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I write poems about a lot of thoughts that go on in my head. I want to share them with my friends, but I know if they don't appreciate them I will feel horrible. Once my friend found my journal filled with poems and she was just like, "Hmm. Do these all mean something to you?" and she just gave the idea of my poems were crap, which I know they aren't. I guess what I am asking is what should I say to my friends to make them understand how important these are to me? (link)
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Ultimately it does not matter what they think. Really it does not. Growing up as a writer and journalist at 14 was not easy with friends and people jealous and never understanding why I did it or was in newspapers anyway. The fact is you have a talent here and you better use it in every way you can and even make money from writing.
You need to become the best damn writer possible and focus on the talent. If your friends don't get it trust me the people who count will including teachers, parents, others who respect good writing. I have the hunch that what you may be writing is so different, intelligent and perhaps too intellectual for most young people to get right now.
If those poems mean a lot to you go forward with writing more and as far as sharing goes be selective and pick adults or older people to see them. If your friends do not get it no need to even tell them about it. None of my friends ever bothered to read a single thing I wrote published or otherwise and it does not bother me. If their nose is out of joint or them make a dumb or hurtful comment it says more about them than you.
I have this haunting suspicion your friend read it and was impressed but jealous she could not do it herself. Focus on your writing, keep it to your ownself for now and later on when you get so good at it there will be no denying your talent whether she is still a friend or not. That is what to do learn to be the best damn poet or writer going then nobody can deny the talent you possess.
Anyways, send me something to the mailbox on here and I will read it and let you know what I think from one writer to another that started out close to your age. I know some places if you are really good where you can get them published including Young People's Press who publish online and in newspapers in the United States and Canada
Try them on for size ypp.net thy will teach you how to write like a journalist would at your age from movie reviews, features, stories or whatever else. Start there and see what happens.
They will appreciate it and you might as well stay in their program and start writing all kinds of engaging articles on topics that you relate too. Anyways, send me one. I won't lie to you if it's bad it's bad and if it's good it's good. There's no grey areas with me on writing.
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Will braces go off on metal detectors? What colors should I get? I'm getting them tommorow! (13/F Kind Of Preppy) (link)
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No, they will not. Secondly, I am not sure colors are a great idea at all. Think about it, do you really want people seeing neon pink, orange, yellow, red or blue when you open your mouth or smile? I would just get the standard braces because everything else is going to stand out and the goal these days are to make it so it does not.
Rich people who can afford it are going for the new clear braces you can hardly see. Go for something as close to looking natural as possible. You might regret it later and go "Oh man, everyone can see this awful blue." Make sure you see photos with people who chose that color because it will be highly noticeable.
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Can anyone give me tips on how to write a great 5 paragraph essay? I'm not great with keeping things in order when I write. I need an explanination of a "topic setence with TRANSITION". thanks for your help! (link)
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Let's think for a moment about an article in a newspaper. What ingrediants are the same as an essay? Well all of them really but are done in a slightly different way. The lead is the most important part. In an essay the equivalent to a newspaper's lead is your topic sentence.
Then like a newspaper article you have 4 other pragraphs and they need to elaborate on the topic sentence and or newspaper lead. You need to divide into four more paragraphs an essay so you have to give them the important puzzle pieces and not miss a one. The essay needs who, what, when, why, how and perhaps where.
Keep your paragraphs tiny and most important info up front, do not overwrite with long paragraphs and make sure your sentences are short, long, short, long to make it appealing and easy to read.
AND NEVER STRAY FROM YOUR TOPIC IN SENTENCE ONE. YOU SHOULD BE FINE IN TYING IT BACK TO SENTENCE ONE. ON TO TRANSITIONS.
Transitions are something you learn with practice and put your own creative spin on. The radio is an excellent place as is the nightly news for transitions called seguys. This is how you use one thing to lead into your next point and make it smooth as silk.
Here's an example from my recent review of Oliver Twist. The subject and topic sentence is on Roman Polanski note the transitions throughout still about Polanski but moving in on other areas about Polanski and the film. Two transitions in the paragraph FYI. See how I did it--you can too. And be sure your last sentence ties to the first. Essay should be great.
EXAMPLE:
"Roman Polanski must have channeled Charles Dickens himself. He obviously felt a kinship with Oliver Twist. Having survived the Holocaust, Polanski was an excellent choice to direct a story of one boy's determination to survive and overcome being an orphan left to navigate the tough London streets."
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I can perhaps be of more assistance with your writing if you have more questions or trouble. It's what I get paid for every day. If you can use my help send me an inbox question rather than the little feedback box.
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ok it seems like my mom favors my brother way more than me. So one day I stayed home from school because I was sick. Then my mom told me since I stayed home, I was grounded for the weekend. But then today, my little brother was supposedly throwing up this morning and didnt go to his soccer parade and games but about an hour later he was outside running around and on his dirtbike and playing basketball and everything. Then he got to have his friend sleep over. Am I over reacting or am I right about her possibly favoring him more? (link)
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This is an excellent question and complicated to say the least. An advice giver for this one should be an adult and the eldest child in the family and one with a good sense of family dynamics. You found one in a jaded journalist who pulls no punches with teens in helping or when adults and parents are wrong.
The problem with most mothers mine included is being destracted with the younger child all the time. They need more attention and a watchful eye. With you however, you have grown up and even if you cannot care for your ownself they presume you can indeed. See, if you told mom you were sick it's not that she is not concerned. She figures you can go throw up if need be and care for your problem and be done with it.
Mom's are also the types to not believe the oldest child is sick and therefore you are indeed partly right. They want physical proof and if there does not appear to be a warm forehead, projectile vomit then you are good to go in their eyes until you do have a bigger illness that stems from the same problem.
Face it, you are downgraded when it comes to priority on things mom and dad think you can handle now and brother being young gets more TLC absolute brat or not and it's not favortism it's family dynamics and you have graduated to teenager who can take care of own shit in eyes of adults and parents.
None of this has anything to do with who loves whom more. All of that is bullshit they love you alright but a little kid who is puking his guts out even if only for five minutes gets more attention.
If he goes back to being normal why should she stop him if he is indeed well again from bikes, soccer, games if in fact he can attend and perform well? Would you not be pissed if you were him and she denied you when well even if just took a little while to get better? You have to put perspective into it.
The other problem here is the classic teenage scam of "I don't feel well I think I am going to throw up any second." line fed to parents when you really do not want to be in school for whatever bogus reason. Hate to say it kiddo but unless you have a warm forehead, are projectile vomitting and or on death's door tough luck until you do in fact have to be picked up from school.
The grounding seems harsh to say the least. If you scammed them and never were sick in their eyes I understand perfectly. In your case you did not. Are you sure it was for staying home or are they pissed at you for something else? Better make sure there.
I think they feel you were not sick and there's no way you can prove otherwise now. Unfortunately, ride it out but you learned something in how the system works. Elder kids feel screwed but it is not the case they love you--just more demands and proving yourself in every single aspect of life.
*My Radio Show Premiere's Soon For Teens.*
Check out www.teentalknetwork.com soon for my show Reel Views Unplugged on movies, entertainment, art, spoken word, rap, poetry, song writing, advice, theatre, games, prizes and more. Taping starts Oct. 12th 1:30 p.m. Pacific time. If you have a talent you want to showcase or an amazing story, poem, report or review leave me a message in the inbox I'll stick you on air.
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my birthday is November 7th and I need and idea for a party. I've never thrown a party for people over like 13 and sleepovers but this time I NEED guys there. My parents aren't really willing to do anything to help me (like going to the bowling alley then comming back here...theyre stupid about rides and stuff) but they have a lot of rules and parent stuff like that. I'll tell them to please stay out and don't come down to bug us and they answer "why not? this is my house...are you doing something you dont want me to see?" typical. disgusting. I don't have a lot of money since my parents make me get things myself...can anyone help me? thanksss! (link)
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Their concerns are not disgusting they are rational. It is indeed their house and their rules or the highway. You have to respect they do not want anything broken, stollen, destroyed or a hell of a mess behind from unruly teenagers. They know about drugs, sex and booze and the fact YOU CAN BE TRUSTED but CAN THEY? They have every right to supervise at home but stay out of the way.
They are legally responsible for anyone who gets hurt or brings booze, dope or gets in trouble. They don't want this in their house and they can control things better than you can and toss someone out. Even if your friends are good kids and not about to do this mom and dad still feel something is up if you want them gone so bad.
You can still dance, talk, party and enjoy yourself with them at home but not get frisky with guys or makeout until your face falls off onto the ground. Let's face it you have no choices otherwise it's their rules, supervision, house or you not getting to party and bust a move.
Parents understand you and your position but also know what tempation is for 30 kids looking to start something. It's easy for you to supervise 1 person but 30 people following the leader is what they are concerned about. Allow for this concession.
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Dangernerd has been a little hard to catch this week. I think he is busy moving his business, but I'm sure he will get back to you soon.
Currently, the edit answer is the only option to add anything to an answer you've given.
You might add some stars ** or something when you edit to draw thier attention back to it.
On the left under your Welcome GDROB, there is a profile settings link. There you can add your picture and write whatever you want on your column. Column settings I believe will let you add backgrounds and all that good stuff.
I think. Been a while on the background thing. :)
After you have been here for 30 days. I think thats Oct 4th for you, you can 'make yourself a moderator' and be a L1 moderator. That gives you access to mod discussion. Another good place to write anything in a forum style setting.
YG (link)
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Feel free to toss this around with teens you know who may have talents in singing, acting, theatre, dance, spoken word, poetry, art. My first taping is 1:30 p.m. Pacific Time October 12th for Reel Views Unplugged. I am doing a review and four segments including a horror movie segment and would like some teen guests to pre-tape they can call from any phone but it has to be organized and set up though through here and yourself.
I have a prize (CD) for week one too. It will be fun. Incidentally, are you authorized to speak about this site on-air? That would be something to record people on. You can add a blurb somewhere to be checking for the show on www.teentalknetwork.com
Where does one find the actual moderator application to fill out? I'll do it for sure October 4th. I take it if I need a recommendation you wouldn't mind?
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Just had to drop by again and tell you I checked out your Rotten Tomatos site.
I had to read up on Blue Comedy Movie since I love Ron White and crew...or should I call him tater salad! That New York bar routine of his kills me, I think thats in the first movie though.
I just wanted to tell you I found it easy on the eyes. :) I hate the ones that have all the distracting stuff on them!
Again, good luck. :)
YG (Karen) (link)
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Would I be able to post something static that people coming to the site could read? Dangernerd must be a very busy bloke not hearing back. There are three things I do not know how to do on here. When someone sends you feedback and you want to add something how do you do so without having to go in and edit the original answer? I cannot find a reply on that. Secondly, I can add a mugshot to my column and wanted to know how.
I notice your column has writing down the side of it. How can I do that? Better yet how do I post a notice anywhere on my column page? I was thinking of that as an option for promoting the show but did want an announcement made about the show on here that people can always look at and or just see posted and archived later.
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ok well im fighting this monday for the championship for teens. and the guy im fighting me is alot bigger and im so nurves. im stronger but he is so much bigger im scared my hit wont hurt him at all. his record is 60-5 mine is 65-3 so any one please help.
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Remember Lewis V Tyson, Tyson V McBride and Lewis V Bruno? All of those fights had one thing in common the smaller guy got pounded and then knocked out. Bruno had Lewis and was going to knock him out when Lewis found the one punch he needed by pounding down.
Your fight will be the same scenario so you need to move away from him, come in and land combinations and back out, switch to southpaw often and confuse him. You have to go in and attack him first and get out. Avoid toe to toe confronation as he will tie you up. He is going to try to use the reach and punch down and wear you out. Dart around the ring, avoid clinching or toe to toe and hit with all your weight behind your left and right hands.
Land the jab a lot and go for the uppercut. Bigger guys who try to punch down and protect themselves have one thing in common--glass jaw that has to exposed. Stay out of the path of his right with the southpaw stance. Listen to your trainer.
I would try to win the first 6 rounds and coast for a bit and steal the latter rounds with fluries that are better than what he can land. Listen to your trainer, corner and do what they tell you. Fighters who lead a fight get over-confident with the lead and screw it up. Don't be Michael Moorer here.
Tall guys like Lewis win from pounding down at people and protecting their jaw. You have to make sure he cannot hit you and wear the bigger guy down like Klitschko did with Lewis. Lewis was screwed and he knew it that night. If it were not for a cut everyone would recognize Klitschko as the best champion today. Watch his fights, Tyson's earliest ones too.
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hi... well im 19/f and I'm getting married 1 week from today.. I know it's only a little bit away and a stupid time to be asking this but anyway My fiance has been like accusing me of cheating on him because im involved with the football team at the highschool because i coach it... how can i stop him from thinking this? Also I've been becoming really attracted to this 1 guy where i work.. is this normal? (link)
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Keyword here is DON'T. I would pull out of this wedding immediately. Nobody needs to know why except your family and yourself. There is no shame nor guilt in pulling out. The guy is no longer worthy of your attention and you will be absolutely fucking miserable. He will always be accusing you of something and tens to have a jealousy thing going on. You are not cheating on him now is he cheating on you though? If he's accusing you of it now, jealousy will boil over and constantly be toxic throughout marraige.
This is not cold feet you have seen the light with this guy and what to expect. Do you want this shit your whole life with him? To be honest this one is destined to implode right before the wedding if not afterwards. Marraige's like this end in divorce or tragedy if he has a ton of rage he cannot harness over jealousy.
I would do yourself a favor, realize you are 19 and at this stage in your life not ready to marry or make a commitment to a guy like him who accuses you of infidelity a week before the wedding. There's something wrong with this guy. If mom, dad or anyone else says or said the same thing they know he's bad news. My advice DON'T DO IT and do yourself a favor as much as you love or loved this guy please find someone else. Who needs a divorce at 19 and or kids brought into a toxic relationship not meant for the alter?
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OK this is for people who have maybe recently gone to a my chemical romance concert.
I'm going to one soon and I was wondering if you can bring a desposable camera? thanks! (link)
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Hi,
A disposable camera will not do what you want it to. You will have photos that never turned out or are too dark. Theatrical lighting does not work with regular cameras taking photos at all. It creates light right into the camera, dark photos, blur or just plain black.
The way to get GREAT concert photos is to go to a camera shop. Tell them what you want to do ie photograph a concert etc. They will take a look at whatever camera you bought and tell you something really important write it down when you hear it ISO#
The ISO is the speed and normally when outside you need an #800 ISO 36 MM and it will do stop motion photography. I know you have no idea what bounce flash is or how to use a manual F-Stop settings camera but that does concert photos with 800 ISO but it's a pain in the ass. For each lighting technique you need to know what F-Stop to use and you have to be able to rest the camera in a way you reflect light off your white card back into the camera to get the stage lighting and photo to look right. Pain in the ass use the regular 35 MM with camera store instructions and should be fine.
There's no bloody way the disposable camera will work for concert photography though. It will work for pictures of friends before concert but not what you wanted. Also, you have to be careful here a lot of venues will not allow any kind of camera as a policy as it distracts performers and rights to all visuals from the show belong to them. Good luck!
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How much are you supposed to weigh at a certain age? (link)
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It actually has nothing really (well a small part) with age. What you are supposed to weigh is based on height of a person. Take you height and then gt onto google look up Body Mass Index. A few options on charts will come up. Click the one with the easiest to use BMI chart. You take your height and use the chart and it tells you the weight you should be.
I think slimfast.com has the easiest one to use that I am aware of.
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i am really lonely right now. i have one best friend and like 2 people think im their best friends but i dont like that that much. i do have people who i consider friends though. ANYWAY, i really want a boyfriend right now. that may seem slutty but im really lonely. i really want a boyfriend. what can i do? thank you so much. ill rate for good answers, not smartass ones. that = 0. k thanx bye (link)
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Okay, first of all I have yet to meet any teenager who knows what the words slutty or slut mean. You have to be someone who sleeps around with just about everyone to be a slut and slutty is the acting like a slut around others. Wanting a boyfriend is not slutty at all.
Most girls your age want a boyfriend. Some might not want them for the right reason. A boyfriend cannot solve nor take away what makes you lonely. Lonliness is a feeling and to deal with it takes time and one person cannot erase it. Why are you feeling lonely? Being lonely is your problem not the lack of the boyfriend.
Ask yourself why am I lonely when all these people like me and want to know me? If you cannot find a suitable answer maybe you should see someone you might be depressed.
You really have to feel love not lust for a guy and hang out with him and develop a relationship before even getting a date. Relationships just happen and not all the time do we get one when looking. Let things unfold, stop being upset and LIVE A LITTLE. Just be you, have fun, be outgoing (not false) and things will just happen for you.
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i'm a male, over 20, alone as hell.
i've never been able to get a girlfriend, i've tried and tried.
it seems like some crule cycle with me, meet a girl, ask her out a couple of times, start to like her and suspect she likes me too, try to be there for her and everything, try to move things up a notch, get the "you're such a good/nice/fabulous guy, i just wanna be friends" routine. Then i'll let go of how i feel as much as posible and try being "just friends", then she picks up the biggest jerk known to mankind and i get to sit across the table watching them make out (TORTURE, for those who care). then the arshole will proceed to cheat on her, she's crushed, i have to listen to all the bullshit and cheer her up, only to find her back with the butthead a week later, then a month later he'll cheat on her AGAIN...
by the third time this happens i simply fuck off, cause she's still won't go out with me and she keeps on going back to the total jerk and every month i have to be there for her.
WHAT THE FUCK, girls always tell me what a "NICE GUY" i am and the friendship crap, but why won't they go out with me.
I'm starting to accept that i'll die alone and bitter, and am starting to avoid woman totally.
I just don't know what to do, i'm really starting to lose it with woman.
I'm over 20 and i haven't even kissed a girl yet. WTF?!!!!!!!!!!!!
should i just kill myself now instead of becoming a full blown alcoholic?
should i try to like guy's more, and simply go gay?
at least i get alot of attention from gay guys trying to chat me up at bars, though im not gay. but women.......FUCK
i need advice please. (link)
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No need to swear we get you loud and clear. If it matters my friend, I have the same situation and I am seven years older than you. Does this make us losers, HELL NO. What it makes us is unconfident in the qualities we possess and not sure how to interact with women as well as we can. Both of us are good catches and no, you need not turn gay (laughter)
Quit trying to date her for one thing. She's offering you friendship. Take it. In the long run by being her confidant you learn things nobody else can teach you but a woman frustrated. Take mental notes on what not to do with women from her. You will need these later as most women do not come with a "Complete Moron's Guide To Girls, Women and Why The Act Like Their Mothers?"
That is another thing befriend the mom, see the baby pictures and never piss mom off in any fashion. She will be more than happy to tell you if she thinks you are the "nice boy" type her daughter ought to date rather than the ass behind door number one her daughter chose she will push for you and tell you what makes the daughter tick. Again, take mental note.
Next, sure the boyfriend is a dick. What else is new here? The key and crucial thing I learned the hard way is to LET HER BITCH AS MUCH AS SHE WANTS BUT SAY NOTHING. WHY? well let's just say if you say anything bad about her boyfriend or how she relates to him you are SCREWED TIMES TWO. BOTH WILL HATE YOU. Instead listen to her gripe and moan and take notes in your head on HOW NEVER TO TREAT A WOMAN 101.
It may be you never get to date her. With billions of people on the planet you and I will find the right one. It may take a while but relax. She is after all a girl and can give you pointers on how to act with a girl or get a date. Get her to fix you up with a friend of hers who is like you. It can work out. And do not be too pushy trying to make stuff happen let it unfold. Get to know people and get the courage to ask for a date too.
The NICE GUY/BROTHER/JUST A FRIEND BS LINE OF ALL TIME is so cliched. All it means is "I AM NOT INTERESTED IN YOU NOT NOW NOT EVER YUCK AND BLANK OFF (THE LATTER WHEN YOU TRIED TOO MANY DAMN TIMES)
Dude, she's not into you so find someone who is. As for mixed signals we all send them. Understand though hair twirling can be boredom and foot tapping too and smiling if you caught her in the same direction may mean nothing either. A girl who likes you will make it known if you don't get what she is doing. Then they give up.
Bottom line the right person will come along but do not be so closed off and uptight.
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well im like 16teen and when i was younger like about maybe 5-7 years old i experimented with somebody who was only like 2 yrs older i mean he didnt even go through pubity yet and i didnt feel anything so does that make me still tight like a virgin (link)
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It was childhood sex play which believe it or not is normal development as long as an older child does not force or abuse a younger one. Experimenting is okay I take you meant tried to have sex. If nothing entered your vagina than you are still a virgin. Even if it did this ought not count with you not having a clue of what it is or was.
Just remember all this stuff from childhood even if bad or awful needs to be viewed as the past guilt free. As long as you learned--hey that wasn't right or good to happen you will be okay. As far as I am concerned still a virgin. Even if you were not it does mean you are a bad person for something tried all those years ago. Anyways, sounds like you are fine.
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i am 13, and my boyfriend is 14. we are both goth-like, and we love each other. we do have sex, but all my friends say i should go to the counselor and tell her about it. but i have nothing to tell. can anyone think of why i should or should not go the counselor? (link)
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I have no idea why you would need a counsellor. You are not being raped, forced to do this, or in trouble. If you use condoms every single time you are fine. Getting on the pill would be the best thing to do. As for counselling as you said there's not much to discuss. When you have sex does come down to your decision. Maybe your friends think you rushed into it (which I think may be the case either way). Just protect yourself above all else.
Personally, they as well as I think sex is for adults and there is a lot of trouble such as STI and STDs and pregnancy to consider. Maybe they think you are not thinking clearly which may in fact be true and know that boys will promise the moon for sex.
They want you safe. If you do not feel a counsellor is needed fine. Be careful nobody can stop you from it but they can all tell you having sex is better as an adult. It may be something new and wonderful to you both but getting pregnant sure is not--especially when the boy always leaves.
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hey im 13/m, i know this is a basic question... but whats sum good ideas for a halloween costume?
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Willy Wonka seems instyle for males this year. You need to buy the toy goggles though and your coat and hat from a Party supply store or from somewhere in the mall near you. A lot of people are going as Willy Wonka. Dracula is easy to do and not much of a hassle either. Horror related costumes are always the old standby or recognizable characters from film or TV.
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I have a really bad cramp, im my stomach area. I've had it for the past week and said nothing about it.
I've stoped eating greasey foods like steak and went for chicken and lower greasy foods.
How can I fix the cramp that wont seam to heal?
I'll rate
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Well you may have licked half of the problem. If greasy foods often led to the cramps you may have an intolerance to them and or ulcers like I did a few weeks back. If you cannot keep foods down you will need stomach ant-acids to get your system back online. This issue can either be ulcers or gallbladder with you. Make an ER visit if it does not stop. It probably is not your appendix because those pains are in different areas. I think it warrents a doctor's visit.
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i heard that giving compliments is the best way to meet the guy you like. what kind of compliment would be the best if you're giving it to a guy, and you're a girl? "cool shoes?"
anything that doesn't strike the other person as weird that i'm noticing their shoes or whatever.. please help! (link)
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A compliment to anyone be it someone you want a date with or not must be sincere. If I wanted to meet you and date you I would not go up to you and say "Nice Hairband" would I? You would laugh and shrug like he would and walk away. You need to do what every girl before you has done through the history of the world. Find out what interests this guy, makes him tick and what he does well. Once you know that you can then do "Saw your football game--nice pass." or something like that then slide in your second line "By the way, my name is Caroline call me."
Slip him a phone number and be done with it. It's faster than an oil change for a car but really to accurately compliment and get his attention you need to research what he is all about and show up places. Make yourself known but be subtle if seeing a game of his come up with some lame excuse people can buy for you being there including him until you get a fill of it and him.
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this has been a question of mine for the longest time...
what is cyber?
how do you do it?
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This question is on the borderline of being a how to sex question. How to's when it comes to sex on this Web page cab get the person asking and or answering in trouble or banned. Just be cautious here. Sometimes adults pose as kids asking this stuff too so if a question sounds icky report it.
The question what is cybering? is okay as long as you just simply say it's online dirty, sexual talk and explicit. Let your imagination pick up on what it is like from that. There are young people, educators and no doubt parents in here trying to figure out if this useful tool is right for their kids.
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i need help. okay, i've been with my boyfriend for a while now, but there's a small little problem that i'm having in our relationship. i love him to death and i know that he feels the same way, but when he talks to other girls.. i often get jealous and feel as if he's going to leave me for this girl even though i know they are just friends, i feel like maybe he sees something more in the girls he talks too. i feel this way because in the past, every guy i was with.. left me for another girl or was seeing another girl behind my back. i just got used to it & so now everytime i get into a new realtionship, i feel as if the same thing is going to happen even though i know all guys aren't the same, it's just something that sort of stuck in my mind. i expect guys to leave me.. i guess it's so i won't get hurt like i did in the past. i've talked with my boyfriend about this and he understands why i feel like this because of past experiences but he always reassures me that there is nothing going on because he doesn't want any other girl in this world besides me & that he loves me more than i could imagine. i mean, we've even talked about spending the rest of our lives together. i don't always have this problem when i'm with him.. but then there are times when i do. i hate it a lot because i really don't wanna feel this way, i TRY to tell myself "hes not gonna leave you" and it works half the time but then other time it doesnt and i get really upset. just so you know, i do BELIVE that he loves me, i don't doubt that.. it's just i really don't know how to explain it. maybe someone knows where i'm coming from. the point is, is there anyway i can convince myself that he's not going to leave me? is there anything at all i can do? or am i gonna be stuck feeling like this for the rest of my life because of what has happened to me in the past? (link)
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The trust issue you have is understandable. I think you need to get over and through it. Normal people do in fact see therapists and perhaps visiting one to discuss how fearful you are of being cast aside by guys.
Now, I KNOW as do you that you have met many guys who cast you aside. This person however, is someone else, clearly likes you and probably would not do that to you. Give him the benefit of the doubt. One thing I know is people get turned off by suspicion, clingy people and jealous people.
All three of those may have driven most of your boyfriends into the arms of someone else. Lose that behavior and you will do so much better than before. I still think visiting a therapist over these fears and that mental/emotional block you have going on and trust issues would help.
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