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ok so as most of you know i was rapped by my bfs friend and i told my bf after some hesitation...and he totally understood..he understood by breaking the guy (we'll call him "j") Js arm. and Js dad is a lawyer so you could tell his dad was pissed! and my bf might have to go to juvey 4 six months!!UGH and thats not even the worst part J keeps calling me and horrasing me..i cant tell my parents cuz they have enough on their platee already.. (divorce, cancer,new baby coming..) and so i cant tell them...and i am feeling really lousy..and im scared to go get a pregnancy test..what should i do!!!!????
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as you said there going though alot of stuff!
but still 'd tell them! im not trying to scare you! but what if this " j" kid does somehting worst to you! then with out tellin your parents they lose there child! which is more stress on them! wounldt you rather feel safe. you should get a pregnancy test just incase and tell your parents what " j " did to you beacuse that was so wrong and you dont deserve that! and your boyfriend breakin "j's" arm PROPS to your bf! i dont know you but i owuld of done the same thing to j because no one deserves going through that! so tell your parents it will help j should be the one who goes to jail not your boyfriend even though he did something wrong! but yeah i hope i helped you in someway
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well this is really serious. if you cant tell your own parents tell your closets frineds parents. try to record him when hes on the phone with your cell phone. dont be scared to get a pregnancy test its really not a big deal. it will be over with sooner enough. try to stay clear of him. if you have is recording you can go to the police
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First off, tell your parents. You may think they have too much on their plate but if you don't tell them nothing will be done. They will take the action nessicary. And you need to get a pregnancy test. Yes, you are afarid to do both but if you don't you are harming yourself. If you don't you are just giving J the ability to do it to someone else again. Rate me low if you like but honestly, TELL YOUR PARENTS. They will get you a pregnancy test, which is what you need.
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Well hun firstly... Well done for telling on "J" its not a easy thing to do and not many rape victims do it, so you should feel really pleased with yourself!!
secondly... Good on your boyfriend for breaking "J's" arm! great boyfriend you've got there hun!
As for the pregnancy test kit, don't be scared about it, theres so many ways of getting one and private ways to go about it. Here in the UK theres a brooke centre where you can go in and get the test kit and other advice on situations like this without your parents having to know.. in the states i beleive its 'Planned parenthood'? so google that to find the nearest one in your area/neighbourhood. Its all done confidentially so theres no need to worry about being judged or embarrassed.
seriously hun don't put it off, the sooner the better.
If J's dad is a lawyer i would of expected him to be pretty pissed at his own son's behaviour. Infact if that was me, i wouldn't send your boyfriend to juvey at all, i would just disown my son for doing such a sick thing. i hope everything goes okay with you and your boyfriend, stick by him for support, he seems like a genuinly nice, loving supportive guy. I really hope he doesn't get sent to Juvey
If you need any more help or just want someone to talk to, im always here so drop me a message in my inbox or email me and i will get back to you ASAP.
Good luck hun x
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Hon I understand that so much is going on and you are very scared. But first off you really need to go get a home pregnancy test and take it. Second of all even if you are not pregnant you need to take the time to sit down and tell your parents. What happens if J presses charges against your bf and this gets called to court and you are ordered to be there? Although it is a small chance that it would happen, it is still a chance. Also it will be so much better if your parents here it from you, instead of hearing it from someone else. Your parents love you, and they are there to take care of you, help provide for you, and to help you through things in your life. This is one of those times when you should be leaning on them. I do realize it will not be easy, especially since they have so much going on. But as a family you all will get through this. Plus because they are your parents they have a right to know and would want to know.
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Go to a grocery store and buy a pregnacy test there. If it is positive then consider seeing a doctor. You could call the police on J again so that he probably will get sent to juvey and he will be out of the way.
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