Greetings people! Name's Greg, I'm 27 years old and a very proud member of the United States AirForce. I am currently stationed at Peterson AFB here in Colorado Springs, CO. but originally from Mississippi. I can offer fantastic advice on most any subject, but I'm particularly good with relationships (in any capacity), cooking, and social settings. Any questions are welcomed!
E-mail: greg.yarbrough@peterson.af.mil
Gender: Male
Location: Colorado Springs, CO
Occupation: Airfield Management, United States Airforce
Age: 27
Member Since: December 12, 2006
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k well. me and my boyfriend recently broke up. i felt no physical attraction to him and he really didnt have a romantic side? how do i set those aside to be with him and how can i change those so he does? (link)
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If you have no physical attraction to him, and you feel you have to change his traits, then you really don't need to be together. People can't change other people's personality, and typically guys your age (I'm assuming high school) don't know how to express romanticism. Physical attraction isn't a superficial thing, it's personal preference. If you're not attracted to somebody, don't date them :-)
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ok i used to go to school with this guy in like grade 5 and im now in grade 12. I never spoke to him but i found his email and added him and we've been talking casually. The thing is i always remember liking him and i found we have a lot in common now that we've grown. I dunno what to do though...i know we have to meet in person and we live in the same town, but i dont know im kinda afraid lol, i dont know what to say and i would love for this to grow into more, help me and my shyness! Hes invited me to go visit him in the mall where he works and i went and i saw him but i was stupid and i didnt go in lol, i really dont know what to do or say cause im SO SHY! Help, thanks:D (link)
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The best way that I've found to overcome shyness is to go in without expectations. Treat him as you would treat any other friend! Casually greet him as you would normally; you're giving yourself a mental complex :-) If he works in a store at the mall then there's your outlet. People normally shop at a mall, right? Just go in to do some shopping! Then casually address him in random conversation or just get him to "help you with some merchandise" in the store. Shyness doesn't have to be a fault, if you manipulate it then it can be very endearing to men.
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I recently was diagnosed with clinical depression.
I've had depression for years, but never sought out help for it.
I just started college in September, but things just kept getting worse for me.
I found a counselor over here on campus and she thought that my idea of going back home and coming back next year would be a great idea for me.
I could get used to anti-depressants (which I haven't been able to start yet, I don't have a doctor over here) and also so I could work out my problems.
My big problem is that I don't feel like I am being supported by anyone but my boyfriend and my 3 best friends.
My mom, dad and sister keep saying like a broken record that they want me to stay over here (I go to Central Washington University in Ellensburg, WA, but I live in Auburn normally)
I already made the plans a while ago that I am coming back over there, and that I am going to go to a community college and not feel so guilty about spending my dad's money while I am confused and unsure of what I want to do with my life.
They just don't understand that the more I am over here, the worse I feel.
I feel horrible about myself, I feel horrible because my dad keeps complaining about how much money he spends on each of us kids, and that I just can't handle it over here right now.
I've explained to them all many times why I want to come back and why I am coming back, but it's like it goes in one ear and out the next.
I feel like I need to go out and live on my own because they all make me feel so horrible about leaving here that I just get worse in my depression but I don't have a job yet, and to get over there, I have to get a ride from one of them because I was in a car accident a short while ago so I don't have a car.
I am so tired of feeling bad but they don't hear me.
Any advice on what I should do?
Thank you all ahead of time. (link)
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You poor thing! One of my best friends from college suffered from clinical depression as well. Your support system is obviously with your boyfriend and your best friends, so rely heavily on them. I would also have to disagree with your councellor, if you "take a year off" of school it's more than likely the case that you won't go back. Spend time with people that you enjoy being around, take up a random cool class and a couple of fun hobbies (I find that cooking is a huge stress reliever) and start to enjoy life. You're in college, the best years of your life! Maybe consider a sorority? When I was in a fraternity, my problems were their problems. Friends are your best safety net. If you need a job, consider being a waitress or bartender. Normally those positions have flexible hours and really good money. Best of luck to you!
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I was the first and only girl this guy did sexual stuff with.
He was the first and only for me tooo
I think about it all the time
Im dying to know if he thinks about it too?
no... im not asking him
That wuld be sumthin im not doing.
Do you think he does?
or what is ur opionion
thanks
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I still remember my first sexual experience many, many years ago; that stays with us forever. I'm sure he's thinking the same things you are, and he's reluctant to talk about it just as you because first time experiences at young ages are very awkward and not easy to express. It's healthy to talk about our feelings and intimacy so if it comes up, don't be afraid to speak what's on your mind. We need the feedback as much as women do.
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you answered my question about masterbating and you said it was healthy for me to start at my age. why is it healthy? (link)
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You're more than welcome! I'll be happy to help you out with anything you need advice on.
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I am from tn.He danced with me at our school dance and he asked me for the last slow dance. We are always flirting with eachother and joking around. but he says he doesn't like me but his friends says he does. He talks to me every day almost. I really love him what should i do????
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Ah, I'm originally from Mississippi! Good to hear from a fellow southerner! Anyway, to answer your question it depends on how old you two are on how you should approach this. I'm assuming from "school dance" you are in high school, so guys that age don't really know how to innitiate relationships most of the time. Us southern boys usually take time to "feel out" women to see if they are just flirting or if they really like us. Be pro-active about this. Don't be afraid to ask him out to a movie or a party; let your feelings be known. We love it when women make the first move! It seems to me that he is into you, so your advances should be welcomed.
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I'm a 19/F in my first student house, and I'm living with (gasp) four boys. We've got a really sweet arrangement going between three of us where each of us is responsible for dinner two nights a week... it's great because it means you spend less time cooking, and we're like a little family eating dinner together every night!
The thing is that although I'm a good cook and make up my own recipes all the time, I'm kind of short on interesting ideas for what to make for us. Does anybody have any cool, inexpensive recipes that will serve 3-4 people? The only real restriction is that one of us doesn't eat spicy food.
Thank you! (link)
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Poor girl, seriously 4 boys? Eh, we're not that bad to live with :) I taught myself out of necessity to cook when I was in college, and I still use the same recipes and tecniques today. A good way to feed 4 or more people on a college student budget is to make various pasta dishes. Make homemade sauces so you can control the sodium and fat content yourself, and good sauces are easy to make. I typically use foodnetwork.com or allrecipes.com to find whatever I'm in the mood for.
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i'm trying to find some healthy snacks to eat after school. i'm thinking about making my self a banana smoothie, but i'm not sure how. all of the recipes that i've read include ice cream or yougurt. and 1) ice cream would be too unhealthy and 2)i hate yogurt and i don't have any.
is it possible to make a banana smoothie with 1 whole banana and milk in a blender? what else would i need to add to this? and is this considered healthy?
if not...what are some other easy healthy snacks that i can eat. not peanut butter & apples or celery because i don't like those things.
thanks! (link)
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Being in the AirForce, we have to maintain a high standard of health and fitness so recently I taught myself to make smoothies for meal substitutes sometimes. This is exactly what I do: instead of using fattening products like ice-cream or yogurt (you could use fat-free yogurt but you won't have a good consistency) try this. Make what's called a "slurry" with corn starch and water, or better yet orange juice or skim milk, and put it in with various fresh fruits to get a thicker consistency. Bananas also help thicken smoothies.
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14/F
hi!! okay, so i want your honest opinion and what you would do for yourself, not the same old, just go for it and if he says no, then that's the worst that can happen.....i need a REAL solution. (Please ^_^ )
so, i REALLY like this guy, (i even dream that we r dating sometimes--scary huh??) but i don't know if he knows i exist...literally. He's a sophmore, and i'm a freshman. He's on the basketball team (he's been on varsity since frosh year), so he's really good. I am on the volleyball team. He is 6'8", i am 5'2". HUGE difference. I live in a place where the year and hight make a pretty big differnce. :( so, what to do. I've like this guy for over a year, but i don't know if he's noticed me becuase....well....i'm shy, SHORT, younger, and well, not in his circle of friends (although my bro is the manager of the bball team he's on) (link)
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First of all sweetie, don't be ashamed about your height AT ALL. I'm 27/m 6ft tall and I abolutely love "short" women! Most men do, trust me on this. You have a unique situation in this case, and a good opportunity; I'll tell you why... It's a HUGE turn-on to men to be approached by women; it doesn't happen to us very often because women are scared to be seen as the "aggressive" type. My advice to you is to make the first move; if he's a decent guy then he should respond warmly. You have a common interest in sports, so there's your ice-breaker. I understand you're shy, so an easy way to work around that is to do something nice for him like hold a door open or pick up a paper he dropped, something very subtle so you won't seem aggressive but you'll immediately be his center of attention, if only for a minute.
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okay let me just get to the point..lol. sometimes when i masterbate, 17.f, i get numb for a lil' while afterwards, and all tingly inside. but this only happens if i am doing it while looking at a pic of my fiancee'. is this normal? thank you for any help you can give:) (link)
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I just answered a similar question earlier tonight and apparently it was helpful since I got a 5 feedback on it, so I'll give you the same response. I'm not female, but I am 27 years old and I know a good deal about sex and the female body. What you're experiencing is euphoria, it's perfectly normal. It's triggered when your clit is stimulated and sends chemical signals to your brain, which has various side-effects such as blurred vision/dizziness and what you described as "tingly." Males go through the same thing when we reach orgasm. When you have a visual aid, such as the picture of your fiancee, it just gives you a focal point and helps you concentrate on something (or someone) that turns you on :-)
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ok im 14/f
i masterbate maybe like every other day or less and when i think get an orgasm or whatever.. i get dizzy and my eye sight sorta gets messed up for like 10 seconds. is something going wrong, is this normal? (link)
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I'm not female, but I am 27 years old and I know a good deal about sex and the female body. What you're experiencing is euphoria, it's perfectly normal. It's triggered when your clit is stimulated and sends chemical signals to your brain, which has the blurred vision/dizziness side-effect. Males go through the same thing when we reach orgasm. It's very healthy for you to masturbate at an early age, too!
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I don't feel safe at my school.
Like, yesterday, I left my binder in a class in a basket under the seat. I come back today and it is totally ALL written on, every single page [which is like 100 pages]. It says "Dum ho", "slut", "sell out", "I HATE YOU B@#!@! :D" all this unprintable stuff.
and, today in 5th period, i get a pass to go to the bathroom and when I walk outside, the guys that love to torment me start making fun of me.
HIM:"HEY IT'S UGLY GIRL!!! GODDMMT! Why are you so ugly!!?!?"
ME:"I'm not ugly. JUST LEAVE ME ALONE!!!"
HIM: *he gets 4 inches close to my face* "Why should we?"
ME: "Well, if you think I'm so ugly, why don't you just leave so you don't have to look at me?"
and the night before, i bit my lip really hard and it swelled up on the bottom lip.
HIM: "HEY WHATS ON YOUR LIP?"
ME: "Its-"
HIM: "-EWWW IS THAT HERPES!!?!? OH MY GOD IT'S HERPES!!!"
now they wait for me at the doors they know i'm going through so they can torment me.
i don't feel safe.
i don't want to go to the bathroom or go outside of class, or even switch classes!
i'm constantly looking out for people that hate me.
what do i do? :\
please help soon.
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This one is tough sweetie. Guys your age can be abusive because they may have an inferiority complex themselves. I'm a 27 year old male, so I've been through it. If you respond to them, they'll just keep coming at you with more immature insults. The best thing for you to do is ignore them altogether and eventually they'll get bored because they're not being challenged. When you go outside of class, take a friend if possible and just focus on a conversation with them. Hope this helps. Good luck!
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my friend plays tennis and she loves yellow. she also likes necklaces. i was thinking the perfect gift would be a necklace with a little yellow tennis ball on it. i no nobody knows exactly where to find that, but anyone have any ideas where to look? i live in colorado if it helps for any stores or something. thanks so much! (link)
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I too live in Colorado, and I found that the best place to look for random stuff like that is specialty shops or you could try Claire's in any mall. Most specialty shops can have the necklace custom made as well. Take care!
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do guys like get disgusted when you bleed when you have sex for the first time? i mean doesnt that get blood on there "parts" and stuff?
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Personally I don't get disgusted in the least, but I think it's a personal preference type of thing, objectively speaking. Be sure to communicate with the guy; let him know what feels comfortable and what doesn't, and tell him to be gentle and there's a good chance that there won't be any bleeding at all. Not all of us guys are into rough sex!
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ok Xmas is the 25th and her birthday is the 30th
so far i got
::::for Xmas:::
-silver cross necklace from tiffanys
-i took a bear i gave her a few weeks ago and got one of those buildabear voice box things in it sayin "i love u blah blah blah"
-a framed collage of pictures of us together
:::for B-day:::
-while she is gone, decorting her room
---decorations:: 153 sticky notes on her wall that say 'i love u'... 153 hershy kisses on her bed... 153 rose pedals in a path that lead up to a framed letter im writing to her... candels everywhere, and some outlining the path to the letter. and her door is closed with a note on it so when she comes in she read (one for every day we've been toegher) cuz on her birthday we will ahve been together 153 days.
---then a charm bracelet from tiffanys with a charm that says "i (link)
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Quite honestly, I think you're going to be okay with what you have already. You've only been together for 5 months so I wouldn't think she would be expecting much more than this. However, if you want to go over-the-top, cook for her! Women love a man who can cook (I've used cooking to impress many women). Find an impressive recipe on FoodNetwork.com and follow it, you can't go wrong. Even if you mess it up, she'll appreciate the effort. Good luck!
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