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The best way to finger your self
I'm 16 and want to learn to masterbate I'd love to her how it effects you
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By the wording, I'm going to assume you're a female wanting to learn female masturbation.
I prefer not to use fingers, as they rarely can reach the right places.
If you're insistent upon using your fingers, however, I advise being more gentle with yourself than you might even feel like you want. Giving yourself LESS can sometimes really build up a much more amazing orgasm. I would use two hands, one for your clitoris, and the other for the labia, vulva, and vagina--never neglect the outer parts like the labia and vulva, they contribute a lot to female pleasure. And keep in mind that penetration LESSENS the effectiveness of clitoral stimulation, so you may want to only play with the outside.
If you're willing to look for alternatives, there's many I much prefer.
One of my favorites, which works without being messy even on your period (which if you're like me, you probably want it MOST then); is to bundle up something 'soft but firm' like a blanket or pillows until it's a good firm surface with just a little bit of give (experiment with this to see what firmness you prefer); and them rub your pelvis on it like you're humping it. This works best if you have only your underwear between you and the blankets (pants it too much between and without underwear can be too rough).
If you want penetration (I usually don't as it's more difficult and doesn't always feel as good), but don't have any sex toys on hand, you can use things as makeshift dildos. Find something of a phallic shape without any sharp edges or seams. It's important to find a thickness you like, and remember that bigger is not always better.
I also find again that being more gentle than you'd imagine you'd like, can be amazingly good.
Even if you end up going rough, certainly you should start out slow.
And because the outer parts of the vagina are more sensitive than the outside, making 'new penetration' repeatedly usually feels better than just pumping. Remove the object COMPLETELY and insert again.
All in all, don't be afraid to experiment with different motions, angles, body positions (yes, the position you lay/stand/sit in while masturbating can make all the difference), sizes, combinations, whatever.
And if you ever find you've been too rough with yourself and stuff doesn't feel as good, don't worry... abstain for a week and you'll be good as new again.
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