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my girlfriend and I were together for around 4 and a half months. I am just trying to figure out why she randomly is playing mind games in my head for instance flirting or calling me names like honey,sweetie, or baby. Its RARE but she does.
She broke up with me on monday so it wasn't a long time ago or anything. Plus on top of this she isn't even in town and did all this. (link)
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Well, one of the first things you need to do, is clear the air between you two. Meaning, find out what the situation is, and if the break up was serious, and true. If she tells you that it has been officially over, then you can move on to the next step. And that is, let her know that you can basically move on, and don't have to pay her any attention. Let her know that her mind games are finished, and she can no longer call you any "pet names", that's for your new relationship.
I hope I helped you. If there's ever anything else you may need advice on, don't hesitate to contact me directly through my email or for faster response, any instant messengers.
Wish you the best of luck with your future relationship with someone who will love you for you, and take you seriously when demanded.
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My friend Amy and I are in the 9th grade. We went to the same elementary school together but we did NOT go to the same middle school or high school, so we have grown a bit distant. Amy has a huge crush on this guy Ben, who went to elementary school with us. Amy and Ben also went to the same middle school together.
Amy is confident that Ben likes her and she wants to ask him out. However, I talked to a few of my other friends from my elementary school and apparently, everyone knows that Amy likes Ben, but Ben doesn't like her because he finds her personality to be annoying.
But Amy doesn't really understand the way other people see her---she thinks she's popular even though she's not.
Amy genuinely thinks Ben is interested in her and is absolutely going to ask him out. But I know for a fact that he won't.
I don't really want to tell her that Ben doesn't like her, because it would really hurt her feelings. I'm afraid it would be mean to tell her that Ben finds her annoying. But if I don't say anything and let her go ask him out, she'll just get hurt anyways.
What should I do? (link)
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You should first let her know about herself. The way she's carrying herself as she's a "popular figure" in school, and for her to just tone her personality down a bit. Let her know her behavior is what would be a turn off for any guy.
Then, confront Ben, and let him know that she's going through a phase, and to just give her a chance. Find out more about her, there must be something he might like about her.
(But do this only if she changes the way she acts)
If that doesn't work, let things go as they should. And just be a good friend by being there for her when she needs you the most, if Ben turns her down.
Good Luck!
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My sister is trying to get pregnant and she came to me to have a personal talk the other day. She is overweight (290 lbs) or something like that...and she wanted to know if she could still get pregnant at her weight or if it is harder then the average person to become pregnant.
-BahaiMa22 (link)
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Not at all. That's nonsense. If she wants to get pregnant, she can. She's a woman, and her feminine organs are working properly. Its not hard at all. She should mostly calculate her ovulations so she'll be able to get pregnant expectingly.
Just tell her to watch what she intakes, as certain food now-a-days aren't best for embryos.
Tell her I wish her the best of luck on her future pregnancy.
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I have terrible scars from acne.. any home remedies or products that is 95% or up affective? (link)
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No worries. Coco Butter does wonders. It may not be a home remedy, but its been an affective product that's been working for years.
Wish you luck, it does take some time. But it would clear it up, either becoming so light that you cannot even see it, or completely disappear.
Good Luck!
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have you ever had you cartilige pierced and does it hurt
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No, I haven't had any piercings, so I cannot tell you if it would hurt or not.
I recommend that you do a little research to make sure you really want to go forth with it.
But technically, I think being that cartilage is a gristle, it may slightly hurt.
Good Luck with that. Let me know how it turns out!
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My boyfriend and I are expecting a baby in July, it will be the first child for both of us. It was totally unexpected, we had only been together a few months when we found out I was pregnant. We are both 27 and really not where we wanted to be in life when we started a family, but are still both excited and want to do everything we can to give this child a great life. There is one thing, my boyfriend has no real work experience. He worked delivering pizzas for a few months, but he isn't working anymore. I know it's hard to find jobs in this area, and with not much experience, but I am very worried about the strain this is putting on our relationship, and for when the baby is here. I work full time and have my own apartment, a very small apartment, that's another thing, if he had income we could move into a better place. I blame things on him a lot, because I am carrying this baby and working full time, and he isn't. Sometimes I think positive, like as long as I know I'm doing all I can, and he is actually looking for employment, but a lot of the times I think really negatively and believe I will not be able to stay with him if he doesn't find work. I don't think it's fair really, and I don't want to put myself in a position where I have to do everything myself, not if we are together, so it makes me think sometimes that we shouldn't stay together. He says I should believe in him and believe things will work out, but it's hard at this point, I'm due in a little over 3 months and I'm stuck in this tiny apartment with little income. I'm just looking for some advice, and maybe a good way to start a conversation with him about how much this affects me, because I am kind of quiet and don't always know how to express my feelings and explain things that are bothering me. It is really making me sad and overwhelmed because I don't know how to handle the situation. I would rather my child had two parents that are in a relationship, but sometimes I don't see how that can be. (link)
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I'm glad that I am the first to help you handle your situation. For starter, you have to sit him down when you get the opportunity, being that you work, and let him know how you feel. It doesn't matter what you say, when you're expressing yourself, everything will fall into a better understanding to him.
After that conversation, go into further details with him about his job search, and if he's putting enough effort into it.
Try not to think negatively, I know it can be hard that by the income you have cannot and won't be able to provide for all three of you, soon.
I recommend trying a Employment Agency, or a Workforce. They are able to help him find jobs, with the little experience he has, and maybe even supply him with training, and techniques to help him advance.
I wish you the best of luck for you and your boyfriend, and God Bless your child, who will soon enter the world.
If you need anymore assistance, babysitting, anything at all, feel free to send an email through to me, as I am willing to help you the best way I can.
Good Luck!
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24/f
so here is the shortest version of the story I can manage. When I was seventeen I met the love of my life. we both knew it the moment we met. we lived 8 hours away from eachother but had a long distance relationship. he is 2 years older so he moved to the east coast to be in a band before I got out of highschool. i was supposed to go when I graduated but as life goes...I moved to the west coast with another man when I was 18. when i was 20 we found eachother again and he still in the band we saw eachother a few times and were still in love. this is like really true love, our hearts and souls are meant to be. he cannot leave his band, they tour 10 months out of the year. anyway we stayed in contact and over the years he would fly out between tour dates and spend a few days with me. two years ago we decided it was very hard to be together long distance so we agreed to see other people because we were both lonely but we both knew we still loved eachother. we planned to get married when I moved from the west coast. he started seeing his ex and I met someone from work. we still stayed in touch and in love. well, I ended up getting pregnant and had a baby with a man i do not love, and still do not love. we lost contact after I had my baby, he was really hurt yet supportive of me keeping the child. I two years later, my son is over a year old and I still live with his father who is not a nice person at all. Recently we started talking again and although we are both in relationships the love is still there. I guess i just need advice on how to move on from here...i am staying with my baby's father for my son, but I love this other man so much. he is constantly touring so its not like we can be together because I cannot move to his home base because it would bring my son 2000 miles away from his dad. I just dont know what to do. I love him and I know we are destined to be together. sorry if my question is not really precise, but any advice would help me greatly. this man is always on my mind and I know now that i am always on his mind. thanks (link)
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No problem with the long story, it was very well detailed.
Understanding that you now have a child with someone else, is putting on a lot more stress to the situation. Now that your whole life revolves around your son, you have to go with what would be best for him, throughout his developing life.
Being said, you are with your son's father, you are living miserably as stated that he isn't a good person. If he isn't handling his fatherly duties, and paying attention to his child, then you have every right to leave him, and take your son with you.
You say you love the other man, and you tried staying in contact while he's own tour and you being where you are. Long distance don't really work out, and I'm surprised to hear that you've managed through the long distance, separation, and seeing other people. If you want to be with him, you're going to have to find out a way to work it out.
If you want to be a band member's girlfriend/future wife, you have to do some serious negotiation with him. As, he is living in the "Music Life" he's constantly busy, and may not have much time to share with you.
You have to think about it that way. You would hardly spend time with him.
My question to you is:
Do you want to be with him, knowing he now lives a busy lifestyle? Are would you just move on to someone else other than your son's father?
It will take along time to mend your heart because it is still with him, but you need it back if things cannot be, between you two.
If its impossible to work things out with your son's father, then leave. You don't want your child to grow up around someone who isn't going to be a decent Male Role Model for him.
Just move, see how things work out, you never know, it might be a good decision. And if not, start your life over with someone new.
Hope all goes well.
Good Luck!
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I'm not sure if this is the right subject, but, I have a lot of scars [I used to cut a few years ago for a few years, like, really bad, but I've stopped] and they are from the really deep cuts that just won't go away. I'm worried that one day I'll go to apply for a job, and I won't get it because they'll see the scars on my arms. [that happened to my friend] Thanks! (link)
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I want to say Congratulations on quitting because that is very dangerous.
Deep scars can go away, but they take time.
Use lots of creams, lotions that have Coco Butter in them. Even buy the Coco Butter stick.
Trust me, Coco Butter can lighten - disappear scars.
Good Luck!
Let me know how your scars turns out.
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13/f
okay i got my very first period on January 31,08
and i havnt got it since.
when do you think i will get it again?? (link)
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1st you must understand that since its your official 1st, sometimes your body is still going though its changes. Don't worry, you should be getting it soon.
Yes, it is most common in your case. I will continue skipping for awhile, before your completely developed.
I cannot tell you exactly the time you should get it. But if you don't get it by the end of this month, you should see a doctor.
Seeing a doctor, because every female body is different, and I'm not saying something is wrong with you. But you have every right to know how your body is doing.
Good Luck!
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14/f..HELP ME!!!
i went out with this guy, last may then in august i dupted him because he started to like my best friend (ex-bestfriend now). i really loved him but he cheated on me so i hate him, but everytime i try to forget about him, he text me then i have all these feelings for him again, then we start going back out again on and off. he barely talks to me. it seems like he only text me because he wants to do "stuff" with me. and i really try to get over him but it seems like i cant. HOW CAN I GET OVER HIM?? (link)
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You have to set "YOU" as number 1 in your mind, before you can try to move on.
I know how you're feeling, but you'll get over it. It just takes enough confidence and will power.
Keep in mind that if he's communicating with you for 1 thing, and 1 thing only, let him and the whole situation go. You don't deserve to be used.
That's not fair to you or anyone else.
You should ask for his thoughts if the tables were turned around, and he was feeling the way you feel, right now. He wouldn't like it, that I know.
Occupy your mind with other thoughts.
Go out with friends, watch movies, even curl up in bed and read a good book.
It takes time, but trust me, you'll get over him before you know it, and you may meet someone new.
But it all starts as soon as you stop responding to his text messages. Let him know you've moved on, and for him not to speak, call, text, or anything again.
He is only a distraction in your life.
Good Luck!
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my best friend is liking this one guy; lets call himm steve. And lets call her Macy. (link)
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She could really be falling for this guy, and I as I see, you're being pushed aside every time like you don't exist. I know the feeling, she's not the only person I know that does that to people, best friends, and family too.
As soon as a guy that they are so interested in, is in their reach, they aren't going to let him go that easily. That's when they lose focus on their own life, and mixing up their priorities.
Try to catch her alone, so her mind isn't to much into "Steve". Express your feelings, make her understand that by revolving her life around "Steve" its putting a strain on your friendship. Make her understand, that you've always been there for her, long before this particular guy came along. If she doesn't get it, let her know you can't continue going through with this, and the best way to live your life, is to let her go.
It can be a temporary thing, sort of like a silent treatment in a friendship.
Then it leaves her with no choice but to make the right decision.
If she let's "Steve" go, you can encourage her, that she'll find someone that wont interfere with your friendship.
And if she doesn't let him go, then you know, that you would continue being pushed aside until you've had enough.
And yes, you might just be losing your best friend to a guy.
Hope everything goes well.
Good Luck!
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what should i do if im dating a guy that always seems too good to be true? (link)
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You should continue to pursue this relationship.
I know you must seem scared, not knowing if you're dreaming. But, he can just really be a good guy.
My suggestion is to keep your mind and heart open, you never know how things can change. And you want to be prepared for it to be either good or bad.
But live in the moment, you never know, he can be the right one for you.
*If things are going too well, see into it. It can turn out, that he maybe hiding something from you.
Good Luck!
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I've been dating my bf for almost 5 months and and his friend are kind of starting to get to me. They're actually my friends too, I met them before I met my bf, they introduced us. Before my bf and I started dating, they'd hit on me but in a cute flirty way. I was always fine with it cuz I thought it was all in good fun. This continued after my bf and I were official but I still just laughed it off. Now it's actually started to bother me. I'm not sure whether or not my bf knows they act this way but the comments have escalated and I'm not sure what to do. This is all talk btw, they would never do more than just talk. I'm not sure what to do because they are good friends of mine and they're my bf's best friends. (link)
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You have to do something about it. Let them know that "this", meaning them trying to flirt with you, is getting out of hand. Its bothering you, and is making you feel uncomfortable.
Tell them, that you want to be good friends, but they're not helping the situation, but actually making matters worse.
If they don't back off, then let your boyfriend know, and give him chance to tell them, that their behavior is unacceptable within the friendship that you all share.
Your boyfriend has the right to know, since you both share mutual friends.
Hopefully, they'll come to their senses and drop the whole "flirting game" and go back to being normal.
If it doesn't work, then they're not good friends. That can easily lead to a strain in your relationship with your boyfriend, as he wont be able to trust them when they're around you.
Be careful. Wish you luck!
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Okay I've been obsessing over this guy. Not in a stalker way, but in a "I can't stop thinking about you" way. The other day I was driving and happened to look at the license plate of the car in front of me. It had his name and the date he was coming back on. Am I just over analyzing this or is it a sign? (link)
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Love sometimes work in mysterious ways.
Either love is letting you know that you may have an opportunity to get closer to him...
But sometimes you can be blinded by love as well.
I believe that its a sign, but just pay close attention, you never know whats in store for you.
Hope all works out.
Good Luck!
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There was this girl who I was friends with for five years, & we were in a really big fight last year over stupid things & we didn't talk for four (maybe five?) months. The thing is, this afternoon, we talked for the first time in a long time & she apologized. She really has changed. The thing is, two of my ex-best friends told me that she tried to get them to drink, & their mom told my mom. SO, my mom already doesn't like the girl, PLUS now she thinks she drinks. I know it's not true, cause the girls who told me that turned out to be liars. My mom still doesn't like her & doesn't want me hanging out with her. Everytime I try to talk to my mom about the conversation I had with her & how she apologized, she just changes the subject. How can I convince her that she's changed, so I can actually hang out with her? (link)
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You 1st need to go back to the source. Those who started up that lie, are the ones that must fix it. Now, they made an innocent person look 100% guilty.
Confront them, let them know that it was wrong what they did, and let them imagine someone did the same to them. Let them know, that it can be done, from anyone who feels the need to start trouble.
Have them give your mom information on how that lie started, and they're reasons to why they did it.
Let your mom know that it was a lie, and tell her that you want to discuss this further. Most parents, leave to their last words, but everyone is privileged to their own voice. Find a way to get her to understand you and what you're intentions are.
Your feelings are on the line as well, because you can easily lose her as a friend, maybe even for good.
Push harder, make it a serious issue, if you want a chance to continue being her friend.
Hope everything goes well. Good Luck!
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well, i have this ex boyfriend that i had for three years, so obviously we still talk, we broke up about a month ago. and i am going to try to start dating again, it's going to be hard, but i want to do it.
well there's this boy that i have feelings for, he wants to start dating soon . but the thing is : if me and this boy do start dating , do i tell my ex boyfriend? i mean wouldn't it be best if he found out from me so that he didn't get upset , or should i let him find out himself?
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Your relationship with your ex is only a friendship.
Certain things you do, he doesn't need to know.
He can still care about you but whatever you do with your life is none of his business, and he has no say so. The same if vice versa.
No, you don't have to tell him detailed information about the relationship you are about to get in to, just let him know that you have to distant yourselves and can't talk or hang together as much as you used to.
Now, that someone new is in the picture, you cannot have any distractions, especially from your past.
Good Luck!
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15/f
[kind of long. but i really need help]
there's this girl that i'm friends with. we used to be best friends, but lately our relationship has been kind of strained. she's just been so out of control the past 2 weeks that i have no idea how to handle it. we were basically the same two weeks ago.
we're both 15 going on 16, and we had never been drunk, or done anything illegal, or had boyfriends, or h/u'd with anyone. well it started when she went to this persons sweet 16 and got drunk at an afterparty. at first i was like whatever. everyone gets drunk as a teen, no big deal. then last friday she told me she smoked cigarettes, something we swore to eachother we would never EVER do. i was in a different state this week visiting relatives and while i was gone she threw a wild house party and did weed and got completely drunk and h/u'd with 4 guys and got fingered. and she may have had sex but she doesn't even remember. I feel like she's changing too fast and there's nothing i can do about it. and even though i wasn't even in the same state as her when this party happened, i somehow feel responsible. like i let her down in a way. like i was the reason she started hanging out with these kind of people because i had been a bit too clingy and pushed her away and made her want to rebel against everyone. she doesn't understand that she can get in serious trouble for what she did, if anyone ever finds out. and the worst part is, i don't think she even feels bad about it. she'd wanted to get drunk and high and make out with guys so bad. she told me this. and it seems like she's kind of happy about it and i just don't know what to do to make her understand how worried i am about her and how dangerous this kind of behavior really is without sounding too motherly and like a loser.
any advice is appreciated. (link)
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The best way to start is letting her know that you care for her like a sister, since you don't want to seem motherly. Let her know that her actions can lead her somewhere she may never get out of, if she continues to pursue this type of behavior.
Give her examples on things that you can do together to keep her occupied and away from things like drugs, especially drugs...
Don't feel responsible for her actions, and don't beat yourself up because you wasn't there when that big event took place.
By you blaming yourself, it wouldn't make you seem any better than she, when you are. You're keeping your distance away from bad influence.
Never blame yourself and hold yourself responsible for anyone else. You're not controlling them, they have a mind and body of their own. She did what she did, and she did it because she wanted to.
But most importantly, let her know that even though she will be out there doing her own thing, you will still care and be there for her when she'll need you the most.
Letting her know that, would keep her mind grounded that at least someone still cares, because she might be going through that type of situation in her life.
Be there for her, and support her, like a true friend/sister you are, she needs you. Let her confide in you, and everything will fall into place.
Good Luck!
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im a freshman girl, ive been in relationships before but only w/ guys my own age in like 8th grade were we kissed and thought it was a big deal. ive been flirting with this junior guy, (gorgeous and could get anyone) he called and asked me if i wanted to hangout last night so i had him over. lets just get to the point, we made out a lot, he felt me up, and i wouldnt let him do anythign else. I feel kinda bad, i dont like this guy really he's cuteee and so sweet to me (and when he met my parents). i dont think he's using me but im kinda using him i mean i dont love him or anything like that not even a crush. is this slutty? its highschool your supposed to have fun right? (link)
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Don't feel bad, or take that into any negative thought. As long as your not "fully" involved with this person, you're fine.
But the real problem in this situation is:
You don't really like him, and he has no idea. Both parties should be ok to be "kissing buddies" as long as there's no real attachment. By not including him in on your true feelings, its not fair to him.
You have to let him know what your only intentions are, see if he is willing to go forth with it. And take things from there.
Slutty? No, I don't think so, if you slept with him, it may be in another story. But again, think of if you were in his shoes and had no idea, that the person you're "messing with" doesn't feel anything towards you.
Think About it. Put yourself in his shoes.
Good Luck!
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Okay there is this guy i know, he is a lot older than me. Well he always picks on me and stuff and plays around with me. And he has made a comment before that i would make a good wife to somone one day! But i kind of like him too but it would never work becuase of our age differnce!
Dose he like me or i am i just paranoid!
What should i do if he dose! (link)
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He must feel some sort of way, to state a comment like "you'll make a great wife to someone one day", but, please also except that as a compliment.
I believe he's inching is way to you. Wanting to make sure he doesn't take things to fast to scare you.
It's likely that age differences are one of the reasons people try to keep their distance. But you can't help if you have some type of feelings for one another. Other situations, the relationships work out quite well.
Ask him, at a good timing, if he feels some way for you. If he states yes, then ask in what way. He may play around with you, but it could be a crush. So figure it out, and don't your hopes up, you never know what he might say.
Good Luck!
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when i try to transverve somthing it says unsportive file wat are some and ow can i change it? (link)
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I feel bad that no one answered you, so what I suggest is you speak to a telephone specialist.
They can only help you.
Hope everything works out!
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