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Me and my friends brother Ben met three years ago. He was sweet and funny. We became really good mates almost as close as me and her. Then he asked me out, I liked him and his amazing personality but I just didnt think of him in that way...we lost contact after this even though I told him I wanted to stay friends. Today our youth group did a reunion dinner thing because we left two years ago and he was there, he looked different he looked amazing and he had the same Ben personality and i felt myself falling for him but he wouldnt even sit next to me in the restaurant....i need help shall i try and get in there or not bother?? am i being shallow?? i dont know i want whatever advice you have to offer....I rate 5's for good advice
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You really need to sit and ask yourself why you didn't like him in that way years ago but all of a sudden now you do? Once you figure that out the rest of the decisions shouldn't be that hard. And don't go for him just because of his looks. It needs to be because of his personality and how he treats you. How things are when you two are together. But if you liked his personality back then and didn't have romantic feelings for him then, why do you have them now? But if you genuinly like him for his personality and the way he treats you then go for it. Don't let him slip away. I hope all of this helps you. And remember if he still won't talk to you or hang out with you then it is his loss not yours.
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look people...i know what i did to scott was wrong so you can stop telling me how messed up i am and stuff. K thanks! anyway well i just found out from one of scott's old girlfriends that scott asked her best friend ( who i know) to cheat on me with him...ok this is the second time someone has told me he's been fooling around...and i am starting to believe it i mean why would people make that up? everybody hates scott...and were in a fight because he always hangs up on me all the time and when i do it he gets all mad? ok like he got fierd and he was taking it out on me and he was like whatever aleah and hung up...i mean i can't ask him if he's cheating on me because he'll say no and he probaly is becasue he cheated on me once when we went out before i guess the saying is ture: Once a cheater, always a cheater...
and when scott hangs up on me and calles be back five hours later and i'm mad he thinks i'm being a ***** but i mean if your boyfriend hung up on you all the time woulden't you be mad? thats not respecting me at all... and his drug problem is starting up agian he got his paycheck and he got 200.00 and he bought mushrooms to sell...and he said i'm not going to take them but he relapsed once before and then he said you just have to realize i'm a drug addict. and he was talking about marrying me? YEAH RIGHT!! how could he support me when he puts drugs before me? someone please help me? (link)
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Hon obviously you don't trust him since he has cheated on you before. Ask yourself these questions... How can you be in a relationship with someone you don't trust? Someone you fight with? Someone who would possibly choose drugs over you? How do you truly fit into his life? How do you think he truly feels about you? How do you truly feel about him? You have to be honest with yourself. All of these questions are very important and the answers are even more important. So I think you just need to figure these things out and take a really good look at everything then do what is best for you. And I hope after you do all of this that you will have your answer and things will be better for you.
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Okay well there is this guy in my grade that I really like, and right when I started to like him all of these 8th grade girls that are my friends started liking him. He says that he likes me and 1 of the eigth graders but I want him to like me, just me. What should I do to really get his attention?? I think I've been doing a pretty good job so far.
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Just continue to be yourself, take a notice of his interest. Make sure when you talk to him you talk about his interest, things he likes to do. If he plays sports go to his games. Offer for you two to study together if you have some of the same classes. But again remember to be yourself and just let him know how you really like him. Wheather it is by telling him, flirting with him or whatever. That is pretty much all you can do. And I hope doing all of that helps you.
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Hey, I have a question. It involved me going to the concert with my dad that I really wanted to go to last night and with my boyfriend going to the school dance. My freind told me he was dancing with a ton of girls. This kind of makes me jealous and I don't know if it is normal to get jealous. Do you think guys shouldn't dance with other girls if they have a girlfriend already?
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Hon this is all a matter of trust. If you know that dancing is all he was doing then you shouldn't be jealous. Just look at it as he was dancing with women who can't have him because you already have him. And you have to trust him. You can't expect him to go to a dance without you and not dance. He should be allowed to have fun just like you did at the concert. If you trust him and you know that he didn't do anything but dance with them then everything should be fine. But everyone does get jealous about something once in a while. But if you start being jealous all of the time it could cause problems in your relationship so again as I said, he is your boyfriend so you really need to trust him.
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i wanna dedicate some songs to my boyfriend but idk what songs to dedicate to him...does anyone have any ideas?
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Here are some good ones for you. I swear by all 4 one, Love of a lifetime or I live my life for you by firehouse. If you ever leave me by Barbara Striesand and vince Gill, the rest of mine by Trace Adkins, I will always love you by Whitney Houston, i'll never stop loving you by J'son or may I have this dance by Anne Murray. I hope those help.
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15/female.... i told this 12th grader i loved him and hes my rly good friend. he has a gf that i want to run her over with a bus!!!he says he likes me kinda but its just too complicated because hes afraid of what his friends will think and next month it would be illeagle* and im not mature enough (sex) meanwhile i would do anything for him b/c i love him soo much. did i make a mistake or did i do the right thing. we are going to hang tomorrow or saturday! should i give up on him??? please answer ill rate!!! (link)
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I think you need to be really careful in your choice because one he is more experienced than you and 2 as you said in a year it will be illegal. You don't need anyone getting in trouble. And never say you will do anything for someone. There is alot you might do for someone but not everything. And hon you are still very young. You reall really need to make sure you are in love with someone before you have sex with them. Being a virgin is very special and priceless. Once you give that up, that is it. It is gone. So think about your choices long and hard before you make them. And think about the fact that yes you do like him but maybe you two are better as friends. Remember the choices you make in life affect your life. And not always in a good way.
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Okay. So, I have this boyfriend.
We've been going out for about a weeks or so now.
We saw each other a lot before we started going out. And this is my first boyfriend in almost a year, so I'm used to being single.
Because we aren't hanging out with each other at all since we started dating I don't feel like he's even there. He goes to a different school and can never see me because neither of us have rides to see each other.
I want a boyfriend But I don't.
I'm not sure if I should wait and see how it goes
or just end it now.
I mean how am I supposed to know if there's anything there if I've never hung out with him? (link)
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I think you need to talk to him before you make any decisions. Call him on the phone or write him a letter if you have to. Tell him how you are feeling and ask him how he truly feels. Tell him you really like him but you two never even see each other so sometimes it doesn't even feel like you are couple. Ask for his suggestion on what you two should do. He is a part of this relationship as much as you are. So include him in this. Once you talk to him you should know what to do. And if he doesn't talk to you or tell you anything then just tell him that you feel you two should go back to being friends and you hope that he will remain a part of your life. I hope this helps.
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Age: 15, gender: female
ok, so.... I've been dating my bf, sam for almost 3 months, but I'm not sure if I wannabe with him anymore. I broke up with him once already a month ago but got back together with him after a few days bacause i felt really bad and i kind missed him. The reasons I broke up with him in the 1st place have only gotten worse though, he tends to be controlling and he's jealous of any other guy i hang out with. Not nly that, but I'm starting to have feelings for my friend Patryk. You see, Patryk has a gf right now, but they're on a rocky part of thir relationship like me and sam. He's even talking about breaking it off with her to me. He's a really great guy though and I'd love to be with him, but I'm not sure if i should break up with my boyfriend to try and be with him. Especially because my bf has a suicidal history and last time i broke up with him he went all suicidal on me and everything and I just don;t wanna have to worry about that. Am I crazy to try and take this risk or should i just stay with my current bf and deal with it? ...cuz he does have some really great moments. (link)
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First of all you are really right to want to break up with him. You shouldn't have to deal with someone being that controlling. But don't break up with him because of patryk. Do it because it is what is better for you. And because he has suicidal tendencies I would have an adult there with you when you break up with him. Just to be safe. You need to make sure that an adult and maybe a friend you can trust knows what is going on. But never stay with someone just because they are suicidal and you are worried about what they will do. You can not control anything a person says or does. Everyone chooses their own actions and their actions does not make it your responsibility. If you stay with your bf things might only get worse for you. And you are too young to let a boy control you in the way that he is. I really hope this helps you and good luck.
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So last year in 6th grade i met my friend marissa and we were like attached at the hip for the rest of the year. i was friends with her and being friends with her made my other firends jealos and i lost them... and now im kinda regretting it-- my friend marissa has a boyfriend peter that ive known forever and hes my friend and all but whenever me&her are on the phone she always ditches me for him and says that she doesnt like him and all this crap but it changes when hes around.. so i had enough of it so i told her thta i was mad at her and now shes mad at me. i dont think she has a reason to be mad cause this has been bothering me forever and ive just started to tell her. i know that tomorrow at school we will probably be friends again, but i know its gonna keep on happening. ilove her and i cant live without her, but she is just really getting on my nerves and i dont know what to do.
Helppp mee & ill rate high. (link)
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You really need to stand your ground on how you feel but don't push her away. Even if she doesn't have a right to be mad, she is obviously mad for a reason. So just let her know you are still her friend and give her time to cool down. And as for your other friends being jealous and you loosing their friendship, if they were truly your friends in the first place they wouldn't have stopped being friends with you just because you got a new friend. And whatever you do, don't ever let a boy come between you and your best friend. No boy is worth that. You and your friend just need to talk without either one of you being mad. Just have a calm conversation and discussing issues that are bothering both of you but also make sure you both take the time to listen to the other one then respond when they are done. I hope it all works out for you.
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Okay when im with my boyfriend its a little acward cause we nvr have anything to talk about and idk i think he feels pressured around me how do i go about changeing that
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I think you need to remember how things were before you two started dating compared to how they are now. Let him know that is ok to talk to you and that you don't want him to be afraid to be himself. Definately try to get to know him more and and try to start conversations based on his interest. Once conversations are going good try to broaden the conversations with other things such as your interest. Just take things one step at a time. And by doing this it will help you determine if you two are meant to be a couple or just friends.
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My boyfriend (of a year and a couple months) and I broke up a little over 6 months ago. (we’ll call him K) But we’ve acted like we were still together up until 4 weeks ago. I met someone (we’ll call him M) a week before I went on vacation/work. (3 weeks ago) (I would talk to M everyday almost 3 times a day! I would also talk to K while I was out of town. K would tell me how much he loves me, he can’t move on and he doesn’t want to, he wants me to come back, etc. A few days after I got back M and I hung out and we got together officially. Now K calls me every once in awhile and we’ve gone out to lunch a couple days within the past two weeks. And the last few days I’ve hung out with him and his friends, and I’ve missed that. Now, about K, he has cheated on me…a couple times, but I seriously love him with all my heart. I miss everything. And I know, I’ve been told, once he has cheated, he’ll do it again and that I’m stupid for taking him back, but I really cannot help it. So, now M and I have been dating for less than 3 weeks and I feel bad because he’s into everything I’m into and he cares about me A LOT! And now I don’t know what to do. I’ve tried to write out each good and bad thing about each of them and I can’t figure out who I really want to be with. I mean, I do want to be with K, but at the same time M is there too. I don’t know what to do. If you have good advice, help me out! J I rate.. If this is too confusing or something, let me know and I can explain a little better. (link)
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Usually people tell you to follow your heart. But on this issue I think you really need to think about ALL of the reasons you and K broke up. Yes you stil love him and you miss how things were between you two when he wasn't cheating on you. But is your love for him enough to over power the pain of him cheating on you? Could you honestly be in a relationship with K again without wondering if he is going to cheat on you again? Could you be in a relationship with K again and trust him 100% knowing how your relationship was in the past? There are many things you need to think about here. But I also believe that since you are not over him yet which means you can't fully love or give your heart to anyone else yet. That maybe you and M should just be friends for now. Or you and M can continue dating but make sure he knows not to have any high expectations right now since you just recently got out of the relationship with K. The main things are to be true to yourself, true to your heart and remain honest to everyone. And don't rush anything. Good luck and I hope you figure things out.
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Me and my boyfriend have been going out for like, a while. The problem is that we're afraid to touch each other .. we can't hold hands, we don't bump each other when we walk, we don't hug, we don't hang on each other, ect. I want to get closer to him.But I don't know how, I can't just like one day, decide to hug him.. help? (link)
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Sit and think about the reasons you are afraid to touch him, and talk to him and ask him why he is afraid to touch you. There could be a serious reason you two are afraid to touch each other or it could be minor. Something like maybe you two are just nervous. Just remember that you don't want to rush this. But you do need to find out WHY you two haven't touched each other and see if it is something you can resolve. This will probally not be easy so just do all you can to have patience and understanding.
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so my best friend isn't talking to me anymore.
and shes been asking her three best friends to do really nice stuff like go to a nice far away mall n horseback riding but she hasn't asked me to do anything with her((its spring break))i feel really left out cause she never does stuff wiht me anymore. why is she doing this to me? (link)
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There is no easy way to know the answer to this question except for talking to your friend about it. If you can't go to her house then call her or write her a letter. Just ask her what is going on and if something is wrong. Tell her that you feel left out and that you miss the company of her and her friendship. You can't force her to hang out with you or talk to you but you can tell her how you feel. Then all you can do is be patient for a response and hopefully she will come around. You might even remind her of things you two did together that you really miss. Reasons why you miss spending time with her and doing things with her. Let her know she is an important person in your life.
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What do i do if my bf and i fight all the time and im talking to other this other guy behind his bak that he faught and this other guy likes me? what do i do? they both like me alot. im so confused which one i should go 4 stay with mi bf or go 2 da other kid (link)
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This really is a matter of what is in your heart. But... You also have to ask yourself if you are happy with the fact that you and your boyfriend fight all the time. Could you be happy staying in a relationship with someone you fight with all the time? Now before you just say no and run out and dump your boyfriend for this other guy, think about this. Do you really like or love your boyfriend? If you do then you should sit down and talk to him. Bring up the fact that you two fight all the time, the majority of the reasons you fight. Tell him that because of how you feel about him you don't want to loose him as your boyfriend but you also can't handle the fighting all the time. Through talking to him and hearing his responses see if there is a way you two can work things out and be able to talk about problems more often so that there isn't all the fighting. Now if you don't really like or love your boyfriend then I would suggest breaking up with him but still remaining friends with this other guy for a while before you jump into a relationship with him. Continue to get to know him, maybe hang out with him as if you were dating but without the "Couples" title to see how he would actually be as a boyfriend. How your relationship together might be. You are obviously hurt that you and your boyfriend fight all of the time so by doing this it gives you less chance to be hurt with the new guy.
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I need some ideas of love songs. like really romantic soppy stuff. Im making a video for my bf. ive got a few so far..
boys 2 men - i swear
celine dion - i want you to need me
but i need a few more ideas can any one help please? nothing rocky thanks :)
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It really depends on what type of music you are looking for but here are a few of my favorites.... If you ever leave me by Vince Gill and Barbara Striesand, Love of a Lifetime By Firehouse, I live my life for you by Firehouse, I'll never stop loving you by J'son, May I have this dance by Anne Murray and For the rest of mine by Trace Adkins. All of these are awesome love songs. I really hope you find at least one in there that you like. And if the video isn't finished yet, good luck on it.
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Okay im trying to find a few songs that are like.. based of friendship if you get what i mean?
i dont want rocky music something kinda soppy.
can anyone suggest a few please :) rates all round.
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I don't know of too many of them but I am a music lover here are a few songs I highly reccomend... One Friend by Dan Seals, Count on me from the waiting to exhale cd by Whitney Houstan and CeCe Winans and I'm your angel by Celine Dion and R Kelly. I hope you are able to hear these songs and that you really enjoy them.
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ok so as most of you know i was rapped by my bfs friend and i told my bf after some hesitation...and he totally understood..he understood by breaking the guy (we'll call him "j") Js arm. and Js dad is a lawyer so you could tell his dad was pissed! and my bf might have to go to juvey 4 six months!!UGH and thats not even the worst part J keeps calling me and horrasing me..i cant tell my parents cuz they have enough on their platee already.. (divorce, cancer,new baby coming..) and so i cant tell them...and i am feeling really lousy..and im scared to go get a pregnancy test..what should i do!!!!????
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Hon I understand that so much is going on and you are very scared. But first off you really need to go get a home pregnancy test and take it. Second of all even if you are not pregnant you need to take the time to sit down and tell your parents. What happens if J presses charges against your bf and this gets called to court and you are ordered to be there? Although it is a small chance that it would happen, it is still a chance. Also it will be so much better if your parents here it from you, instead of hearing it from someone else. Your parents love you, and they are there to take care of you, help provide for you, and to help you through things in your life. This is one of those times when you should be leaning on them. I do realize it will not be easy, especially since they have so much going on. But as a family you all will get through this. Plus because they are your parents they have a right to know and would want to know.
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ok well i have a boyfriend and everyone says that when this one guy finds out that i have a boyfriend he is going to be so so so sad because he has liked me for like ever.. this guy is one of my really good frinds and i dont want him to get upset so i think it would be better if i told him myself rather than him just hearing it from other people.. can someone give me some advice on how to tell him without being mean....
thxx
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First of all you have to really give this some thought and figure out if the reason you are so conserned about this is because... You like him as more than a friend or just because he is your best friend and you don't want to loose him as your best friend. If it is because you like him as more than a friend then just politely tell him that you are currently in a relationship but that no one ever knows what the future holds. And make sure he knows that no matter what happens you two will always be friends. Now if the reason you are so conserned is because he is your best friend and you don't want to loose him as such. Then sit him down and tell him that you are currently in a relationship and even if you weren't you don't think you would want to date him. Because although he is a great guy, he is your best friend. And you would be afraid that if the relationship didn't work out that you might loose his friendship. And he means too much to you as a friend for you to let or want that to happen. When you explain it to him this way everything should be fine. I am pretty sure that he will be understanding. Just don't be so scared about it. Have faith and trust in him, that he will be as understanding as I am sure he will be.
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