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I'm 16 and want to learn to masterbate I'd love to her how it effects you (link)
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By the wording, I'm going to assume you're a female wanting to learn female masturbation.
I prefer not to use fingers, as they rarely can reach the right places.
If you're insistent upon using your fingers, however, I advise being more gentle with yourself than you might even feel like you want. Giving yourself LESS can sometimes really build up a much more amazing orgasm. I would use two hands, one for your clitoris, and the other for the labia, vulva, and vagina--never neglect the outer parts like the labia and vulva, they contribute a lot to female pleasure. And keep in mind that penetration LESSENS the effectiveness of clitoral stimulation, so you may want to only play with the outside.
If you're willing to look for alternatives, there's many I much prefer.
One of my favorites, which works without being messy even on your period (which if you're like me, you probably want it MOST then); is to bundle up something 'soft but firm' like a blanket or pillows until it's a good firm surface with just a little bit of give (experiment with this to see what firmness you prefer); and them rub your pelvis on it like you're humping it. This works best if you have only your underwear between you and the blankets (pants it too much between and without underwear can be too rough).
If you want penetration (I usually don't as it's more difficult and doesn't always feel as good), but don't have any sex toys on hand, you can use things as makeshift dildos. Find something of a phallic shape without any sharp edges or seams. It's important to find a thickness you like, and remember that bigger is not always better.
I also find again that being more gentle than you'd imagine you'd like, can be amazingly good.
Even if you end up going rough, certainly you should start out slow.
And because the outer parts of the vagina are more sensitive than the outside, making 'new penetration' repeatedly usually feels better than just pumping. Remove the object COMPLETELY and insert again.
All in all, don't be afraid to experiment with different motions, angles, body positions (yes, the position you lay/stand/sit in while masturbating can make all the difference), sizes, combinations, whatever.
And if you ever find you've been too rough with yourself and stuff doesn't feel as good, don't worry... abstain for a week and you'll be good as new again.
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How can you make your clitarous more sensative? (link)
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It can be tricky, with no sure-fire answers, especially depending upon what type of stimulation you want it to be more sensitive to. If you've been rough with it, it can become desensitized, and you may need to leave it alone for about a week to let it heal up and return to normal.
If you're desperate and daring, you could try irritating it with hot sauce (DO NOT GET IT ON OR IN YOUR VULVA/VAGINA). It actually won't feel like much to start with, but in a few minutes, will begin to burn (I kind of like it myself), but not terribly. When you need to stop the burning, clean it thoroughly and apply milk (yes, milk). After this, it should at least be more touch-sensitive on the surface for a good while.
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I need to get my life together. I have all the tools...just a little push. The next year and a half is going to make or break me. I'm a junior in college and I'm trying to get into graduate school. If i don't get my act together, get straight A's, and make my resume as amazing as possible...I don't see that happening...and my lifeplan will be shot to hell..
SO....this is where you come in...
ANYONE
its not much i would appreciate ANYTHING from ANYONE.
I just need some motivation...
It could be a movie that really inspires you...a song...a book..a quote....something your grandma said last week.
I need a trigger to get me started
I have been so depressed lately that I can barely get myself out of bed. Mostly because I've been very lonely... but I can't whine about being alone forever I need to DO SOMETHING.
HELP A GIRL OUT! (link)
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If you think an 'inspiring movie' will actually help, watch 'The Pursuit of Happyness'. It's a true story, and an amazing story, and Will Smith is a great actor.
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My partners kids live with there grand perents and they get for having the kids £200 each for both kids (2 kids) since me and my panter have had a baby of our own my partners mum as gone to csa and getting £100 of us a week now im unable to but my baby nappies and stuff unless a lend of a family member.. Is this aloud does my partner have to pay csa to his perents even tho they are adopted or that have special gradenship? (link)
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I don't know about the legal part of this issue, but if you're seriously struggling for diapers, get some reusable diapers. It might be more 'gross' and increase your laundry load (if you really wanna save money, you can hand wash them--I know, yuck), but it will save you a LOT of money.
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I have a character in a book I'm writing, her name is Taylor. It's a girl and she needs a last name. I was thinking about Taylor Hart or Taylor Lane. What do you think? Any other good last names for Taylor? (link)
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Personally, I think a last name that is a single syllable, containing the same A sound from Taylor, is good, however I don't like "Lane". Having to make another L sound so soon, makes the name a little bit of a mouthful.
I agree with the other person that "Cray" sounds good. Or any any other single-syllable name with the hard A sound, beginning with any hard consonant and definitely not L.
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I have a band but we don't have a name at the moment, our sound is pop-rock or alternative rock some acoustic sounds too. I've been thinking abou "The Underscene" but I'm unsure and I also for some reason like the phrase "Red Cloud" Anyways what do you think? Any suggestions? (link)
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To me "The Underscene" sounds like a boyband. "Red Cloud" sounds okay. It might help to consider any trends in lyrics you use.
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A while back, I asked for help on how to get my videos to stop pausing while the audio continued on.
It's not happening more frequently so I have to wiggle my mouse at least once every couple seconds and this is just so annoying. It happens on all the websites I try to watch a video on now, including YouTube. Netflix is the only one that plays normally. And the videos work when I don't full screen, but once I put into full screen, the entire thing screws up. I've even had a few videos basically short out and close my browser down on me.
I tried cleaning my cache, my computer, and running a scan, but still nothing came of it. I also ran the RegTweaker program as previously suggested, but I was asked to pay a fee in the end, so I couldn't continue with it.
One of my friends suggested that something may be wrong with my video card, or whatever that is, and I really don't know what it is.
Is there anyway to get this fixed or do I really need to pay a lot of money to have it fixed? (link)
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Chances are your computer or the video-processing of your computer is just being slow.
Try defragmenting your computer. If you don't know what that is, please look it up.
Be sure that your computer isn't overheating.
It could be a problem with your video card, either a malfunction, or simply dust. If you don't even know what a video card is, please look it up.
Also, be sure you have the absolute latest update of Adobe Flashplayer.
If you have a screensaver, even though the screensaver may not be coming on, it can still cause this issue. Try turning disabling the screensaver and see if it helps.
Try a virus scan by a REPUTABLE (not just popular) anti-virus program. I would avoid Norton or McAfee like the plague. If you have either of those already installed, uninstall them, and reset your computer and you may well see immediate improvement. I use Kaspersky. You can get a free, fully functional 30 day trial from their website.
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Ok so i need to grow my nails longer by the end of june.for.my grad because i want a french manicutre but i cant have one if i have short nails. So far they are an average length but they keep on.splitting at the ends :( i use cuticle oil everyday and currently have them painted. Why o they keep splittig?!? (link)
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Stop painting them. The chemicals that are in the paint before it dries damages the integrity of the nail. Also do not use nail polish remover.
Be sure that you do not have any fungal infection of the nail.
Keeping them moisturized is good, but you need to stop using chemicals.
Also, eating more gelatin (Jello, gummy candies, anything with lots of gelatin in it) will help to strengthen your nails a bit, but it will not be enough to counteract the damage from polish and polish removers.
You should also get more calcium, and more iron, but do NOT take iron supplements. Find a natural source of iron, like red meat, pork liver, collards, kale, spinach, etc. Again, this will probably not counteract the damage from polish, etc.
Also be sure that you yourself are well hydrated. A lack of feeling thirsty does not necessarily mean you are hydrated, and dehydration will prevent your nails from growing in strong.
My nails will commonly get up to an inch long without breaking if I don't trim them. I never paint them, but when I have, I find that it always completely destroys any strength they had and makes them flimsy and brittle until they grow out again.
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I apologize if this is in the wrong section, was not sure where it could have gone.
17/m
So I have been wanting tattoos for a couple of years now and my 18th birthday is coming up. I want to get them but I don't know what I should get but that is for another time to think about.
I have questions regarding how they will look on me.
I currently am 6'1 or 6'2 and about 155 lbs. I am very skinny since I am so tall and I am thinking I will gain weight in my 20's so I was wondering if I get a tattoo now would it be affected by gaining weight such as fat and muscle?
I don't want them to stretch out and get ruined. I know it is a permanent thing to my body which is why I am asking.
Also I do not know if I am done growing in height. Would gaining another half inch to a couple of inches distort the tattoos in any way?
I am a white male if that info helps, also I kinda am hairy would it be in best interest to get that removed?
Any info helps! (link)
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Yes, tattoos do stretch as the skin stretches, so if you gain weight, they may become slightly distorted. Most likely stretching will occur in only one direction, for instance, a circle will become somewhat of an oval.
However, this will vary depending upon the location of the tattoo and how much that area of the body changes.
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15/f my old phone broke and i need an iphone but i dont have a job and my mom is always at work so she cant drive me to my job even if i got one and im not gonna walk. i need something thats easy so i can get my phone. advice thankss (link)
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Offer to mow people's lawns for money. It isn't fun, but it's easy money.
If you don't live in a place where people have lawns, try to find some other possible chore you can do for local people.
You also might try to bake cookies, cakes, or pies, and go door to door and try to sell them, letting people know that you're saving and what you're saving for.
Even if they don't want or need what you're selling, many adults will respect you for putting in the effort to earn your own money and will buy something from you even if they don't actually want it.
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I'm a 13 year old girl. My best friend is a girl. We've kissed before and I really like it. But she always backs away when I try to kiss her. What do I do to make her want to kiss me again? (link)
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You can not MAKE her want to kiss you, nor should you try. You should respect her decision.
You can try to talk to her about it, but you should NOT pressure her. Just because she decided to try it once or even a few times, does not mean she necessarily felt about it like you do, and that should be perfectly alright.
If you really like her, you should respect her feelings.
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I am 16 and my boobs have been hurting alot lately i am not sexually active but I do masturbate. Would masturbation have anything to do with my boobs hurting. I also think its Because of my period, but my period isn't support to come until two more weeks. Should I be worried or does this just mean my boobs are growing.? (link)
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All women have a cycle in which hormones fluctuate. Some hormones can cause sore boobs. My sister often gets sore boobs at some point during her cycle, personally mine are never sore.
Also their texture might change, becoming firmer or softer.
The period is not the only part of the cycle in which hormonal changes can occur, it is only the most obvious due to the bleeding.
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Okay, this is really awkward and hard to say. Well, I just received a spanking because of my grades. It really hurt, but I got a little wet?? I feel really weird now. Is this normal? As I've said in previous questions, I'm 14, so it might be a hormonal thing. (link)
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You got a SPANKING at 14??? That's a little disturbing.... But to answer your question, it could be because being hit there draws blood down toward that area, and thus to your genitals as well, which can cause arousal.
I assume it was a parent that did it, so you should find a way to tell them to stop spanking you and why, because you're too old for 'spankings' and no child should be getting any kind of sexual rise off their parents in any way.
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Hey guys
So i have a question...if a guy likes another girl or has been hanging out with another girl, will he be more talkative and happy to his girlfriend? (Texting-wise) or less talkative with shorter responses? Im just curious to know how a guy would act towards his girlfriend if he secretly is hanging out with another girl. So happy or kinda depressed like? (link)
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Determining this behavior is an art and not a science. Some men pay more attention to their girlfriend in an attempt to hide their infidelity, but if you are good at 'reading' people, this behavior will seem FORCED.
On the other hand, some men pay less attention as they become less interested in their girlfriend.
The 'signs' can vary greatly from person to person and are more situationally based. One would need to know more about what the man's 'normal' vs 'current' behavior is.
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Knowing the rules and having a good memory for Sutras or hymms or comandments or what ever doesnt make a person holy. What does? How can I find someone that is wise? (link)
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You'll know them in how they treat people who are 'below' them, or how they treat people whom they have authority over. They will treat them kindly, generously, lovingly.
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How can one really know what they are good at? The apptitude tests online are not really that great. I went into a local college and saught advice and guidence but they have no idea how to find apptitudes either. This is an almost all consuming question I have that burns in my mind all the time. Any advice would be great, thanks. (link)
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People are most often good at what they ENJOY. What do you ENJOY? Is there any career based around things you enjoy?
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I can't read while other people in the house have the TV on. They seem to be able to do it just fine. It's really driving me crazy. Any advice on how I can learn to read while others are watching TV? I don't want to go into another room or turn the TV off. I want to learn how to read while other things are happening around me. I think that would be an almost invaluble tool these days. (link)
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If you have an MP3 player, put in some headphones and some really non-distracting music that will drown out the noise of the TV.
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I don't know why, but I've been really horny this past week. Is it because I'm fourteen and growing up? Whenever I cum, I just can't stop touching myself. It has to stop. I also get really wet in school. I can't really do anything about it then, and it's kind of embarrassing! Is there a way to stop this? (link)
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It is most likely hormones from growing up, yes.
However, if you are particularly stressed, this can actually cause a rise in libido, as sex releases stress-reducing chemicals.
Personally, I get extra horny near and during my period.
Every woman has a cycle, and their libido may rise and fall during this cycle. So you may feel extremely horny one week, and pretty disinterested another week. It is normal and nothing to be concerned about.
If it is causing any disruptions or distractions, sometimes 'relieving' yourself beforehand can help. Such as, before you go to class, satisfy yourself, so that it may hold you over until school is over. Otherwise you might just have to try to find a way to think about something else.
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I have an irregular menstral cycle, i dont know when its coming or going but when it does come it usually last for three days well anyway my boyfriend and i had unprotected sex and immediately after my period came and i recently found out that he ejaculated inside of me. Am i possibly pregnant ?
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It is possible to get pregnant while on your period. Some people think that sex during their period is a way to avoid pregnancy, but it is not.
The only way you can really prevent pregnancy is not to have unprotected sex.
No one here will be able to accurately tell you the real likelihood of you being pregnant, but the likelihood of pregnancy in general tends to be somewhat low, though it is not at all unheard of for women to get pregnant the very first time.
You should wait to see if your NEXT period comes around or doesn't, or wait the appointed time to take a pregnancy test (pregnancy tests will not tell you anything before a certain period of time has passed).
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My husbands friend has been making sexual comments to me and my husband is blaming me. He told me it's because my shirts are 'too low' The shirt I was wearing sits above my cleavage. I have never been unfaithful or given him any reason to think I have been. Lately he's been making me angry because he doesn't seem to trust me. Am I in the wrong for feeling angry? how should I deal with this? I've tried talking to him but he doesn't listen to what I have to say. (link)
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When his friend is making those comments, what is your IMMEDIATE reaction? Your husband might be jealous.
You should 'lay down the law', and tell your husbands friend not to talk to you that way, and you should tell your husband to defend you from it.
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