Growing up I wondered the same thing you are now, and I've gotten many different answers... So, I just wanted to share what I have been told...

For some, it was the cool thing to do, and over time they just got so used to it and “it became like drinking water.”

I also have been told that people love the taste AND smell, because everyone’s senses are different.

Most of the time, for people my age, they liked that they were "out of control", "sexual", I've even heard "numb" but the most popular one is "I just love to have fun." When they are inebriated.

Me, and a select other few, don't like the taste, hate the feeling, and don't care about "fitting in" even though I've tried it out of my own curiosity. I honestly still don't know why people love it so much either, so I'm also curious to see what other people tell you.

But, unless you’re taking a poll to find out why people drink beer or other alcoholic beverages you've pretty much got it covered as to why people do it I think because that's all I've ever gotten.

I know it wasn't really what you asked or helpful. I just wanted to share, like I said, what I've been told.

I don't exactly agree with the "suck it up" advice on anything. But, if it works for you that's great.

Here is my 2 cents. Unfortenatly girl, a lot of people go through a lot of bad relationships. You have to know that you are definitely not alone.

I dated a guy that was my first for many things, and we were "together" for about 2 years... I later found out that I was a bet between him and his friends to see how long it would take him to sleep with me, and the 2 years we were "dating" he was cheating on me.

So, I can honestly relate to what your going through. It's been two years since everything happened. He told me he "fell in love, with the girl of his dreams" and bought her a ring and everything. He blamed me for so many things that weren't my fault and said I was a terrible girlfriend and deserved what he did to me. So, I became just as bitter, assuming all guys do is lie to get in your pants and cheat behind your back.

But sweetie, you can't let this guy get the best of you. He is scum, you didn't deserve anything that he did to, and it's hurt you a lot.

It's not okay what you've been doing, but I would suggest that you stop cheating. Stay in OPEN relationships with guys for a while and make that clear to all the guys you meet. Take time for you and focus on yourself and learn who you are and feel comfortable in your own skin again before you try to be with someone else in a closed, commited relationship.

It'll work out because you can have the open-ness your needing, and you'll also be making life about you, and learning how to be happy again... And eventually, the right guy will come along that'll make it seem all better. Don't regret what you've done, but just stop doing it from now on. You've obviously realzied it's not right. Now, it's time for you to do something about it. I wish you the best and I hope this helped a little. You're not a bad person or anything of the sort by the way, boys just have the effect on women when they break our hearts. But now it's just time for you to stop giving him that satisfaction. Cuz your an awesome person, and I know that even without meeting you. I need to, to know your better then all of those things and he's a loser. All the best. =)

Ava

I've been there.

I was friends with a girl for TEN years and she dated a guy that within three months cheated on her. She found out and forgave him. I was furious with her.

She ended up staying with the guy for a year or so off and on of course and I always tried to help her when I could but, like in your situation, it was fading.

She actually used my boyfriend at the time as a rebound once, and she cheated on me with her. They are still great friends but I don't talk to either one of them.

My story isn't a happy one, obviously. But, I would try to talk to her about how you feel the friendship is fading...

I don't even know her and I know, just like you know, that she is a great girl and deserves better than some guy that messes around on her. No person deserves that at all.

You need to wake the sleeping beauty up and try to help her see what's going on with your friendship and how hard it is.

IF you have already done that and feel that you have done all that you can possibly do as a best friend... Then, in my opinion, (JUST in opinion by the way no one has to agree.) I would let her be.

You can be a best friend by being there for her. But there is a point where you also have to look out for yourself. If she's around you anytime he hurts her and your there for her, but then breaks promises and blows you off when he's feeling nice, that isn't fair to you. You have to take care of yourself as well. Friends are important and great. But, one thing my Dad always told me was, "only call a person a best friend that cares as much about you, as you do about them." And if your friend isn't returning the compromise of anything, then again, it's just not fair to you.

You have to do what's best for you right now, so if you feel in your heart of hearts that ending the friendship is the best way to go, then do what you have to do. You'll know better than anyone sweetie...

I hope you and your friend can work things out. And I definitely hope she's lets that loser go, because it is so not worth it. Good luck with everything, and I hope I could help at least a little, or someone else can. =)

Break-ups are never an easy thing, and it's even harder when you have such a history with the person (like for you, two years.)

There are different suggestions I can give...

I had a question, sort of like this one, a while back. Thanks to CuxMiBeckNow7 there are 3 sites I would recommend to you. You can check them out if you are on the computer often, or alone with too much time to think.

http://www.wikihow.com/Get-over-a-Guy-You-Liked

http://www.wikihow.com/Get-over-a-Guy

http://www.whatithinkabout.com/how-to-get-over-a-guy-girl/

One of the things I was able to do is keep my priorities straight and think about other things as much as I could. Sadly, being alone or letting yourself think too much about your past with that person won’t make you get over it soon at all.

Here are some things I did:

If you’re lying in bed before you go to sleep, put some head phones on, or watch TV for a little bit to distract yourself.

MAKE yourself think of something/someone else.

If you start to think of him right away think of, what you’re going to wear the next day, what you've got to get done, how good your day was, what you'd like to improve, or even think of ALL the really good things going on in your life. (Just NOT him.)

During the day time, keep yourself busy too.

Like I said before, in my opinion, the biggest thing is to never give yourself the time to think about him.

Even if you can't go anywhere draw a picture, listen to music, clean your room, check out the sites above, just do anything you’re allowed/able to. Keep your mind busy on other things and eventually it'll become natural and you hopefully won't think about him at all. I can't stress it enough I'm sorry. It's just always a killer.

I never suggest rebounds. I don't agree with them, and I don't think they are necessary, or fair to either person.

For me it takes time and patients in the beginning. I REALLY had to make sure that I didn't allow myself to continue to think about the guy.

I would also dance, work out, do things to improve myself, and think of nice things I could do for all my friends and family so my mind was constantly going and thinking about POSITIVE things, that I didn't have time to think about the guy whether my thoughts about him were good or bad.

Anyway, I just know how hard breaking up after being together for all that time can be and those were the things that worked best for me, like I said. Other than that, I think only time itself will help you completely get over him sweetie. I hope this helped at least a little. Good luck. =)

Well, not everyone has regular periods and it does sound a little strange BUT I definitley think you need to see a gynecologist, not even just a regular doctor. Unless your mom won't take you to one then a regular doctor should be alright too.

I was actually told by my gynecologist that periods can be irregular for the first few years of a girls life, especially if they are younger when they get it (his words not mine.) And I know mine were. My wasn't irregular like yours but it wasn't exactly normal either.

I wouldn't stress yourself over it or, don't let anyone scare you about it just try to talk to your mom and see if she can take you to the gynecologist or if you for any reason cannot talk to your mom then go to a walk in clinic and ask them because I know that if there is something serious going on, no one on here would want to give you the wrong advice. Hope this helps a little and good luck! =)

That's really sweet and yet really tough all at the same time.

I think I would tell him what you just wrote on here...

(This is if I were in your shoes.)

I would tell him how much he means to me and how much I love him; How great it would be if he stayed because he means so much to me. BUT that because I care about him so much that my biggest hope is for him to be happy and that whatever choice he makes I am behind him 100% and will completely understand. It would be sad to see him go, but what is meant to be will be. In my heart of hearts I believe that and if he feels there would be any regret staying then he should go, and if he wants to be with his parents that's fantastic because parents are a lot to a person and that I'd always be there for him no matter what... And so on to comfort him.

SO, if you feel that way at all, like what I said I would do if I were in your position, then I would tell him that, or at least something to that nature, not word for word obviously because I don't know your relationship. Be honest with him though, I think, and let him know that it's okay whatever he chooses and your okay with it even if it would be hard that, like you said, you would understand.

Also, as far as how you should react... I think that feeling sad is okay and normal. But I think from the way you sound you want nothing but for him to be happy in life even if it means not going to school close to you. Just trust that the right choice will be made no matter what it is, and you can be sad if you want because it's understanable, but be supportive of him like you are now. You seem to have a good hold on this, you don't seem selfish or anything at all, it really seems that you care for his well being so that's honestly awesome of you. Some people wouldn't be so understanding about it. So, I think in my opinion your reaction so far to all of it is fine. (Hope that's what you were asking)

...That's the best I can come up with though, I hope I could help a little, good luck with everything. =)

If you go to the this website

http://www.go2planb.com/

It explains that it can prevent pregnancy up to 72 hours after unprotected sex.

The chances are not likely that she is pregnant.

Stop stressing. And if your the same person, you've posted this question like 8 times already and have gotten numerous answers, if your not happy with the answers go to a doctor like walk in clinic that's free dude.

She probably isn't. If her last period was July 23rd then it probably won't start for another few days or so.

No one on here can help you other then how much they already have. It's never a sure thing because everyone is different, take the advice you've been given by others and wait it out.

I've had that happen before, BUT I wouldn't get mad at him...

Guys don't take things the same way girls do all the time...

I think the best thing you could do is just maybe say: "Hey, you know it kinda hurt my feelings a little that you fell asleep because it was really, very important to me what I was trying to say. I'm not mad at all, I understand you can't help when you're tired but it seemed like you didn't care..." Or whatever the reason was it upset you that he fell asleep if it isn't that you don't think he cared...

People can never help when they are tired, which I'm sure you understand, but there is nothing wrong with TALKING (not getting mad or yelling) but talking to the person your in a relationship with about how you feel...

If he doesn't except it then that's a bit silly of him... I think it's okay you were bummed about it, as long as you don't hold it over his head or be mean or anything... I don't personally think it's worth a fight or anything but it's understandable, I think, that you'd be a little disappointed if it really was that important.

Being pissed off is okay too, but only for a little while, and try to cool off before saying anything to him. =)

Hope this helps a little, and if not I hope someone else on here can help you more. =) Good luck! =)

Hey sweetie well, I'm really sorry you're in this situation. I know how hard that can be, I've actually been there believe it or not.

In my OPINION, I wouldn't say anything to any of them. Mostly because, like you said, it isn't really any of your business and because of the guy knowing you like him (or has an idea.)

People in love (or that really, REALLY like someone) don't want to believe the person they are with can be hurting them like that, and it hurts and they tend to push people (even when they are only trying to help) out because they think they are trying to hurt them/the person they are in a relationship with.

I know from experience; I had a guy cheat on me and I DID have friends tell me (guys and girls) and I got so mad at all of them I never wanted to think that my bf (at the time) would do that to me.

And I also had an experince as the friend, I had it with a guy friend and a friend that was a girl... Neither one of them praised me for telling them what I knew...

So, those are my experiences and that's my opinion.

But there is always a possibility that your guy friend is different, it's honestly something you have to ask yourself if it's worth it or not...

If you DO decied to tell him though, here are some of my tips...

Try NOT to make it seem like your coming down on either one of them when you talk to him. Make it clear to him that you care about him and want him to be happy. Try to not give him ANY reason to get defensive towards you to where he could possibly lash out and claim you are "just jealous." Explain you hope you are wrong and like the girl (unless you don't try to avoid lying about liking her, unless it'd help him not get mad at you =]) but don't want to see him get hurt. And if he knows you like him, and he brings that up let him know that yes you like him, but you like him enough that you would never want to see him hurt, want him to be happy, and would rather have him as a friend then not in your life at all, and that your only trying to look out for him and you saying something has nothing to do with your romantic feelings towards him it's pure caring as a friend...

Hopefully SOME of this works and could help. Good luck girl and I hope if I didn't help someone else on this site can! =)

Alright well, I've seen this question like 3 different times now.

As for as her taking the pill 2 days later. It doesn't work that way, sorry. There is a reason it's called the morning AFTER. And yes, I do know for a fact because of experience with a friend.

As far as her actually being preg. if all you did was pre-cum, I'm PRETTY SURE it's less than if you were to completely cum inside of her, but anyone that has unprotected sex is always at risk.

I'm telling you that her taking the pill two days after won't do anything. Just relax and don't stress or worry because if she does it can make her miss her period. Tell her (and your self) to relax and take it step by step, wait until she can go to the doctors to find out. Go to a walk in clinic because it's free and they can't tell the parents of either person...

Hope I could help (by the way I'm not and I wasn't being rude I was just giving my opinion.) if not hope someone else can.

I saw this question a few times, and I don't know if it's the same person but I guess I'll give my input. Mind you, it may not be what you want to hear and I am not saying it is correct. It is simply an opinion from the information you've given and maybe something for you to think about; that is ALL. Please do not take any of it the wrong way.

My suggestion is that she is just not the one for you. Straight up; I know how much you care for her especially if you were going to buy her a ring and because of how long you were with her. But you have to understand, you are not alone, honestly I don't think people realize how many other people on this Earth go through the exact same situations. Love is crazy, it's great, and it stinks. But you're not alone, trust me.

I understand how much you love her though, and how this may feel like the end of the world kind of moment, but I definitely think you need to try to let her go. She has obviously made up her mind. And sweetie if she still talks to you, then she is already in your life so asking how to get her back in your life is a wide question... If the only way you want her in your life is as your girlfriend, I really don't think I can help you much there, but she obviously cares for you as a friend and from what you've said it seems that you two just having a friendship is working out okay.

Now, on the other hand, I could be totally wrong. You two could continue talking and she could decided she does want you back as well? I don't know, I don't know her.

But if I were in your shoes I would try to just be her friend or leave her be and move on. It'd be fair and better for the both of you.

You being her friend though and nothing more I think is like re-opening a wound for you right now, your going to go crazy...

I wish there was something more I could say and I'm sure you really probably didn't want to hear this but you asked. =)

As for future reference though (EVEN THOUGH I'm sure you learned from this) don't ever go anymore than a couple of days (unless there is good reason or understanding on both parts) without talking to a girl friend. It makes us mad, sad, upset, and hurt. At least give the girl closure and explain that your mad and want space. That had to have been really hard for her and since it was so long she probably just felt she needed to move on and she did and now that your back in her life I also feel that she is happy that you are (in my opinion) but also maybe afraid you'd do it again... (And I'm not saying that to hurt your feelings I'm just letting you know how us girl can be... Not all, but some. =])

Sorry if I upset you or made you mad. And I know I did repeat myself but this is just my view point. I was just trying to give you an outsider perspective from what you wrote. =)

Good luck! Hopefully, maybe someone else on here can come up with something better that'll work. =)

Well in my opinion, just from the information you've given it seems more like he is just a big flirt and likes your body and not so much you.

Also because of his comment "I liked her shorts" or whatever, that sort of shows that there isn't much respect for you but your shorts were nice and inappropriate, like he said, for him.

Unfortenatly just because guys get all smiley or are shy like that you really have to be careful.

I'm not saying anything rude okay so please don't take it like that way or get deffensive, I even asked one of my guy friends before answering this question, I can only go by what you've given me and please realize that I can be completey off.

Just with my experince with guys and having a lot of guy friends like I do, if he said "not really" then he means "not really."

I would move on and find someone better that IS interested and isn't just a "not really" and likes you and not your shorts.

Unless of course you like that, then go for it. He maybe nice to flirt with though and have as a friend but if your looking for a relationship I'd say ditch that guy and find a better one that's more of a sure thing. =)

Good luck, hope I could help a little, and again I wasn't trying to make you mad I didn't mean any of it to be rude, just giving my input since you asked. =)

Well, I'm glad I was able to you help you anyway I could. =)

I have no problems explaining it to you and hopefully I can explain it to where you understand. =)

Okay, I'll explain to you what my ex liked. (He was my first and only so he pretty much taught me everything which is why I suggest talking to your boyfriend about it because it was really fun for us and he taught me what pleased him just like your boyfriend can teach you what he likes =].)

Lay down beside him with him on his back usually, you on your side to kiss him or tease him while you do it is usually easier. You use your hand and stroke his penis (moving your hand up and down it.) There are alot of ways you can make it feel better and have the pleasure rate up by using lotion, and some girls use their own spit (the guy I spoke of before liked that the best, but EVERY guy is different remember. =]) My ex really liked his head being played with too. While your doing that though try to ask him what he likes, it's hard to explain I think but I'm sure you know how to talk to your boyfriend in a "turn on" kind of way so give it a try and I'm sure he'll love it! It may seem awkward but I honestly don't think he's going to mind. By him explaining and making it a game makes it more exciting for the both of you and his pleasure will be so much higher, in the end the embarrassing-ness will wear off...

Also just incase I didn't explain it right up there I got this off of wikipedia.com and states pretty much the same thing I did. =)

"A common handjob technique - First, the giving partner grips the receiving partner's penis with their entire hand similar to making a fist (except the fist is made around the penis). An alternative grip is to use only a couple fingers wrapped around the penis. Second, the giving partner moves their hand in an up and down motion, which causes stimulation to the shaft and glans (head) of the penis. Some people prefer to use lubrication to prevent friction on the penis."

That's really all I've got. Hope this helps though and didn't gross you out too much I tried to not be too explicit or rude but still explain enough for you to understand. And I hope I don't get into trouble for saying this. =)

Good luck! =)

If your a girl, yes it's normal/okay.

If you're a guy, I don't actually have enough knowledge on that, sorry.

But, if you're a girl, just to give my input of advice (because that's what this site is for. =]) girls can orgasim 15 times in one day and it can still be normal; Or they can hardly ever have one, and it can be considered normal.

Everyone girl is different with their bodies and for some females it's just really that easy and others it's almost impossible. 7 times isn't bad at all, I've heard girls say that they have way more than that in one day. =)

Hope this helps a little. =)

You can always give him a hand job, instead of a blow job?

Or, try talking to him and see what he likes. As long as you both are comfortable he can probably tell you and you both can kind of help each other out?

Just let him know you'd like to please him more, that's usually a turn on to guys, knowing that you want to please them as much as they please you. =)

Every guy is different and every guy likes different things, so if you don't want to have actual sex then ask him what he likes like I said. =) I know it seems dumb to ask but really, any guy I've ever met never minds it when I girl does talk to them/askes them about it. It's so much easier then guessing because they can tell you exactly how they like it. =)

And if it seems like it's not a turn on then try to make it like a game and have some fun with it. =)

I hope I could help a little. Good luck! =)

Unfortunately sweetie every person is different. My best friend and I both were in relationships like that (Not at the same time though) where guys just used us and were EXACTLY what your saying this guy is like. The problem was that we both saw how bad the other guy was but couldn't see what was right in front of our face.

When she was going through it I tired telling her and she wouldn't believe me, she told me I was jealous, and we stopped being friends. Even after the guy got in her pants and left her. To this day we don't really say more then hello to each other if we happen to cross paths...

And people tried to warn me too and I didn't want to hear a word of it. I thought he was perfect...

The best advice I can give you is to just be there to catch her when she falls. Give her, her space if she needs it, but if you've already tried to talk to her about it or if she is the type of person that wouldn't listen because she's in too deep then just be there when she needs it...

I know as a best friend it's pure torture to sit back and watch someone abuse them the way this guy is, but from my own experience I really don't think there is anything you can do or say to her to make you believe he's so bad.

Sadly your friend has to make her own choices (which I'm sure you already know, I'm not trying to sound like a mom or be rude hahaha =]) and if she does end-up sleeping with him, or even getting hurt without him getting in her pants it's all up to her, and you can't be there to live her life for her and open her eyes to what a jerk this dude is. It stinks and I understand, but honestly hang in there and just be there for her when she's going to need you the most is my own opinion.

... AND, if you haven't talked to her yet and you want to, I would just suggest to not say anything that would make her get defensive. Try to let her know that you want nothing more than for her to be happy, but you are concerned that this guy is real bad news and may hurt her. Definitely try not to say anything that could/would make her think your jealous since that is not the case. Make sure your alone too when you talk to her because I've found that just dumping that on people, or saying it when others are around makes them more defensive and offended and you certainly don't want her to feel like your coming down on her. =)

Good luck with everything. I hope I could help a little. And good luck to your friend too (guys like that annoy me) I hope she doesn't get hurt. =)

It's called harassment and if he is truly stalking you it's illegal in every state.

I definitely suggest talking to your parents about it first (even though that's never what anyone wants to hear.) But if you think there is definitely a chance he could/would hurt you and if he is abusive, you need to tell them and tell this guy he needs to knock it off.

If he gets worse or doesn't listen to your warning. Call the cops, get a restraining order, whatever you have to do to keep yourself safe.

Like I said, I've been in this sort of situation, and I don't know if yours is as bad as mine was but if you really feel he is a danger to you, you need to tell, first your parents and if they won't listen or if it gets too bad, then the police or help hotlines about the abusiveness, harassing, and stalking so they can do something to help you.

If he ISN'T that bad then try to stick it out and eventually he'll stop. If he's calling you try not to answer the calls, if it's your cell phone change your number since it doesn't cost money to do that, if you don't want to change the number that's okay too call the phone company and block his number, you shouldn't have to pay for that either, I didn't. If it's e-mails, messages, or IM's, block him and don't even open them up just block him. If it's in person that he's saying these rude things try to never go anywhere alone and ask him nicely to please leave you be, if he doesn't listen and your face to face, try to just get away from him because if you think he'd hurt you, you don't want to instigate any of his abusive behavior... I hope it's not too bad of a situation and I hope everything works out for you. Good luck, hope I could help a little.

By: Saving Jane

Called: Girl Next Door

Hope this helps. =)

Unfortently sweetie I don't really think there is a certain way to ask...

I've been cheated on many times too and there was once when I just broke it off with the guy and I told him I knew and he didn't deny it but it had already been, my choice was to break up with him.

Then the other time I DIDN'T jump the gun and I DID try to talk to the guy about it and he completely lied his face off! Even to this day (It's been two years since I've been broken up with this guy) he will not admit to cheating on me, but I caught him. That was the thing, I saw him with another girl and I've found out from many people that he did it more then I knew. But he still says he never did...

So, all guys are very different and none of us obviously have any idea what your bf is like so it's really hard to say...

I know that it really sucks and heart break hurts no matter how many times you go through it, but if he is cheating on you, it's better you get out of it as soon as you can. You deserve so much better than that. =)

But, I guess it's really up to you on this one. =) If you think it'd be best to talk to him, then my suggestion is, make sure you have enough time where both of you can be alone, and let him know you'd like to talk to him that you feel there maybe something going on and you don't want to jump to conclusions but you want to communicate with him about it and let him know why your feeling the way you do because of how he's acting, and give him examples of how he's acting different so he knows... If he says he isn't then it's your choice to trust/believe him or not. And if he does say he is cheating (which I hope he doesn't) then go from there and do what's best for you even if it hurts...

Good luck and I hope this helps a little and I hope it all works out for the best that he is not cheating and that things will get better. =)

It really all depends. Insomnia runs in my family so I do have a real problem with sleep... But I'm not sure if that's what you have. Either way here are some suggestions...

Taking a warm bath with maybe some candles that have stress reliefe smells or smells that are ment to help relax you to sleep.

Doing yoga right before bed to relax your mind and body.

Warm milk.

Doing ANY activity that relaxes YOU most and makes you tired whether it be reading, listening to music, drawing, writing in a journal, watching tv/a movie... Anything that calms you down enough to put your mind and body at ease to sleep...

Or talking to a doctor about it.

For me it's not as easy but doing a lot of those things actually really helps. And I don't take pills because I don't believe in them since people can become dependent on them but anything that can just relax you I think would be the best thing for you to do. Like I said I'm not sure if it's stress related or a medical thing like mine or what but I hope some of these suggestions help you a little... Good luck! =)

Hey! =) I really love my life and the things and people in it. I love fashion, make-up, going out, dancing, teaching dance, and being with my friends and family. I feel very blessed for the things I have. It took me a while to get to this point though and I know that growing up, and even people my age, you need advice about certain things every now and then. I've always had people give me advice about things and I've been able to use their advice through my own experience and mistakes and come up with some of my own things. And now I'm the one always helping my friends out. I always have new ideas that I love to share. And well, I can't promise I'll always be able to help or give you the answer you're looking for but, I'll definitely do my best. =)


Also, whether you ask me a question in my inbox or I answer one alone I normally ALWAYS add in my experiences because for me, I like to know when people can relate and aren't just guessing, it's easier when someone has actually been through it. And I'm not going to do any favors by lying, so I am ALWAYS going to be honest. But keep in mind just becasue of my experience and my honesty does not mean I am always right and I understand that. Feedback is appreciated to know what I can work on with certain answers, not demanded.

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