I'm a 19 year old female. I'm 5'3'' and weigh 135 pounds. Ever since I was 16 I've wanted to lose weight. I've been going to the gym at times 5-6 days a week for 3 months then I see no results AT ALL and stop going. I've been the same weight for 3-4 years. I've tried cutting back on calories but and it seems to be working well until night time. Then it is like I can't control myself and have to eat, if I see it I want it, if i know its in the cabinent I want it. I know I just need to tell myself no but has this happened to anyone else?!?! I restrick myself during the day but after dinner I lose it and undo my diet. I honestly need help...i was thinking of wearing a bracelet as a reminder to feel guilty or something when im bingeing
Dear Will-Power,
Those night-time cravings are the worst, I know. :) I am a 19 year old girl, and I lost 20 pounds this past summer. Instead of restricting yourself, make smarter choices about what you eat. Food that is good for you can also fill you up. Try to eat less red meat, and go with chicken and turkey. Try to not eat any foods that have been fried. What has helped me with my night-time cravings is that I eat well during the day. I have a healthy, filling breakfast, lunch, and dinner, and I drink plenty of water and tea throughout the day. This makes it so you are not so hungry and unsatisfied at night. By eating right before you go to bed, you put a lot of calories into your body that your body can't really burn off right away (because you're sleeping). Instead, eat well throughout the day, so your body can work on burning those calories away while you're awake. Don't do this to lose weight, however, because you are at a pretty healthy weight for your height and age (and I'm sure you're beautiful!) I realized that eating is just a series of choices that you make, so always try to be conscious of the choices that you make! Just let me know if there's anything I can do for you!
Jenny
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okay i feel realli depressed right now i guess you can put it. well i was on my myspace and i was looking at my friends pictures and came to my ex's picture and i dont no its just i think i still like him but i have a bf now and i dont realli love him but he says he loves me all the time and i just say it back not to hurt him but im not sure what to do anymore i no 4 a fact my ex doesnt like me anymore and never will angain we went out like 3 times already idk i just dont no what to do anymore ive been trying to deal with it but i cant :( can anyone help?
Well, first of all, you should think about ending your relationship with your current boyfriend. It sounds like you are just dating him to get your mind off your ex-boyfriend. Breaking up with someone, and still caring about them afterwards (knowing they don't feel the same way), is one of the toughest situations to be in. Know that your feelings for him will not go away the more you date other boys and try to push your pain away. You have to deal with this, fight against your pain every single day. It will be very hard, but what makes it so much better is knowing that it will end, and that you will be a much stronger person having been through that. Just persevere, and know that the harder you fight, the faster this will pass. Please let me know if there's anything I can do for you!
Jenny
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well im 15/f
and lately ive just been wanting to go out and party..have fun..hook up with boys! lol im not usually the party girl ive been known to be the innocent girl who doesnt do stuff like that..and thats why i dont usually get invited to parties and either does my best friend who i hangout with ALOT! i am not friends with that many guys..but i wanna be..but you see im not all the 'outgoing' if you wanna say..i wanna be but i always get so embarassed and i dont know why! im not one to make the first move or anything..but i dont know im jealous of all these people who know like EVERYONE! ive gone to the mall and movies..havent met any people and i dono it doesnt help that me and my best friend are both shy..but i recently have been hangin out with this one girl that knows alotta people but yeah im nervous to meet anyone..im insecure about myself and alla the people want to do stuff like finger and have sex..give blwojobs..and im not ready for that..sometimes i feel like i have to tho just to like have funn!! i know i know..if im not ready dont do it but i dont know my life is so effed up right now all i wanna do is have a good time and meet a bunch of new people..it also doesnt help that i dont have my license yet..or does my other friends what can i do for my situation? i will RATE!! ♥
Hey there. Well, just so you know, everyone else is just as self-conscious and insecure as you are, some people are just better at hiding it than others. Please, PLEASE don't feel like you have to take part in activities that you will be ashamed of later, just so you can have fun. You will regret it later, I promise you. Try to find some girls at school who like to do the same things that you do. You could join some extracurricular activities at school like clubs or theatre or sports. Just don't do anything that you think you may regret later! Let me know if I can do anything for you!
Jenny
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Ok, do you know any website or SOMETHING i could visit that has something to do with self-defense? I knida got a problem and i need defense class to teach me not to be scared of somebody and to toughen up. or you could give me advise what to do. how about both? i'll rate high for anything! thnx
Dear Defense,
First of all, you need to tell an adult you trust about this person who is scaring you. Self-defense alone will not protect you from them, although it is good to know how to protect yourself in certain situations. But please, PLEASE, tell an adult about your situation first. They will be able to help you more than anyone else.
Jenny
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((sorry if longg))
i have a little problem.
i have always liked my best friend as more then a friend...well, me and my best friend were in his basement last night, and we were dancing because he was playin my favorite song..we were grinding with each other...but we have danced like that together before so it really was not a big deal..then the next song comes..and it was THE 0NLY ONE FOR ME by BRIAN MCKNIGHT..so i just backed up to the wall thinkin he was not gonna dance with me to that song..but he came up to me and took my hand and brought me very close to him and we started to dance...he started singing the words to me..and then he kissed me =)..i was in total shock by it so he leans towards me and kisses me again..we started makin out and it was very sweet..
now my question is..did he just get caught up in the moment or were his actions true..i will give a 5 for good advice =]
thanks
Well, I don't think anyone can answer your question but him. If he really is your best friend, he should be comfortable enough with you to talk about it. Good luck. :)
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well when i was 13 i lost my virginety now im 14 because my birthday was in sep. i lost it in june, but anyways i need help i lost my virginty by an aciddent and it was so not ment to happen and now i think im pg but i have my period every month but my belly is looking pg but i took a pg test and it said negitive, so what is happening to my body i think my mom knows sum thing so what is wrong????
please answer me!!!!
~*~ Michelle ~*~
Hey, Michelle. Well, even if you think you're pregnant, you need to tell your mom. I know that sounds crazy, but parents really are very wise, and she will be able to help you find out for sure if you're pregnant or not. If you are pregnant, there are a lot of things that you need to do to prepare for this baby. Just know that, whenever you have sex, there is the possibility of getting pregnant, no matter what kind of protection you are using. So, please talk to your mom. No matter how your mom reacts, knowing if you are pregnant or not will be a much more responsible thing to do than waiting to see if you have a baby in March. Please let me know if there's anything I can do for you.
Jenny
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ok well i actually really enjoy doing musicals and this year our school is doing annie. but they always perform a little part of it in front of the whole school just to give them a little taste of it. well lots of people, including a guy who i like, don't exactly enjoy these. but i don't know should i do it? i really want to but i don't want people to think i'm a loser. Also, if i do try out, what are some good audition songs? thanks a bunch! i rate
Hey! Well, as much as you like this guy, if he doesn't like you because you're in a musical, do you really want to date him? Girls come to me sometimes to tell me about these guys they like, and they don't want to seem "stupid" in front of them. Well, if a guy thinks you're stupid for doing something that you love, he's not worth it! Trust me, someday there will be a man that will love you for you and all your wierdness. Good luck on try-outs!
Jenny
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i've been sitting here thinking of cutting myself for about 3 days [not straight] you see the thing is i'm depressed and suicidal... i've been this way since i was 11. but everytime i pick up the knife something stops me. it just feels so wrong. what is wrong with me ?
Hey there. I don't know your background or your age, but I went through the same thing when I was 13. I had very low self-esteem, and got involved with a pretty dark crowd. I saw no reason to keep on waking up every morning when there seemed to be no point to my life. But there was always something stopping me from ending my life. Just know this--you are made for something greater than what you see now. Because of that period I went through when I was 13, I have been able to help many other people through their depressions and suicidal thoughts. Know that this will end, but you have to take steps to end this depression. It will not go away on its own. Essential to being human is needing community and friendship with other people. That is what you need to seek out first, with people you trust, preferably someone that is older (like a counselor at school, a role-model, teacher, etc.) This is just the first step in the process of freeing yourself from this lifestyle, but just know that it will be over, and that you will lead an amazing life with a purpose far greater than you could ever imagine. But you have to choose, everyday, to fight against this depression inside of you. Know that, if you choose to fight, the fight will rip away from you everything you thought you knew to be true and real, but you will be given an even greater life than you thought possible. Just, please, persevere, and wake up every morning and make the decision to fight against this depression. Please let me know if there's anything else that I can do for you.
Jenny
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As of Friday, i've been real sick. I took a nap all afternoon, and when i woke up I felt all dizzy. the only time i would feel good is when i have my head down. and right when i get up, i feel all dizzy again. then at points i kept gagging, but never threw up. and i kept burbing alot too.. until yesterday, i started having real bad diahrea, and my dizzyness and gagging has slowed down. but im still getting much headaches and stomach aches... does anyone know what is wrong with me?
my mom has just been telling me to take some medicine.. and that doesnt even work!
Hey! Well, it sounds like you have some sort of flu. What you need to do is take your temperature (that will give you a better idea of what you have). My mom's answer to almost every illness is to drink lots (and lots) of water, and get plenty of rest! Try to eat food like dry cereal and breads (foods that won't upset your stomach). I hope you feel better soon!
Jenny
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