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Yo, the name is Kev. I'ma a sucker for beautiful eyes, a lover, poet, artest, martial artest, writer, gamer and romantic... Need i say more?
I have 17 years of age, Ima guy, and I live in Rockville Maryland and go to Rockville High Skool. I made this thing because I wanted to try and help people... I know that there are few things to help myself... So I try and help people from ending up in a hole that I many never get out of.. So, BlackBatman at your service people

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I am 14 and my boyfriend reaghan is 16. I really love him with all of my being. But sometimes he gets real mad at me and he gets real mad at me an then says he will call me back after he's done smoking and when he's done he is a loving person jus the way we met. He is as good as passionate gangsters get and he gets real mad when I ask him a question like if he's dark or bright an i thought he said black so I asked him again and he said if I want a bright person I could go look for him. He is also a real jealous person but I really love him and every three minutes that am away from him i literally have to call him. please tell me how to deal with him because i really love him how do I tell him am scared to talk to him without pissing him off .

Well if you're scared of him, and hes always getting pissed off then I think you should run and never look back. Adding onto the fact that you're scared of the person you love, hes a "gangster" which today isn't good. Even if you're just a poser. Also, 16 and smoking is a no no. But if you really want to make your relationship work, try and talk to him about how he makes you feel, and if that dosen't work then you shouldn't be in that relationship

-BlackBatman-

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Hey. Well I'm 14/f and I'm a freshman in highschool, and a little nervouse. Today was my first day and I only talked to a few people and didn't really make friends. I have friends who go to the school but they aren't in my classes or lunch and I want to make new friends as well. None of my friends are in my lunch, and I'm not really a good conversation starter, so I was wondering if I should just sit at a table with a group of people I don't know and start talking to them? What should I say? And I want to talk to this girl in my Spanish class because she seems nice, but I don't know if we can talk in class and I don't even sit near her. I was wondering about starting up a conversation and talking to her after class, but again, I don't know what to say. Also, if anyone could give me great conversation tips and how to make friends in highschool and to be less nervous I would really appreciate it to the fullest. I know I sound really paranoid, but I get like that sometimes. Thanks!

Rule number one: ALWAYS BE YOURSELF

And if you want to start a conversation, you can either think up something random or look and notice something and try to work off that. You drop your pencil, go to pick it up, you notice she has the same shoes as one of your friends or something. Then, bam. Conversation -__-

-BlackBatman-

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mmk so my bestfriend since 6th grade and i started going out in 9th. we had this whole crazy connection, i cant be without you kind of relationship.(this was in 9th grade) well he wasnt actually allowed to date soo i only saw him at school and i think schools really important and when we started going out my grades dropped super low. because school was all "boyfriend time". and so i freaked out and pushed him away. and now its 10th grade and he hasnt really talked to me since. and i still love him. he doesnt really know what happened.. how do i get him back or to atleast get him to talk to me..he means the world to me..

Yeah, I've been there. This acutally happend to me last year. Really the best thing to do is to just tell him what was going on and how you feel. And if he can't understand that then hes probably not a very good friend.

-BlackBatman-

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hi i'm a 16 years old girl and have never had sex, a boyfriend, or kissed a guy. people tell me all the time that i am pretty and must have a ton of guy friends. i get ridiculously nervous around guys i really like and act like a total dork. what can i do to get guys to like me or to handle my nerves?

here's pics of me lol
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Well, theres nothing wrong with your looks. Personally I think you're beautiful. The best thing that you can do to get people to like you is just to be yourself and wait for the right guy to come along. I know it sounds lame but, it really is the best option. Hope I helped

-BlackBatman-

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ok i know this is bad but my bf is 20 and im 13 but im vietnamese and i went over there and thats where i met him apparently age doesnt matter over there but now im back here and he lives over there which sucks but every1 says hes using me but he says he wants to marry me when im 18 which im not sure about yet since im just 13 but i dont know what to believe or what to do about the distance i can only see him once a year and i can only talk to him like once a month i dont know what to do should i keep going out w/ him? and i dont know if hes using me or not but i love him alot ahh im soo confused help!

Well, I dont really know if hes using you. Since you haven't said anything that would really sugest that, and you did say that age dosen't matter there but, if you can't talk to him that offten, or see him almost at all then maybe you should break up with him untill you can. You say you "love" him but, most people your age throw around that word too much. I know I did. Just wait untill you're a bit older. Then try and figure things out

-BlackBatman-

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13/f ok so im 5'6" but im slim and most of the guys in my grade are shorter than me or at least a little short. My height at the most. Would they not want to go out with me or kiss me if im that tall?

Nah, actually, girls grow before guys. So its natural to be a little taller then the boys for a short wile. And no, some guys actually like taller woman. So, you have nothing to worry about

-BlackBatman-

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16/f..
ive liked this kid for awhile..well like about a month and a half we flirted nonstop and i love the attention dont get me wrong most of us do but then he got a girlfriend. yeah i was like ok no more flirting for us but guess what he still does? i love it but i kinda do it back because he does it first =) but he really likes his girlfriend too and i think they will last a long time. i cant get over him no matter what i do and i see him alot and that just makes me fall all over again. i love seeing him but everytime i THINK i might see him i feel like i have to look perfect just for him and i dont know why. he isnt shallow either! i can tell that he most likely thinks im attractive (not to sound conceited or anything) but we always like flirt touchy/feely kinda thing. what should i do? i cant stop thinking about this kid and talking about it will ruin our friendship! we are pretty good friends.. i just wish we could be something more but hes got a gorgeous girlfriend that seems really sweet

its killing me..people are always like aww they're so CUTE! and im just thinking i wish i could be happy for him but i just cant knowing that i have such strong feelings for him..any suggestions for this situation?

Well, I think you should tell him about how you feel. If its really tearing you up inside. Then, if he accepts your feelings then maybe if him and his gf break up then he'll come to you

-BlackBatman-

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OK, so me and my boyfriend have been having sex play. But, when I lightly circle around the tip of his penis....he says if I do that a lot it hurts. He says the same thing if I rub his testicles. I don't think this is "blue balls" cause he seemed to be making a big deal about it. So, apparently doing that a little bit turns him on...but too much hurts him. What is this and why is it happening?

Well, if you did it a lot then I'd imagen that they'd get pretty tender, and it would be pretty painful.

-BlackBatman-

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15/female. i dont have a boyfriend even though i want one soo bad. i guess i get shy at times and thats why i dont have one. you know that young love kind of feeling i never had that and i think its because i have a father figure in mylife ..hes my protector and i love him very much but at times i cant stand him for the things he does and because i think it's his fault i never had a boyfriend. Dont get me wrong i'm very grateful for him. but when i was younger and boys wanted to go out with me i always felt i didnt need a boyfriend. now that im older and my hormones are doing what they do best i feel like i want a guy that i can be close with. but everytime i'm around a boy i like and he puts his arms around me memories come to me when i was little when my father use to hold me around the waist. or if i lean on a guys chest it's like when i was little when i use to lean on my fathers chest giving him a hug...does anybody know how i feel?? why do i feel this way??
i really want a boyfriend but i dont wanna act weird around him. and most guys usually just want to fuck me and im still a virgin so its really hard to have a good boyfriend unless we're probably friends first. but i have no actual boy friends:(

Well, its kinda obvious that you feel this way because your father has been such a huge influence in your life. If you find a guy, a good guy that dosen't just want you for sex or tries to use you in any way then you could just explain to him your situation with the touching and everything. If they really like you then they'll understand your situation, and you guys will probably be better of because of it. Hope I helped

-BlackBatman-

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okay. i am 5'8". do you think that is too tall for some guys. the guys that are about my height. i mean. i would prefer a taller guy. but it doesnt really matter. are taller girls a turn off for guys?

To tell you the truth: it depends. Some guys find that a taller woman is extreamly attractive. Others find it to be a bit akward. Every guys is diffrent, so, I can't really give you a straight answer on this one.

-Black Batman-

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A guy asked me out but his not just a guy i always had a crush on him lol && i love him we are going on a double date && i wanna look pretty. what should i wear? how should my clothse look? im so nervous! give me some advice please:D && thank you :)

As long as you act like yourself, the answers will most always be there. I probaly could give you more advice but I don't exactally know the details of the kind of date that you're going on.

-Black Batman-

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I work with these two girls. Laura and michelle. Laura has been working there for 5 years & works full time. michelle has been there for 2 months & work part time. A month ago laura asked if she can get promotoed to shift supervisor & the store manager said you would have to drop the full time and go to part time. So she said no way. The store manager Then asked michelle if she would like to be Shift supervisor & she took the promotion.

Laura went to another manager and asked why she would have to go to part time and the manager said thats not true.

I was talking to michelle and asked why didnt Laura get the promotion since she has been here longer & she told me that the store manager said shes to slow and doesnt get the job done on time and doesnt believe she has what it takes to be a shift supervisor.

I'm the only one that knows why laura didnt get the promotion. And i feel really guilty because im keeping it from her. Question is should i tell her or just keep it from her?

thank you.

Well, if your knowledge of the situation is really eating you up inside then you should tell her. Although, considering what you know I'd personally wouldn't tell her. Sometimes things are better left unsaid you know? By keeping it a secrent, you might save some hurt feelings but, ultimitly it's up to you.

-Black Batman-

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heyy what's promiscuous mean?? and how do you spell it lol

You spelled promiscuous right, and it means someone who isn't restricted to one sexual partner

-BlackBatman-

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i need somone to talk to my boyfriend said to me while we were having sex that he's gonna have his friends get some of me what should i do
i'll rate 5 ror anyone who answers

Umm, talk to him about it. If hes serious then tell him straight up that it's not ganna happen, and if he dosen't accept that then maybe you should break it off with him.

-BlackBatman-

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Thing is, is I'm with this guy and I call him my boyfriend only because we talk everyday and kept contact since driver's ed ended about 3 months ago. We made out before but that's about as far as we got and that was in April and that was the last time I saw him. He has a hard life and the day after we made out, it turns out he went to jail (nothing bad don't worry). He was there for a month and apparently he told his councelor to call me and give me his address so I could write him. The day he came out he called me and I was so happy and since then we've been talking everyday.
Now, it's been like 2 months since I've seen him and when we talk on the phone it's cool and everything but he always wants to talk about sex. That's fine to me cause well I think it's an interesting topic. Then he told me that he wants to do it with me. I am 15 and a virgin. He is 16 and lost his virginity when he was around 12 or 13 I think. The thing is, is that I have really strong feelings for him and I don't want to just be another girl for him. We have never said I love you or anything like that and he hasn't offically like asked me out or anything.
From the signs I get from him, I think he likes me but I don't know for sure because he's been with a couple of other girls and he might just know how to play me. I want to please him and I think I am ready I just want him to know that I don't want to just be another girl for him. I don't really know how to tell him though because when I tried a couple days ago, I kinda just started freaking out and he was like, "Sweety calm down. Baby it'll be okay" But I never got around to saying I don't want to just be another girl for you (I think that sounds kind of mean personally and he wouldn't respond well to that).

Please, tell me what I should say to him to make him know how I feel and how I should go about telling him I am getting strong feelings for him without making it akward.

Thank you so much in advance.

Well, first off: If you guys arn't dating then I really don't think you two should be having sex. And by the way that you're discribing him, I think that you're right in thinking that he just might be playing you. If you want to tell him that you don't want to, then there are a number of diffrent ways you could do it. Either by writing him another letter, note, or e-mail about it. Then, you guys could maybe talk about it in person. Remember, communication is the foundation of a good relationship. So, if you ever wanted one with him, then you would have to be able to talk about sensitive issues with him anyways. If you need any more advice then you can e-mail or IM me. I hope I helped.

-BlackBatman-

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I need a creative idea. How do I ask the girl of my dreams out on a date. But first of all, what things should I say to her, just a few tips that will melt her heart? I know that there is'nt that much you can do to melt her heart, but can you honestly think of a way of using body language to attract her to me. What the hell do I do? I rate 5's
Im 15/m and nearly 16.

Well, I always say that being yourself is the best way to attract somone. But if you want some text book way of smooth talking then you could always surf the net for one of those sites with tips for guys like you who are in need of a lil' romantic assiistance. Although I would just sugest that you think of everything yourself. So that it's more meaningful to both of you.

-BlackBatman-

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well i met this guy...and well we kinda hit it off and now we're together, and well all he wants to talk about to me is having sex(with me)...and he says he wants to marry me someday. i dont really know him that well and vice-versa, im not sure what to do about all of this, i wanted to stay virgin till i get married...hes moving alittle to fast for me, idk wat to do?!

Speak your mind and tell him that you'd like to wait. If he cares about you he'll understand. If you can't do that thne that's the sign of a bad relationship. Remember, comunication is the foundation of a good relationship. So, just keep talking to eachother and you'll see these problems occur less and less.

-BlackBatman-

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How do guys show that they like a girl alot?!

To be honest there are a lot of diffrent ways. All guys are diffent. So, theres no way you can really tell fore sure

-BlackBatman-

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is 'popping your cheery' actually popping something? like inside your vagina or is it just stretching out the skin? because i thought there was something inside your vagina and when you have sex it will pop?? i dont know so please clue me in!!

Your hymen is something inside the vagina that is a kind of wall made up of blood and things. When you "pop" it, you break it, and alow for deeper penitration for whatever you're putting in there

-BlackBatman-

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I don't know if this guy see's me as a friend, or what.
We started talking like a month ago. We're both on the track team so that's how we started talking. We started talking when he ("Caleb") was saying "he'd def hit that" about me and my mom was right there & he didn't know that was my mom. So now it's a big joke. His friend was trying to hook up with me, and so Caleb would always ask me if I liked his friend. He would ask me questions like, who was your last bf?, was it serious?, is your brother [senior at our school] chill with you having bf's?, describe your dream guy, etc.
I tried backing off because I thought he had a gf because he'd kinda talk about her a lot, like his friend would ask if they had sex, and he'd be like, "no dude, it's not about the sex, isn't that right, (my name)?" I acted like I wasn't listening to their convo. Then I found out that they broke up like 3 months ago, but are still good friends.
he sat next to me on the bus ride to our track meet last week so we both get messages from each other. and we pretty much hung out all that meet, as well as the one a couple days ago. then he asked if he could sit by me on the bus on the way to our next meet. and i got 3 hugs from him and he let me wear his hat. our coach was even like, "looks like romance is blooming on the team!" when we were putting stuff away and everyone else was on the other side of the track. he said my accent was cute more than once. and he brought me cookies. and then i was complaining about how fat I am and he's like, blah blah blah you're not fat, you're the prettiest girl at school, etc. then asked for my number so we could go tanning like we said we would.
we got in a play fight last weekend when the whole team was hanging out at someones house, and it was all like, "tell her i'm not talking to her!" and then he was apologizing and his friend came and was like, "she's mine now! you can't have her." and he was like, "I don't want her!" so, idk, that made me sad? sometimes he'll walk with me back to the school and wait for my ride and then he'll leave after i have. and he'll tell me about his ex gf's and how much of a douche bag he was when he dumped them and shiiiiit. idk what he's thinking, he has tons of friends that are girls so maybe he's just a flirty person.

Well yeah, he can either be a flirty person, or in the process of trying to find out information about you for his friend, he came to the realization that you're his type. Like the Taming of the Shrew. (If you've read that by shakespear)

-BlackBatman-

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