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I think she might be cheating on him...
Ok, there are a few people in this; I went out with C for about 6 months, eventually we broke up but I still like him now, even though I have a bf. We are still friends. There's this girl, I wouldn't call her my "friend" but she used to sit with us at lunch, until she got into a fight with my best friend, concerning a guy. This girl is now going out with that guy although he has moved. Well, I noticed that the guy and the girl seemed to be hanging out a LOT lately and they hold hands and hug and stuff. I'm afraid if I tell my ex that she might be cheating on him? I know he might not believe me, since he has suspicion I still like him. And i'm afraid if my best friend (the one who got in a fight with the girl) tells that girl's boyfriend (the one who moved), he won't believe her because she likes him. I don't know if I should tell or not, since it's really not any of my business besides the fact he's my ex and my friend. Help? Thanks! Sorry this is so confusing!
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I wouldn't say anything. Why? Because you don't know if she is cheating or not. Just because they hang-out, hug, and hold hands doesn't mean that they are anything more than friends. I know that must sound odd... Because it does sound suspicious when you say it like that. But I've had guy friends before... There were a few that I spent a lot of time with (I saw them almost everyday) and not only did we hug and sometimes hold hands... But occassionally there were times when we'd basicly hang all over each other. Some of these guys might have had a crush on me. There were others that I know didn't. But it doesn't really matter. Right now, you don't know anything for sure. Right now, it's none of your business. Keep your eyes open and if you see any BIG red flags... Then ask again.
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Hey sweetie well, I'm really sorry you're in this situation. I know how hard that can be, I've actually been there believe it or not.
In my OPINION, I wouldn't say anything to any of them. Mostly because, like you said, it isn't really any of your business and because of the guy knowing you like him (or has an idea.)
People in love (or that really, REALLY like someone) don't want to believe the person they are with can be hurting them like that, and it hurts and they tend to push people (even when they are only trying to help) out because they think they are trying to hurt them/the person they are in a relationship with.
I know from experience; I had a guy cheat on me and I DID have friends tell me (guys and girls) and I got so mad at all of them I never wanted to think that my bf (at the time) would do that to me.
And I also had an experince as the friend, I had it with a guy friend and a friend that was a girl... Neither one of them praised me for telling them what I knew...
So, those are my experiences and that's my opinion.
But there is always a possibility that your guy friend is different, it's honestly something you have to ask yourself if it's worth it or not...
If you DO decied to tell him though, here are some of my tips...
Try NOT to make it seem like your coming down on either one of them when you talk to him. Make it clear to him that you care about him and want him to be happy. Try to not give him ANY reason to get defensive towards you to where he could possibly lash out and claim you are "just jealous." Explain you hope you are wrong and like the girl (unless you don't try to avoid lying about liking her, unless it'd help him not get mad at you =]) but don't want to see him get hurt. And if he knows you like him, and he brings that up let him know that yes you like him, but you like him enough that you would never want to see him hurt, want him to be happy, and would rather have him as a friend then not in your life at all, and that your only trying to look out for him and you saying something has nothing to do with your romantic feelings towards him it's pure caring as a friend...
Hopefully SOME of this works and could help. Good luck girl and I hope if I didn't help someone else on this site can! =)
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