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STALKER BOYFRIEND!!!!
14/F
Okay, so I dated this guy... A. Well, A wasn't who I thought he was. My friend told me he was trying to get into my pants. It turns out, she was right... AGAIN. Well, now, A is stalking me and being very rude. I wanted to stay friends, but now he won't be my friend and he's being really mean. I broke up with him a this dance and I was really scared, though. Everyone told me, since I wouldn't dance with him, he looked like he wanted to hurt me and stuff. I got scared, thinking if he tried to get his hands in my pants, then he wouldn't hesitate to hurt me, right?! I mean, I've had abusive boyfriends before, so I believed them and had my friend do it for me... And, he left the dance. Ever since, he's been saying rude things to me and being really rude. Of course, I ignored him, but now it's getting REALLY HARD to ignore him. What should I do?
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There is no law against being rude.
However, if he is stalking you or harassing you, then that is against the law.
Talk to the police, explain the situation, and find out from them what is the best thing to do.
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It's called harassment and if he is truly stalking you it's illegal in every state.
I definitely suggest talking to your parents about it first (even though that's never what anyone wants to hear.) But if you think there is definitely a chance he could/would hurt you and if he is abusive, you need to tell them and tell this guy he needs to knock it off.
If he gets worse or doesn't listen to your warning. Call the cops, get a restraining order, whatever you have to do to keep yourself safe.
Like I said, I've been in this sort of situation, and I don't know if yours is as bad as mine was but if you really feel he is a danger to you, you need to tell, first your parents and if they won't listen or if it gets too bad, then the police or help hotlines about the abusiveness, harassing, and stalking so they can do something to help you.
If he ISN'T that bad then try to stick it out and eventually he'll stop. If he's calling you try not to answer the calls, if it's your cell phone change your number since it doesn't cost money to do that, if you don't want to change the number that's okay too call the phone company and block his number, you shouldn't have to pay for that either, I didn't. If it's e-mails, messages, or IM's, block him and don't even open them up just block him. If it's in person that he's saying these rude things try to never go anywhere alone and ask him nicely to please leave you be, if he doesn't listen and your face to face, try to just get away from him because if you think he'd hurt you, you don't want to instigate any of his abusive behavior... I hope it's not too bad of a situation and I hope everything works out for you. Good luck, hope I could help a little.
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