My ex-boyfriend is now dating his ex-girlfriend. She was his first love all throughout middle school and for the past two years me and him were a couple. Now, many times he stated how much he was over her, but now I find him dating her and "in love". I don't feel I'm upset by the relationship but I feel confused. We broke up a few weeks ago but they were a couple shortly after. Between the time we broke up, and he dated her, he slept with and dated a couple of girls then finally told me that me and him couldn't be friends any more. I am worried about him because I think his actions may be a result of his parents recent separation. How do I react to this situation?
[ Answer this question ] Want to answer more questions in the Relationships category? Maybe give some free advice about: Love Life? LagunaBabe answered Saturday November 10 2007, 2:22 am: I think we have a wishy-washy one here, but I believe I can unravel all of this correctly. I think your ex-boyfriend has always and will always have feelings for his first love (everybody does in my opinion, even if those are bad feelings). It seems like this is a little more than that, since he's gotten back with her. So I don't think he's ever really gotten over her, and that's why he's with her now.
I think it's great that you're concerned about him making a bad decision, but ultimately, those are his decisions and it's probably best to stay out of it. I know it's hard, but he's made it clear he doesn't want to be friends or be with you anymore, so I believe the best thing you can do is try not worry about his actions. He'll have to be accountable for them because they are "his" decisions, not yours. And as much as you want to help him, I don't think he would even let you help him (if it is because of his parents seperation), because he's told you he doesn't want to be friends with you anymore.
Elle2619 answered Friday November 9 2007, 7:59 am: It all sounds a bit muddled up. It seems as though your ex- boyfriend can't make up his mind up of what he wants. Did he give you a reason you 2 couldn't be friends? It is quiet possible it could b his reaction to his parents separation either that or it could be his way of dealing with your break up(i'm not sure of the terms you broke up so that is only a possible thought.) Its only natural for you to be muddled and confused especially after he had told you on occasions that he was over his ex but then again he may have been saying that just so you wouldn't get mixed feelings about it or jealous or anything. It seems you have some unanswered questions that need to be sorted out in order for you to move on and have a better understanding of things. I think you may need to talk to him openly in order t get the truth to put your mind at ease. Express your thoughts, feelings and opinions you have a right to be heard.
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