin, and plan on keeping it that way until my wedding night. And yet even I have been called a slut (Once by a complete stranger, which was quite frankly WEIRD) so don't take those girls too seriously, they're all hypocrites anyway.
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well, I don't know very much about what makes you a slut, but I do know that it is a very disrespectful thing to be called.
I don't think they'll stop calling you a slut, but don't let it get to you... they're just saying whatever they can to try to hurt you.
May I add my opinion?
I feel so bad that you're only 14 and have already had sex with more than one guy.
I'm 15, a virgin, and proud!
Sex is supposed to be something between a man and his wife.
I am waiting for marriage, and I hope to try and tell others why they might want to wait also.
I just don't think you should go around having a lot of sex. There's risks.
That's all.
I'm not judging you or criticizing you, okay?
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