I am a Sixteen year old girl who enjoys helping others and sharing my experience and knowledge. I'm here to help anyone and everyone and anyone is welcome to add me on msn or email me. I have been through relationship problems, Family problems (I have recently moved out of home.) I have had many friendship problems and have helped a lot of people through self harm and suicidal thoughts. My career goal is to be either a graphic designer, Visual Art teacher or councellor.
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Ok, well there's this guy at my school, and i totally like him. Buuut, there's one little problem. I can't talk to him. I'm like, really shy.. I need a way to talk to him without completely making myself look like a fool. How should i start a conversation? and what should i talk about? (link)
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ok... You could use these topics to start a conversation, What did you get up onto the weekend?, or if you've had a test at school you could ask him how he went or ask him what he's doing for the christmas vaccation. Just be yourself, don't try to be someone your not :)
good luck xx
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My boyfriend and I are thinking about having sex. But before I act on this thought, I want to hear some personal experiences. Have you ever had sex? if the answer is no, then why haven't you? Is it because of religion, personal beliefs, morals, etc? But if you have, then What happened? Why did you decide to participate in sex? Do you regret it? I'm asking these questions because I want to know what everyday people think about this, because once its gone i can never get it back. (link)
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First things first, I admire that your thinking carefully about having sex before you make your decision. i have always had a moral that I will be in a relationship with my boyfriend for at least 6 months before having it. The first time I had sex, it eventuated from me mucking around through text before, I really wasn't sure that i wanted it and when he came over he just decided it was gonig to happen and I did it because I though he loved me etc. I do regret that experience, but I've learnt to deal with it. I then got in a relationship with the guy I am with and we've been together for about 20 months now. And he actually asked me if i wanted to have it and waited until i was ready and he feels deeply that sex is about showing your love for one another. Please don't be pressured into it, and please use contraception.
Live in the moment xx
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How do you turn a guy on??? Like seriously, please tell me ALL you can! thanks!
and im sorry but idk if it goes into the love life section or sex section! thanks in advance! (link)
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Lets face it, guys are easily turned on. Some guys can get turned on by kissing passionately while others may like you touching their neck. One of the biggest ways to turn him on is to either touch his penis (through clothing if you want)or by placing his hand on your boobs or on your vagina, guys get turned on from talking dirty and girls breathing heavily and by noices made during love making.
Hope this has helped xx
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My "Best" friend did it again and I'm not sure to react this time. We have know each other for 30 years. We say we were in the womb together because our parents were friends and we hung out and sleep at each others house til the end of high school. We lost touch while she was in college but then we hooked back up again. We worked together and then I got pregnant. This weekend she told me she was going to take me to Stevie B for my birthday and all of a sudden she couldn't get the tickets, but we were still goign to hang for a while, that was until she called and told me that she was going home for the night instead. I now have two children, 8 and 1, she wasn't there for either birth or even to visit me in the hospital, nor has she been to either ones birthday parties. We always say that we will be friends forever no matter what but now I feel so hurt I don't know if I any longer want her friendship. Friendship goes two ways and I seem to be the only one giving. Is it mean or bad to feel this way? It's my 30th, a major milestone, I was at both of her 30th parties, ugh!!!!!!! (link)
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It's only natural to feel this way, of course after knowing someone and sharing so much with them its going to hurt you. Seen as though you have known each other so long I believe you should be able to be open and honest with her, tell her how you feel, maybe even write her a letter. Its hurting you more also because its your 30th. Perhaps your friendship is coming to an end but maybe it will be best for you as you wont have to deal with the pain of being blown off again.
Good Luck xx
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I'm going on my first ofical "date" with a guy. He's bringing his cousin and I'm bringing 2 friends and we are just going to the movies and mall so it's no biggie, just casual. I'm okay around guys, sometimes I act a bit nervous, I can't help it. I know I just have to act like I normally will but I kinda wanna flirt to show him I'm interested. I'm not into kissing or anything past that, because this is the second time I've seen him outside of school. So how should I act around him to let him know I'm interested? (he doesn't know i like him. i wanna show him not tell him) I'm just really nervous and I know I should be myself but it's more complicated than that. What do guys like for girls to do? And i'm afraid i'll be too flirty around him and forget that my friends are there. please use your past dates to tell me what to do and what not to do! i'm a wreck haha (link)
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Ok act normal, thats the main thing. Make eye contact with him, and giggle at his jokes, perhaps sit next to him and gradually either put you hand on his leg or hold hands with him. When you go to say good bye, give him a hug.
Good Luck xx
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okay there is this boy i KNOW i love. well we were going out then he broke up with me, but like i said i KNOW for a FACT that i love him. but he likes another girl. And all my friends are telling me i dont need him, but i do need him. he doesnt love me back and just every second of the day i think of him, and jsut want to be with him. but i know i cant. so what should i do, and my friends are also saying that i could get any guy. and a few boys have asked me out but i dont want them i want the one i love. so what do i do. i jsut cant get over him. he knows that i love him and he just doesnt care i guess.
so please help me .!! (link)
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Its a tough situation, it seems as though your going through rejection. There is nothing you can possibly do to make him love you, thats the underlying factor here. I know its hard and its going to take time to get over him. Time conquers all. There is no word such as can't. He probably does care that you love him but he obviously doesn't feel the same way and doesn't want to pressure himself into loving you, you've admitted he likes another girl which shows he's moved on. It seems as though you must be really pretty with the fact that a few guys have asked you out. I think you need to accept the fact he doesn't love you and form a friendship with no strings or feelings attached.
Best Of Luck xx
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Alright well....
I have a boyfriend, whom i love and he (says) he loves me back [some background info: this is the third time we're back together and he says he'll change for me this time]. well, when we're together we have fun but only if it's just me and him. when we're at school and around his or my friends, he acts different. he talks to alot of girls and says they're nothing to him but i know and he knows they all like him and want to be with him. i get crazy jealous and i have a reason, but when a guy comments me and says i'm a good friend he flips out. he tells me to be who i am and not worry about what people think [more bkgrnd: he's a punk, the type that smokes drinks but he stopped for me... and i'm kind of a good girl] but when i act like myself he makes fun of me and when i talk to guys who are only friends he gets really mad. i told him i'd NEVER cheat on him and i really mean it, but the thing is..he cheated on me twice and i forgave him because everybody makes mistakes, but he ended up feeling like shit (which is good for my part). i really do love him and don't want to break up with him because i don't want to see him end up like a lot of people i know, but it drives me CRAZY how he says one thing and does another and then acts like it's all my fault. all i want to do is keep him from screwing up his life, but at the same time i'm never the same when i'm around him vs. when i'm with MY friends. i want to concentrate on mine and just have fun, but i can't get my mind straight when i keep going back to my feelings.
the question is...should i break up with him? (link)
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Your in a hard situation here. Firstly, Its not fair on your behalf that he gets angry at you for talking to guys yet he does the same thing with girls and you don't seem to go off at him about it. The fact that this is your 3rd time back together tells me its not meant to be because it would have worked the first or second time, however thats only my opinion. The fact that he cheated on you not once but TWICE is wrong, he should have learnt the first time. He is very lucky that you are so forgiving. I think you need to talk to him, it sounds as though you have been in a relationship long enough to be honest and open with him, express whats on your mind, if you don't it will only get worse.
No-one can make the decision to break up with him other than you, you need to follow your heart.
Good Luck xx
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SORRY IT'S SO LONG!! I have been dating a momma's boy for the past three years. I've been trying to make things work but she hates me and will do anything to make sure her son does exactally what she wants. I want to move in with him next year but I'm afraid he will expect me to take the place of his mother (washing his clothes, cooking, cleaning, etc. and he's 20!!) He fulfills all of her ludacris requests including massaging her back, which he won't even do for me and I'm his girlfriend!! He won't even stand up to her after she stole his identity and borrowed $20,000 in his name!! What should I do? How can I get him away from his mother so he can grow up!!?? and for those of you who have experience with this, will I ever win this battle? Thank you. (link)
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Its a tough one.. Seems as though she is very over powering. Stealing his identity and borrowing that much money is purely wrong. It seems as though he is some what scared of his mother. I get where your coming from with not wanting to take the place of his mum with cooking etc, but just remember that being a girl sometimes thats what we have to do plus sometimes if we don't do it ourselves it will never get done. Hopefully as soon as you move in together he'll start changing and realising he has to fend for himself. I think you should talk to him about your worries because other wise they are only going to get bigger and eat away at you more. After being in a 3 year relationship you should be able to speak openly and honestly with him. Express your thoughts and opinions. Perhaps you could try and talk to his mother as to why she doesn't like you. From my experiences, when you move in with each other it may take a month for you 2 get around each others little qwirks and ways of doing things. :)
Best of Luck xx
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I write for my highschool newspaper and I mainly write (satirical) articles for the opinions page...and I'm usually down in the principals office after the newspaper is published. This month I am totally out of ideas, and I need to have my story idea in a couple of days. Does anybody have any good sory ideas, school related preferably...like things that go on in school that some people might not know about. Or maybe even something that has to do with everyone in the united states...I'll take any ideas really.
It doesn't matter if it's school "innapropriate" I usually get in trouble for the articles I write anyways. The school is not very open minded...and it doesn't help the the class is totally run by students. I live in New Mexico if that helps any. (link)
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ummm... Friendship issues that are going on in your school, such as bullying, fighting etc. Perhaps stress of upcoming exams, and how some people are dealing with it. Ummm... Reports on year 10 or 12 formals that you could write about.
:)
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i have like a muffin top kind of stomach.. but only in the front, i dont have big love handles but i do crunches every night and whenever i do them, i only feel the burn on the upper part of my stomach, and i want to lose the fat on my lower stomach. so do you guys think that it only will help my upper stomach or will it also work for my lower stomach? what are some other excersises i could do to make my stomach smaller? htanks (link)
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ok, I'm guessing by doing crunches your doing them on the floor. There is a crunch (sit up) you can do, you bring you upper body up as if you are doing a sit up then you bring your right arm over your body and touch your left leg hold it then come back down and do it again with your left are and right leg.This will do your side and bottom abdomen. If you have an exercise ball you can use it to support your back, where you place the ball on your back will differ the strength of the exercise, Keep your feet on the ground at all times, choose a specific point on the ceiling to look at and do sit ups. Another good one is that if you have a medicine ball, lay on your back on the floor, place the ball above your head now when your ready with both arms reach up and grab the ball bring it over your head and slowly bring you upper body up as if you were doing a sit up place the ball as far as you can for starters probably to your lap then bring it back and place it above your head this is excellent for you abdomen.
Good Luck xx
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I've always been made fun of by people of my own race, For 3 yrs. at high school I was never really made fun of until now, my last yr. of high school I'm being made fun of. These people don't know me.
Some of them came up to me and asked my name.
Saying "Your'e so pretty" and "You have a pretty smile" but I think these people used this against to say I'm "big headed" or "concieted" .
I don't wanna say something to them because thats what they expect me to do, is to go off on them, buts kind of hard not to ignore them.
(plus)they're younger than me. but its still hard not to ignore it. its getting hard, i take steps to avoid this people but some of them yell at me. i'm really thinking about dropping outta high school , it really hurts... what should i do? (link)
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Firstly.. You don't need to stand for this sort of treatment, you have done nothing wrong and you can't help your appearance. You should be proud of your appearance because no-one else in this world is like you :) you are unique and because of that you are special. You need to tell a teacher perhaps your year advice, welfare officer or principal these people need to be disciplined, its unfair and if they don't get in trouble they'll keep doing it not only to you but other people as well. Why let sill people that don't know you intimidate you and force you into dropping out of school. Why let them win?? I know its hard but you just need to ignore them, they will get sick of it eventually. You only have a year left when you think about it it's seriously not that long 3-4 terms. This last year will give you path ways you can take for life :)
Good luck xx
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so me and my boyfriend started dating about 7 months ago and during that time he's slowly changed. he used to be the sweetest guy and now he's just mean. he acts like i don't even matter to him. he's always yelling at me and saying well if i make you that mad then break up with me but it's not something i'm ready to give up and talking to him about it doesn't do anything he's the most stubborn person ever. i just want my boyfriend back, what do i do? (link)
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Perhaps he was pretending to be who he was. Just remember people are allowed to change even if it isn't for the best. Its a hard situation considering you say he's stubborn and doesn't listen. You shouldn't stand for him yelling at you and being mean to you. Maybe its time for you to go separate ways although i do think you should try talk to him about it first. Perhaps you could write him a letter expressing your feelings. Maybe he has a problem he is not expressing try and get him to be open and honest with you and vise versa you do it back to him.
Good Luck xx
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My ex-boyfriend is now dating his ex-girlfriend. She was his first love all throughout middle school and for the past two years me and him were a couple. Now, many times he stated how much he was over her, but now I find him dating her and "in love". I don't feel I'm upset by the relationship but I feel confused. We broke up a few weeks ago but they were a couple shortly after. Between the time we broke up, and he dated her, he slept with and dated a couple of girls then finally told me that me and him couldn't be friends any more. I am worried about him because I think his actions may be a result of his parents recent separation. How do I react to this situation? (link)
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It all sounds a bit muddled up. It seems as though your ex- boyfriend can't make up his mind up of what he wants. Did he give you a reason you 2 couldn't be friends? It is quiet possible it could b his reaction to his parents separation either that or it could be his way of dealing with your break up(i'm not sure of the terms you broke up so that is only a possible thought.) Its only natural for you to be muddled and confused especially after he had told you on occasions that he was over his ex but then again he may have been saying that just so you wouldn't get mixed feelings about it or jealous or anything. It seems you have some unanswered questions that need to be sorted out in order for you to move on and have a better understanding of things. I think you may need to talk to him openly in order t get the truth to put your mind at ease. Express your thoughts, feelings and opinions you have a right to be heard.
Good Luck xx
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Ok so... my cousin moved to his adds apartment in san fransico from brazil last winter (his mom and sister still live in brazil). On the 15th his mom got a him a ticket to go back brazil because his dad said he didnt want him anymore (yeah i knowits sad) howeverl i NEED to see him before he leaves because otherwise i will porbably never see him again (his mom wont lwt him back to the states) and i live in michigan. I asked my parents if i coudld go this weekend and they said no. I cant take no as an asnwer, how can i get there without my parents? pleasee give me rational answers this is really important to me (link)
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I can see where your coming from, It seems your obviously close with your cousin and your worried about not seeing him, however i'm sure their will be chances in the future, there must be some reason why your parents said no whether it be a money factor or something else there is obviously a reason and it wouldn't be a good idea to go behind there back plus i don't think there is any alternative way of getting there without your parents permission. Once your old enough theres nothing saying you can't go visit him. You will be able to contact him through letter, emails and telephone calls. Time is running out but you could take another shot at talking to your parents about it and expressing why you really want to go.
Good Luck xx
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Ok, my thighs are strange. Like, I know CAN get them thinner and more fit, but, it seems like they stay the same all the time. I won't lie, I don't do much workout, my body is naturally slim. But my thighs like curve OUT so it makes them look chubbier. Are their any workouts that will help tone them down a bit? (link)
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Hey... Walking can often tone your thighs along with running this will also tone your calf muscles.
Squats are a good way to tone your thighs. You can do this by standing against a wall and running you back down the wall to your legs make a 90 degrees angle. If you have an exercise ball you can rest this up against the wall and let it support your back then slide it down the wall until you make a 90 degree angle with your legs or until you feel it in your thighs.
Lying on your back on the floor and bring your thighs up to your chest and holding it until it hurts will also tone your thighs.
Help I've helped :)
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i dont "finger" myself. i just rub myself down there until i start to "throb" with plessure. How can i loosen myself up down there without hurting myself? i dont want a guy to finger me and find out im super tight.. please help (link)
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You can experiment yourself by using sex toys such as dildos and vibrators and other sex toys of which you can insert into your vagina. There is noting to say you can't finger yourself.The only way you will loosen up is with sexual experience etc. Personally I don't think a guy would be able to tell your tight as every girls vagina is different.
Good luck and don't stress about it.
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can u get any disease or anything from fingering. or anything dangerous/ the doctor could see. how bout bj? (link)
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First of all I'm not sure what you mean by bj. As far as I know you can't get any diseases from fingering but be sure that the person who fingers you has clean hands and that their fingernails aren't too long as this could cause scratches and cuts which a doctor may be able to see.
Hope I've Helped...
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okay so i'm dating a guy who is great. he's the first guy i've dated after my last ex who hurt me pretty bad at the time. we've been dating for almost a month. we hold hands and hug but like how can i be more not shy? i'm shy about things like that sometimes, but i'm outgoing with everything else. i think i just have my guard up but i don't know..any advice?
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Why are you shy? Is it because your scared of what others think? Maybe your feeling a little worried after your ex hurting you. Did you hold hands and stuff with your ex? Just give it time, you'll become more comfortable. I think you should talk to him so he doesn't get the impression your not into him or anything. You've been in a relationship for a month so you should be able to be open and honest with him, express your feelings...
Good Luck xx
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Alright, so me and this guy have been dating since the summer. I couldn't ask for a sweeter guy than him. When i am with him i get the best feeling and i just love spending time with him. Well my problem is this, one day at lunch one of my really good friends came over to my table. so we start talking and things and she told me that my man wants to do more things that just makeout. He has done things before with previous girlfriends. And im really not sure if i should or not. I mean yeah, i want to. But then the other part of me doesnt. Im just so confussed and i really don't know what to do. So if you could PLEASE help me i would really appericate it!! Thanks in advance. (: (link)
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Never pressured to have sex. Its a big step and something you will have to live with for life so you need to think carefully about it. I'm going to encourage you to talk to your partner about it, express your thoughts and feelings on the subject. Being that he is your boyfriend you should be able to be honest and open with him. If he gets annoyed and tries to pressure you to have sex, he isn't a very genuine guy.
Bet wishes xx
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how do you get a guy to feel you up?
Thanks for your advice :) (link)
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Ok, I'm guessing you either have a boyfriend or just want to know in general. Perhaps when your making out with him you could either make a move feeling him up so he knows your comfortable with that sort of thing or place his hand on your boob on in your lap he'll get the hint...
Good Luck xx
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