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im losing my bff to a guy.
my best friend is liking this one guy; lets call himm steve. And lets call her Macy.<(isnt that a store.. ?ANYWAYS)
Macy has latley been really attached to him. I mean yeah, i like a guy too and i am attached but, i dont put our friendship asside for it.
Like the other day i called her;
"UHhhhhhhhhh. hmm. can i call you back?"
Me:"yehh sure"
5 hours later
"Hey yeah what did you want?"
Me:" uh.. nothing. nevermind"
"Yeah sorry i was on the phone with steve"
-_- Im fine that your on the phone with him but.
Dont forget about me? yah know?
Also if we were going somewhere and steve isnt there, she doesnt wanna go anymore.
Its like; nottt everything revolves around him.
What am i ; chopped liver?
She IGNORED my call the other day because she was on the phone with Steve!
She called me back like 4 hours later and goes
"Hey"
Me:" .. i called you a little bit ago"
"No you didnt. It says no missed calls"
"uh... yeah..yeah i did."
"hm well i was talking to Steve"
Me:"oh.. mkay thanks for calling me back"
(she was supposed to call me back before)
"You do that to me all the time with "Rick" so whats your point. "
*** SHE TURNS THIS AROUN AND PUTS IT ON ME;;;
Me: "Uhh i call you backkk? And i never ignored your call , i swear i have never done that to you"
"whatever.. and you only called me once"
Me: " So you did ignore my call.."
" yeah but im calling you now.. "
WTF!? OKAY. whatevvverrrrrrr.
you just lied to me.
and.
.... UGHHH this annoys me.
Also today; walking down school stairs ready to go home and shes hurrying down the stairs; LIKE SPRINTING! im like wft man. im still trying to put my stuff in my bag; chill and hold on.
So shes like rushing me.
We get down and ; shes like " Oh im going to wait for Geena so i can say bye to her"
So im like; uhhh okay i wanna say bye to her too i guess. She never says bye to geena.. thats weird..
So Macy starts walking ahead. and shes like " come on" and im all confused like; Did i miss geena? where is she. but then i see her coming down the srairs i was like. wtf uhh. BUT THEN
i SEE STEVE AHEAD OF US. So she wants to follow him..
im like in my head " Nuhh uh. you just lied to me ; were going to WAIT for geena now"
So i just stood there and waited for geena. So she HAD to say bye to her.
Like;
COME ON
Shes been acting differant latley too.
WTF im LOOSING MY FRIEND TO A GUY!
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tell her flat out that you don't like how she has changed. tell her that you hate how she keeps lying to you and ditching you for some guy. and if you have to, tell her that you don't think the friendship is going to last if she keeps putting it in the backseat for some guy. tell her you understand she likes him alot, but that it is completely unfair to keep ignoring you like that. just tell her how you feel. (:
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She's definitely not following the "chicks before dicks" rule. You should bring it up to her. Just be like, "It seems like you're ignoring me and your other friends to spend all your time with Steve, which sucks. You're being rude by ignoring my calls. It makes me feel like you don't want to be my friend, and I would not ever do that to you. I just wanted you to know that, and you need to figure out what you want to do."
Chances are (and I don't want to sound mean), in a very short time, she and this guy will be over anyway. That's what generally happens when a girl gets so attached to a guy. It goes too fast and it becomes too much so it ends. And when it does end, she will come running to you. I've experienced this way too many times before with my own best friend.
The best advice I can give you is: don't wait around for her. When she and this guy call it quits, she will still want to be your best friend. For now, chill out on the calls and stuff, and if she calls you, don't feel like you have to call her back right then. Once she and Steve break up or whatever, things will be back to normal.
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She could really be falling for this guy, and I as I see, you're being pushed aside every time like you don't exist. I know the feeling, she's not the only person I know that does that to people, best friends, and family too.
As soon as a guy that they are so interested in, is in their reach, they aren't going to let him go that easily. That's when they lose focus on their own life, and mixing up their priorities.
Try to catch her alone, so her mind isn't to much into "Steve". Express your feelings, make her understand that by revolving her life around "Steve" its putting a strain on your friendship. Make her understand, that you've always been there for her, long before this particular guy came along. If she doesn't get it, let her know you can't continue going through with this, and the best way to live your life, is to let her go.
It can be a temporary thing, sort of like a silent treatment in a friendship.
Then it leaves her with no choice but to make the right decision.
If she let's "Steve" go, you can encourage her, that she'll find someone that wont interfere with your friendship.
And if she doesn't let him go, then you know, that you would continue being pushed aside until you've had enough.
And yes, you might just be losing your best friend to a guy.
Hope everything goes well.
Good Luck!
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