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I'm 16 and I love drawing, listening to music and hanging out with my friends. My family and friends always tend to come to me for advice or support because I'll try to help no matter what. I like to help and offer friendship to those who need it and I'm always willing to give time to answer a question someone needs help with.

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My boyfriend is taking advantage of me and threatens to hurt me if i don't make-out with him or have sex with him and i'm still a virgin but i don't know how long i can hold out for!

He should not be treating you that way, he obviously doesn't care for you in the sort of way you should be cared for, if he treats you like that, he doesn't deserve to have you in his life. You can talk to him and tell him that you don't like the way he's treating you and that if he keeps treating you this way, he's gonna loose you pretty quickly. No one deserves to be disrespected like that, you deserve better:)
Hope everything goes well.
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Okay my period is a bit..odd. I have had it for a year and a half now, so it should be regular right? well I do get it regularly but its just not every 28 days. It's about every 40 days really. I dont have any other symptoms or anything. Is this normal? I mean i never really skip a period, There is just a long time in between them.

I'm the same way, my period is very off track, I get it here and there, but it's perfectly normal.Not everyone is the same some people get it right on time and others have to wait a while, but it's pretty normal. I was told by my doctor that my period will be irregular for a while but eventually it will just get into place. Nothing to worry about:)Though if you notice a change or there is something wrong you should definetly go see a doctor, but if not, than you have nothing to worry about:)
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ok so im 14/f and still TERRIFIED of the dark. every night when i go to sleep i imagine murderers breaking in and killing me. I don't watch scary movies anymore, just a few here and there. the old ones still come back to haunt me, i'll remember any scary thought when it's nighttime. the fact that my house is PITCH BLACK at night doesn't help at all either. i really really desperately need help, i'm scared to go to bed at night. i can't even get up to go pee because im scared the killer with "hear me". i want to use a nightlight, but i don't want my parents to think i'm a wuss, i mean i'm 14!! PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE help me find a way to be comfortable in my own house at night.

Don't worry, you're not at all alone in this situation. I still like to have a light on when I go to bed, I have this light that changes colour and it's placed across the room near my door, so this way I have some sort of light to help me get to sleep at night. You're not at all a wuss, this is perfectly normal, I know tons of people who still like to have light on when they go to bed, it's not wussy, I mean if it will help you get to sleep than the better. Don't feel at all embarassed of being scared of the dark because you're not alone, even my 18 year old brother still has to make sure all the lights in the house are on before he can get to sleep after a scary movie. Buying a night light or some sort of light to help you get to sleep is not wussy, it's actually quite brave, why? Because you're facing your fears and finding a solution, if a light will help you sleep at night, than by no means should anything be stopping you from getting one!Also if you're really worried about someone being in your house when you're asleep, don't be afraid to talk to your parents about that, they'll want to make sure that you always feel safe in your own house, as long as the doors are locked and your parents are in your house, no one will break in, if they did(By some very teency weency chance)Then you'll hear them, along with the rest of your family, if you have an alarm it will go off, close neighbors?They'll find out. Don't worry, you're safe:)
Good luck!I hope I could help.
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i need a good work out plan. im 15/f. i want to do crunches, some weights, yoga, and some kindof work on the legs?
i just dont know how often to do each without hurting myself or over-doing it.

if anyone has a workout plan set out for themselves, then please feel free to share :D

and if anybody has suggestions on what plan i could be on then that'd be great. :D

To make sure you're not over doing it, it's best to go back and forth, so one day you would do muscle work, meaning, working your abs, so crunches, sit-ups, leg lifts..also you can work your arms as well by doing, weights, push-ups..
Make sure you ALWAYS stretch before working out because that will make sure you do not pull a muscle or hurt yourself.
If your into to any sports or physical activity, than do that as much as possible, even if it's just going for a walk everyday or running around the block it's best to get at least 30mins of excercise everyday. Do muscle work every second day in order to give your muscles a rest. Hope I could help, Good luck!!
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I'm 15 and just recently got my period
(Yes, I know I got it pretty late.)
I've only had it about 3 times now, but I HATE it.
I can't stand it. It makes me feel like I can't do anything with it.
Since I don't like pads, I wear tampons, but they're always popping halfway out.
(Which is weird because I'm not using a big size or anything.)
I constantly have to go "adjust" myself and I never
feel like going anywhere because I'm afraid I will leak.

Does anyone have any advice?
Any kind words would be appreciated right now.

Don't worry, I know exactly how you feel.Having your period does suck but you'll get used to it. If you look online at any girl sites they usually have good tips on what and what not to do during your period and what kind of pad or tampon is best for you. Believe me, you're still able to do everything you do without your period, with your period, you just have to get used to it, with that takes time. I know it may seem embarassing but it's okay to ask somebody with the right information, questions, like your close friends, your mom, doctor or anybody you can really trust. Because the one who gets the reward in the end will be you. So don't be afraid to do some research.
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I have a really good guy friend. I like him as more than a friend. He has a girlfriend. Me and him have been hanging out a lot, but the other day I was in a bad mood, and he didn't do anything wrong(actually, he was being amazingly sweet), but I guess I was stressed out about a lot of stuff, and I was tired of watching him be with another girl, so I said some mean things to him, and yet he was still nice, and then I got meaner. Then he kinda ignored me. Now we talked a little, and he says he's nit mad, but he's not talking to me much, and he doesn't seem to care about me like he did. I think he's still mad and I want to make it up to him. A friend thought New Years would be a good time for all of us to get together and have fun again.

I think that's a great idea. You should take him aside and just say that you've been stressed out a lot lately and you did not mean to take it out on him at all. Tell him you've been going through a stressfull patch in your life but you had no intentions to take it out on him. If he excepts your apology then great, if it takes him a bit of time to think things through, than let him, give him all the time he needs. Show him that you care by just apologizing and giving a good explanation behind it.
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I'm not exactly sure what it means.

"You are what you love, Not what loves you back"

What does that mean exactly?

In my opinion I think this quote is saying that who you love and/or what you love defines the sort of personality you carry. You don't need someone or something that loves you back to define who you are, it's what you love that is who you are

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Right, so the other week i was out with some friends and they introduced me to some guys.
Then, i started hanging round with two of them guys (C and J) who both have gfs.
I took a liking to J and today we were talking for a little bit but we were with other people so we werent alone.
Weve been speaking on msn and myspace quite abit.
And i really like him. But, he has a gf who he's madly in love with.
And i dont WANT to like him, i just do.. And i dont want to tell him i do because it'll be really awkward seeing as we havent known each that long.
I know if i get closer to him then i'll like him even more. But, i want to get closer to him, if that makes sense.

I just really dont know what to do.
Do i just leave it and see where it goes?

Hmm that's a toughy, I say you should maybe tell him how you feel, just to get it out there. I mean you're not asking him to break up with his girlfriend, are you? He'd be flattered I'm sure and besides what have you got to loose, because either way, being around him will feel awkward and that's okay, if you tell him you'll see if he's truly a good friend or not, if he's flattered and still wants to be friends than that's great, but if he's weirded out by the whole situation than he's not that great of a friend. Because I know for a fact that after I told one of my friends that I really liked him, it only made our friendship stronger, even if he didn't share the same feelings for me, he respected me for having told him the truth.
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im getting braces tmrw and im really nervous about it... i hate the orthodontist soooo much and people in my mouth... i'm so nervous im gonna like feel sick while hes putting the braces on, ialways gag when im there and really nervous about it.. how long will putting everything on take? will it hurt a lot? answer everything and give details please if you can!

I had braces!Actually I had a lot of work done in my mouth and I was just as scared as you are, but don't worry, in the end I was happy with the results so it was allll worth it!
In my opinion it didn't hurt, I told the orthodontist when I went in that I was terrified, he just told me to relax and that everything was going to be fine, he explained to me what they were going to do and about how long it would take them. Afterwards my mouth felt a little weird for a few days, but eventually I couldn't even feel them anymore. Next thing I knew my braces were gonna be removed!
I say ask your orthodontist questions when you go, tell him your nervous and I'm sure everything will go great!
Good luck and have a great New Year!

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my boyfriend is a total jerk. he dosnt say hi to me anymore. he hangs up on me swears at me is violent to me says he dosnt care about me nemore as much as he did says he hates seen me gets ppl to tel me hes not were he is so i dont come see him. says he hates seen me and that he dreads it says that im on the bottum of his list of prioirtys. he dumped me and said he was treating me bad so i wud break it of with him but then he wanted me back. hes grabbed my throat and said hel hit me. he tells people he dosnt want to be with me and im annoying and wishes i would dissapear. altho we hav a serious relashionshop and hav dated for about a year hes gettin himself into serious trouble and been arrested and charged and drinking every night. i love him so much and my biggest fear is that he wil cheat on me. i dont think he loves me neither do any of my friends. i just have alot of fun with him on weekends even tho he ignored me and yells at me for anything and everything i dont have the power to break it off PLEASE HELP ME IM DESPEREATE iv talked to him about it so many times and he gets mad and tells me to fuck off!

You need to break it off, he treats you horribly and it is clear he just doesn't share the appropriate affection for you that you deserve. I'm sure this is difficult for you, I can't see how this sort of situation would be easy to get out of, but you have to be strong, stick with the people who care about you most, friends or family. Because no matter what, this guy will end up hurting you more than he already has. You need to tell him that you can't see him anymore, no matter how much he tries to suck you back in, it's a trap, if he uses sweet words and pleasent memories against you, always remember that he used physical and mental violence towards you which is completely inappropriate. He obviously doesn't deserve to have you in his life no matter how much fun he is on weekends or at the occasion he'll be sweet, he should always treat you with respect, because that's what you deserve.
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hey, i've been talking to this guy for quite a while now. The way i met him is that i saw him at his prom that i went to with my friend and added him to facebook. He starting to talk to me on msn a month later. He's really nice so i talked back. At the time i was grounded for a month and couldnt hang out with him. So for about a month and a half we would talk on the phone everyday. Everyday that we talked on the phone i started to be more open and comfortable with him. After i was ungrounded he wanted to hang out. But we didn't hangout till 2 weeks after i was ungrounded. When we did hangout i went over to his house, met his parents who were very nice, and we just watched movies all night. We didn't kiss that whole night till he drove me home and i said goodbye to him in the car, and we started to makeout. After that we hungout alot, i barely saw my friends anymore becasue i was always with him. He would pick me up from school and we would go out for lunch sometimes. After hanging out with him for a long time i discussed with him about dating or at least seeing each. I had had bad expericene in liking a guy before where i had got badly hurt. I had mentioned that to him and he understood where i was comnig from. I noticed whenever i hungout with him i could tell him anything. I would tell him that i had my period or problems i was having with my best friends, or even work problems. The guy before that i wasn't really that open with. I like this guy alot, but his reputation that i hear from doesn't look so good to me. He's the type of guys that isn't really a "kiss ass", or doesn't go out of his way even if he's dating a girl. I have had sex with him, and he was making me feel really comfortable with it. He wasnt the one to ask me if i wanted to, i felt ready so i talked to him about it, he had asked me if i really thought about it, which i did, and he told me he didnt want me feeling pressured that i have to becasue he didnt want to hurt me emotionally. I really want to date this guy, but i really don't know what he feels. Although i ask him about it i feel like what he's telling me isn't true. I always wonder what he says to his friends about me, or if he even talks to his friends about me. I don't want to seem like im rushing things just because i dont want to get hurt. But the truth is i don't think i can handle getting hurt again. All my friends are "if-y" about him, because i get really upset about him soemtimes, and they hate seeing me hurt. Should i break things off, or keep seeing him and see what happens?

Okay, I think you need to slow things down, as you said you've been hurt before. You should talk to him and tell him how you feel, ask him if this relationship between you two is going anywhere, if he says that he is willing to make a commitement, than great, see how things go.If he doesn't know if he's willing to commite or he doesn't want to, you should tell him that you want to date someone who is willing to commite and if he's not willing to commite to you, especially if you have slept with him, you shouldn't stick around to see if whether or not your in for getting your heart broken again. Believe me, it's not worth it. If things work out, than that's great, if not, don't dwell on it, because he's not worth it.
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ok well im 15 and i have had a lot of tragic things in my life. but i finally stoped dwelling on the past when i realized that there r other people who have it way worse.all the things that have happened to me just made me appreciate life more. i am a very strong, caring, and determined person. so my for my question.... well when i turn on the t.v. theres allways charitys going on for cancer and make a wish foundations and people all around the world who are barley surviving and how we as a generation are destoring the world...ect. well all these things touch my heart and i just wanna have the power to change the world for the good... but being that im not evan old enough to have a job i am unfortunitly unable of evan donating... well i finally came up with an idea... i want to creat a.. an organizatoin were people can donate to what ever charity that touches them the most.. were 100% of all money is donated to the cause. i want to make something that is huge that every one knows about. like websites and marathons and t.v. broadcasting. i know that it will take a great deal of time before it reaches that point but i am willing to dedicate my life to this. Two of my most favorite things about life is helping and persuading people to do good. so i figure why not put these together. im not wanting to do this for any profit except to see the world around me a better place. the only thing is i dont have a clue where to start. i was thinking of starting with a petion. no money just names at first. once i reach a certian amount i want to give it to someone who can help... but i dont know who. i'm stuck in a box and i need advise from someone with more knowledge. i dont care how many people who tell me i cant do it because if there is a will there is a way and i have so much determination that i am ready for what ever it takes. can you give me advice on how to get started? all i need is a nudge in the right direction. if you think there is somthing wrong can you give my some insight of how to fix it? love
?rhonda?

It is clear to see you have a good heart. You're off to a good start, I've always wanted to do the same. Personally I think making a petition is a great idea, also another thing you can do is just spread the word, tell people you know to tell people they know, so on and so forth.You can also post advertisements in your local grocery stores, churches, schools, community centers..etc..State your determination about creating this charity, maybe even create a seperate e-mail dedicated to this, post it around and tell people if they are interested in your idea to e-mail you and share with you their ideas. Also, see your school guidance counsellor, principal or a teacher who you enjoy speaking with to see what their thoughts are and who you might be able to see in order to get it launched. Hope I could help and good luck!
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