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The names Maeghan. Yeap, I spell it weird.

I'll admit it; I'm young, inexpirenced, and I make mistakes pretty much everyday. But I learn quickly and try to not to put myself in the same positions the next time around.

Though, I'm a terrible speller and that will never change.

I'm single and actually very happy with it. I've gained independance and a sense of being my own person because of being single and getting out of a bad relationship.

Ask my about anything & I'll try to help as much as I can! :)

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I know another boyfriend story sorry.My boyfriend is in new mexico we have been going out for 4 months now and he pays for minutes and I know long distance but does it hurt to call me.He told me he would call once a weak. and he never does he did not even call on my birthday i had to wait all day [that crushed me] then i called him and all he said was i'm sorry and i have to go i'll call you back later that was on the 25 of june. I mean he did not even say happy birthday. everyone says he treats me pretty badly all the time with the things he says and stuff he does or does not do. people say i should break up with him. When i get mad at him as soon as i hear his voice i'm notmad anymore. my friends say that that is an abusive relashionship.verbal wise what do you think and should i break up with thanx sorry it's so long.

My boyfriend forgetts to call too but even if he does forget, he makes up the calls later. You need to tell your boyfriend that if he isn't going to bother to call he shouldn't bother being your boyfriend anymore. He is being a jerk and unless theres a good explanation for him not calling since june 25th, dump him. You deserve better. - Meg

Can you shave your legs using soap and will it give you razor burn?

Yeap you can & usually it won't. I've found using conditioner though works wonders. Its easier to shave, the razor doesn't get as clogged and your legs are really soft afterwards.

Is it possible to have a STD if your a virgin?

Dirty needles can pass along STD's.
Now I'm not sure if this is true or not, but I've heard that mosquitos can pass along AIDs.

Bleh. Okay. So I sweat. And I know that everyone sweats but like, it's disgusting and it looks like someone poured water on my shirt. Every deodorant with antipersperant that I've tried does nothing. It's really embarassing and now that it's summer it's really hott so it's even worse. It makes me really self concious and I'm scared to wear bright colored shirts because it'll show up even more. But when I wear all black so it won't show up I get called gothic or emo! =[

help!

I had the same exact problem. Go to a dermotologist that specializes in sweating. You'll be put on a really strong anti perspirent first (20 times stronger than certain dri) It caused my to itch at night and didn't really work so he put me on the next thing which is a pill. You take it 1-3 times daily as need and MY GOD, it's amazing. Seriously. It's quiet expensive though, so don't bother using it on days you don't go out. - Meg

When I stand up from sitting or laying down, I get really light-headed, dizzy, and everything goes completely white for like 15 seconds. It's almost like temporary blindness. I've talked to various doctors about it, and they tell me the same thing, "stand up slowly." I tried that, but it still doesn't work. I can't see another doctor because we are reall ylow on money, so does anybody have any advice?

I had the same problem & went to the doctor. Include more salt in your diet. Try drinking gateorade more often (it's loaded with salt) It did the trick for me.

I am taking a road trip on Saturday 7/1, driving from Rochester, NY to Virginia Beach, VA.

I have heard that there has been heavy rain causing flooding en-route and through PA.

I have also heard that there are roads being closed.

Is there truth to this, and if so is it possible for me to drive? Is it just local roads that are closed?

Thanks for the advice!

Take this from me, (I live in PA)
Its very bad on alot of roads.
I would cheak the route your taking and search the web to make sure they're still open, it's possible that some are re opening since the amoutn of rain we've been getting is slowly going down.

do girls like it when you look them in the eye when you talk to them

Yeap, makes us feel special :]

Why do people say its special to kiss in the rain?
What makes it diffrent then kissing when its not raining?
Does it feel diffrent or something?.

Thank you
please answer a.s.a.p

I've done it and it's nothing special. (Maybe it just wasn't raining hard enough or something?) It just seems cool because you two are closer together and everyone makes it seem really romantic, but really its not all that exciting & you just end up feeling sticky afterwards (if its a summer rain & you live in humid PA) lol.

Hi, I'm new to this website but i desperatly need help from other girls my age. I'm fourteen and i have a big problem.. I'm flatchested. ya I know alot of girls are flat at like 13 and some at 14 barely but it seems every single girl has boobs ecxept for me!! ahh i'm always scared to wera bathing suits in front of guys coz they like to pull the tops of as a joke .. but,, if that werwe ever to happen top me all they would see is a flat chest and a very padded bathing suit floating in the water... grrr i'm soo pissed y can't i be normal?? if anyone else has this problem please talk to me also im thinking of trying a breast cream called perfect women it has good ratings and it says to ecxpect results of 1/2 to 2 full cup sizes in just 3 months!! well, i dont know if thats true or not but it was on tv.. mi mom doesnt want to pay for it coz syhe thinks its a scam but i have the money..if u have usesd this product or heard of it fill me in kk? well this was mi firsrt entry im glad i can get this all out without people finding out hoo i really amm. bi

Hey, I understand you completly. I'm also fourteen and have a small bustline. Sometimes it seems like what guys are all out for right? Nope. Guys for the most part (Excluding shallow jerks) usually go for girls with great personalities who show confidence. My boyfriend hasn't gone under shirt and we've been dating for three monthes (Come on, you know how guys get. That's a very long time) Be proud! No back pain, you can fit into alot of clothes and don't have to worry that a guy only likes you because of that. And anything shown on TV to "Improve your chest" is bull. Don't waste your time & money. Just know you're not alone, there are tons of girls with the same problem. The only thing you can do is wait. Hope I helped & welcome to the site :) - Meg

Can you please tell me how old you were when you went on your first date, and the first time you made out??

Both were at age 13

mk dont think im like weird or anything..but i sweat. ALOT i dunno what to do like just at school and stuff ill like sweat under my armpits for no reason at all! i tried like deoderant called certain dry and let me tell you, IT DOES NOT WORK FOR ME!!! should i like get perscription or what??? please and thank yous!!

I have the same problem. Go to a dermotologist (needs to be one that deals with sweating) They might start you off with a really powerful anti perspirent with is 20 times better that certain dry (It didn't work for me though and made me extremly itchy) After that is a pill that you take 1-3 times a day and my god it works wonders. It is, (To me) the best invention ever created. Hope you get help & satisfaction I have now :]

Im 13/female and in school, im not really one of the popular people and i really want to be. What are some things i can do to get them to accepted me???

Basically be perfect. Always. You can never break down or look bad simply because "You're having a bad day" No. There's no such thing. You have to be thin, with a good amount of money and the courage to do things you really don't want to. Basically, you'll spend most of your time trying to please them and then the other half wondering why they're so judgemental/full of bullshit about each other. Its a funny world ain't it, how some people can seem so perfect yet they're more screwed up that you? Don't follow them simply because they're "Popular," late in life when your 26 with a good job you won't care what you wore or what you listened to, but more about the good friends that you didn't need to act/dress a certain way to please. Stay unique.

im going to the movies with my boyfriend next weekend.. and i want to make a good impression because we dont see eachother in person that much. i'm 13, 5`2 blue eyes and long light brown hair. i`m about 105 pounds. i need some REALLY cute outfits for the movies. i know you're just going to say that it's just the movies and it doesn't matter what i look like, but i really want to look nice cause thats just how i roll. i like hollister, a&f american eagle etc. i need full outfits with the colors that will look good on me. if you give me atleast 3 really good whole outfits, automatic 5. thanks.

As said below, go with jeans (not a mini skirt) for the sake of staying warm. I would suggest light jeans (since they go with practically any color) a cute leather belt, a white shirt (For some reason, guys love seeing brunetts in white) flip flops, and maybe a cute zip up from hollister to go along with it. Or you could go with a pair of normal blue jeans, a cute black shirt, a bright necklace and a white belt. (lighter colors will bring out the shirt) It's your call. Have fun :]

My hands sweat constantly, and it's very embarrassing. Are there any ways that I can stop them from sweating so much? Is there a medicine or something?

I have hyperhydrosis and I'm on a pill that lowers the amount I sweat during the day. You need to see a dermotoligist if you want any results. They made my go on a special anti perspirent first which only made my miserable because it made me itch like crazy. The pill works well, but its very expensive and you still sweat a little (but not as much, trust me) You're not alone. - Meg

my mom really pisses me off. She always says something and then denies saying it. A few weeks ago she said I could get whatever I wanted for my graduation present, as long as its not too expensive(meaning over about 3$00 or so). I finally found what I want. A digital Camera. I showed her the webpage and now shes saying that she never said I could get a graduation present, when i KNOW she did! it makes me so f*kin mad! (sorry for the language) What should I do?

My mom does the exact same thing, and boy does it really piss me off too. She lies often then dennys it (I do the same thing, probably where I got it from) Im about ready to buy a tape recorder and seriously record what she says. I've already tryed talking to my mom and dad about it but he never brings it up again and my mom keeps doing it. But seriously, try the tape recorder thing. Maybe it'll open her eyes to how much she does lie.

I'm taking my dog to get put down on Friday. She has cancer and is really sick. I've had her for 10 years and it's going to be really devastating. I don't know how I'm going to handle it. Has anyone else had a pet put down, how did you get over it? What's it going to feel like, no one close to me has ever died before!

For me, the best thing was to write down everything I could remember about my past two cats. The color of their fur, the way they acted and the funny things they did. It really does help once you remember the good times you had with them. Both my cats died and I wasn't informed about it untill later which made me feel alot worse. It's better that you know when shes being put down. You will feel terrible for awhile, just keep yourself positive and think that shes not in anymore pain. Believe me, I know how it feels :[

13/f. I’m having a problem. There’s this guy who likes me. He hasn’t told me directly, but it’s still totally obvious. And I don’t like him back. He’s a good student, but the thing is, he’s really unattractive…..he’s got loads of zits, a humongous head, scary blue-gray eyes, and his vocal chords are all messed up. Because of this defect, he talks really quietly in this bizarre falsetto. It’s almost impossible to carry on a conversation with him. I’m a little creeped out that he likes me, and I hate myself for it. He has feelings and can’t help the way he looks and the way he talks. I feel so shallow for not being able to get beyond his physical appearance. I know this from personal experience, because boys used to be freaked out at the idea of me liking any one of them because I’m an unpopular loner, I’m clumsy, I don’t wear nice clothes, and I’m crazy about operas and musicals, and I have a really brutal sense of humor. I had resolved that I’d never judge a person just by trivial qualities, and now I’m being a hypocrite. I feel guilty whenever I have my eye on guys who have…….a normal voice.

Im having a mental conflict. What should I do?

Heeeeeeelllpppppppppppppppppp!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Hey, you're only human. No matter who you are, from a preppy girl to what you describe yourself as, you're going to know when your phisically attracted to someone and when you're not. Judging people is normal, no matter what the situation. In you case, it's someone you obiously dont have feelings for. Could you build feelings for him? Maybe. But as of now, it's not likely. Don't worry about the thought of him and instead pay attention to those you feel a true attraction to. They're going to be many guys that like you & you won't have those feelings back. Its easier to let the guy know (nicely) that you don't have felings for him than to let yourself feel bad about it.

When I get up from my seat or the bed and I see spots for a few seconds, what is that?

You're blacking out for a split second. That used to happen to me too. I have a lower blood sugar (Normal, but still a bit lower) which can sometimes make me black out for a second. If you eat more salty foods (Pretzels and gatorade are great) it's less likly to happen. Sitting up too fast causes it usually. - Meg

i am 14 and my chest is big im dd and feel horible. like if everyone was always staring at me anybody have any ideas on how to feel better about myself

Tell yourself how many girls would kill to be your size, believe me I've wanted to be a DD. Wear properly fitted clothing thats not extremly revealing and if anyone stares at you give them the finger (seriously) because they're just jealous they can be you. - Meg

14/f...ok so i like this guy named Adam. We were at this party and we were playing truth or dare and I was dared to kiss him on the lips. I was like "no", or "i dont want to" or "why didnt you guys have to do this?" but i was obviously just pretending. So i eventually did it but both of our eyes were open and he didnt even kiss bak. His lips didnt even move. He didn't say anything really not anything bad or good just nothing. Do you think that he likes me or is totally just not interested.
ps. he is REALLY REALLY shy and doesn't really "FLIRT" with me but we talk a lot.

Since you were saying you didnt want to, he most likly didnt want to make it seem like he wanted to either. Plus hes shy, so he was probably intimidated. Either way, next time that situation comes around and you know you're going to have to to it, just say "Alright" and see if his actions change. - Meg

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