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Hi! My name is Kayla.. I'm 21. Through out life, I've had quite a bit of rocky roads and difficult dilemmas. They sucked at the time, but now I've become a call for help.I do it because I enjoy it.
If you send question in my inbox, you'll be answered FIRST.
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I don't noe if I have a yeast infection(embarassing). How do I know I do? And how would i tell my mum?
A yeast infection, is not something you should worry about telling your mom. It's not like an STD or anything over thew top serious. Women get them all the time. In fact, I'm dealing with one right now, so I can definitely relate, as wellm as tell you what I've learned.
Anything from the way you wipe, what you wear, how you eat, if you shave, and yes, if you are sexually active.. can give you a yeast infection.
A Yeast Infection in hardly serious, but it's extremely uncomfortable, and it only gets worse. I know that you're not ready to tell your mom, even though this is nothing to be embarressed about..but if it's really a problem, Monistat 7, is your best bet. But if that doesn't work, you need to see a doctor, who will prescribe antibiotics, and know way more information then anyone else.
Good luck.
Edit: It can go away by itself. But sometimes, they get a little more serious then normal-- which is when you'd visit a physician. I'm seeing on Thursday-- don't be scared to do it too. Also, try Yeast Guard. It's natural and you can find it in places like CVS or Rite Aid. Any kind of drug store, basically.
Feel better.
15/f
i have a really hard "BUMP" on my top left corner of my right breast
im not sure what it is it feels like a bone
i dont have it on my left breast and iim scared
what if SOMEDAY I FIND THAT I HAVE BREAST CANCER
i wanna do something about itnow so later on i wont wake up knowing "oh my god, i have breast cancer"
description: it feels liek a bone but its in a circleround (sphere i guess) shape...
and when i roll my fingers around it itfeels like its popping out
Hi there!
Before going nuts on yourself-- lay straight back on a flat surface, and compare your left breast to your right. If you feel that it's still abnormal, then a visit to your physician will be in your best interest.
Women get lumps in their breasts all the time, and for the most part-- they're actually NOT cancer... but something menstrual or growth related.
http://www.mayoclinic.com/health/breast-lump/WO00031
http://breastcancer.about.com/od/risk/a/lump_overview.htm
Talk to your mom, or your most trusted female adult about this. It's not embarrassing, and they might know more than you do.. even enough to answer you.
Doctors go to school for 7 years to learn anatomy.. you can trust that they'll give you the best answer possible. If you get it looked at, you'll feel better.
I have been rehearsing with 40+ other people for 4 weeks, and most of the people I will say hello in passing, but when it comes to holding a conversation, I don't.
I have always been terribly shy. I really feel I would like to speak to 1-2 of the people I perform with, and maybe tell them of my problem. I feel bad that I haven't been talking to them.
I need to know how to ask for help from them. I thought maybe I would tell them I originally got into theater to help with my shyness. I would like to get together with 1-2 of them on an individual basis and apologize and ask for their help, to see if they would.
What do you think??? The show will end in 6 days, and I would like to make friends before this time.
Never, on any occasion, should a person apologize for who they are. The only time that's necessary is when you know that you've mistreated someone, and feel badly for it. This however, is not the struggle you're facing.
These 1-2 people that you say might be able to help you.. will be a wonderful call for help. My brother was a theater major, and I'd go to a lot of the parties and gatherings they'd have in the department. Theater people are very kind and welcoming. Therefore, I'm sure that if you simply pulled one of them aside, and just tried to ask for help, then you would get the help you need.
What kind of person would say no to that, anyway? Don't let being shy get in the way of what you want to achieve in life. Secure yourself with all the confidence you can. Know that you're good enough, and that you can be something great. All it takes is a little motivation. These people around you can BE that.
Let them.
ok so 17/f. i've heard that when girls orgasm its supposed to be really intense and that you'll know when you have one. with that being said... i don't know. like when a guy is going down on me i'll feel tension building up and then my legs get all shaky and then they get unshaky and he stops and like smiles and says dont make too big of a mess or something like that and then he thinks i've orgasmed so i'm not sure... could i just have lame orgasms? oh and i play with myself all the time but i can never orgasm from that... i love sex and everything and it feels good but theres not like an intense orgasm or anything...
You know you've had an orgasm when you get kind of sensitive down there. When a guy is touching you, and you feel really good, and shaky like how you say-- there should be kind of a wave of pleasure. After that's over, your clitoris will get really sensitive. That's probably the easiest way to tell if it happened.
Right, so..
I have a friend, lets call her... Sam.
She was inviting people to go and stay at a theme park for a few days. She invited nearly all of her friends, but left me out. I can't just ask if I can go, because I dont want to sound cheeky. But, I don't mean this to sound selfish. If I had gone to a theme park or somewhere to stay, I would've took her. Actually, I have took her to a awards show once.
I feel really sad.
What should I do/say?
The best thing to do.. is not assume anything. Maybe there's a logical reason as to why she hasn't invited you. Not because there's anything wrong with you or anything, but maybe there's something else going on.
Ask her. She must know that you have an idea about this trip, and that you're probably wondering why she hasn't included you. Therefore, she's probably expecting that you're going to ask her what's going on. And you should ask her.
There's nothing wrong with being upset about this. She's your friend, and you have a right to know why you haven't been invited.
Just approach her in a nice way-- and ask about the trip. Don't invite yourself, just bring it up and casually ask why you weren't invited. Let her know that you feel left out, and you don't understand why she hasn't invited you.
Take care. =)
What is this hairstyle called? I know it's sidebangs, but how is the end styled? Is it layers, cause I asked my hairdresser to layer my hair and I showed them this picture and everything, but it's not layered :( please help. Thanks
http://i37.tinypic.com/i40q2o.jpg
http://i37.tinypic.com/241nqlt.jpg
Your hairdresser probably gave you longer layers. Go back and ask for layers in the back, which blend into an noticable angle in the front.
Looks like the girl in the picture's angle isn't cut straight. If that's what you want then ask for a choppy angle.
Good luck!
Hey umm how do you make yourown lip plumper ? sophia2810@gmail.com
http://www.sephora.com/browse/section.jhtml?categoryId=C10302
I personally like the Venom the best.. Good luck!
17/f
let me start out by saying im not the most prettiest girl in the world, but apparently my personality hooks. i have a boyfriend of 8 months, whom we've had our ups and downs, and we plan our future out together.. but lately, things have been going down. we dont talk as much, i dont feel much attention from him, etc. due to the fact that he's been moving, very busy with family and taking care of his baby brother and other siblings.. here comes the harsh part.. there are 4 other guys who like me. and im not talking about only after 2 weeks of knowing eachothr.. apparently its after years... or at least a year. how did i come to find out? they told me.. these four guys are my friends.. cool friends.. idk what to do. it' like they give me more atention than my own boyfriend :( and i would never cheat on my boyfriend.. or in general. any advicce?
p.s- ive already talked to my bf about the whole not feeling loved nor being given attention. and he's trying but, this busyness builds his frustration.. nd cause arguments. but the love somehow still seems there...
If it's love, then there should be no question right now. If it's love, then you have nothing that you can do right now, except be patient. If the busy life for him is only temporary, then hopefully things will pick up for you and him.
In the mean time, tell those boys what you feel for your boyfriend. They're hitting the stove while it's hot, so they know what they're doing. But, if they are nice boys, then not only will they understand that you care for your boyfriend, but they'll expect you to be nothing but honest with them in return. They haven't done anything wrong-- it's been about interest. Therefore, explain that they're nice boys, but you have a boyfriend. You should have no problem saying this.
Buttttttttt.. back to the boyfriend. Things do need to change. If this is just a faze then okay, but really? No girlfriend should have to go this long without feeling loved or attention. There was ways to show those things, even if one of them is very busy.
Good luck.
Ok, so I have an AMAZING straightener that works great...as long as I stay inside my house! I'll get my hair perfect and then right when I walk outside it goes curly! It's so frusterating because I've even tried hairspray, which I hate to use, and it still curls! I don't usually use any products other than just shampoo and conditioner. Please help! I want something that will make my hair straight throughout the day but won't make it stiff! THANK YOU!!!!
I suggest that you buy a shampoo called: Umberto Giannini Sleek and Chic Straightening Shampoo. There's also one that works well from Back to Basics called: Bamboo Straightening Shampoo.
Straightening shampoos make more of a difference for curly, un-managable hair because unlike a straightening iron, they get into the hair follicle. This deactivates the un-wanted curls by flattening them the best they can.
I'm sure that Back to Basics also has leave in products to be used after shampooing, but before and after straightening.
Like any hair product, expect that sometimes these products will need time to work. Depending on your hair, and how bad the curls are-- it could take a few uses of the shampoo/conditioner to do it's best work.
If the curls really do become a struggle-- and you can't deal anymore, I have one more option. As a hairdresser, I know that hair relaxers can be very damaging to your hair. And, I won't sugarcoat the fact that once you use them, your hair will probably never go back to the curly hair that you have now. Try purchasing a thio relaxer. They are still, but less damagint then sodium hydroxide relaxers.
This website can defitenately guide you, if in fact you decide to use a hair relaxing product..
http://www.hairboutique.com/tips/tip086.htm.
Good luck. =)
wow so your a kayla too. Yea, if its ok,i wanted to ask what im really here for and a random question. The random one is how did you get so many people to ask you questions? ...Now for the real dilemma.
Ok, so i'll just start from the beginning. My friend has her friends cell phone that moved away. Well, turns out he is 15 and goes to my old school, her current one.
And so today, he called this phone and was like is debbie there and of course the girls name isnt debbie so idk like he kept asking questions to the point of us hanging up on him a couple times but then we just started talking to him, her more so than i and he asked her out earlier and kept aksing her and she ended up liking him and they just started arguing about how she should date him and that she wasnt sure and all this.
Then, he tlaked to me and basically did the same thing to me so we're torn here. And kayla, i'm sure youve gotten these kinds of questions or have been through them yourself but honestly this isnt the first time ive been thorugh something like this. Oh and to add this in...my firend is 16 and i'm 17.
For your first question-- A lot of people just ask questions that are lines up on the right side of my screen. Any other questions that I get in myu inbox, are just personal questions from people who see my public answers and like them, or they catch my advice comlumn. The more time you spend answering questions, the more notices you become. Anyway, on to your second question..
Anytime a guy sparks interest in you and any of yuour friends, is a immediate indication that they're not being honest, or fair to either one of you. The fact that he's giving you attention, directly after showing it to her.. is a red flag. My advice? ignore it completely.
There's plenty of other guys out there to spend time with.. who don't have more then one girl on their mind.
If you can give me any more information to help me answer you question, I'd be more than happy to.
Take care. =)
Ok,
There are too guys that i have feelings for
my ex
and my current bf
I have never cheated and i never will
but,
i dont know who to be with
my ex is a HUGE pot head but i really care for him still, and he recently told me he still loves me
but my current boyfriend is so amazing but i dont know i think that hes too good to be true and that im not good enough, and im stuck in the middle becuase me and my ex have been through sooo much together and i dont know he thinks were destined to be together but i dont know what i should do. HELP!!!
Consider this.. why did you and your ex break up in the first place? There's a reason why it happened, and why you moved on to this new guy, who as you say is treating you very well.
Ask yourself if the reason you'd go back to you ex, would be for love. Or could it be comfort? Sometimes people cling to things that feel familiar to us-- because it's easier to deal with what we already know, and have already had.
If it is more than comfort, then it's only right to break up with your current boyfriend. I commend you for not letting cheating become an option. Many people in your situation wouldn't know how to handle it.
Make a list. Boyfriend #1. Boyfriend #2. Included in this list? Risks and benefits of being with either one of them. Don't make your decision based on how many risks they have compared to benefits.. just let yourself absorb all the information, so that you can make a logical, and happy decision for yourself.
okay im 13 and i will be 14 in 2 months and im thinking about having sex w/ my boyfrien tell me what i should do
Well, nobody on this website can make a decision for you. The point of this site is for people looking for advice, and guidence. It's difficult for one person to suggest to you whether or not you should lose your virginity.
My advice.. is to really think about it. For yourself, not for anybody else. That includes him to. I'm 21, and I still haven't had sex. Not because I haven't been given oppertunities.. I just want to make sure that when I do it, I'm ready. Physcially, emotional, and responsibly.
If you believe that you are ready to have sex, think of ways you can protect yourself. It may sound ridiculous to you, but considering the pill, wouldn't be a bad idea. Condoms, and trips to the gyno would be in your best interest, too.
There are other things to do besides sex.. and definitely ways to show that you really care for him. So if in doubt-- you could always try those, and decide from there if you're ready-- if you have't decided yet.
Good luck. And for the record-- when people learn that I'm a virgin... whether that's a guy interested, a new friend, or anyone really.. they always seem to say the same thing, and it does make me thankful that I never gave it up so easily. That they wish they had waited until they knew they were ready.
Keep that in mind.. =)
i ahve a best friend, but she's a slut, and i have tried to talk to her about it, but she doesn't care, and shes really meann too. and when we fight shes always like, you're a slut, and such a bitch, when its the other way around, and she doesnt think shes a slut, she talks behind the girls' at school who do that stuff too behind theirr backks, and she doesnt even realize shes doing half the things she does, and it gets on my nerves! please helppp! :[
Sounds to me like it may be time to cut her loose. Maybe she needs to see what life would be like without you in it to help her?
It's also very important to realize that when anyone you know.. EVER in your life-- talks behind backs often, they are more than likely doing the same thing to you behind your back.
Is that the kind of friend you want? Someone who calls you a bitch and a slut? Where is the respect in this friendship? If talking to her got nowhere, then I'd leave it at that. Know that you're better then petty things, and that you don't deserve to be treated that way.
As for her slutty/bitchy ways?.. That's not your problem. If those are the characteristics that she wants to turn towards, then that's something she'll learn to settle for. It sounds to me like she might have already gotten used to the terms. You aren't responsible for changing her, or making her better. Those are decisions that she has to make by herself, if or when she is ready.
Best friends don't do this to each other... she needs to realize that.
Hi,
I won't go into detail here, as If I do we'll be here all day :-(
Anyway, I have helped a friend who was in desparate need, financially and physically for over a year now, and it has nearly drained me of all my resources. I am so tired and worn out and also worried about my own finances. She claims she will still need my help for another two months and then should be able to get back on her feet and start paying me back. Which I just can't see how she will do that. I have tried to tell her NO, that I can't do this anymore, but I just can't say it, because honestly she has no one else.
yes I feel like I am being taken advantage of, but also she needs the help.
Is there an easy way to say NO? If she didn't have small children--I could do it easier perhaps.
There are easy ways to saying even the hardest of things. This girl, good friend or not, is taking advantage of you. Just because her life is in a dip set, doesn't mean that she can take you along with her now.
The easiest way to say no.. is to say it with a lot of substitute options after. Suggest what she can do for herself, and her children to help get her back on her feet. Organizations.. different jobs.. classes.. clinics.. clubs.. any of that.
You have to ask yourself... what is she doing to help herself, in comparison to what YOU'RE doing to help her. These number don't seem to add up, do they?
Say it calmly and nicely, because you don't want it to come off as a personal attack of any kind. You understand her dilemma, you WANT to help-- but at the same time, you have a life to live, which involves money, time, and space. She needs to let you have that.. she owes it to you.
Good luck.
A girl I know, Macy, is being used by a guy who did the same thing to me. He does the whole "I love you, you're my everything" thing to get into your pants then he takes advantage of you blah blah blah. Macy actually helped me out when I was so upset after it happened, she was the one who comforted me telling me that the guy, Drake, was just another tool out there and that I should just do everything possible to stay away from guys like that.
I found out this morning that they're dating.
How the heck am I supposed to get it through Macy's head that its happening again. He's already done half of the same things he did with me.
I feel its my duty as her friend to help her out some how.
Well... the good news is that she's already heard it from you. She already knows what happened, and she decided to date him anyway, which wasn't the best decision to make.
Bad news? If you re-inform him of what happened to you while you were with him, she may take it as an attack-- or even a sabotage.
My advice is to just stay out of it. You already told her once before what he did, and it's her choice to take a chance with him-- even if it means she may get hurt. She's already aware of what he did, so reminding her now may not do anything to benefit your friendship with her. Let her find out on her own what his deal is. Because obviously, she didn't listen the first time you told her-- so why would she listen now? You'll just end up defending yourself, and swearing you're not saying it to mess them up.. and that's not fair to you, especially since all you want to do is help her.
I hope it all works out. =)
Well this has been happening to me for as long as I can remember and its complicated but I'll try my best to explain so you guys can tell me what to do, because I am so confused, but I'm 16 years old now, and about every 3 months I wake up in the morning feeling dizzy. This lasts for about 5 days on the average, and it really is terrible, I can't get out of bed otherwise, if I'm walking I start to get naueasous(and if I keep walking will eventually throw up) and I start to get hot, to almost a sweating point, so I pretty much have to miss school and lay in bed the whole time. This has been going on forever, and no matter what I do it doesn't go away. I can kind of feel it coming on a few days before so I know when its going to happen, and I know its gotta happen sometime this week. Next week is warped tour and I can't bail it, so I'm worried its going to interfere with warped and I'm so upset over it, I just want it to stop happening to me, I can't live like this, I just dont know what to do and I need help. My mom doesnt even know I still get these feelings, because she would make me go to school when I got them and I would end up throwing up in school. She doesnt think its anything serious and doesnt believe me, and tells me to tough it out. But she doesnt understand, this isnt something you can tough out. Also: I noticed that my right eye gets kind of inflamed, from the inside of my eye to the part where color starts is an inflamed red stripe. I want the dizziness to stop forever, and I want to live my life, I need quick relief, somebody, help me please?
I quickest way to get relief from what's going on with you, is to see a doctor. If there is something serious going on with your body, it's best to know. I'm aware that sometimes when you know there's something not right with you, going to see a doctor is kind of scary. You'd prefer to just shrug it off and wait for it to heal on it's own. But, since this has been going on for a while, and it happens so frequently... it's best to talk to your mom, get to your doctor, and have this checked out.
If you know this illness enough to where you can actually feel it coming on-- that's a big deal. But, if you can get these signals, then you'll know when to set up an appointment and explain to the doctor what exactly is going on.
Until then? Stay healthy. Vitamins, exercise, and a positive mind set. Don't assume the worst-- just know that you're going to have to put up with these symptoms until you have them diagnosed by a professional.
Human bodies are strange. Half the time, especially at young, fragile ages-- illnesses come easily and you won't understand them. You'll get strange pains, bumps, bruises. Don't put it in your mind that something horrific is happening. Just have it looked at, and keep your head up.
You're 16. Fragile age, with a lot of anxiety and tribulations. At 16, you are far too young to believe that you won't be okay.
I wish you the best of luck.
okay- so every anniversary me and my amazing boyfriend switch who makes the plans..and well this month, it's all on me. any ideas excluding movies/zoo/picnic/dinner?
I named a star after my boyfriend once. It seemed kind o cheesy to all my friends, but he loved it.
I also made a HUGE scrapbook once for him. I filled it was types out quotes, inside jokes, song lyrics, pictures, magazine cut outs. He LOVED it to the point where he actually cried.
And also, even though you said besides dinner, you could always make him dinner. Guys like that a lot. Or a dessert even-- chocolate covered strawberries are amazing! =)
Other then that? Amusement parts, miniature golfing, local parks, beaches, or even a nice blanker set out under the stars-- would all be good ideas for a fun, romantic day/night.
Good luck, and Happy Anniversary!
im so stressed at school and im on my summer break right now. i just feel like i should be studying all the time for my upcoming classes.im so pressured to get good grades. it doesnt end at school either. my sister is really smart and she got like a 30 on her act and is in the honor band and in the national honor society and ive always felt like i had to be as good as her. my parents just ignore me it feels like. they only focus on how smart she is and everyone is always talking about all of her different college choices and im just in the back round cause im not as smart and i just feel horrible all the time. i cry at night thinking about how im not in all honors classes while she is in all ap classes getting A+'s and im just so sad and stressed all the time. i dont no wat to do i just feel terrible all the time and always pressured to study. please help me im so confused and dont want to end up doing something stupid because of all this pressure.please help me
I have an older brother who's in two bands. He's also an amazing actor, writer, speaker, son, friend, and as much as I used to hate saying this-- brother. On top of that, he too is very smart. Growing up I swore he had this magician that just granted him these talents. Everything he ever picked up, he perfected. I spent years hating him for it.
I was sort of living in his shadow, and doing my own thing, without my parents ever caring to acknowledge it. I wrote songs, and lyrics.. and hid them under my bed until one day I decided to type them out. Unfortunately, since my brother earned such good grades, he was given a computer-- the only computer in the house. Therefore, all my stuff was types there, where I left it. One day he called me down to his room, picked up his guitar, and half way through I realized he had written music to my lyrics.
We grew close after that-- because I realized that he saw what had been going on for years. He'd seen it too, and it eased my mind that all this time I had been jealous of someone who was more than willing to see what I had to offer.
Present your grades to your family. If that doesn't work, then don't stress yourself on it. You're their daughter, and they want you to do good-- and probably expect that you'll be as good as your sister. This isn't okay, of course. You and your sister are two different people, and they should know better then to think more of one of you then the other.
It's summer. Live it up. You're young, and too young, to believe that things aren't going to be okay. Don't stop with your studies, but DO stop with your worries. It sounds to me that you need to set your own goals, and not live up to what your sister is.
Be yourself, and show up the good grades, and let them all know that you work hard, because it sounds like you do.
Good luck. =)
I have this friend of mine...and well, he just admitted to me that he's bi. and he really likes this other friend of mine, but he doesn't know how to tell him. I really don't want him to get hurt, because I'm pretty sure that my friend that he likes isn't bi, since he told me that he likes this one other girl that's also another friend of mine. It's a whole complicated web of love thing. is there anything he can do?
Just be honest. Coming out as a bi-sexual is a big deal.. but I think anybody who has the strength to come out, also has the strength to take things as they are. It doesn't matter whether or not it's you or his friend who tell him they're not interested.. he'll feel rejection no matter what.
The best thing to do? Lay low. Maybe casually mention that you don't think your friend is interested. Either that, or you can just let him find out from your friend if in fact he ever tells him.
You shouldn't have to worry about this, or do the dirty work. It's kind of you to be concerned about your friendships-- but know that some things can't be controlled, and you have to just let whatever happens around you happen. Even if that means someone you care for will get a bit of and ouchie.
Good luck.
I recently heard on my local radio station about John Robert Powers auditions and my mom and I called to schedule one. I have been on one of them before and apparently there are classes that they would like you to take that range from 1,000-6,000 and after you take them, they will help find you work..but there is also a casting director from Disney Channel that will be there so it's kind of like a double thing..my question is, has anyone on here ever been on one of these auditions and gotten something? Or is it just a huge scam? Like a win-lose situation?
Help me out here please!
Thanks!
I had an audition at John Robert Powers. Not only was the agency a scam for asking for money, but I also have a friend who works for a modeling agency who have told me that John Robert Powers is the worst agency to work for.. because the only guarantee you'd have-- would be blowing wayyy to much money.
To answer your question-- yes, it's a scam. You won't win, you'll lose money. There are other agencies that you can look into. Or, you can create your own portfolio and go from there. There's better ways to get found. And remember that any agency that asks for money-- is a scam. Always.