My names Sam and I live in Georgia. I feel that I give good advice or I wouldn't be doing this. Sometimes I'm feeling sympathetic but a lot of the time I can be kind of blunt. That doesn't mean that I don't care, it just means that the truth isn't always what you want to hear. If it's a complicated question, about relationships and such, please IM me its a lot easier to work out that way. If you leave one in my inbox it will most likely be responded to by a question and a shot in the dark so include as much info as possible.
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ok, in school theres cross country and track. track is going to be in the spring. but i want to get fit for cross country. im a great runner but i want to know more thins. if you are a runner please give me tips on ANYTHING! thanx so much (link)
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Drink lots of water. I know its a little nasty, but the easiest way to tell if you are hydrated enough is the color of your urine. If it's yellow, you need lots more, if its pale yellow you need more still, if its clear, your good to go. Stretch all your major muscle groups and tendons before you run. Also, start out at about 70% of your training pace. Like if I go for an 8 mile run, I will run the first mile in 8:30 or so, and the rest in 7:15. This helps warm up your muscles. Also after your done, walk around in stead of sitting down. Maybe even run an additional mile very very slow. I run mine about 9:00. This keeps your muscles from getting too tight. If you want to get your legs in good shape, try riding a bike, I did it a lot this summer and was amazed at how much faster I got. Hmm, try to keep your shoulders and elbows relaxed, and don't tense up your ankles. If you want to go faster try lengthening up your stride. It makes you use different muscle groups. I know they suck, but try to put hills into your runs, closer to the end. Just remember, the more you want to stop, the better it is if you keep on going. Unless of course you start getting chills, or if your joints are starting to hurt, then stop. I dont know if you can tell, but I know a good bit about running, drop one in my inbox if you have any more questions, or just to tell me how your trainings going.
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what are some things u can say when ur talkin to ur crush and u wana keep the conversation going but he stopped talkin n theres nothing to say....plz help (link)
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I'm a guy, but I think I can help. I just tried this one with a girl today, we were talking online for about an hour and then we just stopped talking for like 10 mins, then i just randomly said something, like shut up, or thats funny, she made some comment and we've been talking for the last. Damn, its almost 11:00. I gotta go to bed, school tomorrow, peace.
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I am a 15 year old female, and i have been having a lot of sex in the past two years. Im not pregnant but i havent had my period in 2 months i have been throwing up in the morning. Im not sure i dont want to tell my mom but i don't know what to do PLEASE HELP!
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tell your mom, and she'll probably make you see a gyno. Even if you don't think your pregnant, tests can be wrong, so I'd give up any kind of drugs, that includes alchohol and tobacco products, until you get this sorted out. Good luck, having sex in abundance especially at 15 is stupid, but i hope your not pregnant, you deserve it, but the baby doesn't.
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I would like to thank y'all in advance before you read this. It's probably rather long just because I think you need a little backround information about me... Good luck and thanks if you give me advice... I'll rate you high for this one (That sounds like a bribe)... ANYWAY... I'm having kind of a friend/idenity crisis. First off.. I use to NEVER hang out with girls. I was always one of the guys until 8th grade (I am not going into 10) When I grew boobs, had a NICE body, and was the captian of the competition cheerleading sqaud of my middle school. I had everything I wanted... I was beautiful, and popular (Shalow.. I know) Then, I didn't even make the high school cheerleading sqaud and I was kind of at an all time low. It was one of the most depressing time periods ever for me. That summer I gained 30 pounds and had no friends except my boyfriend. Luckily, I had my boyfriend there for me, which is still with me. At the begining of my freshman year I told my boyfriend how I was kind of nervous about going back to school because of my drastic change. So he told me I should hang out with girls. And so I did. I found a group of girls to hang out with. Turns out the year before I had bad thoughts about them but once I got to know them they werent what I really thought... (big lesson you all... don't jugde) Anyway, So that year was okay. I had girlfriends and stuff.. But I was kinda over weight and feeling really crummy about myself. But I wasn't gunna let that get me down... So I decided to get in something to take the place of my lifetime love, cheerleading. I became an active member in student council. There I became class president, And now I am student body president. I kinda prefer this position over cheerleading. ANYWAY... back to my friends... This summer was kind of weird with my girl friends position. I was happy i had girls to talk to about girl stuff and do girl things with. My boyfriend was happy too. So this summer I started big with TONS of partys and tons of drinking. Me and my girlfriends had a riot. But then I went to 3 leadership camps and decided that I wanted to be a role modle. So i stoped smoking, and drinking, and the parties. Well after I didn't want to do that my girl friends kind of left me behind even though we were really close. We barely talk anymore... And if we do its because they don't have anything else better to do and they wanna chill because they're bored. I know my possibilities.... I know my position.... I know what I can do... But what do y'all think about my position? About me? And what I should do.. Thanks (link)
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I'm kind of having the same thing right now. I've been involved in softcore drugs now for almost 3 years, alchohol, weed, dusters, shrooms, those are softcore drugs, hardcore would be like coke and heroine. Anyways, now im trying to turn my life around, but every time i get close, I lose a lot of my friends. You can try hanging with people that are more concerened about their future, but you have to consider the other option, I mean, having fun now might mean your not as healthy later on, but how much fun does a 60 year old have anyways? I say have fun while you can, but remember to keep school in check.
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I keep making myself throw up in the shower and my boyfriend just broke up with me but i dont think im fat or anything whats wrong with me? Am i bilemic? i dont think im fat... but i am kinda suicidal and i do cut myself sometimes.... is it just a way for pain or what... someone help me out!! (link)
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if you make yourself throw up then you are. You should stop, the acids in your stomach can eat through your espophogas over time and cause serious health problems.
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i hated life for a long time and i try painless ways to kill myself like pills but it doesnt work i cut myself a few times but im so fed up wit life i dont kno what to do...im only 13 and i have to much 2 handle in my life...i see all of my friends layd back and stuff and i cry..when i talk to people they only tell me the same thing(well think of your mother and how she feels much worse-my moms got cancer-yea i knoo that there's more to the story but im not gonna talk about it but everything rests on my shoulder)..i dont kno what to do..if no1 helps me u'll be seein me one the news--"13yr old from massachussets committed suicied yesturday"
'i cry everynight and even though there r people out there who r less fortunate than me-yea i feel bad- but im npt used to it...hellllp me please (link)
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Personally, I think you should reconsider the whole suicide thing. I was 13 not too long ago and I thought about suicide, and so did some of my friends, (i didnt find this out til recently), i think its just part of being 13. It must just be an extrememly emotional age. You don't want to kill yourself, your young, and in a year or two you'll be out having the best time of your life, but for now just try to smile, remember your friends are there for you, and don't let anything get you too down.
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ok,i'm 13, 5 2 and 110 lbs. i already do situps and i'm on a soccer team. how can i lose lyk 5 to 10 lbs? plz help! ~***I RATE***~ (link)
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Just watch what you eat and it will come off slowly. Also, make sure you eat enough, if you eat too little, your body starts going into starvation mode and conserves almost everything you eat into fat. Try to look on lables and avoid things really high in saturated fats. If your into sports, don't go on a low carb diet. Your body uses carbs for energy during physical activity. Also, in endurance situations, your body uses carbs to help it burn fat as another energy source.
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hey my name is kate and i have a problem ...okay well i ride horses and this gives me alot of muscle in my legs and my stomach and arms and muscle is heavier then fat ..so ne ways i was at my friends house well call her "Jenna" and she saw the scale and it was kinda high for our age so she started calling me fat and stuff and i told her "jenna" look its all muscle frum riding my horse ! but she wont listen ! wut shud i do ?please help (link)
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She's just messing with you. Just tell her to shut up and make fun of her too. It's just having fun, don't get worked up about it.
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ok theres this guy i like and eeryone says he likes me but i dont know if he does..and he always goes over to my friends house((we'll call her jennie)) and jennie says that he like me alot but the guy((we'll call him bobby))always flirts with me and hits my butt and stuff..can someone tell me a way that i can turn him on without goin to far..? (link)
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Yeah, just flirt with him. I mean, it's obvious that he likes you and you like him, so you can just make sure you laugh when he makes jokes, smile at him, and try to make eye contact with him. Also, it doesn't hurt to make fun of him a little bit. Just remember I said a little bit.
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ok im 16 but im on my lil cousins user name. i got this big butt. nd i tried everything. cuz i dont want this big butt. cuz like in the summer time wen i wear a bathin suit its gross. i mean im not fat wutz so ever. i exercise but it doesnt seem to work. if u kno how to help me make my butt smaller than thanks. (link)
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It depends, if your butt is firm then all you can do is make sure you don't do too many squats, but if theres still some flab back there, You can do squats to give it more definition and shape, but it might make it slightly bigger. Diet and exercise is about your only option, just try to do things that incorporate your lower body in your exercise (running, biking, hiking, etc.)
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Ok, over the past few weeks a lot has been going on. I'm fixing to make some big transactions and I'm going to have to leave a lot of my close friends behined to move to a different location. Something that's always been very hard for me, is dealing with CHANGE. I know it's like that for a lot of people, nobody really likes change yeah yeah. But I always get extremely depressed when I have to change things in big ways, especially if I love the way my life is going. I just feel like everything is going to fall apart. So, I guess what my question is, is has anyone ever had a hard time with change, and overcame it.. if yes, then how so.. I mean if there even is an awnser.
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I do it every year. I vacation for a month in my favorite spot, all of my best friends, the coolest girls, everything is better there. It's almost like moving away when I come home every year. I just talk to them online and promise to come up as soon as I possibly can. I also dish out about $150 a month in long distance telephone calls, lol. If things get too bad, ask your friends to come visit you when they can, or start saving up money to go back for a holiday.
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one night i got really drunk and i was talking to this kid justin (who wasnt drunk) then i feel asleep and i wake up and im naked and hes ontop of me on the bed and hes naked and as soon as he saw me wake up he ran into the other room...i dont no what happened really...i try to ask him and he tells me that he was just touching me he didnt like rape me or nething....but i would no if we had sex right? or if we didnt nething more...i no he put it in my mouth bc i had the taste in my mouth..but i would no rigth? please help meee
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you'd know if you had sex, unless you have sex on an extremely frequent basis, or had in the couple hours before you passed out, you would be a little sore, or feel at least a little stretched out. You should tell someone though, cause he sounds like a perv and you should get him arrested, or at least slap him pretty hard.
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Recently, I broke up with my boyfriend because I was always thinking of someone else. I know it's a lame excuse for breaking up with someone, but, that's why I did it. Do you think it was wrong to do? Because..my ex still wants me back. Believe me, he's tried everything he possibly can. I just..I can't do it. I know that if I go back to him I'll never be thinking about him, but another guy. And to be honest, I'm not too fond of my ex, but he's disgustingly obsessed with me. Oh my god, seriously. Lmao. So someone help me, here. (link)
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It's not a stupid reason, I've broken up with someone for that same reason before. There's not much you can do, hooking up with him will make him estatic, but you miserable. Better just try to be friends with him so both of you can move on.
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I have a big freckle on my fore head, and it makes me look ugy. Is their any way to get ride of it or make it not as noticeble? Please help!!! (link)
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For now you can cover it up with make up, if you really hate it that much you can have it removed by a dermatologist. (sp?) They can remove it with the same technology they remove birthmarks with.
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ok here goes...
i like this kid let say his name is steve..and i hooked up with him last year and he asked me out but i got scared because yah i liked him alot..so i made up an excuse and said some1 told me he was a player..and he got real mad and we stopped talkin then this year we started talkin again..and he told my friend that he has liked me since the day he first saw me...and he never stopped liking me...and he is soo sweet to me..but hes an asshole to everyone eles but hes soo hottt...and the other day his friend lets say bob..said to me u kno i like u right..and i didnt kno what to say cuz i love steve..and i only like bob as a friend...and 2 of my friends that kno them have diff opinions
1st friendd...go out with bob hes a good bf i kno that and steve is a jerk (juss keep in mind steve hates her)
2nd friend...steve is wicked hot but an asshole
bob is ugly but nice
then bob told me to chill with steve and see what happens between us...but i dont wanna waste my time if something doesnt happen...but i think i love steve
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"Bob" sounds a lot nicer than "Steve". Still, you should probably try to get together with Steve. If he's nice to you and you like him then that's what really matters. I say hang out with him and see how things go and if they work out then great and if not, then you will still have Bob to fall back on. Bob sounds like a nice guy, and nice guy's usually wait around for the girl to decide on who they want.
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I am 13 years old. I just recently broke up with my girl friend. It sucks, but i'll live. the problem is I had sex with that girl, and everyone knows. I now for a fact that a girl i've had a crush on since 4th grade likes me, do u think the fact that I had sex will push her away from wanting to date me (link)
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It depends, if you want her to have sex with you too, then yeah, it will probably push her away, but if your really interested in a relationship and don't want to push her, then, as long as she knows this, it shouldn't make things any harder.
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Hi I am 16 f and i was raped and the guy who did it told me not to tell anyone.so i havent said a word to anyone until now but the thing is my bf wants me to have sex with him but im not ready cuz it was just recently that i was raped. should i tell someone what happend or just not say a thing and try having sex with my bf? I rate.
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You have to tell someone about it, I'd start with your boyfriend and then probably your parents or a school counselor. You can't hide these things or the guy won't have to face the consequences and may do it to you again or even to another girl. This will probably take a long long time to get over, tell your boyfriend and he will understand and help you through it.
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Is it ok to go out with someone two years younger than you? (link)
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it depends on how old you are. If your older than say 14 or 15 then its not really a big deal.
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Ok..volleyballl tryouts are almost over and the first day was really hard. Our coach yells alot and if we drop a ball without goin after or something we run or do pushups. But shes still a good coach. Well i take alot of things personally. I feel like its all my fault. also im super nervous wen i get out there and mess up. Wat should i do? HELP
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Coaches are all like this. It's their job to push you hard so that you get better. They plan on you messing up and also want you to be nervous. Try listening to music before, something just to calm you down a little so your more focused.
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i ask u alott of ?'s,here's another one...
i still lyk my ex bf...i'm not sure if he still likes me,but he doesnt have another gf yet. i wuz gonna call him n tell him i lykd him reeal fast and say call me bak if u feel the same... but i'm not sure if thatz the way to tell him... cuz i'm kinda afraid i'll get the answer i dont want. plz help me out!!! XoXo nicole (p.s. i'm 13, and he's 15-just turned) (link)
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You don't have to just straight out tell him. Hang out with him some time and just flirt a lot, he'll get the picture. As long as he doesn't have another girlfriend he's fair game. If you do say something straight out though, say it in person and tell him that you miss the days when you and him were together. If he says that he's not interested then express that you would at least like to see him more, this will give you time to make him like you again.
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