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My friend doesnt see what kind of guy he is!
so my best friend is going out with the most concieted selfish guy i have ever met.
he will seriously flex in the mirror until he pops a boner. he plays mind games, in his words "kill the victims slowly with emotional agony" and thats exactly what he does. he twists words and screws with emotions and is only caring and sweet and nice when he wants to get laid. ANYWAYS! my friend is 100% under his spell. and every day she freaks and stresses out about what he wants or what he wants her to do or not to do. how can i make her see that he is just using her and doesnt love her?! i hate seeing my friend like this and she refuses to believe he is a master of torture.
thankyou
16/f
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Unfortunately sweetie every person is different. My best friend and I both were in relationships like that (Not at the same time though) where guys just used us and were EXACTLY what your saying this guy is like. The problem was that we both saw how bad the other guy was but couldn't see what was right in front of our face.
When she was going through it I tired telling her and she wouldn't believe me, she told me I was jealous, and we stopped being friends. Even after the guy got in her pants and left her. To this day we don't really say more then hello to each other if we happen to cross paths...
And people tried to warn me too and I didn't want to hear a word of it. I thought he was perfect...
The best advice I can give you is to just be there to catch her when she falls. Give her, her space if she needs it, but if you've already tried to talk to her about it or if she is the type of person that wouldn't listen because she's in too deep then just be there when she needs it...
I know as a best friend it's pure torture to sit back and watch someone abuse them the way this guy is, but from my own experience I really don't think there is anything you can do or say to her to make you believe he's so bad.
Sadly your friend has to make her own choices (which I'm sure you already know, I'm not trying to sound like a mom or be rude hahaha =]) and if she does end-up sleeping with him, or even getting hurt without him getting in her pants it's all up to her, and you can't be there to live her life for her and open her eyes to what a jerk this dude is. It stinks and I understand, but honestly hang in there and just be there for her when she's going to need you the most is my own opinion.
... AND, if you haven't talked to her yet and you want to, I would just suggest to not say anything that would make her get defensive. Try to let her know that you want nothing more than for her to be happy, but you are concerned that this guy is real bad news and may hurt her. Definitely try not to say anything that could/would make her think your jealous since that is not the case. Make sure your alone too when you talk to her because I've found that just dumping that on people, or saying it when others are around makes them more defensive and offended and you certainly don't want her to feel like your coming down on her. =)
Good luck with everything. I hope I could help a little. And good luck to your friend too (guys like that annoy me) I hope she doesn't get hurt. =)
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hi there!
well, here is the raw honest truth...
your friend might not realize this until the worst happens...
which is what you're trying to prevent.
is there any way you can catch him in the act of flirting with other girls?
or can you use his words and show her these words he is using to play with her emotions?
bcause we all know that when we are crushing or in love, we get blinded, which causes us to say 'screw the world! its me and him only!'..
i guess the only way is to use his words and show her the meaning, because if she wont open her eyes, she just wont until she's been hurt =/ good luck mama!
flirty :)
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