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is he using me or does he want a relationship out of this?
hey, i've been talking to this guy for quite a while now. The way i met him is that i saw him at his prom that i went to with my friend and added him to facebook. He starting to talk to me on msn a month later. He's really nice so i talked back. At the time i was grounded for a month and couldnt hang out with him. So for about a month and a half we would talk on the phone everyday. Everyday that we talked on the phone i started to be more open and comfortable with him. After i was ungrounded he wanted to hang out. But we didn't hangout till 2 weeks after i was ungrounded. When we did hangout i went over to his house, met his parents who were very nice, and we just watched movies all night. We didn't kiss that whole night till he drove me home and i said goodbye to him in the car, and we started to makeout. After that we hungout alot, i barely saw my friends anymore becasue i was always with him. He would pick me up from school and we would go out for lunch sometimes. After hanging out with him for a long time i discussed with him about dating or at least seeing each. I had had bad expericene in liking a guy before where i had got badly hurt. I had mentioned that to him and he understood where i was comnig from. I noticed whenever i hungout with him i could tell him anything. I would tell him that i had my period or problems i was having with my best friends, or even work problems. The guy before that i wasn't really that open with. I like this guy alot, but his reputation that i hear from doesn't look so good to me. He's the type of guys that isn't really a "kiss ass", or doesn't go out of his way even if he's dating a girl. I have had sex with him, and he was making me feel really comfortable with it. He wasnt the one to ask me if i wanted to, i felt ready so i talked to him about it, he had asked me if i really thought about it, which i did, and he told me he didnt want me feeling pressured that i have to becasue he didnt want to hurt me emotionally. I really want to date this guy, but i really don't know what he feels. Although i ask him about it i feel like what he's telling me isn't true. I always wonder what he says to his friends about me, or if he even talks to his friends about me. I don't want to seem like im rushing things just because i dont want to get hurt. But the truth is i don't think i can handle getting hurt again. All my friends are "if-y" about him, because i get really upset about him soemtimes, and they hate seeing me hurt. Should i break things off, or keep seeing him and see what happens?
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um. slow things down. but i think if you really like him, then you should care, and go out with him. but be careful. your friends might see a bad in him that you dont. so watch out. i hope i helped.
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Okay, I think you need to slow things down, as you said you've been hurt before. You should talk to him and tell him how you feel, ask him if this relationship between you two is going anywhere, if he says that he is willing to make a commitement, than great, see how things go.If he doesn't know if he's willing to commite or he doesn't want to, you should tell him that you want to date someone who is willing to commite and if he's not willing to commite to you, especially if you have slept with him, you shouldn't stick around to see if whether or not your in for getting your heart broken again. Believe me, it's not worth it. If things work out, than that's great, if not, don't dwell on it, because he's not worth it.
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i would say your getting in to deep. you should first find out if the guy likes you on the same level that you like him. ask him. i know it might seem wierd but its something we all go through in life. i would say you maybe should have waited to have sex with him. you said he said he "dont want you to get hurt emotionally" you sould have though about that his feeling might not be as strong. i know you dont want to be hurt but you know its apart of life.
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it is my firm belief that your friends know you better than you know yourself. they can see what you refuse to when it comes to the opposite sex. it might be better to trust their instinct on this one sweetie.
i know this isn't what you want to hear, but it is better to pass up mr. right-now, than lose friendships with peole that can help you spot mr. right.
good luck sweetie.
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no i think its that he likes to much and hes scared to do something to hurt or take you away from him thats all
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