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Its Fadeing.
Alrighttt, heres the problem.
me and my best friend for four years are fadeing BAD, because her "boyfriend" who play's her messes with other girls LET ME ADD SHE KNOWS HE DOES IT and she still is all "him him him" i love her to death but I can not stand him and i don't like being around him or when hes around meaning we HAVE no time to hangout. she always says we wont come over & then he does and i end up leaveing I'm tired of it, I'm about to just drop our friendship because of it. correct me if I'm wrong please. I just don't like him and him playing her & she wont listen to me either-
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Oh my. One of my best friend's boyfriend is JUST LIKE THAT! I totally hate it too. But I know she is head over heels for this guy. You must know that too by now huh? Well to be honest I don't think she will break up with him even if he is a jerk. I mean I can understand with her being in love with him and everything. Talk to her about how you feel though. Tell her you have no friend time anymore. Hopefully she will make time to spend with both of you seperately since you don't like him. She should at least do that for you since you have to put up with him. Good luck. =]
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I've been there.
I was friends with a girl for TEN years and she dated a guy that within three months cheated on her. She found out and forgave him. I was furious with her.
She ended up staying with the guy for a year or so off and on of course and I always tried to help her when I could but, like in your situation, it was fading.
She actually used my boyfriend at the time as a rebound once, and she cheated on me with her. They are still great friends but I don't talk to either one of them.
My story isn't a happy one, obviously. But, I would try to talk to her about how you feel the friendship is fading...
I don't even know her and I know, just like you know, that she is a great girl and deserves better than some guy that messes around on her. No person deserves that at all.
You need to wake the sleeping beauty up and try to help her see what's going on with your friendship and how hard it is.
IF you have already done that and feel that you have done all that you can possibly do as a best friend... Then, in my opinion, (JUST in opinion by the way no one has to agree.) I would let her be.
You can be a best friend by being there for her. But there is a point where you also have to look out for yourself. If she's around you anytime he hurts her and your there for her, but then breaks promises and blows you off when he's feeling nice, that isn't fair to you. You have to take care of yourself as well. Friends are important and great. But, one thing my Dad always told me was, "only call a person a best friend that cares as much about you, as you do about them." And if your friend isn't returning the compromise of anything, then again, it's just not fair to you.
You have to do what's best for you right now, so if you feel in your heart of hearts that ending the friendship is the best way to go, then do what you have to do. You'll know better than anyone sweetie...
I hope you and your friend can work things out. And I definitely hope she's lets that loser go, because it is so not worth it. Good luck with everything, and I hope I could help at least a little, or someone else can. =)
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