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Terribly shy, need to know how to ask for help.
I have been rehearsing with 40+ other people for 4 weeks, and most of the people I will say hello in passing, but when it comes to holding a conversation, I don't.
I have always been terribly shy. I really feel I would like to speak to 1-2 of the people I perform with, and maybe tell them of my problem. I feel bad that I haven't been talking to them.
I need to know how to ask for help from them. I thought maybe I would tell them I originally got into theater to help with my shyness. I would like to get together with 1-2 of them on an individual basis and apologize and ask for their help, to see if they would.
What do you think??? The show will end in 6 days, and I would like to make friends before this time.
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then i think it would be great for you to reach out for help and ask if they would like to hang out but im not sure what you would apologize for
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I know exactly how you feel, believe it or not. However, I've never been too terribly shy, but in my first two years of high school I have participated in the drama club and speech team. While I've seen everyone else bond together, I've shut myself away from them.
What I would suggest is to calmly walk up to one of the people you think you'd get along with best and who seems like a friendly and open person. From there, start a conversation with them and perhaps invite them and a couple of their friends out to lunch or dinner. A group setting will make it easier to feel less shy and open up more. While you're there just be yourself, be comfortable, and relax. Just let yourself go. Don't worry about them liking you and saying the right thing. Act how you'd normally act around your friends. Chances are you'll have a great time and it'll be easier to talk to them later on.
Another suggestion if you're just wanting to ask for help in particular, again, walk up to someone you find friendly and inviting. Then pull them aside and simply tell them that you'd really like to be friends and you'd like to make friends with some others too, but you're too shy to do it and you were hoping they could help.
Those suggestions may sound difficult, seeing as you're shy. However, the only way for you to overcome being shy is to just go for it. If you sit back and don't take the risk of asking, then it'll never happen and you'll regret it later on.
I hope I helped.
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Never, on any occasion, should a person apologize for who they are. The only time that's necessary is when you know that you've mistreated someone, and feel badly for it. This however, is not the struggle you're facing.
These 1-2 people that you say might be able to help you.. will be a wonderful call for help. My brother was a theater major, and I'd go to a lot of the parties and gatherings they'd have in the department. Theater people are very kind and welcoming. Therefore, I'm sure that if you simply pulled one of them aside, and just tried to ask for help, then you would get the help you need.
What kind of person would say no to that, anyway? Don't let being shy get in the way of what you want to achieve in life. Secure yourself with all the confidence you can. Know that you're good enough, and that you can be something great. All it takes is a little motivation. These people around you can BE that.
Let them.
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