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Hi. My name is Kaylin. But I'd prefer if you called me Captain Hitsugaya. Please and thank you!
I hope I can help you with your questions!

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my friend and i were at his house with all my other friends but then he told them to go away so that he could dye my hair. i was really wet when i first got there so he lent me a t shirt and boxers to wear. so when they got out of the house we were alond in his room and he kinda started feeling me and put his hands on my waist. he was all over me and even tried to finger me. he was lifting up my shirt but then i was like what are you doing?? you have a girlfriend!!!! so it kinda ended there but i dont know what to do because i really like him. the thing is maybe he doesnt like me but just wants to do stuff with me. ugh what do i do??

You will never now how he feels until you talk to him.
If he likes you tell him you like him and then he'll break up with his girlfriend for you.
If he does then tell him he can't do that again.
and if he doesn't do what you tell him,he shouldn't be able to talk to you.

~Hitsugaya~

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About 2 weeks ago my xboyfriend said he wanted to be friends and I was fine with that. We broke up about 4 weeks ago but ever since we had been friends he been wanting to have sex

You need to tell him it is over and that if he can't be friends and only friends,you can't even be that.
If you still love him then tell him that he should be with you if he wants to do that kind of stuff.
If you aren't even ready to have sex,tell him. If he doesn't respect that,ditch him. He's not who you want to hang with.

~Hitsugaya~

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okay, so this boy really likes me and we've talked alot over the summer and he wants to go out with me when i get back from vacation. hes a lot more experienced then me and ive never had a real boyfriend before. ive been asked out many times but ive just been able to say no. i really like this kid and i was wondering what to say when he asks me out. like do i say, yes, yeah, of course? what? please help!!! i rate high for good answers!

It may seem scary but when it comes up say the first thing that comes to mind. Don't worry about sounding like an idiot.A guy likes a girl to be herself.And if he doesn't want to go out with you because you may have said something dorky,he's not worth your time.

~Hitsugaya~

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Hey I have a question about clothes. What kind of clothes should I wear to be more attractive to girls. I have most of the basics of dress down but just wanted some tips. Any advice is appreciated. 16/M

That depends on what kind of girl you want. (Such as goth=goth clothes,prep=prep clothes,etc.)
Some things are a given though. Don't just focuse on your clothes though. Girls like guys that have nice body and clothes that show them off without the guy looking gay.
If you plan a date with a girl,wear a suit without a tie. Girls like the idea of a really romantic date and suits and tuxes go with that.
Unless you happen to just be hanging out somewhere. But I mean a real date.Not just hanging out.

~Hitsugaya~

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sorry if this is long but it's making me so upset.

so i went out with 'tom' for almost a year and a half. it was good in the beginning but after awhile i began to like him less and less. it came to the point that the last few months i couldn't even stand him and he was annoying and i ended up always being mean to him because of this. well, while we were going out, there was this girl at work and they always flirted with eachother. in his yearbook she signed a full page saying how much of a best friend he was, and i love you about 10 times atleast. i was there when he was reading it and he just had the biggest smile on his face. he always had stories about her and i asked him, why do you always talk about her. and all he said was because he worked with her. he used to call me right when we got home from school, at 2:30, but for the last few months the only time we would talk (if he worked) was 3 minutes while he was on his way to work. then, one day i saw him walking and he had a big smile on his face, talking on the phone with someone. this was the same day i read the yearbook. i told my friend, if he's talking to 'kayla', i'm going to be so pissed off. and i call him, and im like so who were you talking to, "oh, kayla." oh, why? "i just wanted to know who we were working with today" .. oh okay.
seriously, he couldn't wait two hours to SEE who he was working with? did it really matter that much. okay so moving on. i started to get really annoyed by him, so i knew it had to be done because i was wasting both our time, and i dumped him. well he was all like we should stay friends and not stop talking and blah blah blah. well we were okay with calling every couple days, not really serious, and talking. then we stopped talking for a week or more. (i dumped him around 3 weeks ago). so i saw this girl that works with him, and i was told that he went on a DATE with kayla. i was so pissed off. seriously, i knew that they liked eachother WHEN we were going out. oh yeah, and while we were going out, she had a boyfriend that she's been going out for almost TWO YEARS. and a few days ago, they broke up. imagine the coincidence? now we barely talk anymore, and i was kind of talking to him online and he's all like "you were so mean to me for the last 3 months and i know you were serious even though you say you were just kidding. that's why i'm almost over you" this is coming from the kid that was head over heals for me (not to sound conceited), and was so upset when i wanted to on a break. it's been two weeks after our year and a half relationship, and he's already dating some girl. i'm so upset about this. i even told my friends, even if he went out with the prettiest girl in the world, or even one of my FRIENDS, i wouldn't care as much. it's just the fact that it was her. it's not like i like him anymore, maybe i do .. but i thought i didn't for MONTHS at a time. i want to not care anymore, but it's killing me just knowing that they like eachother and it's over. i don't know what to do. we barely talk anymore, it's all her now. how can i stop caring so much, and move on?

Oh. Girl you are so much better then him!
He's a jerk.The more you realize that,the better you will feel.
And if you come to grips with the fact that he no longer likes you,there is nothing you can do about it.It may not want to be what you want to hear but it will help you feel better and move on.
Find a guy better than him.Be single for awhile and get to know yourself and what you want in a guy. Learn from it and pick yourself up.Then find a guy that is way better than him!

~Hitsugaya~

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so i was in the doctors office and i was reading this magazine called more or something like that
and it said what is it like: listed a bunch of random topics and one was to give birth to your own grandson. of course it really meant a womans daughter had lupus after 4 miscarriages so they planted the fertilized egg in her but this made me wonder.. could somebody get their own mother pregnant?
i would think you could but i wasnt really sure

You could but the baby would be deformed or impaired somehow. Instead of taking half from the mom and half from the dad,it takes more from the mom. Because the son would already have half the mother in him.So it would be off balance.

~Hitsugaya~

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I cut myself.
I'm currently in therapy and getting help.
My parents don't know about it.
They don't need to know about my cutting. I'm getting help. And I'd really rather they never found out.

If anyone has ideas on how to hide the cuts, please tell me.

I used to cut too.I'm sorry.
You should really tell your parents though. You might be able to tell them what's up.
But if you wanna hide it,wear long sleeve shirts. Or when you are around your parents,cross your arms. Any time your parents are around,be cautious of the marks.

~Hitsugaya~
p.s. I really hope the help works. You have my support.If you ever need to talk,I am here if ya need someone.

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[14/f] my parents are divorced my dad is a great man, works 5 days a week and has been doing the same job for 13 yrs. My mother on the other hand has never been able to keep the same job for at least 2 weeks, and im not lying on that one. she has been going to College for 6 yrs. and hasnt even gotten her bachelors degree yet! Because she keeps changing her mind on "what she wants to be when she gets older" Well when she told me that she would be transferring AGAIN but this time to get her masters degree. I flipped! she was like whats wrong and i told her, YOU NEED TO GET A JOB! and you need to DECIDE WHAT YOU WANNA MAYJOR IN!!! im sick of it. Soo a day later she tells me i thought about what you said and im gonna start my own buisness selling pottery,(pottery is her hobby) and in my head i was thinking all i wanted her to do was get a little part time job maybe at like borders or something. Soo im like whatever i give up. Then i go away on vacation for 10 days come back and she throws on me, by the way i filled out a job application for Urbana Library (a library in my dad's neighborhood!!!!!) AHHHH i dont know what to do, someone please HELP ME! I want my mom to have a job BUT not one in my dad's neighborhood!, i mean one of the reason's why i like to come to my dad's house is to get AWAY from her, if you can't tell we dont get a long at all...i dont know what to do, please ANYTHING would help at this point, even just support. Thank you =]

well you can't do anthing about her behavior.And it's not your fault she does that.And I'm sure your Mom will be busy with her job and she won't bother you.I live with my Dad. I love him alot. My Mom works in the same neighbor hood as us. But it works out pretty good. So,I'm sure it won't be too bad.
And if that fails you can hang out with your friends alot more.That way,you won't have to be with her.
I'm really sorry it has to be like that.

~Hitsugaya~

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Ok..im 17/F and ive never had a boyfriend..i have been on some first dates but didnt want to take it any furthur. My friends are making me feel bad because all they talk about is there boyfriends..i mean..thats ALL THEY TALK ABOUT and it makes me feel bad about myself..i dont know if they do it intentionally because htey know ive never had one or they just dont know theyre doing it? What do you think about this and am i just a freak that ive never had a bf?

Your friends aren't trying to hurt you.When you are going out with someone,all you want to talk about is that person. So it's nothing personal.
And you need to try going on more than one date. You might be pushing away guys yourself.

~Hitsugaya~

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I have a problem saying thank you to people older then me..I don't know why it's not like I have a grudge or something it's just that it jsut doesn't come out.

I used to say thank you in school to everyone and the teachers everytime they hand me a peice of paper but now when people give me something the word thank you won't come out. =S

Liek as a treat, the teacher handed us candy and I couldnt' say thank you and it really slipped off the back of my mind

I really wanted to thank my mom for walking all the wya to the drug store to get me cough drops when i was sick but i dunno..the word just won't come out

Try practiceing saying it in the mirror. Then next time someone older than you helps you,say thank you. It may sound akward to you,but if you do it enough you'll get used to it. It may take awhile and it may be kind of hard to start all the sudden,but if try hard enough I'm dure you can do it!

~Hitsugaya~

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How do I stop my friend from having sex with the same guy over and over?

If you have already talked to her about it,then just let it happen. There is not much you can do about it.You may not like it,but it is her choice. You cannot control her and she will do it behind your back even if she says she'll stop.
So the best you can do is just be there for here. When it all goes wrong just be there for her,letting her cry on your shoulder. It's kind of a silent, "I told you so."

~Hitsugaya~

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my bf said he likes to be kissed on the neck.. um, yeah.. how am i supposed to do that? haha

Do it when he doesn't really see it coming.
When he turns his neck up,give him a romantic peck on the neck and that should do the trick.
And if you want you can even give him a serious of kisses which would be better and he would like it more.

~Hitsugaya~

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can you go into the ocean with a tampon?
i really wanan go to the beach today.
or will the tampon like fall out or something? haha && after i get out of the ocean should i change the tampon? please reply asap and thanks for reading =]

No it wouldn't fall out.
And you should change tampons every 3 hours at the maximum.
So if you swim for more than 3 hours you should take it out.
If you don't,it'll expand too much and will hurt alot when you try to take it out.

~Hitsugaya~

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this is me: im 13 im only a small bit over average height, i have slightly tanned skin, im pretty thin, i have short spikey dark blond hair, i skate, i play football, i have a deep voice, i like to wear boards shorts, flip-flops, tee shirts and caps. i wear abercrombie and hollister.i like to play sport and im easy to talk to.

I don't see why a girl already doesn't.
Just give things time and focuse on other things.
And if you like a girl,get to know her.Then go for it.
~Hitsugaya~

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I need help big time. but thing is if I writ it down be very long, I been having problem with couple of my friends and one guy friend. and yet that i had this problem over 2 years now. and i like maybe it ok i really like talk somone over email or yahoo offline chat, part of it is me beocuse I havea a huge habit.. thanks

sure my e-mail and yahoo messanger is kyo_13_neko@sbcglobal.net
i look forward to maybe hearing from you!

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would you consider slow dancing with another girl cheating?

no

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alright so last night i asked my boyfriend if he was ever in love and he said yeah and i was like do you still have feelings for her? and he was like i always will but its was over along time ago and always will be.

so in a way that got me thinking would he ever love me?
or always lover her?

what if she ever came back, would he leave me for her?
even though it was along time ago.

no,he loves you.
what he means by he still has feelings for her is that when he thinks about her,it's still with alot of feeling.
but he still has feelings for you that will grow.
and he would not want to leave you because of those feelings.

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I love spending all of my time at the beach. You might think it's because of the waves (which I do surf) or the soft sand, but it's not. I love it there because of one of the lifeguards. His name is Cameron and he is ADORABLE! I don't know what to do to get his attention. I walk by him all the time and try not to make it obvious but I really want him to hang out with me.

I also want to have more guy friends. Does anyone have some tips for this coming school year on how to behave or what to do? DON'T SAY "BE YOURSELF!"
thanks

even though it's not what you want to hear,being yourself is part of it.
you have to be able to treat you guy friends like a human instead of a male. ya know what i'm sayin? take away the fact that the guy is not of the same gender.
there are,however,a few rules.
1.do not talk about your period,EVER!!!! guys do not want to hear about it.
2.when you tell him a story about something that happened,make it a minute or less. You don't have to tell him every detail.just the main points.

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i'm 15/female

i'm scared incase my friends think i'm a lesbian,..i'm not u am straight,..but i just have a funny feeling they all think i am and because of this when i talk to them i always make sure i look at their eyes incase like i look them up and down,...but i can't remember why i started thinking this cos before i never bothered at all but now its like when ever i'm near them i'm scared to look at anywhere other than their eyes incase they think i'm a lesbian

why am i like this
i no i'm not a lesbian i love boys wayy to much

i'm just confused

don't worry about what your friends think. if they think you are they aren't really your friends.you should talk to them!
approach it carefully though! your friends might think you are accusing them.
and if they say yes they think you are tell them you are not.if they do not believe you,then ditch them. why be friends with somebody who doesn't accept all of you?

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last report card graidng i got all bs and one a . im going into 8th grade and i want to get all A's for hs. im not to smart and im a procrastinator.. i ddi really bad i think getting all bs and one a and so i wanna no ANY tips to make me do better at all. with any subject or in general. thanks SOO much!

you could ask your teachers for extra credit. and then do your work. if you have homework due in 1st hour that you haven't finished,you should do it before school begans and during the anoucements. Even if you don't finish you might get A's.
You can also try studing for tests.they count more than homework(espcially in math).

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