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do you regret it?
My boyfriend and I are thinking about having sex. But before I act on this thought, I want to hear some personal experiences. Have you ever had sex? if the answer is no, then why haven't you? Is it because of religion, personal beliefs, morals, etc? But if you have, then What happened? Why did you decide to participate in sex? Do you regret it? I'm asking these questions because I want to know what everyday people think about this, because once its gone i can never get it back.
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for along time i decided that i wanted to wait until marraige. it really bothered and confused me that so many of my friends and people i knew were having sex so young, with people they werent really in love with. also, the whole pregnancy thing freaked me out. i was with my current boyfriend for almost a year before we started talking about it. when he first mentioned it i told him i definitely wasnt ready.. and he waited. about two months later, he asked again. he said he didnt want to pressure me because he loved me. he just wanted to know ehy i didnt want to. i explained that i didnt feel old enough, and i didnt think that it was necessary at the time. i waited until about a month later. i told him i was completely ready.
i was really nervous, but i never thought i was making the wrong decision. i think that because i waited until i was completely ready, i didnt regret it. i was completely in love, and still am when it happened. its all about feeling comfortable, and wanting to be closer to the person you are with. whether you believe it or not, sex definitely brings people alot closer together. afterwards, it was like i loved him so much more than i had before. you just need to be sure that you are sticking to your own beliefs and personal values before you decide to take the step. it really is a big step, and you can never go back.
i hope this helped :)
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I've never had sex, and there's a lot of reasons why. Even though I'm really in love with my boyfriend, and we have been dating for almost 6 months, I know that I'm only fourteen and not ready. I'm not sure if I would end up regretting it or not, but I'm positive I don't want to have to deal with that situation right now. Theres times, just like your thinking about, where I really question if I want to or not. But after thinking about everything that could happen, we chose to wait. It's all up to you, but make sure he's the one you wanna give it up to.
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i don't agree with the person below me. you should have sex when you feel you're ready and mature enough to do it. you should be in love with the person you are going to do it with. there's no set time to do it..you don't have to wait until you're out of high school. i haven't had sex.. but i came pretty close last year when i was a freshman in high school. looking back, i know that sounds slutty but i was really in love with the guy i was going out with and i went out with him for a year. i think that if i had done it i probably would still be together with him today. so no, i probably wouldn't have regretted it. if you really like your boyfriend then do it. but don't feel like you HAVE to or hes pressuring you to. and if he is then tell him if you're not ready.
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It's not about losing your virginity and if he's the right guy or not. It's about whether you really need to do it, which you don't. At this point in your life it's not worth the risks. You and your boyfriend can still make each other feel good sexually without going all the way. Intercourse is unnecessary! You can and should bond on a sexual level, just not through intercourse. Sex isn't something to be impulsive about as a teenager. Even though you feel very close to your boyfriend, who knows what will happen within the next year. Teenage relationships tend to feel really good, but be very unstable and not last for very long. Teenagers have a hard time with sex, love, and relationships because they haven't fully matured emotionally yet. I'm not saying you're immature or anything, you're actually being quite mature about this. Even so, it's a fact that people continue to mature emotionally throughout their teenage years. It's easy to mix up your feelings, but lust and love are two entirely different things. Don't have sex just because you're in love or you're ready, those aren't good reasons. Wait until you're older so that you can fully appreciate and understand the experience! I'm 21/f. My fiance and I have been together for 3 years and have still not had sex. There really is no point for us to risk pregnancy when there are other sexual things we can do for each other. Sex at a young age is more trouble than it's worth. I'm not saying you need to wait until you get married like I am doing, but at least wait until you're out of high school. You will be glad that you did. I recommend that you check out this website to help with your decision.
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Good luck!
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Sex is about other people. Its about you, and him.
You know, I lost it early. Would I change it? No I would not. Going back and changing it would make me miss out on a number of experiences. I wouldnt be the person I am today.
By the same token, I got lucky. Really lucky. I had my fair share of irresponsibility, I did stupid things. Nothing bad ever happened to me despite taking risks just as great as those of my class mates who ended up pregnant or with STDs.
I played Russian Roulette and won repeatedly.
Its not something I suggest. Because if you get that loaded chamber, it can fuck your life up.
A friend of mine has Herpes. For the rest of his life, he is going to face rejection because of it. He is going to have issues because of it. He cant get drunk and hook up with people (which is how he got it) because if he does he will give it to someone else.
I know many who got pregnant before 18. It hurt them, the families, and the children they later birthed.
Be aware of the risks. If you make a decision, protect yourself in every way possible. Thats the best advice I think I can give. Because no one of us can tell you if you are going to regret your decision.
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To your first question, yes, I have. Before I lost my virginity though, the reason I hadn't done it was because I didn't love anyone like that, and I wasn't positive about it. It took me a while to get the courage to do so.
After I lost my virginity though, I regretted it. I will say that much. However, time went on & I kept thinking about it. Now, I don't regret it so much. I really did love that guy, and now that he's gone [he's passed], I miss him & I'm glad that I got ti give him my virginity while he had such a short time left. Nobody knew he was going to go, but I'm happy I got to share that with him.
Honestly, sex is a big decision & a huge deal. It's good you're taking the time to think about this & that's exactly what you should be doing. Just remember that if you're questioning sex, you're more than likely not ready & when you do finally decide you're ready, please use birth control & condoms. I mean, no child is a mistake, but you still shouldn't have them unwanted, ya know?
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It's great that you're thinking long and hard about this. I haven't had sex because of religous beliefs and morals. I'm very conservative about sexuality and I almost wrote a paper about perversions in classic literature because I hated the sexual references lol. (As I always say, if I want to read about sex, I can easily pick up the latest Cosmo.)
Also, I've had many a friend call me up to tell me that they're pregnant or that they got a girl pregnant. It's just not a position I would want to be in. And STDs aren't something to play around with either. If you do decide to have sex, use protection, because it helps you big in the long run.
Whatever you decide, just know that this decision will be with you. If you want to lose your virginity to your boyfriend, that's great! And also, talk to him about your reservations and how you're feeling. Sex is a mutual thing, and both parties need to be aware of what the other is feeling.
Hope this helps!
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First things first, I admire that your thinking carefully about having sex before you make your decision. i have always had a moral that I will be in a relationship with my boyfriend for at least 6 months before having it. The first time I had sex, it eventuated from me mucking around through text before, I really wasn't sure that i wanted it and when he came over he just decided it was gonig to happen and I did it because I though he loved me etc. I do regret that experience, but I've learnt to deal with it. I then got in a relationship with the guy I am with and we've been together for about 20 months now. And he actually asked me if i wanted to have it and waited until i was ready and he feels deeply that sex is about showing your love for one another. Please don't be pressured into it, and please use contraception.
Live in the moment xx
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