Hiya, were Dannii n Chandler, im a professional event rider and Chandler is a Trial Lawyer.
I give advice regualy in a teen magazine and Chandler has writen many law books and has a colum in a U.K. newspaper answering law related questions.
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Location: United Kingdom
Occupation: Dannii = event rider & agony aunt, Chandler = triel lawyer & auther
Age: 25
Member Since: December 20, 2005
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Do teen guys (around 14/15 years old) care a lot about a girl's weight? I get a dress down day tommorrow for school (my school wears uniforms) and i want to look nice but im really insecure about my thighs and i dont know if all the guys will be like OMG shes sooo fat and not like me. I know it shouldnt matter but i want to know if its a big issue with guys in general. (directed towards teenage guys reading this: ) when you look at a girl a you think shes pretty would she be unattractive to you if her legs are kinda big? do a girls looks really matter if you like her?
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Genrally, guys don't care about weight, you get some stupid guys who only care about looks rather than personality, but genrally, guts tend to like people for who they are inside not out
Just remember - no ones perfect
Chandler
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ive been with my boyfriend for over a year and were both 16 years old. i completely love him with all i have. a little bit ago we got into a habit of doing things where we feel bad and fight quite a bit. how do we get back into joking around and being carefree and not fighting? how do i handle the situation when it comes? what do i say? i dont wanna fight. he doesnt either. ill do anything. i love him. thanks. (link)
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dont make a situation and there will be nothing to fight about
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alright so this guy that im like totally head over heels in love with knows i like him..and he got me a really pretty braclet for christmas but yesterday right in front of my face he asked out my friend!! and she said yes and she knew that i realy liked him..what do i do...i wanna get back so badly and not just sit there ...help!
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Hes a bit of an arsehole really then, hes playing you and your friends just as bad, at the end of the day, he no's you like him and he got you a braclet and he now has asked your best friend out. Hes trying to screw up your emotions, and your friend should have came and talked to you first before she said yes, They are both spiteful
Chandler
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okay, well the thing is.
i have a really great boyfriend. we've been dating for aout 3 or 4 months now && i really like him. he told me a few nights ago that his dad has really bad, uncureable, stomach cancer. i dont know what to do. i've never dealt with dealth at all before, i've just never had too. so i dont know what to say to him. he never really brings it up because he doesnt want me to know hes upset. im also the only person who knows. i know it upsets him because him && his dad have always been close.
what are some things i could say or do that would console him??
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at the end of the day he told you because he loves you and trusts you, there is nothing that you could say to him to make him feel better, trust me, ive been in this situation before, at the end of the day, the most that you could do for him is be really supportive, and when the time comes, hes going to need you more than ever
Hope that helps
Dannii xx
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okay i have to begin from the start but bare with me. me and my boyfriend have been dating for 9 months now. last year tho, we went to an event and got in to a fight(lemme say over nothing) and he like hooked up with his ex-girfriend not like sex but still. ever since then i havent been able to get over it. i mean i forgave him and have tried to let it go but it hasnt really helped. sometimes i will be sitting alone and i start to think about it and it makes me want to cry. this event is coming up again in a couple months and his ex will deff be there and omg im soo scared of what is going to happen. i told him that if hes good this time i will be happy and finally over it for good but if he does it again its OVER for sure. is this a good way to go about it or what should i do to get over my jealousy? do i have a right to be upset about it or am i over exaggerating? HELP!!!! rate high. (link)
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No, you have a right to be upset, at the end of the day, a fight over noting shouldnt result with him hooking up with his ex, no way.
If he really is in love with you then he wouldn't have even thort about going to her, why should he, he has you. I don't think that you are over exagerating, in the slightest. If it helps, tell him how you are feeling, it might just make him think about how much you mean to him, but if he does it again, then he isin't worth the air that he is breathing
Dannii xx
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ok well there is this kid named Billy, who I really like! He jokes around with me, he calles me his future wife and stuff. I like it and my friend says its flirting and tat he probably likes me. I'm not sure. I really want him to like me. Also he gets really close to me sometimes and hugs me really close. When he does it is like the best thing in the world! He told me him self that he likes a few people including his exgirlfriend. Should I back off or what? I need help please help
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he is flirting with you bcause he likes you, and when he hugs you, its because he wants to be close to you, he probs says that stuff about his ex because he wants to see how you react ... if your still not sure then you could always find out
Good Luck, Love Dannii xx
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alright, so i moved into my new school last year (7th grade) and i didnt start of with a good reputation, because i was the new girl. but now a year later i have a very good reputation. i mean, i am friends with the populair people, i cant compiments, and people always say they want to be me.
there is this kid in one of my classes, and i have gotten a very big crush on him. he is nice, sweet, and very cute. i did some asking around and i have found he is a loser. like .. dork kid. hanging out with other dorks.
i think dating him might effect my reputation, but should i go for him anyways?
some one please help me. (link)
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that person is wrong, yes there is things such as dorks and popular people, the thing is who do you think you are whatever your name is, at the end of the day, you shouldnt judge people on a question
anyway ..... i was the new girl at a school once, i also didnt start with a very good reputation, and also a year later i settled in and got in with all the popular people, life was good and i found out about a guy in one of my classes, he was short and wore glasses, he was brainy an also a bit of a swat.
At the end of the day, do you not want to date him because you don't like him as a person, or do you not want to date him because it will effect your rep. its up to you but what ever you decide let me no!!
P.S. Moral of my story, i went out with him and am still with him today!!!
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im a girl im 15 years old. what are some awsome ways to finger myself. thanks! (link)
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well, theres your fingers
random things toy would find around the home - wooden spoon, tv remote, toothbrushs ect
or you could get someone else to do it for you
or you could sleep with someone
whatver floats your boat
channii
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I am tired of looking at my plain white painted windowsill in my dorm. What's a plant that looks pretty but will not die if (more like when) I forget to water it, or leave it shut up in my cold room for a month while I am at home for break? (link)
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A cactus
Love Dannii xx
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well i met a guy hes 2 years older then me but thats okay.we have been dating for over 2 months now and me and him have had sex a few times now. (don't worry we used protection) but the only things is my old boyfriends (we don't like then word ex because we still mean alot to eachother) is coming to town to see me over spring break! i am so exited but i don't want to hurt his feelings because he means so much but im not ready for those long term relationships. what should i do when he comes?
xoxokristen (link)
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well you carn't have both of them (well you could but you don't want to go down that route!) if you 'old' boyfriend is 'comming to visit' i assume he's moved away? is that why you split up? because that would explain a lot. 'ex boyfriend' simply means a person you used to go out with and now don't, so if your not cumfortable with that phrase what does it tell you? = that your not happy with the fact that he is no longer your boyfriend, that your not over him and that you WANT HIM BACK! I know it may not be so practical if he lives away but you need to follow your heart not what is practical!
chandler.
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Okay this may seem strange but my friend is going out with my ex boyfriend and i'm really mad. Jordan (( my ex )) and I broke up in August and I really don't think that i still like him, that is untill my best friend decided to date him. I could've told her that it bothered me but I didn't! I think I like Jordan again but i don't know...I just don't want my friend to date him or any of my friends...what's going on and what should I do about this? Please Help! I'll rate 5's unless you're mean...
sincerley,
brokenhearted && confused =/ (link)
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Right, firstly, if she was your true friend, then she would have come and talked to you before dating your ex, she will have known in her own mind that you wouldn't have been 100% happy and in doing so she has betrayed your trust in datig him. Also, he is just as bad going out with your friend, he may have only dated her to spite you if you broke up on genrally bad terms, or on the other hand, he might really care for her. At the end of the day, you have to be a good friend too, dont go off and rant and rave at your friend, she might love this boy and you could risk your friendship. It might be unplesent to think about but ultametly, you and your ex have split up and him and your friend may be really happy together. If you can't accept it, then talk to your friend and him, the three of you may be able to work out whats bothering you
Dannii xx
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There's a guy at my college whom I know and like really well. We have a lot in common (read the same kind of books, etc) and can have long conversations. Problem, though: he deals in chemicals of the illicit kind. And not just on the side -- he does it for a living. I don't have any moral problems with drugs, though I don't use them myself and none of my friends do -- not even the drug dealer, he just sells them. It's just that I'm afraid I will have a taint by association problem. In fact, I sort of already have -- the campus housing people searched my room for drugs once, simply because he had been in it. (They found nothing of course, since I use nothing. He thought it was very amusing, but I was annoyed.) Is it worth it to stay friends with the dude, since I like him so much, or should I cool off? (link)
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If you don't have any moral objections to what your friend is doing (that is makeing money from illegaly selling substances that are potentialy dangerous and lethal) then there's no reason why you shouldn't be friends with him EXCEPT.... you point out your "taint by association" problem, well it could be more serious than that - if this person is court by the police and charged for drug dealing, you may find your self to be considered by the police to be "aiding and abbeting" your friend in the course of his crimanal activatys - which is a serious crime within its self, be very cearful indeed.
Chandler.
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so my boyfreind asked me out.
and now basicly all he wants from me is sex.
it makes me really sad and dissapointed...
please help.
and dont say break up with him.
you guys dont know me.
i like him alot..
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Im not going to say brake up with him, dnt worry, i too have been in a relationship where all he wants is sex, but at the end of the day you have to ask yourself,do you want to be his little toy. You obvioustly care about this lad but does he really care about you?? think about it
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Can you pee while having an erection? (link)
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No!!!!!!!!!!!!
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ok here goes right well me and my bf have been going out for 2 months and next time i see him we would be togthere for 3 months because hes going away on holiday anyway...we have decided that we want to have sex and hes coming to my house soon and that when we are gonna do it!but..im really really scared of pregnancy, we r gonna use a condom but im still scared im 14 and hes 17 and i love him but i cant say anything to my mum for the pill and my periods arent regular so i wouldnt know if i was pregnant so..what do i do i really wanna do it with him i know its right but what can i do about pregnancy and all that stuff help!!!!!!!! ill rate high xxx (link)
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You do right to use a condom, it will protect you from S,T,D'S and AIDS, and has a vey high chance of proventing pregnancys. If you live in the uk, it is free and confidential to go and be put on the pill, also, if you think that you might be pregnant, you could go and have an abortion on the NHS. Also free and confidential. If you want to be put on the pill however, you could talk to your mother and put it down to period pains.
Anyway, hope that helps
Love Dannii xx
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well when i was 13 i lost my virginety now im 14 because my birthday was in sep. i lost it in june, but anyways i need help i lost my virginty by an aciddent and it was so not ment to happen and now i think im pg but i have my period every month but my belly is looking pg but i took a pg test and it said negitive, so what is happening to my body i think my mom knows sum thing so what is wrong????
please answer me!!!!
~*~ Michelle ~*~ (link)
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Don't worry, i lost my virginity when i was 13 too. Even tho you are still having your period it dosen't mean that you are not pregnant, but if you are, theres a very low chance that you are pregnant. If you are still worried, go and see your doctor, he will give you a pregnancy test and it is completly confidential. Hope that helps
Love Dannii xx
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Hey all, this is my first question (among probably many) that I'll be asking on this site! Ok now that that's over with, where are some fun places to take your date on? I just started dating (this is my first time ever) (I'm 19) (and she's 17) and already going to the movies is kinda boring. I mean, the whole point of being on a date is to be with the person that you like, and spending an hour or two (or three) staring at a silver screen and *not* talking to the other person seems kinda... strange. We do talk, mainly to make fun of the movie we're watching, but still, where could we go where the activity actually encourages us to talk or play while we're there? thxxx, and i heart all of you :) (link)
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When me and Chandler go out, i always enjoy going out for a romantic meal, it gives us a chance to catch up, and, if all subjects of convo die, you could always talk about how dreadful the food is!!
Love dannii xx
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so im 15, and i've been wearing tampons for quite a while now, and well ive never done this, but ive always wondered if you can pee while the tampon is still in you? because when i try to, it feels like its being pressured out, so i just take it out while i pee and just put a new tampon in.. (link)
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Have you got it in properly?? i no it sounds silly but because you don't always keep it in when you pee you might not be putting it in far enough!!
love Dannii xx
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im 16/f and i met this guy during my summer job. and up till this day ive been thinking about him none stop. before my job ended i gave him my number, well sort of. im not going to get into major detail but basically he got my number but he might of gotten the impression that i didnt want him to have it. but now somebody gave me his email address and i dont know if i should email him because i keep thinking if he wanted to talk to me he would call but he hasnt yet. but then again hes a great guy and i dont want to loose touch of him. we liked eachother through the summer but never hooked up because hes like 8 years older than me. so should i email him or just leave it alone?? thanks yall i'll rate high! (link)
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First of all, age has nothing to do with it, if you really like this guy then ring him hes probs thinking the same thing about you. Good luck
Love Dannii xx
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Ok my ex of a year and a half and I broke up about a week ago. I saw her sitting on some1 else's lap. Is that slutty or what? How long is considered good enough to wait. Personally I think she is a fu@#@ slut. I heard u should wait at least the time that you were in ur last relationship. (link)
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For gods sake man, just because you arn't over her dosn't meen shes not over you. Do you really think thats shes a slut or are you jealous of her? Hate to brake it to you mate but you to arn't in a relationship anymore.
She was sat on someones lap, it dosn't consitute majour flirting. Did she sleep with him or have you been told mindless gossip?? if she did, get over it, she is not your property and you shouldn't fly off the handle because your ex has moved on... get over her and find somebody new.
from Channii
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